Welcome to the "Met While Incarcerated" forum. Our goal is to provide those who met their significant other or platonic friend during his/her incarceration with a forum that offers insight about these relationships/friendships and interaction with those involved.

Among PTO's diverse membership we have many people who met their loved one/friend during his/her incarceration including those who met while working in prisons and hospitals, through penpal ads, community work, while visiting others, etc. Some received requests from incarcerated family members or friends to write to someone where a relationship later evolved, others still met before but did not develop a relationship until incarceration had occurred.

Relationships that begin while one partner is incarcerated have complications and intricacies that are magnified by the situation. Issues of trust and distance tend to be heightened due to the circumstances of incarceration not to mention the baggage each carries into any relationship. There are no shared memories of before he/she was incarcerated which can be both a burden and a blessing. Often,there are issues with both parties families to be worked out and in many cases the decision of where one can parole to and how to work out the homecoming process when that time comes as well. The couple often deal with the disapproval of family/friends/employers/landlords, etc. For these reasons and many others this forum is a vital and viable resource for the members of PTO.

Your participation is both welcome and encouraged and I hope that you will find this forum to be a refuge in good times and bad.

All the best,
Patty

Great new forum! I am looking forward to seeing this forum prosper!

GREAT forum! I love it!

I love this new forum! I met my bf threw his grandmother her and my mom are friends.

Fantastic idea Patty :) Smiled when i read about 'distance' hey - you think YOU got problems :D x x x

Love the new forum! Great idea.

:)
Heather

Congratulations on the new Forum- I am sure this will be a great help to a lot of PTO members:)!

Yipee our own forum, We have arrived.

Excellent!!!!!

Love The New Forum Idea!!:)

Fantastic :)

Congrats on the new forum!! I am so glad its here!!!

Rob and I met while I worked at the Regional Jail, and I quit to be with him!! :)
We are to be married this year we are hoping!!:)

great idea this new forum!!!!

This Forum is a great idea!!!!

This is great, Patty. Thanks a million.

Rose

:thumbsup: WOOOOO HOOOOO!! I'm glad to see Patty's hard work come to reality! I'm proud to be a member of Patty's team and looking forward to our future!

This is a great forum! It feels very comfortable, and a place we can discuss things unique to our position of having met our partners while they were locked up!!

Wonderful forum! Look forward to see it grow. Good job!

The way I see it, this is one of the things that makes PTO so fantastic. It has something for everyone. No matter what you are looking for, PTO is the premier site on the internet.

I am proud to be a part of Patty's team and by the looks of it this is going to be a popular forum.

I certainly do belong here and I look forward to meeting each of you.

:yay: :yay: This is an awesome forum idea. I have known my sweetie since 2nd grade, but we didn't form a relationship until after he was incarcerated! :yay: :thumbsup:

great forum

Well it is about time, LOL just kidding, but I am happy to see we have our own place now!!!

this is so great

::: claps and cheers ::: Love this forum and look forward to meeting everyone too !!!

Marvelous forum. Just what I needed. Thanks!

I know I'm excited! We need our own Forum, don't we? There are so many of us.

I met my baby while incarcerated. We started out as pen pals. I also have two other pen pals that I met while incarcerated.

Thank God for a space for the ones that did meet while still behind the bars..
I love it!!!!!
Thank you !!!!

Blessing
Tina

Now someone please help me change this screen name!!!!

Ditto what everyone else has said. I met my husband through a penpal site and had the advantage of becoming best friends over a two and a half year stretch before we got married. Let's see, we have been married...uh....

14 DAYS!!! :rock: :rock: :love: :love: :drool: :drool:

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

A great forum!! :yay: :dance: :yay: As pleased as punch over here!!

This forum "Met While Incarcerated" convinced me to become an official PTO member...Thanks, Patty.:)

Thanks honey you just made my day!!! Welcome to PTO, we're happy to have you with us.

Patty

THIS IS A GOOD FORUM...I MET MY BOYFRIEND THOUGH MY BROTHER THEY WERE LOCKED UP TOGETHER AT ONE TIME...CAN'T WAIT TO SEE HOW GOOD THIS FORUM GETS...

Love The New Forum!

Great Forum!

Wow a forum just for us.. Hi everyone

Hey Tias, good to see you here! This is a really fun forum... :D

I Love This Fourm! I belong.....:D

i'm very glad that this forum is here. meeting someone while they are incarcarated is a very different kind of experience. its nice to know that i'm not alone in this long, strange trip i'm on.

Thank you all for sharing. I met my man through a friend. He is currently incarcerated. His next chance at parole is January of 07. I feel a little less lonely now....MsSchema

MsSchema, Jan 07 is just around the corner. We are down to 32 mos. We met at 40 mos. I'm planning now to visit him in Aug 06. It will mark our 1 year anniversary. Will he be surprised!! You hang in there..lot's of love Angie*M

I met my man while he was incarcerated on a 9 year sentence. And he's coming home in 6 months or so.

hi there everyone thanks for this forum it will be a lot of help, i am in the same situation and hes coming home in sept cant wait, until then we will get to know eachother a lot better!!!

Awesome :idea: Patty:rock:...:beer: OUR OWN FORUM:thumbsup: Ahh :yes: :yes:....I feel right at HOME!!! :grouphug: :wave:
Everyone :) I feel good!(James Brown playing int the background) :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance:

6 more months til the :cuffs: come off:D

hi everyone, don't know why i never thought to put a post here but I met BJ while incarcerated....I met him in 2002 through a friend....we hit it off from day one and wrote and talked on the phone for 3 years before we became a couple - so now we are getting married and just waiting for them to give us our date! Keep your fingers crossed that is coming soon! Glad to see this forum!

We're glad to have all of you here with us, this forum has really taken off in a short time, it's good to know that many have found a home here.

Patty

I met my guy while he was incarcerated. Its great to know there is a place to chat with others in the same unique situation.

I met my man while he was incarcerated. It's good to know there are others out there like us.:o

You aren't along there's alot of us out there I met my man while in prison and he's still in prison. We met him in 2001 and got married April 2004. I wouldn't change anything. You can sure find love in prison and I have found it. The most important things is that we live in two different state and that make our love even stronger. Even thought we miss each other very much when we see each other it's like meeting for the first time. So to everyone that found love in prison my hat goes out to you and keep you head up.:thumbsup:

I met mine while he has been incarcerated. Things have been wonderful and we get along beautifully for two years now. I'm really scared that he could be using me for various reasons though and that things will be different when he comes out in July. Any advise or opinions would be appreciated.

Well I can kinda say im in the same situation as you. The only difference is that I knew my man since I was in the second grade. He was in the 8th and we went to the same school. The only connection we had was that my mother was his teacher and he was her favorite student so he was around me a lot. But 12 years passed before we reconnected last Sept and ever since then we have been inseperable and we are very much so in REAL love. So If you feel that its right then then it probably is. Just keep the faith and I wish you the best.

Gus and I met while he was in prison. When I started to write him I didn't even know if he would answer but he did. After a few correspondences, he asked if I would visit and I did. We have been together almost a year now and I have to admit it is difficult. I was never in a relationship with someone who was incarcerated and it is a strain emotionally. Like many people, of course I fear that I am being played but honestly I do care about him alot and I hope that he means what he says. I am new to this site and if anyone has any advice they would be willing to share or offer me, i would be very appreciative. Thanks for your help

Greetings Everyone,
I always pass by this thread, and I never think twice about coming and looking to see whats good. Well, today I finally came by, and I liked it.
I dont find to many people who met there hunny bunz inside, and Im glad that there is this section, that people such myself can relate to and discuss. I always post on my prison there, and here and there when needed-- Now, that said.
I did met my husband inside many many many years ago, and I love him to death. He is my soulmate, bestfriend, lover and most of all hes my husband. I cant tell you all enough how much I LOVE HIM.. I started off as friends, and then we became lovers; after that now Im his wife.
I always get, how can you be with someone in prison, you dont know him etc. I look, and I always say: they are still human, and they "Some" have feeling, and a heart. Not everyone is the same. Its like is all your fingers and toes look the same NO... Everyone deserves to have love and to beloved. Never judge its book by its cover, because for all you know- you might have missed the greatest thing that has ever came into your life..
I think I rambled long enough, so thanks for listening..

SMOKEYS WIFE
I LOVE YOU SMOKEY POR VIDA

hello i met my husband while he was incarcerated my rother was locked up with him and when my brother called home rio would always say hello we would talk he had a girl friend i had my cheating husband ne day i recieved a valentines card from him and i kept it for a few years one day i was single and so was he he asked me to go visit so i did when i saw him in person for the first time and he saw me we bot new something was about to happen during our fist visit we kissed i live in brooklyn he lived at clinton c.f. i stood over there for three days i told him i loved him on our third visit he asked me to marry him on the sixth visit. we are now happily married doing trailer visits but he is too jealous toooooooo jealous he is doing life and so am i now! i wish he would trust me a little more because i love him to death

Just wanted to stop in and say WELCOME to all the new members. This is a GREAT family in here and you will find GREAT support!!

I just wanted to pop my head in here too and let all the ladies know to keep ya chin up. Its hard and yea it sucks but its worth the wait. The rewards we reap are numerous.

Bella

My name is Amanda...and I met my friend Dean while he was/is incarcerated. I basically started writing him due to my co-worker/good friend...her husband is at the Eastham Unit here in Texas...and he happened to be friends with Dean. Somewhere along the lines I said I'd write his friend, and we started exchanging words back in December 06...since then, we've been writing non-stop and I've visited him twice. He has strong feelings for me, and I'm starting to develop feelings as well. I just have my moments where I feel embarassed...

He's due for release soon....up for parole in October of this year and projected release date in April of 2008. I just worry how I can deal with all that....

So thats my story...hope to get to know ya'll during this time in my life. :)

Hello Ladies!

I am new to the site and this forum is absolutely FABULOUS! :D It's refreshing having somewhere to go where others can relate to/share my same lifestyle. I met my finace seven years ago (3 years into a 10 year sentence) through his sister/my best friend; she and I had just met 2 months before. We started off just being pen pals, friends, best friends, lovers and got engaged. Before him, I had been through so much that even if he didn't have genuine intentions, it wouldn't hurt me, probably just disappoint me to a certain degree. He is the most wonderful man and is absolutely perfect for me! We feel as though we have been together for 20+ years.


MWI does not "discount" your feelings, friendships, relationships and marriages. I think it's actually the exact opposite. Although there is a chance things aren't what they seem, but that's a given chance MWI or not and adversity builds strength and commitment. I read somewhere that MWI marriages are 3 times more likely not to end in divorce because of the adversity. So I see it as an advantage.

Incarceration takes away the distractions of society, gives one time to grasp and understand one's own feelings. In addition to having a genuine appreciation for what we have and gives a stronger appreciation and love when we obtain the things we don't yet have. Sometimes we receive our most precious blessings during the most unexpected and akward situations and the most unexpected people in life. And meeting the love of your life during incarceration is one of them! :)


I wish you all true blessings of commitment, growth and prosperity.

:wave: hi and welcome newcomers!!! I look forward to getting to know you as you work your way through the forum!

All the best,
Patty

Hello everyone I could have sworn that I stopped by to make my intro but I didn't. I've posted in other MWI forums but some reason not here oh well here I am. I met honey MWI a few years ago and we've been going at it strong. it hasn't been easy the ride has been quite bumpy but I'm still here sticking it out, although at times I just want to pull my hair out but its cool.
We met as friends but then it trickled to something more and again here I am.

laflor ~ thanks for introducing yourself, I've seen you around the forum and look forward to getting to know you better.

Welcome,
Patty

Welcome all thew newbies and Laflor......*hugs*


Bella

Hello I am new to this forum. I got hooked on this PTO site! I always tell him about it when we speak. This site helps me out so much it feels like everyone here is family. I live in Jersey and I met my baby while he has been locked down. You can just call me MCWIFE cause thats who I am. I LOVE that man! He know I ain't going no where. I'm there for him till death do us part

MCWIFE ~ :wave: Hi and welcome to the forum, I'm glad to have you with us!

All the best and then some MORE,
Patty

Thanks so much for this forum!!!! I thought I was alone in the world, but now I know there are others like me. I really like what you said Ms. keepin it real moderator!!! thats some real shit!!!!

well i think i have found my new pto home!lol!
i have been making a few posts in the wisco forum but not many replys, hope this one suites me better.
well long story short i met ryan through a pen pal ad on-line and right from the start we both wanted conversations not a relationship.but 6 months of very faithful writing on both parts (we have been corresponding now for about a year)we now are discussing my first trip(9hours away)to see him.we now concider ourselves to be "together" and its been real nice.i hope to eventually move to wisco(from ks)in the late spring to early summer of next year to be closer to him then hopefully when hes released in dec 08 we can move to my old stomping grounds back west.
now granted ryan and i are taking it slow in a fast way it may seem but rest assured all you worriers.we both are keeping a level head about this relationship, granted we write any where from 3-7 letters a week about anything and everything(just last month i recieved my first 37 page letter)and we talk once or twice a week on the phone.getting to know him has been my pleasure(he says its his pleasure to know me though.lol). i never saw myself or my family allowing such a relationship to transpire but i guess that just the way life is, and now i know my future in fortune telling is over.lol!
anyways thanks for letting me intro myself and ryan(in a way)to you all and i hope to have many more posts on here.until then -jackie

Jackie....Im glad u found somewhere u can now sink yer feet in and not move:) I love reading folks who met thru a pen pal ad....I met mine that way too:) Good stuff! Don't worry about if u think we think yer taking it fast...U guys gotta do u and as long as u guys are comfortable with how things are going then that is all that matters. Hope to see ya more around here!

Bella

wow thanks for the prompt reply its like i am actually talking to some one who listens!lol!the wisco room is a bit slow, i mean i got a welcome and a few reply to my questions but i dont think there are many people in that area of the forum or something. but hey i apriciate what ive learned so far.
i think this forum is great for any one with a loved one behind bars i even recommeded it to a friend of mine (her bf is locked up in boise, id).ryan thinks its a good way for me to learn different things too, hes actually glad i found this too cause sometimes i feel like we talk a lot about prison life and now i can divert some of those questions to you guys and we can have more "normal" convos about life and such.
anyways thanks again and i hope to hear from everyone more-jacks

Hey ladies :wave: I met my friend while he was locked up ( still is :( ) were not quite a " couple " yet, but I see it going that way. He's mentioned little things that I know are leading up to the big one:D and little does he know I cant wait. He's a great guy and I'm glad theres a place were we can come and talk about our issues. Having someone locked up is one thing, but when you didnt know them on the street is another. Glad I'm here, thanks for the forum. :thumbsup:

miz a , i am in the same boat as you i never knew ryan pre-prison i met him through a pen pal ad.i wish you luck in your relationship.how long have you guys know each other?for me anyways writing to him has been so much fun, i never thought i could learn so much about another person from a pen and paper.lol.
any ways im glad that there is such a following for this thread, great people and advise hope to see you around her more-jacks

Welcome to all the newcomers I hope to get to know each of you better via the many threads in this forum and those that you yourselves will start. In the meantime if I or any of our staff members can be of assistance please do not hesitate to PM us.

All the best,
Patty

I met my Baby through a pen-pal site and when we first started writing I would have never thought it would go this direction, or this deep. Well, I can say now for sure that he is the love of my life. To a lot of people it might sound weird to fall in love under the given circumstances. I just know that I never want to miss him in my life anymore, we have grown so close with the little we have it is hard to describe. But when I'm reading all the posts, I'm sure all of you feel what I'm trying to explain. :)

This site has helped me great deal, knowing that you are not alone and that there are plenty of other women that go through the same and are willing to follow through with it, just like I do. There are many lonley, hard years to come I know that and it's not always easy. Especially being that I live in ATL and he is in NJ. But everytime we talk, or I get one of his letters, or I lay in bed looking at his picture wanting him close, I know I have no option but to stick through this with him. :heart:

Thanks for all the support I found on PTO!!!!

If there is anyone else with a loved one at SWSP, maybe we can meet up sometime when I fly down to visit!

Hi ,I have been on here a while. Never seen this before:) I met my guy back in Sep.06. It has been a strange 10 mo.Started out as Pen Pals . then friends. I never knew anyone who could write such beatiful words on paper. Glad to have found this site.Y'all can understand what i am going through.Thanks

Well ill introduce myself here also. I met my baby almost 9 months ago but it feels like it has been 9 years already. Never did i expect to be doing what i am but i am and couldnt be any happier. I met my soul mate, my best friend and soon to be hubby. It isnt an easy ride but we say it only makes us stronger. I love him to death and thank God everyday for putting him in my path. It is nice to come here and know that i am not the only one here so thanks

I met my Baby through a pen-pal site and when we first started writing I would have never thought it would go this direction, or this deep. Well, I can say now for sure that he is the love of my life. To a lot of people it might sound weird to fall in love under the given circumstances. I just know that I never want to miss him in my life anymore, we have grown so close with the little we have it is hard to describe. But when I'm reading all the posts, I'm sure all of you feel what I'm trying to explain. :)

This site has helped me great deal, knowing that you are not alone and that there are plenty of other women that go through the same and are willing to follow through with it, just like I do. There are many lonley, hard years to come I know that and it's not always easy. Especially being that I live in ATL and he is in NJ. But everytime we talk, or I get one of his letters, or I lay in bed looking at his picture wanting him close, I know I have no option but to stick through this with him. :heart:

Thanks for all the support I found on PTO!!!!

If there is anyone else with a loved one at SWSP, maybe we can meet up sometime when I fly down to visit!


Its gonna be challenging and its gonna suck at times but at the same time remember it has its rewards. I don't think its ever easy but the ways to cope CAN get easier if ya feel me? Im glad to meet ya and I only hope to see more of ya!

To the other ladies that are new around here WELCOME:) and please feel free to post and vent and be yaself. U'll find some great ppl on this FORUM and all around the board. If u need anything lemme know :)

Bella

Hi Bella,

thanks for your words! Nice meeting you and everyone else on here!

Have a nice Sunday!

Sandra

I'm glad i found this place. I was introduced to him by one of my best friends who is married to his brother (also incarcerated). I know all his family even met them before we met. We started writing and we were STRICTLY going to be friends. But i started feeling something crazy for him. I tried to ignore it and even stopped writing for about a month(yes i know thats bad) but thats what i do when i feel i am getting close to someone (which he knew from the beginning) Anyway, i finally visited him after 6 months of writing. I told his parents to tell him i was going up cause i didnt want to surprise him and have me wait forever for him to get ready. So i went up there and he looked really different from his pictures (he had lost a some weight i guess too many burpies) Anyway,i knew immediately it was him when he walked out. I knew instantly i was going to marry him. So that was on a saturday, i told him i would be back the following friday. On my way home, i cried and decided i would go back the next day even though its a 2-2 1/2 hour drive. So i surprised him and i didnt have to wait. I went back the next friday and Sunday, Fathers Day. I am absolutly in LOVE with him. The letters really got us close and the visits confirmed my feelings. He asked me to marry him and i said yes!!! His family knows and are supportive. I am slowly telling my family and they are accepting it better than i thought. People say I'm crazy and i should wait its only 2 1/2 years left, but if i love him now why wait. So as soon as i get the paperwork from him, i will start the process. WOO HOO!!!!:D

Hey fam, I feel the need at this time to reintroduce myself in this site because I have known my dearheart since childhood however I have seen him in over 25 years. He is currently finshing a 22 1/2 year bid with 3 1/2 to go. So at this writing I admit I am MWI and need lots of support in this area.

Hopeful....congrats and glad to see ya made it over here. Like I tell all the ladies we have some really great ppl all across this board and especially in here so stick around and reach out if something stumps ya or u just need someone to listen while you vent. Being a mwi...well it can present its challenges being you didn't have the honor of knowing them on the outside but at the same time the advantages of getting to know them on a deeper emotional level.

Bella

hi im hayley im in australia and my penpal is in america i first started writing to him about 4 months ago i found his ad on a inmate penpal site

Hayley...welcome to our MWI forum. I would love to make it over to Australia one of these days Ive for the longest always wanted to visit. Hope to see more of ya around lady!

Bella

yes awesome! cant wait to talk to everyone

Ms.Pop I was gonna comment on the other forum but now that I see ya here I will do soo....I have to say you and yer soon to be hubby look beautiful together. Welcome to our MWI forum and hope to see more of ya.

Bella

Welcome to PTO everyone. Yes, Ms. Pop, u2 do look good together. ;) This site and the moderators are awesome with support and information.

Hi, I met my soulmate through a penpal service. I never thought that I would write a man in prison but when I seen Jason's ad something about him just jumped out at me...ever since the first letter he has been all that I can think about. :shrug:

Just wanted to say Hi and great forum!

Welcome to PTO campbell. Great site for support and information:D

Welcome as well campbell to our MWI forum. Patty and all of our other ladies are awesome!!!

Bella

Hey PTO Family ~ I just wanted to share that I met my "love" while he was incarcerated. We have been together now for over a year and we are totally into each other. I love this man. We go on a "date" once a week (at the prison of course) but that is our time. He is like no other. He has 2 1/2 years left and I will be here every step of the way. I hope everyone is as happy as I am right now. God bless all of you!! Keep your heads up and think positive. This kind of life style is not meant for everyone and I def didn't think it was for me but look where I am now.

Thanks Guys!!!

Hey everyone not sure if I have introduced myself yet but I have left several posts. I met my fiance through a pen pal ad online in 2003. He has been in the clink for almost 13 years now and is serving LWOP, although we are hoping to change that some day. I dont think it really matters how you meet someone it is everything in between. 4 years ago I would have never guessed we would be here today but check it out...We are getting married in 4 days!

:wave: Hi and welcome BadBun and shawnee77!!! We're glad to have you with us in the MWI forum and hope you will feel right at home. If you need any assistance please feel free to PM me or any PTO staffmember as we are here to assist.

Hope to see alot of you both,
Patty

In spite of the circumstances, it's nice to meet you all and welcome you to the forum.

Take care.

Hello All,

I met my love through my roommate at the time; he is her brother. I knew she had a brother in prison when we moved in together, but didn't know anything else about him. He would call for her and when she wasn't home, I thought it would be rude to not accept the charges, so I started talking to him. After a while, she commented that she thought he was purposely calling when she wasn't home so he could talk to me! As it turns out, she was right. After a year of talking on the phone, I finally made the 4 hour trip with his sister to meet him in person. Without going into a lot of cliches about "love at first sight", etc. - the rest is pretty much history. We've been together for 18 years and I have never looked back. Most of my friends and family are supportive in their own way, but they still try to fix me up with men on the outside so I can have a "normal" relationship.. LOL, they mean well but I traded normal in for true love a long time ago.

Awwwwwwwwwww ConshyGirl such a sweet story! :wave: Welcome to the MWI forum. I hope to get to know you better through this great forum.

Welcome welcome welcome,
Patty

Patty - thanks for the welcome! I'm looking forward to meeting and talking with you all; it's so no nice to hear that someone thinks my story is "sweet" - most people just look at me like I have two heads when I talk about this stuff. It's quite a relief to be among friends who understand.

Conshy...no worries here suga U will find us all in the same boat just different varieties =) Im looking forward to getting to know ya better and please feel free to post in all the MWI forums we got.

Bella

Hey everyone,
David and I met thru a pen pal as he had posted. I really liked what he had to say in it. I wrote to him just looking for a friend, someone to listen when I needed it and who wouldn't judge me. He has come to mean so much to me and he says the same thing to me. I'm really glad I took the time to write him, I don't know what I would do now without him. He says he wants to make a life with me and my kids. So I'm here waiting for this to be over so we can spend the rest of our lives together.:D

Hey Bella - are we both in love with the same guy? My guy's Tommy, too. LOL. Thanks for the welcome; I'm already feeling the love in this forum!

Get this- I am more in love with my mwi man that i have EVER been with ANYONE. It is not a life that I had planned for myself - that's why it makes me so mad when people are down on me. Lord knows - it would be a whole lot easier if he were out here with me. Me and him - we haven't got the money to get a good lawyer and as a result he is looking at the rest of his life in angola. I suppose in this post I am just venting but I'll be there until the world caves in for him and I am so grateful for this PTO site. It reminds me that there are others going through this too. Much love. xxx

Keep your head up people are going to say bad things about you and him. Ive gotten to the point its comical, because I know Im not going to leave him now matter what they say. Rhona If you like I can recommend a few lawyers here in LA. who handle post conviction relief.

Hi all. I'm sorta new here. I lurked for about a month because I'm shy. But I am so glad to have found this site. I get so much inspiration and comfort from all of your stories. Same ol' story with me and mine. Penpals fallin in love. He's such an incredible man. But it can be difficult to cope with the situation sometimes. Thanks to you all, I find the strength to stay positive for both of us, especially in those times when he is really down. Hugs all around!:grouphug:

Hi everyone,I am so glad I found this forum. I met my bf through my best friend,his sister. We have been writing each other for 3 years. I have visited him about 10 times. Every chance I get. The problem is he is in Texas and I live in Kansas. Anyway, we just started out as pen pals,but it was just an instant connection.. the whole soulmate thing. He has been locked up for 15 years and has gotten his parole. He has to do 6 more months till he is released. Then we will see how things go. I feel in my heart that he is the man God intends me to be with, so I have to go with that. But at times it can be difficult. My wondering what will happen when he is released, aka if Im being played. Has anyone else felt this? Anyway, just wanted to say hi and let everyone know how grateful to have found this site.

Trish

:wave: Hi and welcome to all the newcomers, great to have you with us.

Just checkin' in real quick. Yesterday was my birthday and he came home with roses and cards and we had a great evening. This morning we have court so I will let you all know how it goes.

Take care friends,
Patty

Patty,

Happy Be-lated birthday. Wow, roses and he remembered your national holiday!! :-) This is awesome.

Wishing you many more special days w/ the man of your dreams.

Great new forum....I so desperately need to talk to someone who knows what it is like. I'm afraid, confused lonely doubtful etc. etc. any advice???

Hi Chris's baby!!! ~ try posting a new thread in the mwi forum and I'm sure our members will respond.

Patty

Hi everyone, first time here Well my best friend is in Keagans State Jail in texas and well I recived a letter from someone that is cell mate with him and he needs a pen pal but I really dont know how to get any one to write to him: If some one can write to him his name is Alvin D Rhoder # 1450309 Keagans State Jail
707 Top Street
Houston, TX 7007
He wrote a nice letter to me and he described himself as a 27yr Old 5.9ft 155 lbs has no kids and single. If you know any one that is opened minded and would like to write to him, thats his info.. thank you

I love the idea of this forum. I met my loved one while both of us were trustees in a county jail. I was released 45 days later and we have been together ever since. December will be 2 years and I'm happy to say we married this past February. Finally a place I can come too where someone just might understand!! Thanks a bunch!

Love the forum---just recently became penpals with someone who I am really interested in---who knows? I'll keep you guys posted.

Hello everyone! Wanted to introduce myself. Im Loretta from Texas and I met my good friend Joe, thur my cousin, Hurshell. They are both at the Luther Unit. Joe and I are really good friends. I just realized that he has strong feelings for me and Im in the process of like hmm.. do I have feelings to. I know they is a connection or something there. Not sure what yet. I think I might be in denial stage. We are taking it slow and he being patience with me. I know my some of my friends think Im nutty. But Im like he is human just like everyone else is.

Hope everyone has a great day! Thanks for making this forum.

Loretta:)

I met my baby, Trae, through an aquaintance, he is incarcerated. I was mad at the aquaintance because I didn't even want him to write. He got mad at me and was telling his friend about me, so his friend asked could he write me. Once dude said yes, I ignored this new guy for 6 mos. Then I started paying attention to what Trae was saying, I was hooked!
I am in love and I can not lie about it, it's scary.
We have been talking for a year and a half and he wants to get married. I need this forum! Thanks.

Thank you for the Forum idea Patty... Finally a place where I can find ppl who share a similar experience as an MWI...:D

Thanks Patti, Love the forum!

Well I met my sweetie while he was on work release! Yeah, I know.....Anyways, I have always played it safe you know (in the box). Well through hours of conversation he taught me how to live outside the box and never settle for anything but the best. I was in a relationship that was dang near boring! Well, not anymore, I have learned that sometimes you have to live a little. I left that relationship and now I am head over heels in love w/ my inmate! lol
He is my soulmate. I have never been so sure of anything before. He will be out by Nov. of 2008 and I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with him. Until then, We keep in touch by mail and I visit every weekend. I never knew love could be so strong. I have been very blessed! Those of you who get a hard time about your man from your friends and family, BE PROUD of your man! Dont let anyone get you down, its your life. BE HAPPY!

This Is A Good Forum....well I Met Him 3months Ago He Mistakenly Had Made A Collect Call To My New House Phone Me Thimking It Was My Little Brother I Accepted The Call Hear A Differnt Voice And Nicely Explain That I Thought It Was My Lil Brother And That The Person He Was Asking For Was The Wrong Number ....and From Then He Kept Calling And Calling Till Finally I Decided To Be Nice Again And Accept The Call And Let Him Know That I Was Kidding About Being The Wrong Number ....then He Some How Nicely Being Slick Decided To Make Me Talk And Get My Mailing Address And His 1st Letter Inpress Me So Much Cuz He Wasnt Disrespectful And Comment Funny Things That Made Me Smile ....so From Then On We Being Writting ...so I Call Him My Earth Angel Because He Came On Teh Right Time Just A Month After I Got Played By My 8 Year Long Relationship With My Ex And I Was Going Thru Some Depression ....its Just Destiny So We Will See What Happens When He Gets Realise Which Is 4months From Now ..though Im Not Rushing Things Too Fast Maybe Things Could Work Better Off Like That Butimm Ready For The Upcoming Things .....wish Me Luck ........i Hope Just Hope Just Like He Talks The Talks He Walks The Walks......ya Know What I Mean "

Ooops I Made Some Errors Whre It Say Kidding I Meant Kinned Bout Telling Him He Dial The Wrong Number ....i Just Wanna Fix That

I love your stories guys.. I met my friend 15 years ago in middle school but I just started writing to him in July after 14 yrs. of loosing contact,,, I think we are just now knowing eachother:)

i met mine through my step dad he was at the same prison we started to be pen pals and about a month later i went and saw him, a few months later i fell in love and he is the best thing that has ever happen to me we have a very strong relationship and i wouldnt make it any different.

Well, I got to know mine while he's incarcerated as well, I started to write him in July, we started as friends, I wasn't looking for a boyfriend, but very soon I knew I had more feelings for him, than just a friendship. I feel like I know him for years, we have a lot in common and I truly love him. He's such a wonderful person and I wish, I had known him much longer. I have a friend, that calls me crazy, but I couldn't help, falling in love with him and now I'm looking forward on his release.

i met my man 8 yrs ago got to know each other and have been together for 7 yrs now and hope to marry when he commes out in 2010,.they wouldnt let us marry in prison,been thru family disowning me .,am learning to live with it,.hurts but us moms need love too,.

GREAT FORMUM AND I MET MINES THRU MY BEST FREIND PEN PAL. NOW 4 YEARS LATERS WE ARE HERE.

I met my baby on here thru a link right at the bottom of a gossip page that I'm registered to back in 1993, and it blossomed from there, to be honest his long relaese date first got my attention, he's out Sept 2011, i just thought I would have some fum wnothing heavy, but it just grew organically, I can absolutely tell him everything and he really has the knack of putting things into perspective, and according to him I have the ability of writing him a letter when he really needs them, coz at times he goes thru dry spells (on my part) I just dont know what to say at times, but as I always tell him I' M HIS BOOMERANG......

Hello everyone, I am sooooo glad that this forum exists! Perfect idea!...although my parents and some of my friends are very accpecting of my baby... sometimes I can tell they get tired of hearing me go through the motions with my fears, doubts and concerns. Trust me I will not overwhelm you guys either... I'm just glad that this exists...someone is out there that can understand and support and I can lend my support as well.....THANK YOU "HotLatinaMILF4U" for directing me to this forum.

have no fears we are hear for you and will help in any way possible

I am so glad for this forum. This was my begining into understanding about where I was with boo.

Thanks hotlatina for this forum!! Hopefully this will get me through this very trying time~~

Welcome to the "Met While Incarcerated" forum. Our goal is to provide those who met their significant other or platonic friend during his/her incarceration with a forum that offers insight about these relationships/friendships and interaction with those involved.

Among PTO's diverse membership we have many people who met their loved one/friend during his/her incarceration including those who met while working in prisons and hospitals, through penpal ads, community work, while visiting others, etc. Some received requests from incarcerated family members or friends to write to someone where a relationship later evolved, others still met before but did not develop a relationship until incarceration had occurred.

Relationships that begin while one partner is incarcerated have complications and intricacies that are magnified by the situation. Issues of trust and distance tend to be heightened due to the circumstances of incarceration not to mention the baggage each carries into any relationship. There are no shared memories of before he/she was incarcerated which can be both a burden and a blessing. Often,there are issues with both parties families to be worked out and in many cases the decision of where one can parole to and how to work out the homecoming process when that time comes as well. The couple often deal with the disapproval of family/friends/employers/landlords, etc. For these reasons and many others this forum is a vital and viable resource for the members of PTO.

Your participation is both welcome and encouraged and I hope that you will find this forum to be a refuge in good times and bad.

All the best,
PattyI met and married my husband and we are very happy at this point we were together for two yrs before getting married this June 25 is our fifth anniversary.I visit him every two weeks unfortunately we have never had the chance to really be together.Ind does not have those visits but just seeing him and hearing him laugh means a lot when I can't go then yes I do get a little down.He does not call because to costly.I will never give up on him.I love him Thanks

Welcome to all of our new comers, glad you are here!

Sarah Moats

Thanks for this forum. I really needed it.

Thanks for this forum. I really needed it.


Welcome to PTO, and the MWI forum:thumbsup:

Hey Everybody I Met My Fiance While He Was Incarcerated But It Seems Like I Knew Him All My Life

Met in prison we marrried and had a son, all in prison, and we devorced in prison as well all within 19 years. But here I'am still in love trying to make it this 2nd time. were talking about getting remarried. I thank all who will give advice. Still loving him......

I was in state jail and i met my now husband while I was there. He is also in prison. I did 18 months Hes doing 18 years. But woo-hoo he comes home in a few weeks. I got out august 2nd of 2007 and we got married by proxy on November 1st of 2007. Hes the most wonderful man i ahve ever met. We are both blessed beyond beleif to have met each other. Angel will surely be rejoicing the day we consummate our marriage. :thumbsup:
Thank You Jesus for my hubbie.