well i went again to see my hubby...and this time we were on a non-contact visit. where we were seated at has the mirrors that are outwardly curved so the officers can watch the visits without intruding in ON the visit (they aren't in the room...but they have an outside view as well as access to the phones). so my hubby and i were on our phones and talking, and i smiled into the mirror and said, "gee babe you're getting bigger" because i could see him too. so he turned to the mirror too and said, "wow i can see us." i could see us too. and we just sat there and stared at the mirror and each other through it. and even though there was a wall seperating us, we looked so together. i was just staring, and a part of me laughed, and i said out loud, "look at my white boy!" and he started to smile back. when i looked at him...i saw us being black and white for the first time in a long time. and it was so crazy because i haven't done it in a long time (thought about him not being my race). maybe that's because we've never been able to look at ourselves as a couple...together at the same time in a mirror. it was crazy too...because while i was sitting there waiting for him to come out...other people were at the visit waiting too. so when 5 white/hispanic men and no black men came out...the woman next to me had a flash of confusion on her face as she looked at my hubby sit across from me. i guess she thought there was some mix up LOL (i was the only black visitor that day). but she didn't say anything lol. i thought at first that maybe that's why the mirror thing made me think so hard...because for the first time someone looked actually confused by us being together (not bad for over 3 weeks worth of visits already with no issues that i noticed). but the lady didn't seem TOO concerned...just more like "wowed" lol. but then the harder i thought about it...the more i think that the mirror thing was an issue for me because we saw each other together for the first time as a couple...in a mirror, and it was a special moment, plexiglas and all. :)

so what do you see when you two look at each other in a mirror together, side by side, and in love? if you haven't gotten the opportunity yet to do so...what do you think you will see? of course i saw love...but for the first time...i did see a beautiful difference...with everything from our hair to our skin color to the shapes of our noses and lips. and it made us both smile.

i guess the officer there was like, "geesh...narcissism at it's peak" cuz all we did was stare in awe kinda at ourselves for a good 20-30 seconds LOL!! LMAOOO!

Aww. That was a cute story! I dont pay attention to our color anymore since I have been with my man for so long, but sometimes when I havnt seen him for a long time I do notice that I am so "white" and he is so "black". But of course I see two people very much in love.

yeah...i mean, we do have to be truthful...there IS a difference between us and our mates. it's a difference to embrace, but sometimes it IS like WOW and it can catch you off guard (well at least it did to me when i really looked).

and yes, i definitely agree that not being together makes the difference kinda stand out when you do meet up again.

I see my heart...

That was a sweet story. That is a question we should ask ourselves everyday no matter what or who we are. I have a girlfriend who is black and her boyfriend is white and they have been together for about 20+ years. They don't see it at all anymore, unless someone says something. They have been together so long that they just melt into one.

I see my forever, my everything, my completion. We really don't care what others see, but we have talked about it - Do others see that we are a couple in love, or a couple of color? We are in love and that is all that matters.

I never really looked at it as he is white and me west indian.. I always saw him a someone who i knew would complete me and that even thru the hardships we will always pull thru cause we were there at each other side rooting for love and each other.. I see my heart and my soul my world... not just my husband and baby father.. I see the one who completed my heart and made me happy even in this situation

i used to date 2 people out of my race awhile back and i never even payed attention to their color of skin because they were nice men to me at the time and also i live by the saying dont judge a book by its cover and i think all races are just as human as my race is and we all deserve happiness no matter what the color of the skin is :)!!!

I see two halves that make a whole and one d--- fine lookin' couple :).

I see a pain in the ass man who has blessed with me two beautiful daughters...boy, he is beautiful but one big pain in the ass!!!
I don't really notice that he's Puerto Rican and I am white....20 years later it doesn't matter to me...we are who we are!!

I read this thread last night and I've been thinking about it ever since. I know what I see. I see the man I love. I don't see his color. Then I wondered what he sees when he looks at me. So I asked him today when he called. He told me he sees the woman he loves not my color. This started a whole race conversation. I made the comment that I wonder what others see when they look at us. His reply was that it doesn't matter what others see as long as we know who we are and what we see. Oh I love that man.

Candy

When I look at my best friend I see love! Damon and I are best friends and when I'm with him I love the way that we look together. I love the way our hands look together as we hold hands. Dame has never been with a white woman before so I am his first and he is the first black man that I said the words "I love you" to so our relationship will always be special to us. I get looks all the time when we are together but we never make an issue about it.

I see two people that look adorable together LOL! I think we make a cute couple. When he is out and we go places hugging, kissing, and goofing around people useally will tell us how cute we our together. So I will stick to saying I see an adorable couple when I look at us in a mirror.

Before I could never see us together in my mind, I saw him and I saw me but not together even in pictures together and only just recently I could see myself and him together in the same thought if that makes any since, what does that mean? because I know I love him with all my heart but it has literally taken me 5 years to see us together. I can now literaly see us standing together doing things such as standing in front of a preacher to get married, before I couldn't see that. As far as color I have never payed attention to that, I have spent so many years in the Spanish Culture that I don't notice things like that I don't care what the color of a persons skin is anymore. As far as love I can finally say it and know in my heart that I really do love this man with all my heart, don't get me wrong I loved him before but I think there was alway a hesitant thought there, a scared thought that he's going to hurt me again and I can't allow him to get really close to me again, but now being that he has been gone a while we finally have the respect, honesty and more importantly love for each other. And to type this brings a tear to my eyes. I can also now imagine what our child is going to look like, yes its just an imagination but I can see that finally too.

WHEN I SEE HIM I SEE THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, A STRONG MAN, DA BEST THING IN MY LIFE

The Other Day My Honey Was Like U No I Never Been With A Haitian Gurl (his Puerto Rican) Before Lo0ol He Said I'm Exotic

I see love and happiness. I love the picture of us in my profile, it shows how loving he is. Well at least to me it does. I wish i had a million more pictures like that of us together.

While my husband and I have only been together a little over 2 years I don't see his color (he's Puerto Rican & Hatian.) i see my best friend. sometimes i'll see a picture of us and kinda do a double take because i forget he's black. he thinks it's cute when i do it. It makes him laugh.

I'm Native Indian and Mexican and my husband is white and Native Indian but looks white! I have never thought of how we look together as we enjoy the same things (most of the time) and I have taught him to like Mexican and Indian foods as I cook those alot. So I guess I have never really noticed the difference between us. And if anybody else does we don't care! We love one another and he has been there for me through it all! And together we are one!

When I look in the mirror together with my man, I see a cute couple who is so in love (it has been awhile since we looked in the mirror together but I remember). He has said before though that he thought people probably looked at us funny b/c he's a big muscled up black guy and I'm a skinny little white girl. He thought people were thinking he probably beat me up or something. He's crazy though. I enjoyed reading your story. It was cute.:)
Here's a picture so you can see!
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Isn't he sexy!?! I think so, that's my baby!

i never really think about it unless i am there with his mother or if i am looking at our pictures together, i mean if i have a single pic of him and am looking at it, it never crosses my mind, but the together ones make me laugh. i also at times wonder what others think, cause he and i are so very diffrent, come from diffrent sides of the track and diffrent sides of the color wheel.

I see the man I love more than anything else in life. I honestly don't even think about the fact that he is black and I am white unless someone else brings it up or asks me a question about it. To me, we are both the SAME race.... human! :)

When stood holding each other in front of the mirror, we both said "dayum, we look good togetha!" lol and we sure do. :D

:) As some one said to me in the visiting room, we are a handsome couple who get wed in october yipee!!!

I see love.

i guess the officer there was like, "geesh...narcissism at it's peak" cuz all we did was stare in awe kinda at ourselves for a good 20-30 seconds LOL!! LMAOOO!
Your whole post was so sweet, and touching....
This one quote made me really smile...too cute!
Who cares what the guards thought...YOU both know what it is!
Hey, when ya look good, ya look good...don't hate! (Right?)

To answer the original question...WE see perfection, and a shine that others plainly see as well.
Race aside, some couples just shine. I see and know many who do.
It's also about knowing each other inside and out...the beautiful and the ugly.
When you love someone through the trials and tribulations, and they love you back, no holds barred... that's a mirror we gaze into everytime we look into each other's eyes. Mirrors don't lie.

When you love someone through the trials and tribulations, and they love you back, no holds barred... that's a mirror we gaze into everytime we look into each other's eyes. Mirrors don't lie.


I love this summation. So true!!

Your whole post was so sweet, and touching....
This one quote made me really smile...too cute!
Who cares what the guards thought...YOU both know what it is!
Hey, when ya look good, ya look good...don't hate! (Right?)

To answer the original question...WE see perfection, and a shine that others plainly see as well.
Race aside, some couples just shine. I see and know many who do.
It's also about knowing each other inside and out...the beautiful and the ugly.
When you love someone through the trials and tribulations, and they love you back, no holds barred... that's a mirror we gaze into everytime we look into each other's eyes. Mirrors don't lie.


I too love this summation.......and I couldn't agree more!!!!! We have been thru so much crap together & yet we still continue to be a beautiful couple inside & out. There have been so many times that others come up to us & tell us what a "stunning" couple we are. And other times we get the "hater" stares. Our marriage is not a game to us. It is the real deal in spite of all the odds stacked against us. Hugs to all of you. Stay Strong!!!

All I See Is Love And Happiness
But He Used To Think I Was Crazy When Outta Nowhere I Would Look At Us Holding Hands And Say "o Yeah Ur Black" Lol

Aww what a great story. Well when I see me and my man together all I see is love and happiness. I look at our pictures all the time and I can't help but smile and feel the love. And he feels the same way, he doesn't see me as black and I don't see him as white, I see him as a wonderful man with big dreams and even bigger heart who I fell in love with. I do joke around with him if he has to get off the phone I'll say "is it because I'm black" and we just laugh.

I see some pretty a$$ babies!

lol. everytime something happens with us i come to PTO and find a thread that talks about the same exact thing.

yesterday at visit, we took our weekly pictures, and in one of them, he said, "oh wow baby...HERE you look black!" (alot of people mistake me for latina or mixed) and i laughed and said, "and here you look white!" (as he's latino/white).

it was the first time in about a year that we really noticed how cute our skins look contrasting with each others LOL.

yeah...we're cute :D

thanks for all the comments ladies :)

I look at our pictures and think we look so good together, so happy. He is black and I am VERY white, blonde hair blue eyes. We are both short and when he stands behind me with his arms wrapped around me we fit together perfectly. He is about 4 inches taller than me. My ex-husband was white and very tall. A foot and 4 inches taller than me. We got more stares from the height difference than I get with my black man. :) I think my fiance and I look better together. I do notice the differences all the time though. Not just in the way we look (I find his smooth black skin extremely sexy) but culturally as well. And from just being from different parts of the country. I have lived in the mountains of Colorado for 10 years before moving to Tennessee. He is from inner city Detroit. And while we have SO much in common, I had NEVER had "greens" before I met him. I love them! His favorate meal is fried fish and spaghetti. I was like GROSS DUDE! But really, it's not much different than Chicken Parmasean. He says I eat way too healthy, but he loves my cooking. :) He really wishes he had it back now. I have NO IDEA howto fix his 6 year old daughters hair. His mom ( who lives in Detroit and has custody while he is in prison) will have to teach me as his daughter will live with us after his release. They have huge family reunions and EVERYONE is a cousin even if they are 2nd and 3rd cousins. I don't even know my cousins. Shoot, my brothers and sisters can't even seem to get in the same place at the same time. I love their sense of family. Some of his differences have to do with race and some have to do with a lot of his family living in the south. I have learned to love a lot of music I never really listened to before. I was into alternative music and 80's rock. Now I also listen to R& B and rap and I LOVE a lot of it! And he has grown to like a lot of my music too. We have expanded each others minds. I am the first white girl he has dated and he is the first black man I dated seriously. So we have had race discussions a lot. I had been on a couple dates before with 2 other black men, but we did not click. After my divorce I mostly dated white guys, who I never clicked with either. (in rural Colorado that's about all there were). So when I look at our picture I see beauty and happiness but I also see such diversity that seems to blend so well. I think our differences make us more beautiful. And I think we can learn from each others points of views. So we are the same in so many ways but I believe acknowledging the differences makes us stronger.

I see a great looking couple. :p

We make a fine couple

simular to your story, we were married seperated by a glass wall. When the minister said, you may kiss your bride...we leaned forward and kissed the glass....the best kiss of my life!...but we caused the minister to start crying and heard her say..."this breaks my heart" 6 years later, we send that minister a card every year!---and when people look at us, they know that we are a couple, and it is weird, but i never even think about what color we are because i know that we can connect...no matter what obsitcal that gets in our way and are able to kiss through glass walls and that says it all to me!!!!

I see PERFECTION in what God has brought together. When someone mentions that he is "black". I tell them that I don't see him as "black", I see him as "David, the man that I am so in love with. NOT a color!" One time we were walkin down the street together and he was walkin all "thugish" and I go, "Baby, you ok? You're kinda limpin. You got sumthin wrong with ur leg?" and he said, "That's HOW I WALK!!" I started to laugh. Cuz, that isn't how he walks around the house, in the yard, etc. I go "Why you tryin to act black?" THEN I realized what I'd said. LOL He looked and me and said..."You are too funny! I AM black silly girl!" I go.."Oh yea, huh?" LOL! I guess I just forget sometimes...I don't see his color. I just see "us" two people that are so very in love and belong together so bad that it's killin us to be apart. We were layin in bed one night just fallin asleep and he said, "Isn't it amazing how when we lay together we fit together like 2 pieces of a puzzle that was meant to be together, lost on the floor, kicked around for so long and finally found and put together?" He is so sweet! The other day in his letter, he put in there.."Don't feel lost baby. We are just in a spiritual relationship right now. I'm still right there with you. Your puzzle piece is right here and will be back with with you real soon!" I cried. I miss him SO bad!!! I wish more than ANYTHING that I could just see him, if only for a few minutes.
Peace,
~bonnie
Salem, OR

As Rudy told me on the phone the other day "We compliment each other!" He's black and I'm white as can be, I have dark hair and eyes but pure white skin...the guys call me his snowflake :p He's tall and I'm...well I always thought I was tall for a woman, I'm 5'7", but he makes me feel short! His hands are rough and mine are soft. Everything about our appearance is opposite from the other, but we fit so well together! When I see us together I see my perfect match, someone I hope to spend the rest of my life with! :heart:

I see two people who love the hell out of each other!!:D

I see the man who holds my heart... I never see our racial differences. I know that it exists but we acknowledge it, when it is necessary. He is one of the strongest men that I know, I see his strength of heart and his character.

I want to take away all his loneliness, put a whole lot of rays up in his world... he said I am the first blue eyed woman he's ever been with, we are both the same race. We do have an age difference, I'm 16 years older than he is and I keep forgetting, everybody else keeps reminding me... he said age ain't nothing but a number, and he'll still love me when I'm 116... Rocking me in my rocking chair lol!!!

I didn't see the interracial relationship tag hehehe:rolleyes: Sorry Ladies....

I remember when I use to sit there holding his hand, looking at the difference in our colors and i use to think how beautiful it was. I thought this is how it should be. A beautiful mixture that created a beautiful family. It is cute too when our daughter looks at us holding hand and she will put her hands on ours and say.. Mommy is white, Daddy is black, and I am brown :)

It is amazing how little thoughts like this can make me smile while tears are running down my face... God, I miss that man..

When i picture us side by side lookin in a mirror at eachother i picture love, sensual feelings, smiles, beautiful children, and 2 strong willed people not letting anyone get in the way of how they feel for eachother. see theres a difference between love and unconditional love ... un conditional love is when you love someone and nothing that is different or "socially unnacceptable" matters... love is conditional ppl only love you under certains terms or conditions usually convient for them....unconditional love is what we have!

When we are together, we bring out the best in each other. We compliment each other. It's a beautiful thing. I know we look a lot different, but that is far from my mind when I see us.

I never really thought of it, but when I see us together, I don't really see what we look like. I see what we feel like. I see the love that we've needed so long finally being found, and I see endless possibilities.

I see a beautiful thing... made by God in heaven.

I see true love, happiness, respect, and beauty that God blessed us both with when he brought us together three years ago.

BEAUTY!!!!!

when I see us together, I see a couple that fits, both complamenting and contrasting each other. I see tall and dark, short and white, I see love given and received, i see comitment.
I might be kinda different, but i always see the color, as that is part of my attraction to my husband. I see my white tanned skin contrasting his, my long streight hair along side his short curly hair, i see the oppisites that are part of the attraction.
I see so much in the mirror or photo.
but mostly, I see me, a woman that adores a man that i call my husband. and visa versa.
24 more days and i see sweaty bodies and tangled sheets, WOoOoOHOoOoO :)

hey ladies! i'm back....

we haven't had any mirrors to look into since that day long ago lol...but we are still tuned into everything about us being so uniquely beautiful, definitely.

i am loving these stories. i actually read every post here twice because it was so cute :)

thanks for the great responses!

...love, joy, soul-companionship, strength, spirit and EVERYTHING that's right in my world :heart:

xo,

Warrior Wife