Has anyone gotten married in Ironwood? I just had a few questions on the whole process..I sent in my packet last week..How long does it take to get a date? How is the whole ceremony? stuff like that....so please if anyone has gotten married in Ironwood could you please help me....thanks ladies :)

Girl I'm Gonna Be Right There With You With All The Questions But I Did Here That They Do The Marriages In Visiting On Saturdays And Sundays.. Is Thast True Do You No.... Let Me Know If You Get Anyanswers On The Marriage Procedures And I'll Find You To Let You Know I'm Still Waiting For My Marriage Package ... Thanks

I am pretty sure they do it on the 3rd thusrday of the month....Well thats what the packet said...

Oh That's Cool Cause I Was Telling Him That That's Pretty Imbarrassing If They Do It That Way And Put You Out There Like That In Front Of Everyone Ha Just Laughs...thanks I Guesss I'll See When My Packet Gets Here...

yeah that would be pretty Imbarrassing...I have been visiting for some time now and I have never seen a wedding in the visiting room:) thank god :)........

Yeah I've Yet To See A Wedding In Visit To But This Weekend When I Went To See Him He Said That No They Don't Do It That Way Anymore They Did At One Time But Not Now... So Thats Good....

Can anyone tell me who my fiance needs to ask for the wedding packet? He keeps getting the run around and no one can seem to give him the answers on how to get the packet. Does he ask the counselor, who he never sees, or who? Any info, would be appreciated.

he gets the packet from the chaplain he is there every Thursday...they will give him the packet he fills out his part then sends it to you and you fill out your part. you need to fill it out send in a copy of your drivers license, SS card they also need your original birth certificate. as for him they need a copy of his CDC card and his original birth certificate. then you need to send a Money order for 68.00. The hardest part for us was getting his birth certificate…

thanks for the info...is the chaplain there in all the yards on thursdays? does any inmate get to see him or do they have to request to see him?

The hardest part for me is getting his cdc card how do i get a copy of that?

Can't He Get A Copy Of It And Mail You The Copy...

The hardest part for me is getting his cdc card how do i get a copy of that?
Mine sent me a copy....He should just be able to send you a copy of it make sure he writes on it "for the wedding packet"

So after I receive the wedding packet, how long does it take for the whole process to be completed?

I Think They Said It Takes Like 90 Days. But I'm Not To Sure That's Just What I Heard From Someone Else Who Probably Heard From Someone Else...

hey girls im about to get married w. my hunny as well... i sent in the packet in december.. we should be getting a date sometime this week.. well atleast thats what his counslor told him... from what i know the weddings take place in the visiting room every 2nd monday or friday of the month.. unless they changed that this year...

Ladies!! Thanks for all the info. My fiance met with the chaplain this week and finally got the marriage packet!!!! So after he fills it and sends it to me and I do what I have to do, what is the next step? Who contacts me? Is the counselor involved or just the chaplain.? Where do they do the ceremony? Do they let you spend any time together at all after, or is it like, You are now pronounced man and wife...back to the cell? How sad, huh? Any info is always appreciated!!!!

now you have to fill your part of the packet and get all the document together to send back to the chaplain then the chaplain forwards it to his counselor after that you get a date when everything is approved.. No you dont get no time after the wedding to spend with your new husband....I think that sucks!!!!

wow, that is going to be hard. Do you know who calls you to give the date? Is it the chaplain, or the couselor? Then, is the city hall in the town of Blythe by the hotels? Also, my fiance doesn't know his ring size..any suggestions on how he can figure it out...

As For His Ring Size Have Him Measure It With A Small Piece Of String , Tape The String To His Letter So That You Get It.... Then You Take That To Where Your Getting The Rings And They'll Measure It And Tell You His Ring Size.... Ha..ha.. Look At Al The Stuff We Have To Go Threw To Get Info.. Hope That Helps...

thanks for that!! I would of never thought of that!! You are right, we go thru a lot out here too. It's hard loving someone in prison and no one has any idea how it is until they go thru it. The system doesn't make it any easier for the loved ones on the outside either. I do have to say that the c.o's at Ironwood are much nicer than the c.o's at Centinela. They at least, treat you with respect, at least they have always been decent to me. This website and everyone on it has been really helpful also.. I always have lots of questions, and this is the only place that I can depend on getting the right answers.. Thanks!!!

sO did you get your wedding date yet? I finally got our wedding packet, just waiting on him to get a copy of his CDC card to me. He thought it might be a problem getting it to me, but I told him to have a copy made and write "for wedding packet" on it. Hope he can get that for me soon. Did any of you ladies go to Ironwood this weekend? Feb. 25 & 26? If so, what to you think about them not giving numbers at the gate anymore?

I have not got a date yet but it should be any time time now :D....I sent my packet in January and I think it takes about 90 days from what I heard...

I have all the paperwork with me finally, his copy of his cdc card came in the mail to me this weekend, so I am ready to go. Let us know when you get your date.. How exciting!!!

Bubs- :yay: hope you fill it out soon so you can get your date...that packet is the worst lol it took me forever to finish it....but yes I will let you know what happends when I get my date :)

Finallly got all the paperwork together and it is officially mailed. Now it's a waiting game!!! Hope it doesn't take too long. Have you heard anything yet about your date? let us know.

Ok Ladies I called Friday to check on my packet to see what the heck is going on with it. They told me that their waiting on the licence...But when I got home from work I saw I had 2 missed calls from them. So now I am all stressed out because I cant call till Monday morning:angry: :angry: :banghead: :banghead: I guess I just have to wait till then to see what thier going to tell me.....This is all so fustratingand the worst part about all this is that my soon to be husband cant even call because his yard is on lock down right now I have not seen or talk to him since April 10:banghead:.....I will check back in on Monday and see what they have to say.....Please pray its good news:thumbsup:

Ps: anyone else heard anything?????

i got married at ironwood last march 2005. it takes a while and you are gonna get the complete run around. he needs to ask this counselor for the packet.let me know if u have any questions

We have the packet and everything is done and ready I just have to wait for them to get off lock down because they wont order my licence till then.....I hop I have a date by the end of this year....

Well monet you let me know when the big day comes and I'll send you a card or something.:thumbsup:

Well I got a date :) Aug 22.....:D :D

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!! gurl time to get married :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

WOW!! It is alot we need to go through just to get married there, my honey should be arriving there today or he might of already gotten to Ironwood, and congrats on your wedding, please explain in details how it went cause my man wants us to get married. thanks

First: ~ monet420 ~

CONGRATULATIONS!


And all my best wishes to you and your hubby! Be blessed!


Second:

My man and I want to marry a.s.a.p. - but all the paperwork has to be done first. Sigh! It will take quite a while because I'm not an US citizen and so we'll have to apply for visa etc. first... Does anyone of you know more about this? All help, advice and info will be gratefully appreciated!

Thanks,
Carol/united

HI United,
Id look into seeing if you need to get your visa first. Id call the prison and request to speak to the marriage person who handles the package and ask her about what requirements you need or if you need to get a visa first. My man and I want to marry a.s.a.p. - but all the paperwork has to be done first. Sigh! It will take quite a while because I'm not an US citizen and so we'll have to apply for visa etc. first... Does anyone of you know more about this? All help, advice and info will be gratefully appreciated!

Thanks,
Carol/united


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I will try to reach the chaplain and ask him about the visa.

Thanks for the good advice!

I was married at Ironwood on 8/22/06. We returned the packet completely filled out on May 15 (thats when the prison received it certified mail). We heard nothing back until 7/31 when I was called and informed that we would be married on Aug, 22nd. The info in the packet was quite misleading. Marraiges are only performed on the 3rd tuesday of the month not the 2nd thursday(I had figured from the timeline in the packet we woild be married on Sept. 14). When the woman called she informed me that the lisence expired before Sept 18 and the 22nd was the ONLY date. It was a bit much to throw it together so fast (I live in Oregon) but we managed. I just received my marriage certificate in the mail (almost a month to the day after) and have forwarded it to the prison for our family visit to be scheduled. A yard was on lockdown but the prison allowed the ceremony to take place anyway. I guess it is considered a "priority" event, so don't stress when it comes time and your man is on lockdown, they will do it anyway. Good luck to all who go through this... it's not easy, the worst is having to leave shortly after the ceremony... before it's even begun to sink in.

I was married at Ironwood on 8/22/06. We returned the packet completely filled out on May 15 (thats when the prison received it certified mail). We heard nothing back until 7/31 when I was called and informed that we would be married on Aug, 22nd. The info in the packet was quite misleading. Marraiges are only performed on the 3rd tuesday of the month not the 2nd thursday(I had figured from the timeline in the packet we woild be married on Sept. 14). When the woman called she informed me that the lisence expired before Sept 18 and the 22nd was the ONLY date. It was a bit much to throw it together so fast (I live in Oregon) but we managed. I just received my marriage certificate in the mail (almost a month to the day after) and have forwarded it to the prison for our family visit to be scheduled. A yard was on lockdown but the prison allowed the ceremony to take place anyway. I guess it is considered a "priority" event, so don't stress when it comes time and your man is on lockdown, they will do it anyway. Good luck to all who go through this... it's not easy, the worst is having to leave shortly after the ceremony... before it's even begun to sink in.

I got married that same day :) but i sent my packet in Jan :( it took that long to get our date :(

it sure was a hot day... which yard is your man on?

My man is on C yard....Have you heard anything on your FV yet??

I just sent the certificate out on Monday. My man is on C status, so it may be awhile before we get a date for a FV but from what I understand, because I'm from out of state, we will get a 5 day visit. I asked him if they provided wheelchair services out of there... LOL!

Yeah I Know Some One My Crazy Friend Melissa :d