iam so confused and upset cause i don't know what is going on and why he hadn't been calling me?

TINA-HANG IN THERE-HE'LL CALL

He'll call don't worry.

do you all have times set up that he usually calls?? How long has it been since you heard from him??

OVER AWEEK AGO SO FAR I HAVE TALK TO HIS COUNCEL BUT THEY ARE JUST GIVING ME A HARD TIME. I HAD PUT IN NEW SERVICE AND NUMBER TO NOW I WILL HAVE TO FREAKING WAIT FOR HIS COUNCEL PUT IN.THEY DO IT ROUTELY.

Been there many times. My husband has been incarcerated for the last 10 years, so I know about the worrying over not hearing from him. I have learned a few tricks to ease my worrying. The counselor thing never works for me. I don't have the patience, the only thing I want to know is that he's alright and nothing's happen to him. So, what I do is just call the main line and of course they will ask, Is this call in reference to an inmate? and I will reply yes. I don't say anything I just give the CO the name and/or number and simply say I'm checking to see if my name is on the visiting list or is ok for him to get visits today or whenever. What this does is force them to say yes it is ok for him to receive visits and if he's in the hole they will usually tell you without you having to ask. If they say no, it's usually because the entire prison is on lockdown for some unknown reason. If something more serious has happened take comfort in the fact that if you name is on his emergency list, which most wives are you will be notified. So my suggestion to you is to just try to RELAX. I know it's hard, but try not to worry. I hope I have been of some help.:cool:

We've missed calls for long periods of time before because of the phone system. Some guys will be able to get their calls through, and some won't. I know how you feel, though; I used to think the worst, even though I tried hard to concentrate on all the logical reasons why he might not be calling.

My husband has a close friend that he trusts with his calling PIN number and my phone number, and that man will call me if there is anything really wrong. We've only had to use this system once. My husband became very ill and had to be transported to another unit with better medical facilities immediately. So, his friend called to tell me where he was and why. The prison never would have notified me.

I hope your man is in a situation where he can have a buddy notify you if he goes to the hole or ends up in the infirmary. If I don't hear from my husband or his buddy, I know the phones aren't working or have been turned off for disciplinary reasons.

Let us know when you hear from him!

Originally posted by bookgirl
My husband has a close friend that he trusts with his calling PIN number and my phone number, and that man will call me if there is anything really wrong. We've only had to use this system once. My husband became very ill and had to be transported to another unit with better medical facilities immediately. So, his friend called to tell me where he was and why. The prison never would have notified me.

That is a good idea! I'm going to have to tell Todd to do that in case something happens.

I broke down & called the facility like that once & you are right,Ongie. The people I talked to were good about giving me just enough info to ease my mind & never asked who or why. It works in a tight spot, like 3 weeks w/ NO contact from them.

I can't believe you held out for 3 weeks! I freaked if I didn't here from Todd after 1 day! lol

Oh, trust me! I was losing my mind! But these things happen!

I'm glad I could help vnvdvc. Believe me I know what you were going through and I hope everything is ok.

MY PHONE IS BLOCKED CAUSE HIS COUNCEL SAYS THAT IT IS A RUOTEN THING.

I DONT UNDERSTAND-TINA, YOU ARE IN NC RIGHT? IF YOU NEED SOME HELP WITH THIS -LET ME KNOW

Have you heard anything from him yet?

I HAVE HEARD FROM HIM YESTERDAY AND LASTNIGHT TO.

THATS GOOD NEWS TINA!!! GLAD YOU GOT TO HEAR FROM HIM- I'M SURE IT EASES YOUR MIND!!!

BIG sigh of relief, aye? :)

IT SURE IS BUT HE NOT DOING TO WELL THOU CAUSE HE'S HAVING NIGHTMARES AND BAD HEADACKES TO. THEY ARE MAKING HIM GO TO SEE A SPECIAL DOCTOR TO AND HE IS ALSO DEPRESSED TO.

Some counselors act like they are too busy to talk with them which is why I wonder why they even have a job. Steven put his request in to see the couselor about the marriage a month ago and still no word from them. When you complain to them and worry them to death then thats when you'll hear something from them.

thanks everybody