My husband and I have a 4 month old and I am amazed at how stupid people can be about mixed babies. I have had SO many people ask me if her curly hair is natural. I tell them, "no I permed it last night." I hate that people won't come out and ask if they really want to know. So many people ask things like, "Does her dad have dark hair?"
The best yet is my 15 yr old cousin that is pregnant and not the brightest told her boyfriend that thier maybe might be black because mine is so it runs in the family!!
Am I the only one who has to deal with this kind of stupidity?
ginger

i really don't have to go through those problems, thank goodness.

Girl....i am white and my husband is white and we have a dark haired and a blondie little boys..but i know people can be very stupid and you know what...it just shows their maturity level. Those are beautiful babies....God made them.~~~Brandi

As the adopted mom of a dark skinned little girl and a very pale, blond little boy I just smile and make comments like " My children favor their birth parents" That usually makes the other person gasp and by this time I have moved on down the aisle! I used to get comments like "Are they your grandchildren" but not anymore. Maybe having them has made me look younger! I am 53 and they are 5 and 9. People can be so stupid that ou just have to forgive them and move on. They are only making themselves look foolish.

ROFLMAO!!!!!!! :shrug:

Get used to it...over the last 12 years I have heard some of the dumbest stuff...I just shake my head... :eek:

DLG

Mixed babies are beautiful!!! People can say some dumb things!!!!

Well I am a mixed baby and I have heard all kinds of stupid comments all my life!! You just have to try not let the comments get to you. Just smile and laugh it off. Some people have no tact or even know what they are saying is rude.

Well my lil one is a mixed baby but you really cant tell cause now she has gotten back her natural color which is white like her daddy .. She had gotten a tan and looked like a real mixed child when we went to the islands.. lol

Yea i have had ppl ask me if i was her nanny and other things .. like that but some times i tell them something back other time i just walk off

Mixed babies are beautiful and don't let peoples stupidity get to you...just laugh at their stupidity, hey if you gotta hear it you mineswell enjoy yourself!!

I think about things like that all the time....My son will be here in only 10 weeks, and already I am hearing things like No one will accept you having a black baby, If your father was alive, he would be so upset.....many things that are hurtful. I just let them go because honestly, I can't live my life expecting to make everyone happy, and my little one will be here very shortly....can't get too upset now!

Oh it doesn't really bother me cause I know my baby is beautiful and I love our special family. Mostly I think it is funny that people are so stupid

I think about things like that all the time....My son will be here in only 10 weeks, and already I am hearing things like No one will accept you having a black baby, If your father was alive, he would be so upset.....many things that are hurtful. I just let them go because honestly, I can't live my life expecting to make everyone happy, and my little one will be here very shortly....can't get too upset now! Dont listen to that crap I am mixed and excepted people are stupid

I have 3 children and the first 2 are mixed (black.white) and my 3rd baby is 1/2 hispanic and i've heard it all. I shurg it off and tell people i've got the united nations going on at our house. But i tell you what, i have the most beautiful children in the world. I would have them no other way. I've learned not to let people's comments and stares affect me or my children. Some people in this world are very ignorant. My daughter is in kindergarten and she said the other day "mommy, Deanna said that i was black" She sounded very worried. And i said" honey your brown, everyone is different shades of brown, see mommies a very light shade of brown and your a little darker shade of brown, and Deanna is a darker shade of brown, like your daddy." She understood then.!!!

i have been blessed with 2 wonderful mixed Daughters(17Yrs and 2 Yrs). Who cares what people say.. They are a gift from God..

I have 5 children and my oldest 2 are mixed. I used to hate it when people asked if they were real brothers and sisters... Of course they are... I am the mother of all 5. People can be so ignorant.

I have 3 childern and they are mixed Mexican & black. I have heard some crazy things as well I even had to check my own grandmother once! I felt bad the respect thing you know but at the same time I have to stand up for my kids. In our family there is alot of half Mexican & White kids and she never said anything about them so what's the difference.
people or people and it's always been that way and it always gonna be that way!
Sad but true. Just dust it off and love your babies no matter what!
God gave us these presious gifts!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My children are grown now but they would make a comment such as,"Hey mom I ran into an old friend, remember "John" or some other common name. If I asked, "Which John" I would likely get a response, "the one I used to go to hockey games with", "the one in the garage band", "the one that lived in the same apartment building as Uncle Fred" as opposed to "the one with one arm", "the one with the no dad and two mothers", "the one whose dad was black and mom, Korean".

My point is that it is difficult to change people and far easier to lead by example and inspire our own to respect and embrace diversity.

Teach your children well,
Patty

I have been blessed with 3 mixed babies and my oldest is 13 and now facing all the peer pressures and her daddy is locked up and it is hard on her she wants him here so bad. The bad things is they have not met yet and only talk by letters I need help to help her realize she is loved and beautiful. any ideas.

Mine are puerto rican and white (I'm Russian y Sicilian)---when we get the twisted faces looking at us I just say "It's not their fault their daddy is Puerto Rican and their mommy is a Facist and a Communist" and people turn red and walk away. I think they get the point that I don't care what they think.

People are really stupid sometimes as we all know. I just laugh at their stupidity. One time I was in the mall with one of my black friends and all our kids and a black lady came up to us and said to my friend "Oh your daughter is so beauitful" and my friend had to say "Um that's her daughter." Mixed babies are the most beauitful babies in the world I think.

My 8year old mixed daughter came home from school one day angry as can be. A little white boy in her class kept telling her I wasn't her "real Mommy" because I'm white and she's black. She finally got her can full and said "Haven't you ever seen a mixed girl before!!!" When people are dumb, tell them they are being dumb. Mixed kids are all over. People need to get the f*@%#k used to it.

My best friend has one standard repy for any and all color related questions or remarks (Her son is a brown boy growing up in a 99% white neigborhood) her son now 7 has been handed this handy little tool, pass it around moms it's the one thing that might just work ready?

My son's an AMERICAN and you?

People are really stupid sometimes as we all know. I just laugh at their stupidity. One time I was in the mall with one of my black friends and all our kids and a black lady came up to us and said to my friend "Oh your daughter is so beauitful" and my friend had to say "Um that's her daughter." Mixed babies are the most beauitful babies in the world I think.

I get that all the time. I was in the grocery store the other day and a black lady was in front of us getting a sample and my kids wanted one. This lady had move on and the sample lady was telling my kids to go and ask there mother.:confused: Um I am standing right here is what I was about to say and the sample lady is yelling to the lady can your children have a sample? WTF? I mean I was right next to them. People crack me up.

The crazyness about the "mixed" thing is that the layer of our skin that holds the color is very thin. If you scratch the surface, we are the same color, flesh and blood.

My man is half black and half white, he says he has the best of both worlds.

You can't control the rest of the world, but you can control your and your children's world. Let them know how unique and special they are. If they are aware of how proud you are, of yourself and them, they will be better equipped to deal with the ignorant people out there.

I have two mixed children (dad is black I am white) and yes we get stares and dumb questions like is his father's hair curly and black? but what can I expect of the ignorant people who live in my hometown of gainesville texas. I don't let it get to me because I know my kids are prettier than theirs!!!!

i am currently 6 months pregnant with my fiance and i's first child, its a girl and she is going to be mixed (black/white).. at first my family was a little rude about it. my grandma was like 'i just feel so sorry for this innocent baby that didnt ask to be loaded down with the teasings and harsh school mates that are going to haunt her forever' but i feel like maybe that could be true in 1954 but today, biracial children are so much more common.. its like theyre a minority of their own. i dont think society makes such a HUGE deal about like they used to. and biracial children are so beautiful. i cant wait to see what complextion my daughter will have with me being so white and my fiance being so dark..

Please don't take this the wrong way...but i hate to here someone call a child mixed or ask if they are mixed..I hear all the time, you son is so cute is he mixed? I tell them no, but my dog is. Of course they look at me like I'm the stupid one. My son is bi-racial. Meaning one parent is one race and the other parent is a different race. Dogs are mixed. Meaning they are mutts. I correct anyone and everyone who calls him a mutt. Yes bi-racial child are very common these days, however there are still those people out there... I thought my son at a very early age, everyone is special, but he is super special because he has the best of both worlds.

My daughter is 2, and she is biracial. I am white and her father is black. I hate when people are like "mixed kids are so cute"....all kids are cute...of course I think my child is cuter than any other child, but we should all feel that way about our children. And when my daughter gets older I am going to teach her that some people will hate on you, but there is nothing wrong with you, you're just like them. You have the BEST OF BOTH WORLDS!!!!!!....Because I will fight anyones moma whos child calls my daughter a name for being biracial. Ok I really won't I guess thats a little to red neck!!!!!...But I hate racist people..we all are the same on the inside!!**

I don't think it is so much stupidity as it is ignorance of what mixed babies are "supposed to" look like. I live in a predominately white part of the country. The black population here is 1% or less. If a culture isn't diversified how can we expect people to understand other cultures and the newer cultures? Some people truly want to know because they don't know. Two of my grandbabies are mixed. They are truly beautiful babies - but so isn't my granddaughter who isn't mixed. Babies are beautiful.

As to those ignorant about mixed babies, rather than getting upset with them, this is a perfect opportunity for us to educate others about biracial babies.

I'm bi-racial. And people have always asked me if my hair was naturally curly. I always thought they were crazy!! Like that was the most stupid question in the world. But now being older I see alot of black women who perm their hair straight or wear weaves and I guess it just didn't occur to me that maybe because alot of black women don't wear their hair naturally curly all the time that someone would ask me (knowing im black) that my hair is curly. If any of that makes sense. Anyway. I would walk around the store with my little brother and sister and my mum would be in the aisle and people would come up to ME asking if they were MY kids! :eek: When people see my mum they don't KNOW she's my mum right off because she's white. But my little sister is white skinned and people don't know our dad is her dad right off. It's crazy and people get confused, but I never realized how light my sister was or that people would ever think she wasn't black until people started saying stuff. Yeah, the world is crazy. Can't wait to have little multi-racial babes of my own.

My little boy is mixed and to me he is the most beautiful little boy in the world. I'm white and my fiance is white. Even taking my son to visit my fiance, I have had a lot of people ask me if my son is his biological child. Umm...hello...are you blind? Some people are so stupid. I just ignore their questions. I won't even justify it by giving them an answer. Use your head people.

This off the subject but I remember "back in day" when I used to color my hair purple. Folks would ask me, "Is that your natural hair color?" :eek: :confused: I always said, " Yes, everyone in my family has purple hair. :D
Rainbow

Rainbow...that just goes to show how ignorant and dumb people really are. A lot of it is just common sense, but apparently most people lack in that area.

i have a cute little story ..my friends little boy (who is mixed) was about 6 or 7at the time and his friend asked him was he half black ? the little mans answer.yes and you would be to if that dog hadnt beat your daddy over the fence...kinda sad isnt it that they have to learn to harden their hearts so young

JJsGB, That was my point, but I think some people don't really mean to be rude or ignorant. They just forget to put their brain in motion before they put their mouth in gear.
Rainbow
ps. Your little boy is muy guapo = very handsome

I have three biological Bi-racial sons and one adopted Black son...they are teenagers now..and I've heard everything from "what are they?" my favorite answer is "children" or "human beings" or "people" so that is usually followed by something like "I mean what are they mixed with" My answer being either "a mother and a father" ...I'm proud of my sons and have taught them that they are the "best" of both worlds...and I'm not ashamed of admitting their heritage, proud of it actually...but people are so forthright in their questions...kind of like the coworkers who tell me "I'm not the type to marry a Black man" and then proceed to ask me what its' like and "are the rumors ture" To me what's funny is that I tell you that I have 4 sons...2 have chosen to be "white" and 2 have chosen to be "black" What's interesting is that the two "white" ones, I would classify as "preppy" and they have both black and white "preppy" friends. And the two "black" ones dress more urban hip hop - thug-gy and they have black and white friends that dress and act the same.. (I could tell you of the time that one of the "white" boys decided to help the black son dress white so people wouldn't treat him differently, and well, he was dressed very nicely "preppy" instead of his usual "thug-gy" but he was still black) and I tell them all that they are what they are, be proud of it...its just kind of interesting how they have grown into one or the other...in their own minds if no where else.

Thank You so much Rainbow. To me he's the most beautiful little boy in the world.

Ok I don't have kids, but I am bi-racial. Im proud of all the races that it took to make me. Im a mutt and I couldn't be happier. I use to get asked in school when I was younger what I was. I would tell them german cherokee rican and black. They would be all dumb founded and sometimes that caused problems, only because back then there were no other *mixed* kids in my school. Infact my principal told me to say I was mexican, or latin, being that I have brown skin. I was hurt by it of course and me and my mom said I wouldn't do such a thing that I have the right to be proud of who I am, and my heritage.
Basically I'm just trying to say, you might have to hear stupid comments, but don't let them change who and what you and your child is. Make sure to teach them all thier roots, not just 1 for the sake of society. I am a very happy mutt, and I wouldn't change being a mixed kid for anything or anyone.

I have 2 mixed lil girls and my baby girl hasnt really gotten her color yet and my oldest is 5 and she looks like she is straight black no white at all LOL!!! When we walk togather and she calls me mamma people ask me ALL THE TIME * is she yours* well duh she just called me mamma what do you think. Then they ask me did I adopt , NO she is mine.
They are trippin because mixed babies are so cute. Keep up your smart ass comments and maybe they will quit with the stupid questions one day!!!:thumbsup:

. . . They are trippin because mixed babies are so cute. :nospeak:


I'd like to think that if a mother had one mixed baby and two babies that are not mixed, that she'd believe that ALL of her babies are so cute. Sadly, I never hear that in this forum, but I sure do hear PLENTY statements of "mixed babies are so cute". Yall say that as if it's a fact. What would be some real funny stuff is if a woman had a mixed baby and it came out UGLY!! I could hear her now, raising hell in the ward -- THIS IS NOT MY BABY, MIXED BABIES ARE SO CUTE AND THIS BABY YALL BROUGHT ME IS NOT CUTE AT ALL!! Five years later, as she looks at her child, she says "damn, it's been five years and my kid STILL ain't got cute yet!! There's something wrong -- this CAN'T be my kid, because 'mixed babies are so cute'"!! I guess that would be the day one woman who had an IR relation would learns that mixed kids don't always come out so cute.

I am so sick of color this, color that, mixed this, mixed that. God I just wish all of this color and mixed talk could just get buried in a hole, along with the death penalty, and that just be two less things this world has to concern itself with. But the reality in that is because both are about as American as apple pie being both have been around since the beginning of time and neither is going anywhere, I guess I just gotta live with it. But, it's okay to wish, so, I'll just keep on wishing.

Thank God i don't have to deal with peoples ignorance... but don't let those people get to you girl... i think that mixed baby's are absolutely BEAUTIFUL.... and of course i think my daughter is going to be a heartbreaker when she grows up. shoot even i get jealous of her.. hehe.. in the summer time i can put suntan lotion, a hat, and sit her under a umbrella while i lay out in the sun and go to the tanningbed and she still gets darker than me... but anyways don't let other's rob you of the joy that your lil one gives you

Thank God i don't have to deal with peoples ignorance... but don't let those people get to you girl... but anyways don't let other's rob you of the joy that your lil one gives you
That's what I'm saying -- if there is joy in you -- let it stay there because when the joy within is real, no one and I do mean no one can disturb it. So stop acting like your joy is fake, like anybody can just mess with it with mere comments that you know makes no sense!! Just let 'em know "I ain't steadin you, have a nice day."

Spread the joy, don't join the ignorance!! But what do I know -- I'm not interracial or mixed.

HeSoHandsome? R you in a IRR and if you dont mind me asking another question ---Do you have biracial children? Just curious. Thanks for the honesty when you answer.

But what do I know -- I'm not in an interracial relationship or mixed.
Mandy, sorry for the confusion in my last post. I've made the correction in orange, which answers part of your question. The other part is "no, I do not have any interracial children".

I was asking because you make some very strong comments in this thread and i dont understand your intentions. I dont feel that you are truely out to "better" this thread. I feel that you are here trying to start conflict. I know i am not the only one who feels this way. Just an FYI-clear your intentions please. If you are curious i can understand but other wise please stop trying to start trouble. Thanks and may God Bless your curious soul.

I was asking because you make some very strong comments in this thread and i dont understand your intentions. I dont feel that you are truely out to "better" this thread. I feel that you are here trying to start conflict. I know i am not the only one who feels this way. Just an FYI-clear your intentions please. If you are curious i can understand but other wise please stop trying to start trouble. Thanks and may God Bless your curious soul.

As a moderator in this forum and all the other staff within this forum and pto as a whole would not allow any type of negativity to go on. In my opinion she is not trying to start anything she just took sentences that were said in this thread and commented on them .. She went on to say that she wishes that all this race, color and mix this would end for basically we are all one people..

Now you may ask what gives me the right to comment .. Well 3 reasons . .1 i am the moderator in this forum.. 2. I am mixed and 3. I have a mixed child. SO i have every right to respond.. As far as Hesohandsome responding she has every right as well.. She may not be in an interracial relationship but she posts very good questions and she does this from her heart. I have never seen her posting to start trouble. She simply stated something and it wasnt deragotory to anyone ..

Please keep this thread on topic or it will be closed.

thanks

As a moderator in this forum and all the other staff within this forum and pto as a whole would not allow any type of negativity to go on. In my opinion she is not trying to start anything she just took sentences that were said in this thread and commented on them .. She went on to say that she wishes that all this race, color and mix this would end for basically we are all one people..

Now you may ask what gives me the right to comment .. Well 3 reasons . .1 i am the moderator in this forum.. 2. I am mixed and 3. I have a mixed child. SO i have every right to respond.. As far as Hesohandsome responding she has every right as well.. She may not be in an interracial relationship but she posts very good questions and she does this from her heart. I have never seen her posting to start trouble. She simply stated something and it wasnt deragotory to anyone ..

Please keep this thread on topic or it will be closed.

thanks

As a wife/mother of a wonderful husband and beautiful children who happen to have a better tan than I do. I understand that Hesohandsome has a lot of "good questions" and comments. I guess what myself/people are confused about is how can you comment about IRR Relationships and Mixed Children when your not in that situation. If your not in an IRR - then you really dont know what its like to be in one. The day to day situations that you have to face and deal with just because you are with someone of a different race. I totally agree that people make too much of this subject. I for one do not see my husband as a Black man, for I see him as a wonderful, handsome, loving, kindhearted man who loves me and our children with every ounce of his being.

Thanks for listening. This is just my opinion.

Thank you Sunny for your opinion-Like everyone else on here that is what i gave my opinion. Like wise with hesohandsome-she gives her opinion. Wife-e-i was only asking a question. I dont feel that i should be threatened for leaving my opinion. You may be a moderator but as i thought-moderators help keep peace-they do not take sides. I was a moderator at a Middle School-paid-college educated position. So keeping peace is what your position is about. Helping people understand thier differences and help them get along. I am not here trying to start trouble i am simply giving my opinion. And now that everyone knows i how feel. Then lets move on and try to help the uneducated understand IRR and "Mixed children". Thanks

My son has 2 step siblings that are mixed. They are my ex husband's wife's kids...anyway..I love them to pieces and take them a lot when we go to the park or skating...The looks people give me when I tell them that they're brothers and sisters....sheesh....when are people going to stop looking at the color of one's skin?

As a product of a mixed marriage (1/2 filipino/ 1/2 white), I hate to see that we even have a forum for inter-racial issues. Is it really that much of an issue anymore? I don't know, I see it every day. What is the big deal about it?
Who of us are pure anything anymore? So, as long as you are okay about your relationship, who gives a flip what anyone else thinks.
Don't we all have much more pressing issues than this one? Really, dealing with prison is enough isn't it?

. . . I guess what myself/people are confused about is how can you comment about IRR Relationships and Mixed Children when your not in that situation.
Then lets . . . try to help the uneducated understand IRR and "Mixed children". Thanks
ladies, and I use the term loosely, the way that I broaden my scope on things is by asking and looking into what I do not understand and know by going directly to related sources because they can inform me best.

It's really too bad and awfully sad that that makes you so uncomfortable. What I expect when I ask is "each one teach one" attitudes. I guess it's my bad for expecting too much because never did I expect to hear things like "she's a troublemaker" and "why does she want to learn about this since this is not her lifestyle -- that confuses us". It could be because you're so used to getting asked stupid questions that when you get asked legitimate ones, you don't know what's worse -- the stupid questions or the legitimate ones so in that regard, you confuse yourselves. :confused:

That makes me feel like (1) wow, so they're not into each one teach one; (2) it makes me feel like "oooooooookay"; and it makes me feel like (3) DON'T YOU DARE BREAK ON THE MODERATORS because while folks here don't piss me off, based on of my own sense of work ethics I don't like to see people getting disrespected in the course of doing their job. Each moderator is hand picked for a reason, and IMO any person with a real sense of work ethics will recognize that and respect it.

Mandy, I don't need to understand IRRs because not only do I understand that FULLY, I don't care about that. What I care about is the innocent children so you'll do good fine by just sticking to that topic and share rather than strain when it comes to informing. There's no need to be facetious or condesending, but if that's your personality, then you are what you are.

. . . inter-racial issues. Is it really that much of an issue anymore? I don't know, I see it every day. What is the big deal about it?
That's my point EXACTLY lkendrick, which is why it blows me away to hear all the strife that these women say they encounter when it comes to the stupid questions they are asked about their children. It blows me away so much that I wouldn't even believe they are asked stupid questions. But I now do.

Like you, I see mixed children all of the time but what I do not see is people asking the parents or adult who's with those children stupid questions.

I tell you one thing though, if the words of a stupid question about someone's child ever crosses my ears I will surely stop and ask that asker "ah, excuse me but why did you ask her that, I mean what you asked makes no sense so I'm just trying to make some sense out of the nonsense, so tell me -- why did you ask that question?"

However, because I don't see that in my walk in society or at the prison when I visit, that opportunity may never present itself for me to ask. But that sure does not mean the mothers who get asked can't ask, and even bring those responses back here to the forum to let us all know.

45 years ago I was born in black skin -- I was born into the race that was outwardly loathed by some whites and inwardly loved by other whites. But I was raised in a home that taught we are better than what anyone has to say about us. So when discrimination comes into my path, it rolls off my shoulder and I makes no deal out of it at all. I be like "okay, mamma told me there'd be days like this, and daddy told me how to deal with them."

lkendrick, maybe it's a big deal here because some of these folks never faced racism until they started taking up with and having babies with other races. That once they started that, they noticed "hey, things won't like this when I was with someone of my own race, when I had same-race babies.:confused:" Welcome to our world rookies!! My kids dad told me a white person once told him he didn't believe that our hair gets wet. He didn't make a big deal out of it because for us ones born in this skin, "that's just life and it came with the birthright." We don't pay that mess no mind -- we just laugh at it.

I've always been extremely proud of my heritage from both sides. And to tell you the truth, I always felt that anyone that didn't accept me due to my mixed heritage, was maybe a little jealous. After all, I can get an awesome tan.:p
Seriously, me and my siblings were never taught to be ashamed of our heritage. We were educated on our unique background. This came from my parents who married not long after WWII was over, a white and asian marrying. My mom told me she did face a lot of hatred for marrying someone clearly not of her race, someone who looked too much like the Japanese race that the US just finished a war with. I cannot even begin to imagine the discrimination they faced. But they overcame it and are still married to each other, nearly 55 years later. They are a testimony to love and strength of character, a quality all too lacking in todays world.
To those who are confronted with clearly hateful racial remarks, I would say this, turn a deaf ear and consider the source. Someone who makes these types of remarks reveals their ignorance and blatant stupidity.

[quote=HeSoHandsome]ladies, and I use the term loosely, the way that I broaden my scope on things is by asking and looking into what I do not understand and know by going directly to related sources because they can inform me best.

It's really too bad and awfully sad that that makes you so uncomfortable. What I expect when I ask is "each one teach one" attitudes. I guess it's my bad for expecting too much because never did I expect to hear things like "she's a troublemaker" and "why does she want to learn about this since this is not her lifestyle -- that confuses us". It could be because you're so used to getting asked stupid questions that when you get asked legitimate ones, you don't know what's worse -- the stupid questions or the legitimate ones so in that regard, you confuse yourselves. :confused:


First, I applaud you for wanting to know and I am far from being uncomfortable with anyone wanting to know. My point is that how can anyone create threads about a subject that they dont have first hand knowledge about? Which in turn, how can people go to that person for advise when they dont have first hand knowledge about the subject. They are leading people on. Second, I didn't see anyone say "why does she want to learn about this since this is not her lifestyle - that confuses us." That is funny because our "lifestyle" is no different than any other married couple. I for one am not confused about anything. I really have left this thread alone because IRR really shouldnt be a subject, but its "society" that keeps it up. No one has ever asked me about my children, and if that ever happened I would set them straight. For "each one, teach one" - I'm all about that, however I didn't know that you had to be taught to be in a relationship, IRR or otherwise. The only thing people should be taught about is loving one another regardless of race and respecting one another regardless of race. No one has to understand my relationship/marriage, but I EXPECT people to respect it.

I've always been extremely proud of my heritage from both sides. And to tell you the truth, I always felt that anyone that didn't accept me due to my mixed heritage, was maybe a little jealous. After all, I can get an awesome tan.:p
Seriously, me and my siblings were never taught to be ashamed of our heritage. We were educated on our unique background. This came from my parents who married not long after WWII was over, a white and asian marrying. My mom told me she did face a lot of hatred for marrying someone clearly not of her race, someone who looked too much like the Japanese race that the US just finished a war with. I cannot even begin to imagine the discrimination they faced. But they overcame it and are still married to each other, nearly 55 years later. They are a testimony to love and strength of character, a quality all too lacking in todays world.
To those who are confronted with clearly hateful racial remarks, I would say this, turn a deaf ear and consider the source. Someone who makes these types of remarks reveals their ignorance and blatant stupidity.

AMEN Leslie - My husband and I live everyday for each other and our children and screw whomever doesn't like it. I am proud to have a loving marriage, not many people can say that. I could only wish that me and my husband live long enough to be together 55 years.

:sneeze: :sneeze: ooops, scuze me, somebody quick, give mrssunny a tissue because she just got sneezed on!! :D

She asked a question and thats it. How some of you are taking it seems alittle, well maybe ALOT overboard. Why don't you help her understand your views instead of wondering about her intentions. I happen to agree with alot of what she is saying AND :eek: I have 3 "mixed" children and married to a hispanic male. (Apparently this needs to be posted cause then it means I actually have something of value to say) :p

Board monitors keep everyone in line with the rules of PTO. They still have there own opinions. No one was threated, she said the thread will be closed if the negativity continues.

Speaking of all this negativity, it seems that it could be compared to exactly what you are all talking about. How is someone elses negativity towards mixed kids any different then the negativity towards someone just asking questions and your responce.

Then again...http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c195/cherrie79/pancakebunny.jpg

Anytime you draw attention to yourself by doing something thats a little different - like an interracial relationship or having "mixed" children people are going to ask you questions. Unless that question is meant to be mean - its strictly up to you how you interpret it. Just like anything else in life. I have a daughter who is mixed - i am white and her father is black. I also have 3 children who are not mixed. My mixed daughter is now 30 years old with a son who is 7. You would never know my grandson has any white in him. I have another daughter who has children with a man who is hispanic. I really get alot of questions when i take my grandchildren out - the old white lady with the black and hispanic kids. Do i take offense to them ? No - people are usually just trying to be friendly, not hateful.

When my mixed daughter was born, 30 years ago i was living in Green Bay Wisconsin - lets just say i drew alot of intention to myself. People always asked me which Green Bay Packer i was married to. Now when her and i go places together people sometimes think we are a lesbian couple. How funny is that?

Enough. We all have different views and they've been hashed and rehashed. On that note I bid you all a great day and close this thread.

Patty