Hello everybody,
my friend on Oklahoma death row has been transferred to a county jail because there are some evidentiary hearings in his case. At least that's what I found out in the internet.
He's been transferred on 9th December, I haven't heard from him since then - that's not his style at all. In the meantime I wrote several letters to "his old address" because I didn't know until today they really transferred him.
Does anybody know if in cases like this the letters are forwarded to him from death row to the county jail? Do I have any chances to get his "new adress" by asking at death row?
I'd appreciate to hear of your experiences.
Greetings, Maria

usually they have to wait till they gety back to the row to get their mail, my friend who was on the row in ok went for hearings and could not even write to me until he arrived back to the row, i just kept writing anyway, so he had lots to read when he arrived back there

Oh, elsapunzi, thanks for your reply. I called Oklahoma department of corrections to find out where my letters were (I mean, it doesn't make much sense if he's given his Cristmas letters in August...), and they said they usually do forward their mail. Unfortunately this takes quite some time - in case of my friend he was already back on the row when my letters to him were still being forwarded to the county jail... This system is just crazy at times...

Does anybody know if in cases like this the letters are forwarded to him from death row to the county jail? Do I have any chances to get his "new adress" by asking at death row?
I'd appreciate to hear of your experiences.
Greetings, Maria

Chances are he is out to the county on an appeal or something in regards to his conviction. You could call the county and ask if he is there and get their mailing address. What state is he in? Chances are he is back to the county that convicted him to begin with. Another possibiliy is he caught a new charge and is at the county the prison is in or he had charges in a different county or state he still had to face.

You will find him :thumbsup:

oay i am glad that your friensd is getting his letters now, in the case of my friend they never forwarded his letters and kept them till he got back, but i know ok do whatever they see fit to do, they dont care about the guys at all, and know that not getting their mail hurts themn, anyway good luck with your friendship, just keep in mind ok is a tough place for the guys, did you know that they are housed underground so never see a tree, grassa, or flowers and no natural light in their cells or any other part of the condemed housing unit

[quote=elsapunzi]oay i am glad that your friensd is getting his letters now ME TOO!! in the case of my friend they never forwarded his letters and kept them till he got back, but i know ok do whatever they see fit to do, they dont care about the guys at all OH YES! "USUALLY WE DON'T FORWARD THE MAIL BECAUSE IN CASE OF THOSE CONDEMNED TO DEATH... THEY ARE BACK QUICKLIER THAN YOU CAN SAY DEATH SENTENCE" THAT'S AT LEAST WHAT I WAS TOLD ON THE PHONE.

and know that not getting their mail hurts themn, anyway good luck with your friendship, just keep in mind ok is a tough place for the guys, did you know that they are housed underground so never see a tree, grassa, or flowers and no natural light in their cells or any other part of the condemed housing unit YES, I DID KNOW THAT. THE MORE I WAS SURPRISED WHEN MY FRIEND WROTE HE HAD A CELL MATE THERE. SO AT LEAST HE'S NOT TOTALLY ISOLATED.

I WILL VISIT HIM IN JULY AND I'M REALLY "EXCITED" TO KNOW WHAT WILL EXPECT ME THERE.

THANKS AGAIN,
Maria

i am glad you and your friend are back on track but sadly my friend was executed july 19th 2005

I know with several of my pen friends when they went back to county any mail sent to the row was held for them until they got back. But I see it is taken care of now. I am happy you guys are back in touch. It is hard when we don't know what is going on, makes us feel helpless.

softie

i am glad you and your friend are back on track but sadly my friend was executed july 19th 2005

Honey I am so sorry.

Hugs
softie

thanks soft heart,its coming upto a year now since i lost him,it still hurts but i guess after writing over five years its going to be hard for a long time, buti have no regrets about my friendship with him only that i wish i could have done more for him.

This is all new to me...I have just started writing to someone on DR.It was
not something I had intended to do.I am very sensitive,and having just lost my husband several months ago...taking on this type of pen friend was not my ideal. I told him from the get go...I loved his poetry and that is what drew him to my attention..In my letters I never ask him questions about his situation though the door is open to that avenue of thought..I also told him from the get go I am not writing for a romantic situation...but out of friendship...I know when the day comes,:( I will be devistated...how do you work around these issues?

well i did not write my guy for a romantic relation, we were the closet as friends that two perople could ever get, even a little flirting lots of jokes and talking, but as you said when the day comes it is devestatingt, as to working round those issuers that is hard and everyone deals with it differently, with Micheal we were not allowed phone calls so we had only mail, i made sure from the word go he had alot of mail from me and pictures of me nature, all kinds of pics, i let him know his crime and guilt/innocence was not an issue for me, we talked on every subject, in other words we concentrated on building lots of memories that only us two could share, i kept and still have every letter he wrote me, including his last letter to me written just before hisd death and it all worked, he even said he would love me till time ends. yeah its hard but you will find painful as it is you have and are giving your friend a veryprecious gifty friendship and love even if just the love that friends have fpor each other.

:) Thank you for your thoughtfulness! I am finding,though ,I try to keep things light,,He tells me his favorite things...I,,on the other hand,will see something in the paper or on the net...and say ,[friend] would like that,,so I go and write it down...and keep a little journal..so when I do sit to write the letter..I have plenty to say...
I keep telling myself not to get to attached,,,for fear it will be,to traumatic.....He is the age of one of my sons and that is how I feel..like that could be my child, but for the Grace of God....don't want to get to emotionally involved..but drawn to him like a moth to a flame...I don't want to stop writing, but at a real cross road....was it hard for you at first? Do you see what I am trying to say?..I can see me getting to,motherly so to speak.....
Beverly