Welcome to the Prison Weddings Forum

This forum will cover all topics regarding Prison Weddings, from engagement, announcements, planning & the big day.

You will find information regarding Prison Weddings at specific county, state & federal facilities. When posting about a specific facility, please include the facility name in the subject. This will ease in any searches done by other PTO members.

If you have a new post about a facility that is already listed, please include it in the existing post. This will make it easier to locate information in one post rather than multiple.

Please post any ideas, tips or other information to help each other prepare for the big day. Of course, we want to see the wedding photos! :)

You are also welcome to release those last minute jitters. We are all here for each other...in sickness & in health, in good times & in bad.

i am getting ready to get married while my fiance is in prison.. we met before all this happen to him but knew he would have to go to priosn for a while actually we thought 9 months but was informed he would stay 17 months that sucks so we ahve decided to get married in priosn. any suggestions anyone.

OK I HAVE A QUESTION FOR EVERYONE.ME AND JESSE HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET MARRIED BUT I GUESS THE CHAPLAINS IN THE NC DOC DONT WANNA BE THE ONES TO MARRY INMATES.DOES ANYONE KNOW IF A JUSTICE OF THE PEACE FROM THE COUNTY HE IS IN DO THE CEREMONY?WILL THEY TRAVEL TO THE PRISON AND IS MARRIAGE BY PROXY ALLOWED IN NC?HELP???

Hi everyone my name is Christy and I am a licensed ordained minister in the state of Ohio. I would love to help prisoners and their families out. I can do marriage's and baptisms and funerals. My prices are fixed to suit the income of these people. I do not know what the rules are yet of the prisons, I will start my investigation next week. If anyone here knows of any could you please contact me. and please spread the word of my services. Thank you and God bless

North Fork Correctional Facility in Sayre, Oklahoma...my fiance and i wanted to get married but these folks here wont let us....how do you get around this red tape? they have more excuses than i have ever heard....im not so sure i even want to get married there anymore..i wouldnt want such ugly at my wedding...but i really want to know if and how it can be done..anyone have any ideas?? mel/sweetelf

I have no answers. The same thing happened to me and Michael, so we decided to wait until he gets out. Hopefully, that will be soon. I have been told they cannot keep you from getting married, but they sure stopped us. :mad: :fb:
lillie

I am getting married to man in prison. We no probleums with getting things arranged with the chaplin.

I'm happy for you, and hope everything goes smoothly for you. Good luck and happiness, and I hope you will soon be together. Sorry I was so long in answering, I have not been well. Hugs, Lillie

Help......We want to get married and we are being stopped all the way around...first we can't because he is in the box and now my visits have been revoked.......any suggestions other than prayer???? He is in NY correctionsl facility...Please help....

We are getting married by the chaplain of the facility(fsp). He handled all the paperwork , except the marriage license which I had to get at the courthouse of the county he is in, and then it goes to Tallahassee . After the feds approve it , we'll be getting married.

I go married by proxy to my husband. He got the papers signed & noterized his part. I took it to the court house & had it filed. We were married 3 days later in my granny's house with my mom standing in for him. He wasn't present but we took pictures. When he gets out we're going to have a real wedding.

Calif. appears fairly easy to get approved to marry. Has anyone had experience in Calipatria ? The visiting room is one of he most liberal I've ever been in. Are you allowed conjugal visits if you marry in prison. Does anyone know the policy on this? I'd appreciate any answers or where I can look to find them,

I have a question the man i am with is in jail now and has not yet recieved his sentence, But he did ask me to marry him as soon as he gets to the Federal Prison. Does any one know what you have to do to get approved. I am in WV. Or what they require for you to get approved?????? Thank You. By the way we were together for 10 years before he got sent away and we have 2 beautiful children.

I am a notary public in Florida in Brevard county. I am willing to travel to the correctional facilities to perform marriages - as long as the necessary license has been obtained.

I am new to the prison system. I am in CA and my boyfriend and I want to get married. He'll be at DVI in two weeks. Does anyone have any suggestions on how we can get married and how to get through some of the red tape?? Plaese help its really inportant!! Thank you one and all,
Trixie

Me and my fiance' are having problems finding out about the marriage license. He's in a South Carolina State CI and the prison told us that we can but we've got to figure everything out ourselves. They told us that the chaplain there couldn't marry us. If anyone has any info on weddings in SC sate prisons please let me know thank you

Jessica

are you getting married in cdc where his at tracy?:cool: :pissed:

i was married in crcc and what a experience ok .......my husband was in the hole so we got married behind glass the guards went around to give him his ring and the priest put mine on strange huh no kisses either except through the glass we did get a couple of pics of it thuogh but i didnt mind i loved him to much to care i didnt want to wait till he got out of the hole so we did it while he was in the hole we are gonna renew our vows when my baby comes home ..

okay i've got another question. I'm having major problems getting the marriage license. This lawyer that i've been talking to said something about special provisions in some countys. Could someone please tell me what special provisions are? And also could a power of attorney sign a marriage license in the state of South Carolina?

I am a licensed Evangelist and would be willing to marry anyone incarcerated in the State of Ohio for a reasonable fee. I'm sensitive to this because I am planning to be married as well so my fiancee and I need a person to marry us as well. mrsbryan@sbcglobal.net

Hi my name is Mary Esther my man is in Coffield Unit, Tennesse Colony,Texas.I live in San Antonio, Texas.What do I need to do to get married at the prison or by Proxy.Please let me know whwt steps to take so We can get married . In prison he has me as his Common-Law-Wife.

how do i go about getting married to my fiance that is in prison in jackson ga.? i dont even know what the 1st step is...how do "we" go about getting it approved.....who should i contact?any suggestions???

my fiance is in ironwood in blythe and my divorce to another man will be finale in jan of 2004 and scott wants to get married on the inside ,mainly so we can have a weekend together evry other month he said he will wait till 2005 when he gets out but i would love to spend weekends with him does anyone have any advice on this and do u know the requirements to get married in ironwood? thank u, dee

I had no problems getting approved in Iowa. First my husband talked to his counselor, so Shorty20 start there. We had to each fill out a marriage license and haveit notorized (counselor was notary) send it in, wait three days and then it was on.
In all they had us approved within 2 weeks. We also had to have premarital counseling with the chaplain.

Hi my fiance and I are in the process of getting married, here in WI , his PO has to approve, the chaplin has to approve we have to do 6 months of counceling and we have to get a minster to marry us. Marriage license and rings are also are responsibility. So far we have done all of the above, we got approval from his PO within 3 weeks, we are currently waiting on the chaplin to approve so we can start our counceling. He is really being extremely slow in the process, its been over 6 months since we request the marriage approval. I wonder whats the hold up?

my husband & i was married in st. claire prison in alabama. we got married aug. 4th,1995. we had no problems with the chaplain there. we had to go through 6 counciling sessions about being married in the system and making marriage work under these circumstances. we have just celebrated our 8th anniversary and we are still apart. our relationship has grown closer, we are best friends. i was able to take a cake in and some drinks as well as a camera. we were able to visit for 3 hours afterward.we had a ceramony as beautiful as one in a church. we couldn't set the date but really it didn't matter when. sue

HI EVERYONE! This is for Shawty, I am just curious, Why didn't you and your old man ever get married before. You said you were together 1o yrs? What stopped you from marrying him then?
Thanks Lisa
:cool:

I just got married in a South Carolina Prison by a Notary Public on August 2nd. They want help you any way shape or form but they didnt try to stop us.We stood up by each other and the Notary stood in front of us and performed the ceremony. It was wonderful. Just remember where there is a will there is a way!!!!!!!:p :p :p

me and my fiance want to get married while he is in prison. What do I have to do for us to get married? He is in Abilene Texas, in the Middleton Unit.

We got married at Easterling C.F. in So. Alabama (15 months ago) and had nothing but trouble with the Chaplain there as well as the Ass.Chap. who did the 'counselling' ~~ If I didn't have a sense of humor and gut determination, I don't think we would be married today if it were up to them. They even went so far as to refuse to marry us because we were not 'religious enough' for them. Told us we could do it BUT had to find our own minister. Not easy to do when I live in Northern Wisconsin and know NOBODY down there except my then-boyfriend. Well, this was also the time that the Warden took our phone privileges away due to us using Telenet.........so I had lots of obstacles to overcome but I was NOT going to give up! I planned and carried off the entire thing without the use of a telephone conversation with James. Even the day before the wedding was to take place they tried to pull some stuff but finally the Probate Judge told me that if we got there (I DID find a minister to do it!!) and they gave us any more trouble, that that I should just call her and she'd be right over to do the wedding her own self!! When I told her which prison it was that I was having troubles with, she said "Well, now that makes more sense. It's a miracle that warden is letting you get married at all." Don't know the story on that one, but just to say that it was a testimony of human endurance ~~ and the Creator's hand in the whole thing. It was a great ceremony and we were allowed to bring in a camera, cake, soda and plastic cups. I brought in plastic champain glasses; it was way cool. And we were allowed one hour to visit afterwards with just our minister and our best man. And officers coming and going in and out of the room of course. But it was very nice.
When I got back home and put the picture and notice in the local newspaper, I worded it as follows: "........The groom has a secure position with the State of Alabama at this time but plans to join his wife and children in {my town} as soon as possible." LOL People that knew, thought it was hysterical. People that didn't would ask me "What does your new husband DO in Alabama?" And I would say: Anything they tell him to. :-)
Anyhow, I wouldn't trade my wedding to him for anything even though it was in prison. Someday we can always renew our vows and besides, we got that honeymoon to look forward to!!
~~Care

Care,
What a NICE story!!!!! I LOVE your newspaper notice too. How smart of you "has a secure position w/the State of Alabama". LOL. Ahhh, that is too cute!
God bless ya both,
Lisa

Ok, here's my story.....me & my honey are in NY. We want to get married. The OLD HAG town clerk they have told me straight up "NO I'm NOT coming to the facility to do any license for you or anybody else and that's that". Well.....good thing I don't take "no" too easily :). Anyway....I spoke to the chaplain at the jail who told me some very good information. That it is in the DOCS Directive that they can NOT deny an inmate from marriage. And that just because the town clerk won't do it, we should still go ahead and write our letters and what not and that if the Super (who's new by the way) approves it, HE can put the pressure on GUIDANCE to get the license done :). But...there is a small obstacle in my way, which is my honey is waiting for his damn birth certificate. (sigh) But...I found a WONDERFUL WONDERFUL WONDERFUL Reverend who is about 40 miles from the facility who is helping me and who is going to perform the ceremony!!!!!!!! YAY!!!!!!! This person is DA BOMB!!!!!!! I'm just SO GRATEFUL to the Reverend. SUCH A NICE PERSON, TOUGH, DOESN'T PLAY AROUND, DOESN'T TAKE "NO" TOO EASILY EITHER....the best. Enough of my babbling. Take care everyone and I will keep yall posted. Lisa

I AM ALSO NEW TO THE PRISON SYSTEM. iAM IN STATEN ISLAND NY AND HE'S CURRENTLY AT DOWN STATE. WE WANT TO GET MARRIED I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO GET STARTED.CAN ANYONE HELP ME.

HI IAM IN SATEN ISLAND NY AND MY BOYFRIEND AND I WANT TO GET MARRIED.. HES CURRENTLY AT DOWNSTATE IN FISHKILLS NY. DOS ANYONE KNOW HOW I CAN GET THE BALL ROLLING? THANK YOU VERY MUCH. LOVE BARBARA

Hello All,
Can anyone tell me about ohio prisons? My Fiance is now in the Montgomery Co. jail on his way to CRC. From there to the prision. The main question is can we be married?
really down , really lost
loveofjj

I got married recently in Maryland House of Corrections and would be happy to advise anyone wanting to get married there. PM me if you need to know anything.

Although I don't have all the answers-I too am looking into getting married, by boyfirend is in DVI right now...for 8 days to be exact, then will transfer to another prison. so i'm wondering where the heck he'll end up! How long is your hunny in for? Mine is in for 16mos, but does he serve 1/2 time> ? Does anyone know?? I still haven't heard from him, not a call nor a letter :fb:

to kris in nc--i will be getting married in sc system and their stand is they will not "assist or deter" a marriage. The first roadblock was at the courthouse-they said both people have to be present to pick up the form-RIDICULOUS!-so i called the judge and asked what about people who are bed-ridden etc. so she said they could send me the application,have it signed and notarized, then bring it to my fiance for him to sign and have notarized..then they gave him a hard time about notarizing the form but they finally did..then you have to find a judge or minister, justice of the peace, or in sc a notary public can marry you as long as they gat on the visitation list..so that's where we are! Good luck hope that helped..mc

OK, me too on the long list of "how to get married in prison" hahaha. I'm in Washington state and have no idea how friendly they are to the idea of inmate marriages. Any one out there in WA been there before?? I would greatly appreciate any info you have. Should I check with a lawyer first and if so what kind? would like to know the laws before I have to run the gauntlet because I have found if YOU don't know the rules they will be glad to make them up as they see fit as they go along.

Thanks for any info, Skye

ok i have a question. Me & my fiance want to get married while hes in prison then renew our vows when he comes home. Hes in Camp Hill Pa. Does anyone know anything about how those things work at Camp Hill?? hes new to there & i have no clue where to start. Any help would be appreciated. Thanx Alot!! Good luck to everyone.

Hi everyone my name is Christy and I am a licensed ordained minister in the state of Ohio. I would love to help prisoners and their families out. I can do marriage's and baptisms and funerals. My prices are fixed to suit the income of these people. I do not know what the rules are yet of the prisons, I will start my investigation next week. If anyone here knows of any could you please contact me. and please spread the word of my services. Thank you and God bless
Hi Christy!
Where are you located? My fiance is at Grafton and he's starting the paperwork for our wedding.

Thanks,
Kelly

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mrsd