Hello everyone! It's been a while since I've been in here! The guy that I've been waiting for is comeing out in June. It seems like it went by really fast. But I'm super nervous, we have not been together since we were teens. We have twin girls together that are going to be 14 yrs old. He doesnt really know them that well. Not only that but we both had gone are seperate ways. I got married and have another daughter. He did the same. While he's been in he as since got divorced. I on the other hand have not. Maybe I'm being selfish I don't know. I do know that I have a lot of mixed emotions. This guy makes me laugh he always has, he didn't know how to grow up. ( Not like being in jail for the millionth time is going to either). My husband is an ass. Shit I dont know anymore do you go for the fuzzy warm feeling in your stomach or do you stay with financial security?????? i guess that's my question to you all!!!!

You heart and your head have to make this decision.
Good luck.
LeA

Well, I was in a similar situation and I chose to go for the warm, fuzzy feeling. I feel that I will have a more fulfilling life and not have too many regrets by choosing love and happiness over financial security. That's just my opinion though.

Follow your SOUL your HEART your GUT FEELINGS.....or your always regret it and not be happy

I agree with Angel. If you care about the guy and you have feelings still and are not getting what you need from your marriage, then you might regret not doing anything about it. On the other hand, be a woman about it and tell your husband that you need to move on. There is nothing worse then feeling like you were played and taking that anger into a divorce and custody battle. I wishyou all the luck! I hope this doesn't come out as harsh sounding as I think it is. Just follow what your heart says.

Follow your heart or you may regret it.

Financial security you can get for yourself. That warm fuzzy feeling takes two. If hubby's an ass, and you know you just ain't gonna find that with him, then you need to find the door- but that doesn't mean that you need to jump right into a serious relationship with the guy who's been in jail a million times and never yet grown up.

Forgive me, OK, I'm not trying to be mean here, but the fact that you're capable of putting it in those terms- warm fuzzy vs. financial security- suggests to me that neither of them really totally takes your breath away, and maybe you need to take some time to just be you and the girls as a family. (With Mr. Warm Fuzzy visiting on weekends? who knows?)
Or maybe you're just more clearheaded and mature than I am, nobody ever accused me of excess common sense in matters of the heart LOL. But I know I couldn't NOT love Eric, no matter what was on the other side of the scale.