Well.. my name is Jamie, and I'm 18 years old. I'll be 19 on March 3rd. My boyfriend ( well, ex now ) of 2.5 years and the father of my 11 month old son, Shawn is now in jail, and going to be going to prison. For domestic violence against me. He's going to be 26 in July. We met in August of 2003, and kept in touch over the computer, and in March of 2004 I moved to NYC. I moved in with him and a few monthes later, got pregnant. In december of 2004, while I was 7 monthes pregnant.. he choked me and I called the police. HE was arrested, and all that.. and they release him. We were lkiving together in his mothers apartment. There was a order of protection but we paid it no mind. Everything was good for a while, our son was born.. but then.. in March of 2005.. the day before my birthday.. we got into it again.. and he went to jail again. Same thing.. he got out.. then on may 8th, mothers day.. another incident. And finally on May 15th.. again. That day I took my son and went to a domestic violence shelter. I lasted for 2 monthes in the shelter.. but eventually I went back with him and lived with him again. His mother had somehow managed to get custody of the baby, because before I came back.. Kwame had served 30 days in jail, as a result of the May 8th incident. Well.. the physical, emotional... and all other types of abuse against me didn't quit between August 2005 ( when I came back ) and January 2006. I didn't call the police though because I wanted it to work. Finallly on January 17th 2006.. after I had come back from enrolling in a GED program, I was cooking dinner and he randomly told me he hates me & Im a whore and he wanted me to leave. A fight happened, he choked me, punched me, split my lip, hit me with a thick wooden stick, while I was holding our son and told me he was going to cut my throat.. and as I was sitting in the bathroom, crying with my son crying to.. because he knew I was hurt.. and he was scared.. I realized I didn't need this. I had been lonely for monthes while I was WITH him, why not be lonely by myself.. and NOT get beat in the process? So.. I called 911 from my cell phone.. and they came.. and they took him. I found out I'm pregnant, and Im not sure how far along. Of course, it's his. And just yesterday the district attorny told me if he accepts the plea they're offering and pleads guilty.. he'll be sentenced to 1-3 years in a state prison. If he goes to trial.. he's looking at up to 7 years. I'm very upset about this.. I mean.. I know he commited the cirme and has to be punished.. but it just seems so unfair. Currently, I'm in ANOTHER DV shelter, and even though I want to just curl up and hide from the world I know I have my son to take care of, so I'm doing everything I can, to get housing, public assitance, etc. I just wish things were different.


I also found out today where he's being held and I really want to write to him, even though he won't be able to write me back. Just.. I dunno. For some closure maybe. His next court date ius February 2nd, and I'm going to go, just so I can see him, and so he can see that his son is doing okay. I know i won't be able to speak.. but I dunno. =(

Hello & Welcome To PTO...I wanted to say that I am very sorry that you are going through this right now, but I think for your own safety & your children's safety, you made the right decision to turn him in and leave, at least until he decides to get some help...No women ever deserves to be abused , no matter what... love is supposed to make you feel safe and secure, and protected...not abused... I know right now you are confused, and it may be hard to walk away, but you need to think of your son right now, and your new baby on the way.... i will keep you in my prayers.

Welcome to PTO!

Hello and Welcome to PTO!!!

Try to resist, with everything in your power, and the power of God, to not contacting him!! This is vitally important. You have a chance now to make things right for yourself and your child. You are young and you have a good future ahead of you and for your child if you stay out now and learn about abuse....God Bless you,
Marsha

Welcome to PTO and the Domestic Violence fourm you will find many supportive people here who can relate to what you are going through(me included) PM me if you want.

Always take time for you. You have the power now to make a better life for you and your childern. Good luck i will be praying for you.

welcome. please listen to these women here. they have been through it and come out on top of it. you are just beginning your life. i wish i had someone to talk to when i got married at 18 to an abusive man. i waited 20 years to get out. i could have saved me and my children alot of heartache.