Hello everyone
There are over 13,000 federal prisoners in our country and tens of thousands more provincial prisoners. I know I am not alone but some days I feel like I am.
This folder is for all of us who need some support, a place for us to express our concerns, feelings and yes, our fears. Supposedly we have one of the "best" systems in the world and delegates from other countries come here to observe and learn from us. I know from personal experience that we have our "issues." Lack of shared infromation from CSC about our loved ones, little or no medical and dental care, visitation problems, false/positive results from ion scanners, murders and riots.
Please feel free to post and let us all band together to help one another. I look forward to meeting you all.
Gillian

HI Gillian,

I found you!!! Yes, I agree, even though we are supposed to have one of the best systems, we do have our share of problems... Visits, phone system, false positive on both the visitors (ion test) and inmates, very little ways to fight decisions (especially those based on observation reports) etc... Actually, I do have one item that I think would be worth looking into... My husband told me that everyone in his institution had an increase on their security eveluation... Some of their files would have waranted status quo or even a decrease in security, but since last year, one question has been removed from the form the guards use to eveluate and the way the computer deals with the new questionnaire increased everyone`s security. Unfortunatelly, that resulted in some inmates being transfered to a higher security institution... He heard that there is a case going on out west about this... Have you heard anything???

Anyways, I`m rambling on... Glad to have found you here as well... :D

Take care and talk to you soon,

Marie-Claude:wave:

Hey Gill :)
I finally got thru all the posts i have been behind on in the other forum. The old computer is cooperating tonight for a change so I thought I would follow your link here. This seems like a great forum as well!! All kinds of topics, organised in a great fashion. This page will keep me busy for a long time with everything to read and learn. Thanks for the link and you take care :)

Shannon
xoxoxox

Just wanted to welcome you to the group!!

I just joined, eh? Now I'm putting on my toque, getting my broom and gonna go play some broomball, (a winter sport that I don't even think anyone outside of Northern Ontario knows).

welcome

Hi from Nova Scotia. I just joined. I would like to hear some going before the Parole Board stories. My hubby's eligibility date is next month. Any tips? thanks.dsd

Bonjour fellow Canauck!

I kind of met you last night in your failed attempt to join Chat.

Look down the Canadian forum list.

I posted a review somewhere of a book called "Justice Behind the Walls: Human Rights in Canadian Prisons" by a lawyer (with the unfortunate name of) Michael Jackson. The whole book is available online. You don't have to buy it. (It sells for $50 I think...)

I believe there's info in there about how to avoid Parole Hearing foulups.

Should I presume we're talking about Dorchester?

Love,
Menolly

Hi!
Finally found some time and energy to visit! We sure do have problems with CSC! There is no justice, JUST US! I'll tell you all about our insitutional adventures. Once I figure out how!
KEEP SMILING!

HI All from Edmonton Alberta. I am a displaced Lakota woman whose Ojibway man just got transferred from Max to Medium. I guess they decided to let some go the other way. Anyway out here there is a 50 percent native inmate population.They bring us in from all over the country. I guess the prairies are just like one big reserve. It makes for a heck of a lot of problems not the least of which is housing enemies together... I won't go there anyway he is Ontario now and told me that there is a huge dreamcatcher at the exit to the wooded area around his institution. He is feeling culture shock because there are only 12 natives in the whole institution and he is lost. It is hard to explain but the best I can do is to explain that he is a bush man born and raised until he went in and not used to being in the minority...rez system, prairie prisons and all that. You guys are so right the system is touted as the best but there are cracks. I won't disparage them though, rather I meet challenges head on and it seems to help, for the most part anyway. Glad to see this page is up and running. Hi to all of you again, Shiningdrum

Shiningdrum, welcome! My man is doing a life-13 sentence here in ONtario! The whole system is messed up! Everyday I learn more and more and it just makes me sick! Are you relocating to ontario? may i ask what institution? Keep ya head up girl! Love stevesboo23

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I was just wondering if n/e 1 knows if there's a way to talk to an inmate threw e-mail? I really don't wanna give my home address out to some 1 I don't know! My best friend's in Kingston Penn. and it would be nice to talk to some 1 in there also. So if n/e of you can help me that'd be GREAT!!! :)

After months of searching online for anything at all relevant to Canadians and the penal system I am so thrilled to happen upon this site. Its hard as a person on the outside who is an information seeker to find any resources that will assist loved ones. There is one site but its never updated.
I have a loved one serving life-25 in Donnacona, Quebec. so I have some time on my hands.
I am preparing to go for my first open visit and am a bit apprehensive as to the rules and regulations. What should I know and expect. I have to travel over 9 hours to get there so I dont want to risk anything ruining my visit.
I have recently acquired a penpal in the US prison system and things there are much different. I welcome the opportunity to learn from you other members and am always online and willing to chat.

Donnacona Institution
http://www.csc scc.gc.ca/text/facilit/institutprofiles/donnacona_e.shtml

Hope this helps. If all else fails, call the jail and get all the info you need before you go.

S

Hi my name is Amanda if anyone is from ontario around st catharines ont or brampton could you let me know I never get to see my bf and if someone could help me get there I would pay for gas please help thank you

Hey,

I recenetly contacted a relative I've never met before. He's currently in joyceville. If anyone has any tips or anyting cause I don tknow anything about this system.

Originally posted by Menolly

I posted a review somewhere of a book called "Justice Behind the Walls: Human Rights in Canadian Prisons" by a lawyer (with the unfortunate name of) Michael Jackson. The whole book is available online. You don't have to buy it. (It sells for $50 I think...)
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just wanted to add link to same:
http://www.justicebehindthewalls.net/02_publications_00.html

<i've been lurking for several weeks now and have not contributed anything yet! but next time i visit i'll get a copy of the visitor's rules where i am from and scan them in, if that does not infringe on any copyright laws>

love you guys!

anna

Hello everyone.well 1st off i never new there was even this kind of area online,Wish i new yrs ago.I am a ex_con from ontario.spent over 17yrs in federal system and prov.I have been out for about 7yrs now.which has been the hardest thing i have ever done in my life,it is easy to go to jail but very hard to stay out.my brother is on parole finishing off 14yrs,my youngest bro just left for the pen doing 27mos.i am not sure what to say here except i no how you all feel and what your loved ones are going through ..i wish the best to all over this X-mas because it is the hardest time for us all..be strong.
Take care everyone
Jim Mckee

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Hi
Welcome to PTO. Its an outstanding place to hang out for sure. Glad you found us.
I have a son that has been in and out for 16 years now. Spent a lot of it "in." I am still hopeful that this will be his last bit and that he will get it together. Does my heart good to see that you have been out for seven years. Congratulations!
I sent you a pm as I have a personal question for you.
Gillian

canadian_outlaw

Congratulations! Glad you survived your ordeal with CSC!
Stay strong and keep smiling. The best is yet to come ...........
Seasons greetings to you and yours.

Hi everyone,I am a canadian and have taken interest in the justice systemfor a number of reasons and at this time will not get into them but will soon.Just wanted to say HI .Rosy

HI Gillian! Wow nice new format. I finally got a second to write something. Adam is being moved to a Healing Centre just outside Montreal. He has been doing peer counselling in Fenbrook and he must have done something right because off he goes in about a month to minimum. I am not getting my hopes up though cause CSC is sending him 3 thousand miles from me to do minimum. He is away from his children and his parents are in Ontario. I am SO TICKED. The worst of it is that the training for release is minimal. He will have to somehow get a trade or something out here. On top of that once they give him UTAs he won't know a soul. Everyone who means something to him is either in Ontario or Alberta. His mom is moving out here with me next year. I am really worried about what they are doing to him. Anyone else have such craziness from CSC? Shiningdrum

Just wanna know who's in canada and where your loved one is ??????

im in canada my brother not by blood is in fraser north

hello from british columbia i to think the prison system here is messed up. everytime i go see my brother (not blood) they fail to tell him i;m there until iv been sitting there for twenty to thirty minutes when we only get one hour visit.

I'm in Ottawa and I have a penpal in Arizona and a friend in California

I'm in Canada and my man is in Vancouver Island Correctional Facility

I'm in Canada too. My s/o is in Edmonton Max.

I am in Vancouver.. I have several friends throughout the USA.. but the "loved one" on my profile is deep in the heart of Texas..

I am in Vernon BC and my fiance is still sitting at Seatac FDC in Seattle.

Wow, I asked everyone else but forgot about me....

I am in london ontario and my man is currently in RTC(regional treatment center) that is part of Kingston Penn. We are on our last 11months. Down to short time now ....

I am glad to see all the responses, I wanna get this forum alive again!!!

I'm in Brantford, my man is in Warkworth...and I'm also in my last 11 months.

Wow brantford is like 45 minutes from me and my old man is waiting to be transfered to warkworth. Do you visit often??? I drive and I hate the drive by myself. I go up atleast once a month weather premitting.

I try to visit once a month...my last visit was Aug.28th and my next one is Nov.27th. I'm in school full-time, so my visits are stretched out now, so I'll have time to concentrate on my assignments.
I usually go with John Howards Society, since I don't drive.
How long has your guy been waiting for the transfer?

Hey hun,
My man has been on the waiting list for almost a year now!!! Getting from Kingston to warkworth is not easy job!! Let me tell you!!!
I go up with the John Howard sometimes if I dont have the money to drive!!
Good Luck in school!!
Take care, Jill

I have waited almost 45 minutes only to be told to come back after lunch because they can not move him. .....it sucks!!

Hey guys,

I just want to let you all know that I am honored and pleased to tell you that I am the new forum leader for CANADA. I hope to get to know you all , and I hope you all join in and get this place kickin again.
I love PTO and I would be lost without all of you here. If there is anything you need or any ideas just drop me a short private message and I will get back to you all. If there is any info you need and dont want to share it out in the public you can also feel free to private message me.
I have over 12 years experience with both the federal and proviincial systems and my man is in a federal penn now.

I also want to thank you starduk personally as I started all those links for federal and provincial jail info but got busy at work and didnt get back to them. You beat me to it. THANK YOU!!

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend.
Love Jill

Congratulations Jill and a big hello from another Canadian :)

DLM thank you !! What part of canada are you from?

Ontario too!

DLM really is your loved one in canada or the states?

My brother is in a U.S. prison - so hard finding information when you are in another country so I was so happy when I found PTO.

Hey you asked for help stevesboo23.. just doing my part to help out ;)

Perfect Starduk , that is just what I need some help around here ...LOL!!
Maybe they should have made you a forum leader obviously I am slacking already!!!!LOL!!

No no... you deserve it! :) I am happy that Canada does have a forum leader.. and i was actually gonna do all those posts before but it was getting late (i notived that there were no posts in it at all) and when i came back to do it I saw that you asked for help so I thought "perfect! I'm gonna shock the heck out of her when she logs in tomorrow.. hehehehehe"

You ARE older and wiser than me too.. by 12 days! ;)

Jess

Thanks Jess, I am older and wiser...LOL!! JOKES!!
I am thankful for any help!!
Jill

Hi Gillian.

Shiningdrum here. Good to see the Canada thread is up and running. Adam still has awhile to go but after all these years well, we are pretty much into a routine. I might be moving to Ontario for a year or two to attend post-graduate school. Adam is trying to get a transfer closer to where I will be going. I don't know if they will allow it. Anyway I just wanted to say sorry I haven't been around but school makes it almost impossible. I have a bit of time this week so here I am. Glad to see so many responses. I am interested to know where each and everyone's loved one is.
Adam is in med. in Gravenhurst... others?

Hey Shinningdrum,
Glad to see you around!! Yes I am trying to get this place alive again!! Where in ontario are you heading??? Gravenhurst is nice!! My man is still in Kingston Penn.
Take care ,
Love Jill

Shiningdrum, welcome! My man is doing a life-13 sentence here in ONtario! The whole system is messed up! Everyday I learn more and more and it just makes me sick! Are you relocating to ontario? may i ask what institution? Keep ya head up girl! Love stevesboo23

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HI stevesboo!

I will be coming out that way for Christmas with Adam and the children. We are going in for a private family visit. Its the first one in 5 years and Adams mother and grandmother are going as well. We have been together since the age of 12. I am almost 40 and Adam has been inside for almost 24 years. He went in at age 16. Life with poss parole at 25 years. He is in medium now and really feeling the pinch because he wants so much to come home and be with us. The last bit of time is almost as difficult as the first. At least now he is clean and sober and sticking to the Red Road. He is in Gravenhurst. It looks like in a year or so he may go to minimum. If I go to Ontario I will either be in Ottawa or Waterloo. I am working on a degree and those are the universities with the best masters programs for my field.

I have relocated many times but once the children hit school age we decided to stay in one place because it isn't healthy hauling them all over the country without any idea when the next move will be. Back and forth from Med to Max for 15 years was tough. The last 9 years have been much better. He is chief of the brotherhood in his institution and teaching the men the spirit songs and way of the drum. The elder there seems less knowledgable than she needs to be and that has caused some conflict.

Where in Ontario are you? If I go there perhaps we can connect. At the very least we will know someone in the same province going through the same thing. Adam may be in another 4 to 5 years. I am not giving up. We have been through too much for that.

Great to hear from you. DO keep in touch and please PM me and I will get an e-mail letting me know you posted to me. May Wakan Tanka bless you and yours. Lina Shiningdrum

Hello everyone.well 1st off i never new there was even this kind of area online,Wish i new yrs ago.I am a ex_con from ontario.spent over 17yrs in federal system and prov.I have been out for about 7yrs now.which has been the hardest thing i have ever done in my life,it is easy to go to jail but very hard to stay out.my brother is on parole finishing off 14yrs,my youngest bro just left for the pen doing 27mos.i am not sure what to say here except i no how you all feel and what your loved ones are going through ..i wish the best to all over this X-mas because it is the hardest time for us all..be strong.
Take care everyone
Jim Mckee

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HI Jim.

Hang in there. You show great courage and wisdom. I will tell Adam about you because we seldom here about those who made it out and stayed out. Yes after so long inside it is hard on the outside. 7 years is testimony to your strength and determination. Really, hang in there. Life doesn't have to mean a sentence. It can over time become a joy. I have been an advocate for inmates and excons now for over 20 years. The system is very flawed. If you need to talk to someone over xmas pm me and I will be happy to respond. My husband is a wonderful man and unfortunately a lifer. He has been in since 16 and we have been together since I was 12.

He has been in and around just about every max and medium in the country including some of the ones you likely have been in. He's in his 24th year of his life sentence now and won't likely see the outside for another 3 to 4 years. We know it won't be easy. I am dedicated to helping him make it out and stay out. Our two children will help me do that.

I don't have to tell you the changes a long termer goes through inside. He's doing well now though. Clean and sober and acting as a advocate for others, chief of the brotherhood in his institution and dedicated to staying on the Red Road. Your family sounds like mine. I will burn sage for you and your brothers tonight and ask Wakan Tanka to keep you strong. May he bless you and yours. Lina Shiningdrum

Hey Shinningdrum,
Glad to see you around!! Yes I am trying to get this place alive again!! Where in ontario are you heading??? Gravenhurst is nice!! My man is still in Kingston Penn.
Take care ,
Love Jill
HI Jill. Yes it is nice. but don't let that fool you. Despite the look of the place, they are not very supportive to the men. I have seen better treatment in of all places Edmonton Max and its a hell hole. Adam is staying in Gravenhurst until they send him to min. I don't know if he is going to a healing centre though I think he should. He was supposed to go to Montreal and because he is a lifer and it is out of province they turned him down. So we are in wait and see mode. I sent you another message earlier. Drop me PM and I will keep in touch. Lina Shiningdrum

Hello and congrats as well from BC. My hubby is in the US and I have some info if you need some additional.

Any info or stuff you can post , please do!! We neeed to get this canada forum moving!! We are pretty dead somedays!!

I'm in New Brunswick Canada and my father in law is in Westmorland Institution, Dorchester New Brunswick Canada. He is being released on September 11, 2005 after a long 5 years.

i'm in hamilton ontario and my man is in OCI in Brampton....and has 5 months left

Im in winnipeg canada loved one in Florida

I am in Mississauga Ontario and my fiance is in Buckeye Arizona USA

I'm in Chilliwack, BC (south end) and Darren is in Mountain Penitentiary...

I am in Toronto
he is in AZ for now
I will be moving to the us when he gets shorter tho

yeehaa for jobs that travel well LOL

Im just outside of london and my man is in kingston in the regional treatment centre. Must be nice to have jobs that travel.... I WISH!! I would move up to kingston area in a heart beat if the could offer me a good job!! All the federal prisons in ontario are all in that area so I would have to move far to be close to him.

I am in St catharines ontario and right now my boyfriend is in Thorld detention centre but he is being transferred on Monday to Penetang

:thumbsup:

Congrats from New Brunswick Canada!! My father in law is incarcerated and will be released on Sept. 11 2005. Can't wait!!

Thanks, I hope to hear more from you!! September 2005 isn't that far away!!! GOOD LUCK!

Welcome to PTO

hi all i'm new to this. i'm from kitchener ont. i have a son in joyceville we talk on phone and write letters he is in for 3 years it's his first time in a federal prison. i don't go see him due to it's to far of a drive for me with my bad back so i'll have to wait untill he's out.i really miss him he gets no visitors since it's so far to go. bye for now.

Hello skyeblue - welcome here...! We all know what your feeling, though our situations may differ to various degrees ~ you have found a good place at PTO. Your son is lucky to have you out here for him, though I am sorry to hear you will miss seeing him. The indirect punishment upon an inmate's family often seems very unfair to me - regardless of who the prisoners may be, the familys that are left out here all need and deserve support... hope to see you on the board... there is a tonne of great information here - take care!

Welcome to PTO skyeblue- you will find lots of support and information here!

Hi
I'm new to this. I am twenty and my boyfriend is twenty-one and is currently serving a 18 month sentence. I desperately wish to find him, his friend are not very helpful and hardly give me any information. If anyone could help me find him it would be greatly appreciated. He should be somewhere in Ontario, close to Milton, I believe.
Thanks
Jp's Girl

Hi,
I'm In Windsor Ontario and my husband is an inmate in Michigan and is also a U.S. Citizen, unlike me; I'm a Canadian. I moved from Ottawa to Windsor last year to be closer to him. He is up on new charges now and though I thought his time was up recently, it seems that was an illusion. He is about to be tried on new charges and it's not looking good at all time-wize. It just goes on and on. I've been kicking around PTO for a few years off and on now and I guess I will be kicking around for another decade or so the way things are looking. But I am a Canadian and living proudly as one. Glad to meet you all.

Hi every body I am from Montréal and happy to hear from fellow canadians. I am curious to now if anybody met there loved one via the internet. Let me explain, I am a university ( Université du Québec à Montréal ) student studying SCRIPTWRITING FOR FILM and this semester we have a documentary scriptwriting film class. This documentary will only be done on paper it will never be put in to film. I am just looking for women who are willing to share their story in a very confidential way. I my self am very perticular when it comes to my private life and in no way would I want to cause any arm to any of my fellow members. I am not a journalist nor do I have the intention to become one. I just want to share in your story.


P.S. Thank's for your help Danielle!!! :thumbsup:

Im in Peterborough Ontario and my man is in KP. he has less than 10months left to go.

l was stuck in the American Federal system for 13 months.l was charged with conspiracy to selling drugs...my friend and l went on "vacation" and he was the one who had other intentions.Even though he did everything in his power to get me home....he told them that l wasn't involved in any way shape or form......l signed a plea agreement for 0-20 years.ln the states,your better off saying your guilty then taking the federal system to trial.l've seen first hand of innocent people taking it to trial and getting slapped with a 20 year sentence.l was sent back to Ontario on the treaty transfer. Thank God l don't have a criminal record here but it will take a lifetime to forget or even deal with the things that l went through and the things that l saw.lf this would have happened in Canada,l would have been let go so l will be the first to say that our system is much better then the states.:(

Welcome to PTO

I will agree with you 100% we have nothing to complain about compared to the states and some other countries. I thank god everyday that my man is on this side of border or we would be doing a lot longer and maybe even life without parole. Atleast our life sentece is only 25 years compared to there LIFE!
TTYL Jill

Hey girl, It's Jill. I am the forum leader around here... kinda explain why i never post on SC. Glad to have you abroad. We only have 11 months to go. You know that Gage is in RTC ... TTYL Jill

Hi Stevesboo...if you need any help just let me know...i would be glad to help as well....lots of time on my hands these days...:-)

Hi Jill
I am glad I found this place.
Do you know if there are any chat groups from Canada for prisoners wives etc?
I have been visiting my husband for 20 years solid. He has been at Bath for 9 of those years, KP for the first 11. We raised our children who were 2 and 4 years old at the time in the prison system (visits, trailers, socials and family days etc). They are now adults and we have a granddaughter. The time just seems to fly now.
I have so much information and experience that I could share on here.
kassiesgma

Hi
I am in the Yukon. My friend is in BC, he was in Matsqui Pen but has just been transferred to Mountian Pen. I am 3000 kms away from him.

I am in Vernon BC and my fiance is still sitting at Seatac FDC in Seattle.
Hey
I am moving to BC (Surrey) and my man is in Stafford Creek in Washington too! Maybe we can get together after I move some time and you can show me around! :thumbsup:

hi all i'm new to this. i'm from kitchener ont. i have a son in joyceville we talk on phone and write letters he is in for 3 years it's his first time in a federal prison. i don't go see him due to it's to far of a drive for me with my bad back so i'll have to wait untill he's out.i really miss him he gets no visitors since it's so far to go. bye for now.
Funny....I drove by Joyceville the other day going to a hockey tournament and though....to bad I don't have anyone I could visit there today to brighten up their day.

How far is the drive for you.....thats too bad!

Hi im in ontario and my man is now in penetang but just came from O.C.I in brampton and his old cell mate is in warkworth now he is getting out in june after 2and a half years.

Hi. I'm in Kingston Ontario. My husband of 17 years is in Bath Institution. He has done 22 years now (life 20). Will be working on the parole process this year...
raised two children in the system who are now adults and now have a granddaughter 2 years old ...who loves visiting her grandpa.
Kassiesgma

I am From Ontario Canada

Hey and welocme to PTO!! Hope to hear from you all soon! If u need anything u can send me a private message and I would be glad to give u a hand around here! Jill

I am in London, Ontario and my main man is in Washington State and I have numerous pen pals across the US, but Washington is where my heart is.

Hi girls... welcome to the new canadians, 'though it's unfortunate we meet here...

Magoo ~ and StevesBoo ~ Have either of you heard from your guys, yet?

wee B welcome! I am in london as well...lol!! It is such a small small world!

SCRYER...... no i still have not heard from Gage:(

STEVESBOO23

It is really a small world and I hate to admit it but I am just a little jealous of you, I wish mine was in Kingston, but no such luck considering he is American. Enjoy what time you have and very happy that your wait will soon be over, James won't be out until 2007 and I can't wait!

My prayers are with the two of you and your future together!

im in kahnawake quebec,Canada and my man is in cowansville Qc a hour away from me.

Hello everyone! I just posted my intro in the "Introductions" forum so won't bore you & repeat it...but wanted to say hi here as well. I'm in Ontario, about an hour and a half north of London (grew up in the London area). Looking forward to chatting with you!

any body have a loved one in california state prison? i'm in alberta and my old man is at north kern state prison. would love to hear from anyone who knows the system. not to sure what i'm in for.

Hi fellow Canucks!

My guy is in the Don Jail in Toronto awaiting trial. He may be off to Penatang soon, though.

Does anyone else have someone in the Don?

Hi Angel, thanks for the link.

They're talking about the guards striking so things could get worse next month.

My guy and I were talking about how things are so different here compared to the States (to comment on the previous discussion). People serve much less time here.

I'm bumping this thread to help liven up the Canuck board. :)

I'm in T.O. and Tony is in the Don Jail (Toronto Jail) for now. He may have to go to Penetang but we're hoping he can serve his time in Toronto so I can continue to visit.

We are all here for u hun, and we all understand ! If u need anything at all u can send me a private message.

Hi, I'm really from Toronto, but now I live in Belleville for school

I write to someone in Florida actually, but I would be interested in possibly finding someone close by to talk to so I could maybe end up having the chance to meet them someday!

I'm in London, Ontario and my loved one is in Washington State, but I have 26 pen pals across the US and I try to visit them whenever possible.

I am in Ontario, I am just a federal inmate on parole. Just hanging around trying to help people.

TNT but u are my best federal inmate on parole.... hehe !! I havent seen u around lately , I miss our talks.... J
P.S. I am in london as well!!

Stevesboo I am here as per usual. You know my msn, I am always available (except when I am not)

Chat with you soon......
And the rest of you.....POST....POST......POST

I Live In Mississauga, My Husband ( WELL WE ARE SEPERATED) Is At Millhaven In Kingston, Before He Was Transfered There He Was At Maple Hurst And Don Jail- He Got 4 1/2 Yrs And Has Been In Jail For Over A Year Now- I Belive He Is Getting Transfered Again To A Camp- Not Sure Yet.

Stevesboo I am here as per usual. You know my msn, I am always available (except when I am not)

Chat with you soon......
And the rest of you.....POST....POST......POST
Lolol! Allright, TNT, good one.. I posted a new thread in the Canadian (right spelling?) forum. I'm an Oregonian who LOVES to travel! I'm looking for people to talk to in the BC area... I have a loved one whom I visit in Washington state. I'm here to liven up the forum! ;) HI, EVERYONE, MY NAME'S CHANDA AND NICE TO MEET Y'ALL!!
wee b-where's your loved one exactly? I know of 12 different prisons and few camps.
Lonely-how often do you visit your man in Seatac? If he's still there, I hope.... I hope he didn't get transferred out of state!??????
Jayandme-I know someone in Surrey but I haven't seen him since high school! I don't know if he has moved or not... Your loved one's at Stafford Creek, eh? Auhwesome! How often do you visit?
Scryer- where exactly is Chilliwack? Educate me.... I guess it's near the San Juan Islands?????
starduk- HI! I've seen many of your posts and you have friends all over America. Have you travelled lately? How is your husband doing?

Just a little 'ole berry here in Mississauga ON ...

Scryer- where exactly is Chilliwack? Educate me....
I guess it's near the San Juan Islands?????
Hello Chanda! Greetings and Thanks for asking -
Chilliwack is about an hour east of Vancouver city...
in the crotch of the Fraser Valley...
my man's prison is about 20 mins away from here...
Lots of mountains and rainbows - this is Sasquatch country...!

I live in Alberta. I think the friend i am looking for is in drumheller. not 100% sure *sighs*

Hi, Im from Alberta and my loved one is in Edmonton Max:(

I'm on Vancouver Island, BC and my man is in Vancouver Island REgional Correctional facility.

Just wanna know who's in canada and where your loved one is ??????

I am in canada I am looking for a pen pal from here to start with I know what it can be like in the system and alone.

Welcome Firegal.. i will see if i can dig up some penpals....

:D I'm in Canada too. My s/o is in Edmonton Max.
Your loved-one is in Edmonton Max? Mine too. Just wanted to say hi. Nice to see someone else from Alberta.

:D Hi all............I have a Son in Kingston.......today is my birthday and I was lucky enough to get a call...........

I'm happy to have found this site!..........thanx to the owner of this site.

My man is in kingston in the RTC ( regional treatment centre) but is out september 9th after 6 very long years!!!

Where abouts in Florida is your loved one at??

My loved one is in fort pierce Florida,he was in raiford florida at Florida State prison

I live close to the Penetang Superjail (CNCC). I'm not sure how long my man will be in, he hasnt been sentenced yet. I'm in regular contact with inmates in the jail at Penetang and Maplehurst in Milton. Anyone needing any help or information just ask. It's that simple. :thumbsup:

im in peterborough ontario, my man is in Kingston Pen. and has 2yrs and 2months left.

hey girlie .... my man is in kingston but he is out SEPTEMBER 9th....... thank god!! I am here and u know where to yell if u need anything!!!!

hey jill. how ya doin? i hope things are well with you. hows gage?! aaron's still in KP in solitary for the last month or two now. and he got 2yrs left now.. they decided to be idiots and detain him so my countdown is starting yet again. luckily hes gona transfer soon so im hoping he'll be closer to me.. anyways.. take care, and hope to hear from ya

Hey girl, It's Jill. I am the forum leader around here... kinda explain why i never post on SC. Glad to have you abroad. We only have 11 months to go. You know that Gage is in RTC ... TTYL Jill

i'm in new brunswick and my man's in the moncton detention centre. we thought he'd get a long time and move to dorchester but it looks as if i'll be getting him back in 40 days! :D

:D
Your loved-one is in Edmonton Max? Mine too. Just wanted to say hi. Nice to see someone else from Alberta.

My man was in Edmonton Max...now he's gonna be going back for a lil while longer :(

My man Tigger is in Penetang I live in Midland. Baby is coming home Early October. 3 weeks to go ! :D :thumbsup: :) :yay: :clap: :dance:

I'm in New Brunswick Canada and my father in law is in Westmorland Institution, Dorchester New Brunswick Canada. He is being released on September 11, 2005 after a long 5 years.
Just a quick note....his parole was changed....so unfortunately I guess I'll have to say I'm from NB and my father in law is now in Dorchester and now unfortunately my nephew is heading to Springhill.

i live in London ontario and my man is in Maplehurst in Milton

my man is in Milton .. I could see if he can find anything out .. I know how hard it is tryin to find somebody in the system

I'm from Vancouver bc.....My guy is in Cali.

I am new to this so please fogive me if I have posted in the wrong area.

Does anyone know how I can go about finding out if an inmate has been paroled?

He was staying at the Donnacona prison in Quebec and I heard rummors that he was let out on Friday October the 21st 2005, any information that you can provide would help.

Thanks,

Dave

Wow, I has no idea such a place existed! I'm so incredibly grateful that it does. I am comforted knowing that I'm not alone with this agony and despair because half of me is locked away being "corrected" for the next 27 months....I'm used to this relationship with expensive collect calls and the twelve page letters. Every man that I have ever loved in my life has eventually gone to jail. Baby's father is currently in Drumheller. My fiancee is in Matsqui...we were actually in the same facility (Surrey Pre-trial) for a week or so back in April!! Ya, we were meant for each other. I'm very excited and a bit relieved to know that I've got an outlet to talk about, and to listen to, all of the feelings and experiences that come with this life of being caught up in the justice system. On the inside and the outside...

My name is Michelle and my fiancee, James, is in Matsqui for the time being. I live on Vancouver Island. Does anyone know if there is loop=hole or an exception that would allow for him to be transferred to William Head Institute so that he could be closer to me? I am the only family that he has in this province and it is hell trying to make it out there to visit him and I won't even start on the collect calls!!! :(

Wassup...I'm Michelle from B.C. and my James doesn't get out 'till 2007 either !! Sucks to be us!......

I'm Sue from Vancouver. My husband is in remand in Abbotsford being assessed (I think that's what it's called). He got a 2 year federal sentence and has been gone 2 weeks.

Hi, I'm Meg from Newfoundland. Currently my b/f is here in St. John's waiting for the parole board to decide what they will do with him. He will either end up going back to Stephenville (West Coast Correctional Center I think it is called) or Spring Hill.

Hi everyone, I'm from Toronto....my man is in Gravenhurst. Used to be in Kingston. So, he's a lil closer now. :)

Hey all, My guy is in Bath here in Kingston. He did the first 9 years at KP. He has done 21..working on parole now. I've been visiting for 19 years...our 18th wedding anniversary is Dec 4th. Can't beleive its been so long. Still a while to go though.
Kassiesgma

Welcome Kassiesgma :wave:

I think it's great to see us all coming together, anyone need to chat i'm here.

Hi there Michelle, how long has your guy been down? Hoope all is going ok for you. I really wish we could get these canada threads going.

Everyone else :wave:

You know why i think this forum is dead. It's because everyone is just pm'ing each other so no real group chats get started. Just my :twocents:

Let me know if i can help get it going on here. :)

Well we are making some changes now in the Canadian forum and hopefully we will be getting more contributions from our fellow Canadians. :)

Hey everyone,

I'm from Toronto, just wanted to say hi and I'm glad to see everyone receives good help here. I've been reading the forum for the past few days and just signed up. It's been great help, thanks to all. Btw, most of you seem to be women, I feel like I'm one of the only guys here, lol.

Welcome, there was another guy Casey but he is in jail now doing his sentence.... i hope u stick around we could use a guys opinion around here.... Jill

jill its gage ima leave messages all over until i can get a hold of u im sorry but it wasnt my fault they picked me up 2 days before my release and brought me out here to van city wit new charges from 98 i just got out on bail a month ago im sorry what can i say
holla at ur boy

How's everyone doing? Good i hope. nothing much going on here just kinda checking in

no body is pm'ing anyone.... ive been gone cause i had stuff to deal with and i wasnt much support cause my man left me.....

Hey everyone,

I'm from Toronto, just wanted to say hi and I'm glad to see everyone receives good help here. I've been reading the forum for the past few days and just signed up. It's been great help, thanks to all. Btw, most of you seem to be women, I feel like I'm one of the only guys here, lol.

You are not the only one.... I join you in that category!

Welcome!

Steves boo: i'm so sorry to hear that your man left you :( .........How can that be............are you ok, how are you holding up? I didn't mean to sound like it was anyones' fault, i had just noticed in the threads that alot of people would say something and then the response would be just pm me and i'll let you know, I apoligize if i offended you i was just trying to help out by giving a suggestion. I do tend to give my opinion when it may not be wanted.:slap: Again i'm sorry to hear about your man i hope everything works itself out........if you need to chat i'm hear :grouphug:

Not yet in the system but probably will be soon. I hope they keep him in Ontario if he does go. 18 charges so we believe there will be some time. He spent 5 weeks in a west end max...

It's a long road we have to go and he just turned 50 last birthday, soon to be 51 and no previoius criminal history.

Cheers!

Lynne

Welcome to PTO Lynne and Im very glad you found PTO. Keep us updated and feel free to make yourself at home !!!

Hi Lynne and welcome! We're going through it in our 50's too! Who would have thought it! Hope to see more of you here. You'll find lots of support here.
Sue

Im in kingston ontario and my man just got out of kingston penn

Congratulations on his release and if I havent already; Welcome to PTO !!

Hi, I'm new here. just joined today :)

I'm in vancouver & my love is in Matsqui in abbotsford ... hopefully getting out in the spring of next year.

Hi sweetheart - you must be thrilled to have him home! Congratulations and welcome.

Kettricken - you've come to a great place for support! I'm in Vancouver as well and haven't been a member all that long. Welcome!

Welcome to PTO and glad you found us !!!

Welcome Kettricken! I am also in BC. My bf is at Fraser in Maple Ridge. You have found a wonderful support board.

Tracy

I'm in Toronto, my friend is in Bath Institution.

Welcome to PTO Karma...I love toronto....Get comfy and relax arond here... everyone is awesome and we are all here for u....
Jill

I'm in Toronto, and my man is at KP.

Welcome to PTO Karma and Pocahantas !!!

I am in Vancouver right now but my Babyfather is in Collins Bay.. I am trying to get back to TO so that i can see him more often.. (he went in after i moved out here)
I just want him out so we can work on our family...:(

Awww I know its hard but you came to the right place for support. I hope that you get out to T.O. to see him soon.
By the way, welcome to PTO !!!! Make yourself at home !!

Hey , Im in Calgary Alberta, my guy is in Mission B.C., wheres yours at? do you know anyone in Mission institution?

Hi AliciaNH, welcome to PTO !!!
My husband is in Michigan actually though I know we have a number of loved ones in B.C. prisons including a staff member. Make yourself at home and very glad you found us !!!

I just joined today. I have a fiance in prison in Australia and i am from Ontario canada. I feel soooooo alone not being able to visit him or talk to him on the phone very often. I am expecting our first child in april also.

Welcome to PTO and you are no longer alone, there are over 60,000 members here. Most of which know exactly how you feel. We all support each other and exchange information. Make yourself and home and we are very glad you found us !!!
I will send you a private message with links to areas of PTO that you may find useful for your situation.

:)

Welcome to PTO MargonHailie, you have found a really amazing support network of people :)

I felt really alone also when my guy went in, but then I found this place and realised that I wasn't alone because there were sooo many other people out there who have shared my experiances and challenges, who actually "understand", and who have provided me with advice and insight into how to handle problems and issues I might encounter during this time :)

Welcome, Welcome, Welcome

And congratulations on the beautiful bundle of joy you will soon bring into the world :)

Hi, I am new to this from Vancouver, husband in prison in BC, noticed others from BC and thought I would say "hi". I just stumpled upon the site in October but took a while to write and it is nice to see that there are other people going through the same thing. Family and friends try to understand but really do not understand (no fault of there own, just have to live it to fully understand it).

Welcome Nicole32 and very glad you found this site. Make yourself and home and we will help you get threw all of this !!!
:)

Thanks witchlinblue!

Hello everyone. I just wanted to introduce myself. I live in Kamloops, B.C. and my husband is currently in Matsqui in Abbottsford. I stumbled on this whole forum merely by accident. I was just glad to see so many people in one place who shared something with me, and to know that i was not the only person going through all these feelings, emotions. thank you for opening up this site

Welcome Ede's gal !!! We seem to have quite a few of you out in BC and very glad you found us. You are definitely not the only person though we all know that it feels that way until you find PTO. Make yourself at home and Im sure you will find much friendship and reassurance to pass the time while we wait together.
It was Fed-X who started this site, if you are interested in reading why it all started and what inspired him to start it you can read his thread/into on this here (it is truly a remarkable and inspiring story): http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=32294&highlight=fed-x

Hi there,
I'm also from Vancouver, BC but my hubby is in Winnipeg, Manitoba. I've posted a couple times before on this board. My guy has been in jail for 2 1/2 years and is getting out in 22 days. I'm flying east when he gets out to live there with him.... I'm super excited and nervous at the same time!!!!! ::thumbsup:
After reading through some of the posts, I feel better to know there's others like me!
I hope to get to know some of you better.

Welcome to PTO and the Canadian forum Draysmom !!! Congratulations on him getting out soon ! You must be very excited.

I am so glad that i found this site. My man is in Milhaven and I spend alot of time wondering if there is anyone out there that feels the same way I do about my life at this time. After finding PTO i now know that i'm not alone at all. He's been in and out for the past three years. Does anyone else find it hard to socialize? I do because people u meet start to ask questions and i'm never sure what or how much to tell. We both thought it would be better for me to move away from our hometown because of bad influences but that meant leaving my friends. I like to be around other people and even have begun to look for work, I just have a hard time knowing what to say when people ask about my man (where is he tonight, what does he do). He says to tell people who ask the truth, but i'm in a small town here and not to many people understand, as soon as I mention prison the automatically think he's a bad guy. I would like to hear how others handle this situation? :confused:

Welcome to PTO Yoosgirl!!!! Very glad you found us and you most certainly are not alone !!
Well my husband is from and is in Michigan and the first time he was in I did lie and say because of immigration problems I can only visit him and he cant come here. The second time I told a few people and didnt exactly get a good response though some seemed ok though as time went on I realized they were judgemental. Now I live in a completely different city and I dont really care to discuss it with people at all. I dont lie about it but I make it clear that Im not comfortable talking about it. It took me some time to realize its not really anyone elses business though people like to make things like that their business.
When I have told people, they seem to think they are the experts on advice and are shocked when they realize that I have no intentions of leaving him because he is in prison. People can be very judgemental until they walk in our shoes. You will find that here on PTO we have no reason to judge because most of us are all wearing the same shoes !!!
Again welcome and please make yourself at home, you have an extended family here now. :)

Thanks sooooo much witchlinblue :). I am happy to be part of this family. Just knowing that i am not alone out here is great, sometimes i think that i'm doing harder time than he is!

Well you arent alone feeling that either !!! Sometimes its very hard time.

MargonHailie

Just to let you know Ive started a thread on felons coming to Canada. Most of it will apply to Australian citizens as well. I hope to continue to add to it and feel free to add any info you might have: http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=189311

I just joined today. I have a fiance in prison in Australia and i am from Ontario canada. I feel soooooo alone not being able to visit him or talk to him on the phone very often. I am expecting our first child in april also.

I am probably not going to be a very popular member here because I am a C.O here in Canada.

I came across the forums yesterday by accident and after reading some posts decided to join.

I guess my reason for joining is I know the system from the inside and know that there are a lot of misconceptions.... half truths and lies about life on the inside and I am curious to how others (family members and friends.. loved ones) see the system.

Believe it or not as a C.O I am doing time as well as the people I look after. I know its harder on their side of the bars but its no walk in the park for those of us who walk the other side of the bars. No sympathy needed though because I chose this as a career.

Canadian C.O

Welcome Canadian C.O !!! Very glad you found us and Im sure you can expect us to have lots of questions for you. I appreciate your reasons for wanting to be here and I'm quite sure you will help us out a lot by giving us a better understanding of the other side of the walls.
I know many loved ones wonder what its really like and having you join us is an asset. Thank you so much for joining us and again Welcome !!!!
Feel free to jump right in.

Witchlinblue

:D Welcome to our group. Its a great place to get information and support that we don't find out here on the other side of the wall. Not too many people understand what the families go through. I have been visiting for 19 years...!!! I'm hoping to get a gold watch when I retire at 25 years...lol It's great that you are interested in our forum...welcome!
Kassiesgma

Welcome! I am thrilled that we have a CO from Canada as many of the CO's that are members here are from the US and thus don'y have information on the Canadian Prison System.

As for how I view "the system", though it is not perfect I think Canada has a pretty good/effective system overall, especially when compared to a lot fo other places.

Again, Welcome Canadian CO!

Erin

Whats up... this is flip the myk... I stubble across this site from searchin' about news inside the prison I was in then I found this site... it's all good

anyways I did a year and 15 months and I got out 2 months ago..

and I was wondering if it's ok to stay in touch with my C.O.? I don't know if it's ok.. or am I crazy?

Because when I was inside, I looked up to one female C.O as my mother.. sounds crazy I know... this happened since my mom wasn't around cuz she stopped visiting me in prison... cuz the 1st time my mother came she cried and stopped visiting but kept contact on the phone... now that im out I love my mother like that damn fine sexy C.O...hahah..yeah it sounds messed up.. anyways much respect and love to all female C.O.s in Montreal, Qc and all of QUEBEC... you know who you are... peace ... one

Welcome to PTO Flip The Myk !! Glad you found us.
Well I dont know about the C.O., I guess she would have to have a say in it also.
Im in my 40's and Im still in contact with very first probation officer from when I was a juvenille. She was probably the only person in my youth that taught me some very good life skills and I thought of her like a big sister and still kind of do. She even took me skiing once. She went out of her way to get me in a better envirorment.
Anyways, glad you are free, just make sure the C.O. in question also feels the same way or you may end up being a guest in that concrete hotel again !!!
Good luck, keep us posted !!!

Hi
I am new to this forum,I just signed on. It looks like it is a really great place. My son has just entered Millhaven as of 2 days ago. His time will be probably 18 months, but I am sure it will seem like 18 years. He is 30ish and this is his first crime. He was allowed a phone call and he called me. I think the whole mess is really sinking in. Reality as we know can really kick. I am looking forward to coming to this site, as I want to know as much as I can. I would also like to go and visit him soon when it is allowed.
Thank you and keep up the good work with this site. We all have a common ground here.

Hi
I am new to this site. My son has just entered Millhaven over the last 2days.
I am hoping to go and visit him when it will be allowed. I saw an article on the John Howard Site that mentions a bus that will take you to the prison, but I haven't researched it further. Now I will. I don't have a car so it will be a problem for me to get there and will for alternatives. I live about 20 min. south of you.

Hi plow and welcome to PTO. We're glad you found us. This site has been an enormous source of strength for me during our own troubles. Please feel free to ask questions!
Sue

ha im a newb! didntsee the next page . Real newb like 10 minutes in.

Welcome to PTO !!

hi all just thought i would pop in and say hi to all. I have been to this site maybe a few times and recently found it again. I am in hamilton and my brother is in Pittsburgh beside Joyceville Pen. He is serving a 10yr sentence..
thanks all and have a good day

hi all just thought i would pop in and say hi to all. I have been to this site maybe a few times and recently found it again. I am in hamilton and my brother is in Pittsburgh beside Joyceville Pen. He is serving a 10yr sentence..
thanks all and have a good day:thumbsup:

Welcome back! Glad to have you here.

sisofaninmate- Welcome back to PTO! When you get a minute you might want to drop by the Siblings Forum too- lots of support from members who know what you're going through.

Welcome back to PTO !!!

Hello!!
I have recently joined the forum. My son has just entered The Millhaven Assessment Unit a week ago yesterday, for his first crime ever. He will probably be incarcerated for about 18 months.He is 36 yrs old and has 2 nice boys aged 11 and 13. I am still in shock, but we will all get through it. I worry about how he will do. I live in the Niagara area about 20 minutes south of Niagara Falls, near Lake Erie.

Hi Plow!! Glad to have you here. You have already contributed some useful information for us. I think you will be a great support for your son and if we can help you in any way please let us know!

Hi plow and welcome to the Canada Forum and to PTO:)!

Welcome to PTO Plow !!

Hello!

I'm Kelly (as you can probably tell from my username!) and I'm from Ontario, Canada. I joined sometime last week, and have put off introducing myself because I feel a bit lame in being here as I don't actually know anybody in the Canadian prison system. Long story (hopefully!) short, I was searching for a forum for Canadians who oppose the Death Penalty and PrisonTalk.com came up. I joined in the hopes that I'd come across some like-minded Canadians to chat with about it.

Anyway, that's my story, and I better stop typing now or I'll end up writing a novella.

Hi Kelly and welcome to PTO! You'll find lots of folks here who oppose the death penalty! Me included.

Welcome Kelly !!!

Hi everyone, new to PTO. I am in Ontario. My best friend is in Brampton (OCI). Please keep in touch if you are familiar with that facility. thanks.

Hi Amiga and welcome to PTO! There's some info in the Canada Prison Profile section Brampton OCI (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=78734). Just ask if you need help finding your way around!

Hi, I'm in Victoria Bc and my guy is in Mountain. We've been together for 4 years and he's been all over BC, mostly in medium but has been know to go back to Kent on occasion. He's hopefully out in10 years . Looking forward to meeting others in BC as well as in Canada.

Hi mrsbadass and welcome to PTO and to the Canada Forum!

well ive been a member here for quite some time now. ive found PTO to be a great help in my experiences over the last few years, i only wish id found it sooner! anyways, my name is Ashley for those of you who dont already know me. i live in peterborough ontario,and my boyfriend is in Kingston penitentiary serving the last year and 5months of his full sentence. ive been with aaron since 2001 from the very beginning of his incarceration though ive known him for most of my life. we met in elementary school in grade 6 and have been together off and on since then. ive always known aaron and i were meant to be together since the day i met him and im so glad that after all the years weve been apart and all the things we've endured that were still able to remain together. anyways.. thats my intro!

Ashley-You've been here so long but I will still say Welcome to PTO and to the Canada Forum!!! That's incredible that you have known each other since Grade 6 -it really does sound like you are meant to be together!

thanks for the welcome lol!

Hey, well a friend of mine just told me about this today, and I have to say, I feel much better knowing that there is support out there. I live in Alberta and my man is in jail in ontario. It's hard, well it sucks. I've been dealing with all of this on my own, I've been transferd to Edmonton with my job, out here I'm alone with my two babies (4 & 5), I'm having a hard time dealing with the fact that I can no longer go to the jail twice a week to viste and I can only afford to go every couple of months now. I do have a question, my man is going up for his second set of charges, he's just been sentenced with 18 months, now with this next sentence they say that he will be going to be going to Stoney Mountain (if he wins he will finish his time in penetang), he is as they would say a "violent" offender, how wouls we go about getting him transferd to Edmonton Max or Drumheller. I was told that because he's a violent offender he'd be going to a maximum security jail, so I'm assuming it would be Ed Max. Will the system allow it or do that?

Hi my name is Lin. I have a son in Joyceville and have also met a new friend there as well. Just found out about this site.

Hi Lin, I'm Linda and I have a son in Kent. How is your son doing? How are you managing. It's pretty scary sometimes isn't it?

Hi Linda,

I am doing good and so is my son. We are hanging in writing, getting calls and of course the socials they have every 3 months are so amazing. To be able to spend the entire day with our loved ones like that is truly a blessing. The food that the inmates cook is really good and they all make such a special effort to make sure the guests have a good time, especially at Christmas when the kids get gifts from Santa.

It truly is appreciated. How are you making out and how is your son doing? Do you have the socials in Kent?

Yes, they have socials in Kent. I don't get to go very often because we are about 18 hours away. The last time I was at a social was at Christmas. It was really nice to be able to spend so much time with him The only bad part of it was the present. The inmates were allowed to give their children gifts, but the children were not allowed to take them out of the store packaging or they couldn't take them home. I never really understood the rationale behind that and some of the children were very upset, especially the young ones. Imagine, they had to sit and look at their gifts on the table, but they couldn't play with them I thought it was really cruel.

How far are you away from your son? Do you get to visit very often? How long is he in for? Do you have a good support group at home? Do you have any other children at home?

Hi Linda,

I have been to every social since he has been there, I really enjoy going I have been to 4 so far.

That is ridiculous about the childrens Christmas gifts. I think that the inmates should complain to the inmate committee about that... at our socials the kids get to open the gifts, play with them and take then home. The inmates have to pay for them so what's the point of not keeping them?

I am 2 1/2 hours away from my son and see him quite a bit. He is out next July so as he puts it 3 more socials. I have a great support group and have another son at home.

How about you do you have other children?

I have a son in Edmonton, we are waiting for him to arrive this morning for the weekend. I also have a daughter in Abbotsford B.C. We are in
Dawson Creek. Dawson Creek is about 18 hours from the jail, 19 hours from my daughter and 7 hours from Edmonton.
I have a sister and some friends in Saskatchewan who are a great support, and my husband Dave is always there for me. I also have some friends here that help keep my spirits up. It really does make a difference.
I am so glad to hear your son will be out soon.
My son got Life 25, and he has been in for 6 years, so he has a long time left to go. We are very busy trying to get a new trial. He was wrongfully convicted as a result of a Mr. Big Sting. That undercover operation should be outlawed, and we are working hard to get it outlawed. It is an outrageous sting, in that they use death threats, and huge financial incentives, anywhere from 20,000 to 100,000 dollars to get a confession. For the RCMP to use death threats to get a confession is just so wrong.
At the present time AIDWYC is reviewing my sons case, and I am starting a support group for the relatives of others wrongfully convicted by Mr. Big. So far, I am in regular touch with one family, and my son and hers write to each other to keep their spirits up. We have about ten on our list that we are trying to contact because we think they are wrongfully convicted as well.
Mrs. Milgaard has been a great help to me. She knows what we are up against, and I think we are so lucky to have her experiences to draw on. She is a wonderful woman, and my talks with her are very uplifting.
Do you have any plans for when you son gets out? Is he going to stay with you, or is he married? If so, does he have any children?

My guy is on year 13 of a life 10 sentence. We've been together for 8 1/2 years. He's currently at Warkworth. I live outside of toronto.
Hoping to find some support here.

peace
Dana

dana- Welcome to PTO and to the Canada Forum- so glad you found us:)!

Hey all, I've been around the forums for exactly a week and never really introduced myself. I'm living in Nova Scotia. I'm currently on a two year conditional sentence with 8 months of house arrest. I've also done time (34 days) in a provincial jail in Whitby Ontario (Whitby Bucket). I'm planning on sticking around the forums and will offer any help I can to those who need it.

I would like to thank those that have helped me out before my sentence was handed down on the ins and outs of the Fed and Prov institiutions that I would of likely served my time in.

Welcome again kboutsider-your help will be greatly appreciated I know:) !
When you get a minute maybe you can put any info about the Whitby jail in the Prison Profiles section and some info about what house arrest involves in the Canada Prisons-What you need to know (think that would be the best place for that)

Also everyone please drop into our new sub-forum the 'Great White North Lounge' where we can chat about anything that isn't prison-related!

DLM Whitby Jail is closed and has been since 2004. But I will post what house arrest is like. And I can post what my time was like in Whitby.

I'm in Ontario Canada. I live with my wonderful husband of 16 years. I have two beautiful daughters and six grandchildren.
My brother is presently in Millhaven and has been in the system for a little over 15 years.

Hi Twingrammie welcome to PTO. You'll find a lot of great people here. You'll also find alot of great information and if it's not already posted somewhere on the forum the great people here will help find it for you. Enjoy your stay!

Thanks DLM. It's already helpful for me to read about other's experiences with the system here in Canada.

Thanks DLM. It's already helpful for me to read about other's experiences with the system here in Canada.
hello do you no about millhaben assessment unit my husband as been sentence sence 8 september I am from montéal unable to get inf.:confused:

twingrammie- Welcome to PTO and to the Canada Forum! When you get a minute drop by the Siblings Forum too as it's a great place to go to for support.

cloutier michel- Welcome to the Canada Forum too! Hopefully a member will be able to help with the information you need on Millhaven as I see you have posted in the general section.

Hi everyone, new to PTO as I just came across it...wish I knew about this site earlier. Had a loved one who is now in Matsqui. We are no longer together though I miss him dearly...

My son is in Calgary Remand centre waiting to go somewhere. Either Drumheller or Boden. I heard that once he gets to where he is going he may not be able to call me for a month. Is this true? I need any info anyone can give me. He's only been gone a week.

Hello everyone. My name is Cheri and I am in Medicine Hat Alberta. My guy is in the remand here, at least until sentancing. Then who knows where he will end up. I am so glad I found this site, I have zero support from anyone around here! It's crazy! People I thought were life long friends are convinced I have lost my mind for staying with man, and no longer speak to me. My family is included in that list.
So needless to say, I am looking forward to actually being able to chat with people who get what I am going through!

Hello Everyone! My name is Carol and I live near Brampton, Ontario. My 19 year old son Korey, is in Maplehurst. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through and I wouldn't wish it on any parent. :( I've been writing to prison penpals for almost 4 years now, and never thought I would be doing it with my child. :( :( He seems to be coping though, and he smiles and laughs when I visit, so it makes it a little easier saying good-bye to him.
If anyone knows if there is anything besides letters and cards that I can send him please let me know.
This site has been VERY helpful to me. :)

Am I ever glad I stumbled into this site!! The shock of our situation has started to wear off and I was in a very angry phase this morning. Then I spent the afternoon reading a lot of the stories on here and now I just feel like a whiny child!
My story--last Saturday morning our van was broken into and the police were called in by a neighbour who found my bf's work paperwork in their yard. When they ran my bf's name through the system they found a bench warrant for him from 98 for driving under suspension. They took him in, he saw a judge by video, he was given a court date for September and he was released...all within a couple of hours. Tuesday around supper time a police officer showed up at the door and said he had to take him back in. No worries, they'd get it all sorted out and he'd be back out again that night. My bf called Wednesday morning to tell me he was going to be in Elgin-Middlesex for 7 months. I'm still not sure how that came about. The abruptness of it all is what has thrown me for a loop. Plus the fact that while in my head I know he was no angel when he was younger, the man I know in my heart is very trustworthy and honest.
To top all of this off, a couple of days before all of this happened, I quit my job after 9 years of dealing with my boss's mood swings knowing that we were quite comfortable living off his income alone while I decided what my next chapter was going to be career-wise.
Now, I know he's only away for 7 months and I live in London too so being able to see him is not an issue. However, it feels as if my whole life (and my childrens') has been turned upside down. I honestly can't imagine what those of you who are looking at years away and have transportation issues to deal with do to get through the time.
Thanks for letting me ramble :-)...I look forward to reading through more posts and getting some insight.

My bf called Wednesday morning to tell me he was going to be in Elgin-Middlesex for 7 months.

A bit of a correction to this as all the confusion is getting itself worked out. His sentence is actually for 10 months+ with early release in 7months+.

Hi and welcome to PTO and the Canadian site. I think we all have fallen througth the looking glass..and *POOF* here we are!
You will find a lot of great information and good people here.

LOL...I was wondering where all the Canadians went! Thanks for the welcome. I've learned a lot already in the past couple of days!

Hi my names Jacqueline I met my man dave while he was incarcerated almost 8 yrs ago at some points in life we had crossed paths through both our troubles but never got to know one another until a friend suggested we write since then he has been in and out provincial home etc now federal. Over 20 months ago we got into quite a heap of trouble together you see were both drug addicts and well those who know know how hte story goes anyhow he plead out so i got off and did 2 yrs I then got my shit together he got out 3 months ago and is now back in at td matsqui for his second relapse He wants to come home I want him to come but he cant seem to stay clean I love him anyways... no wit looks as though he will be doing another 30 days and going to another treatment facility... I feel so lost tis time because i came so close to joining him this weekend yet that wouldnt benefit either of us my love is unconditional yet i am scared for my own recovery I miss him

Hi Jacqueline and welcome to PTO!! Congratulations on getting yourself back together again. You will find a wonderful group of ladies here (and a few gentlemen) to support you as you go through all of this. They have definitely helped me to keep my sanity in the past month!

Hi Jacqueline! Welcome to PTO and the Canadian forum. Look out for yourself first - *YOU* are your number 1 priority! There are lots of great forums here and heaps of good ideas and strategies.

Hey Jacqueline! Your story spoke tons to me... my finace and father of my daughter is in prison for his illegal behaviour while trying to support a coccaine addiction. We met 3 years ago in AADAC, i was stuggling with an alcohol addiction. Anyways we started dating adn i soon became a coccaine addict along with him just to keep him close to me, till i fell pregnant and cleaned up completely. He continued to use drugs my whole pregnacy which did some major damage on our relationship and has continued to fall in and out of addcition while he has been in prision. He will most likely be coming out in January on his parole day and my biggest fear is him returning back to the drugs. Please let me know if u need someone to talk to about your struggles and his and how his relapse is effecting u and making u feel!

my ex/babys dad is the same way...he is a serious crack cocaine addict...I live in calgary btw not to far from Medicine Hat...I have a 9month old daughter...her daddies only seen her twice in her life...

he will be able to call as soon as you get approved on his phone list it only takes about a week...

Welcome badboyluv! :D

Dancing? Did your boyfriend get moved to Maplehurst??

Dancing? Did your boyfriend get moved to Maplehurst??

No, so far we've managed to keep him here in London at EMDC. He's running a crew in the kitchen right now and the woman he works for put in a request to not have him transferred. We're hopefully getting parole early December so I don't see them moving him at this stage in the game. Still no phone calls but at least it's only a 5-10 minute drive to go see him.

hi, im new to the site, a little disappointed that there isnt as much canadian communication going on here. im sure there are very many of us out there in canada as well, so please dont be shy. everything u share will help the rest of us out more than u know!! i stumbled across this site initially about a month ago, never came back until today.. which was quite a rough one, im sure u kno of these days as we all experience them more often than we'd like to. so here i am all registered and ready to share.

my boyfriend is in central east correctional center in lindsay, ontario, on remand, trial date still unknown. he has done a month and a half now, and i miss him more than words could ever describe. i have read posts where women have been by their men's side for years and years on end and still counting, and i truly commend ur strength and will to continue to be strong. its women like u who keep the ones like myself going and keeping the faith.

the worst part for me is not knowing the release date, not knowing when to count down to, and not knowing if it would be all that i envision when that day comes. this is the first ive ever been involved with someone in jail, and given the fact that we didnt have enough time from when we met to the day he abruptly got locked up keeps me wondering if i am waiting in vain. i fell in love with him as we were initially struggling through this, and as time went by, i found myself deeper and deeper into the situation and now i plainly just dont want to leave his side. i will continue to be his strength and faith on the outside, trying to keep things as together as i possibly can. although the lifestyle ive started to lead is sadly inevitable – i am pretty much doing time out here while he’s doing his time in there. i work at home so i can only assume that it is a little easier to deal with this, as i pick up his collect calls quite a few times during the day and work through the evening and night (the bill aint pretty, i’ll tell u that much!).

everyday is the same. i wake up to his first phone call of the morning, around 10am, and talk to him throughout the day, 20 minutes at a time, between the hours they are allowed on range and not locked in their cells. we talk about anything and everything, he tells me the little jokes him and his friends on the inside run, the book he's currently reading and what its about, the dramas and of course fights that go on, his dreams at nights, as i tell him about my work and its progression, news about friends and family, how much i miss him constantly, and in every conversation there is inevitable consoling of each other as we conquer this "time". i try my best to be there and spend as much time "with" him as possible, as unfortunately i have been the only person that accepts his calls, the only person that goes to visit him, the only person that really gives a shit that hes doing time and that its not an easy thing to do. at times i give three way calls for other inmates, and as i listen to constant ringing and no answers on the other end, it just breaks my heart to see them go through it all alone. i could never turn my back on my boyfriend, or even not be there for his calls for that matter. his last call of the day ranges between 730pm and 830pm, in which i start my “day” thereafter. i visit him once a week, usually on fridays, visits are 20 minutes each time. i was informed by one of the worker inmates allowed out to serve meals that that they were on lock down all day today, not allowed out of their cells for some unknown reason, and will continue to be locked down for the next couple of days. today was a rough day.

everyday is the same. i dont make any plans besides work related ones. i dont want to go anywhere for leisure purposes knowing he will not be there with me. i dont want to plan anything for the future not knowing how things are going to be once he is out.

everyday is the same. i go through a number of ups and downs daily, and some days i just break down and cry for no reason, or for every reason. i dont care to talk or see very much of the people who do not know of my situation, or do know, but can never relate or even begin to understand.. and those that do, well, there’s barely even one or two and i just feel terrible constantly rambling on about what my boyfriend and i are going through. i know a lot of readers will say that i dont have it nearly half as bad as others, but then again, it is what it is, and everyday is the same.

here i hope to find a family who understands, who can listen to me vent as i do enjoy hearing others vent – it helps me cope with all of this better – and in just an hour of skimming through the site, i have a good feeling that i will.

thanks everyone :)
pyrochick.

Welcome to PTO and the Canadian forum! I guess we are not as chatty as our US friends, but the caring is still there - a mare usque ad mare **GRIN**

Hi my name is Robin, my husband is currently serving a 58 month sentence at Fenbrook intitution in Gravenhurst, Ontario. He should be out on day parole in Feburary, all going well. I have never had to deal with prison or police or parole officers or correctional officers in my life, so I've had to learn really quickly about everything. I know how lost I felt when when all this first happend and if there is some info I can share I will!!!

Hi dalton and welcome to the PTO Canada Forum!
I'm glad your husband will be out soon and thanks so much for offering to share any information you have:thumbsup: !

I have been out for some time and reading about the lock down at Joyceville led me to this forum. I spent my entire time at Joyceville with a short stop over at reception ....let me know if I can answer any questions and if the timing is right will look to help out if rides are needed....its time to give back...

thanks,

Hi channis and welcome to PTO and to the Canada Forum! I'm glad you found us and very glad you'll be able to answer questions etc:).

Hi my name is Nicole, I've been a member of PTO for couple months now, My boyfriend is currently serving an 18month sentence in Penetang. I've had friends in jail before but not for long and that was nothing compared to what I'm goin through now. I'm so glad I found this site, and so happy for this canadian forum. I love having people to taalk to that know what I'm going through, my family and friends just don't understand. Thanx for all the help and support

Well I spent time in Joyceville from 1973 to 1976ish and Millhaven from 1976ish to 1981 and I saw alot and was involved in alot from protests to riots and prison is not a place to be.

The screws are mean and narrow minded and I got transfered to Millhaven for beating on one.

IPB

Hello! My name is Cheri and my guy is serving a 7 year term at the Bowden Institution. I've been around this site for about a year now, when he was first arrested this site saved my sanity!

I am Canadian C.O. I am a C.O in the Ontario Provincial system. I have been a member since 2006 but haven't really been on in quite awhile.

I probably wont be a popular member with some of the members on here but I am willing to answer questions for anyone who has them

C.C.O

I am Canadian C.O. I am a C.O in the Ontario Provincial system. I have been a member since 2006 but haven't really been on in quite awhile.

I probably wont be a popular member with some of the members on here but I am willing to answer questions for anyone who has them

C.C.O

Would you answer our questions honestly, if we cared to ask you ?????

Why should we trust you to do so ????

Would you answer our questions honestly, if we cared to ask you ?????

Why should we trust you to do so ????

Do you think for one minute that all people out here in the real world, would actually trust you?? I don't think so....... You're a CO........ It's a position of trust. And that trust has been negleted and or denied or quite franktly....., IGNORED..........

Our spouses regardless of whom they are, or what they have been charged with, ARE STILL HUMAN BEINGS, are are still entilted to that human equation.........

I await your answer !!
C

I am Canadian C.O. I am a C.O in the Ontario Provincial system. I have been a member since 2006 but haven't really been on in quite awhile.

I probably wont be a popular member with some of the members on here but I am willing to answer questions for anyone who has them

C.C.O

Welcome to the site, you do bring alot of experience and answers with you. I'm sure there are many family members who do need some help manuvering through the system, and your perspective is helpful.

Please don't assume, the "quiet" many who read this site are as apposed to your presence.

Im not one to apply a stereotype. (just as all inmates arn't useless, neither are all C.O's)

Lilystacey.