Why is it that so many people think that other's are worried about their interacial relationships? I was sitting down talking to my man and me and this chicks' eyes met and she rolled her eyes at me. I mean I give a damn bout her be a Mexican w/ a blk man. In fact I'm from SanAntone so it's almost like second nature. Everyone is not worried about your business people. Stop thinking that everyone has a problem w/ it because that's not the case. We're all human and we cannot help who we fall in love with. I wish I would of walked out the door w/ her because I wanted to ask her what the problem was. Why are so many defensive? You know what you're getting into once you choose someone of a different race. Again, no one chooses who their heart wants but you should know how to handle negative people. Don't treat everyone in the same aspect.

I totally agree with you. I'm in an IR relationship, I always have been. When I was younger I stressed on what others thought but now I just don't care. Complaining about what you think others think of you is not going to change their thought process of you and your relationship. I just shut it out, I don't see other people looking at us and if I do the last thing I think is that it's because of my relationship, I'll think my hair is messed up before I think of me being white and my man being black. I love my man and that's all that matters to me, I could careless about what others think or how they look at me. I'm not going to take away from a moment with my man because someone else that is taking time from their world to look into mine. I've had people actually approach me and tell me what I was doing was wrong and I just say that's their opinion and move on. Live your life!!! Get over it! If it bothers you so much what other people think of your IR relationship then maybe you shouldn't be in one. That's just my 2cents.

If it bothers you so much what other people think of you IR relationship then maybe you shouldn't be in one.
Thing about it was you would of thought I was the one in an IR because first her man turned around and looked at me. Then a few minutes later she rolled her eyes at me. I'm like damn what the hell is up with them. But I guess.

I was just making a general statement, I wasn't referring to you just people in IR relationships in general that complain all the time about the looks and comments they get.

I forgot to put that I totally agreed with your comment that's why I quoted it. I was just also remembering what happened w/ the whole ordeal that's all.

Ms. Onelove, I am curious why you think that is because she is in an IR relationship that she rolled her eyes at you? I was just wondering if I missed something. Being in an IR relationship, I could care less what other people think of it. I don't look for peopl looking at us, I am too interested in enjoying my time with my man...

This thread has me confused. I don't understand the first post in it.

I agree too. I dont think the general public has time to worry about who you are with and what color they are. I have always been in IR relationships too, and in my early years I cared about what family thought, but now that I am older and wiser I dont give a damn who thinks what!

i agree with another poster, what made you think that the reason she rolled her eyes at you was because of her IR status? maybe it was because her man turned and looked at you earlier that visit, and it made her jealous. maybe her man has a beef with your man, and he was telling her about it, so she's making beef with you. how do you know it was because of their skin difference? maybe it WAS on your mind, that's why you chose to bring that up as the reason she rolled her eyes. of course, something else could have happened that let you know it was because of their color difference, but you never mentioned anything like that. those of us who are secure in our IR relationships...don't always assume that people are staring at us because of our color differences. when people stare at my man, my first thought is because "da**, he looks THAT good!" he**, sometimes I stare at him too. and he's mine. and believe me, when our contacts start, i know we're gonna get stares galore. with something looking THAT gorgeous, females and males alike can't HELP BUT to stare.

I totally agree with you mrschris. What makes you think that it was because of the interracial relationship? It could have been for many different reasons. I wouldn't automatically assume it was because of that.

See response below.

maybe it WAS on your mind, that's why you chose to bring that up as the reason she rolled her eyes.



First off let me clear up some things since this story is so "confusing".
I get regular (phone) visits so when I was sitting down talking to my man the other inmate had his back to me. So that eliminates me staring at her man. (LOL@ the thought.) In fact if you read above you'd see where I wrote that he turned around as if to see who I was. Whatever the case that was the first thing that occured. Secondly, the reason why I am assuming that she rolled her eyes at me is because I don't know of any other reason she would have to roll her eyes at me. That's the main reason why I said "I wanted to walk out with her to know what the problem was." The whole issue of her being a different ethnicity NEVER crossed my mind. I didn't post this thread as to talk down on IR relationships. A couple of people weren't "confused" with this thread. if anything I was being positive so I thought. Everyone isn't concerned about IR relationships which is true. I see it sad that there are still people in 2005 worried and caught up on the whole "black/ white issue." I just wanted it to be known that everyone isn't. You're right she may have not rolled her eyes because of what I thought but I guess I'll never know. Hell she was staring me down and I ignored it. But when she rolled her eyes I knew the gesture was meant to be seen. If anyone has a logical answer and reason why she'd do this other than the fact I mentioned I'm willing to read about it. So far I haven't read any. Again I wasn't being negative towards any of you being in IR relationships. Some may have took it that way. Whatever the case I wish you all well.

I totally agree with you mrschris. What makes you think that it was because of the interracial relationship? It could have been for many different reasons. I wouldn't automatically assume it was because of that.

yup! sometimes we think things are one way when in reality we couldn't be further from the truth!

sometimes we think things are one way when in reality we couldn't be further from the truth!
So very true.
But sometimes our thoughts are indeed the truth to matters and indeed the overall realilty. Allowing us to hit the nail right on the head.

First off let me clear up some things since this story is so "confusing".
I get regular (phone) visits so when I was sitting down talking to my man the other inmate had his back to me. So that eliminates me staring at her man. (LOL@ the thought.) In fact if you read above you'd see where I wrote that he turned around as if to see who I was. Whatever the case that was the first thing that occured. Secondly, the reason why I am assuming that she rolled her eyes at me is because I don't know of any other reason she would have to roll her eyes at me. That's the main reason why I said "I wanted to walk out with her to know what the problem was." The whole issue of her being a different ethnicity NEVER crossed my mind. I didn't post this thread as to talk down on IR relationships. A couple of people weren't "confused" with this thread. if anything I was being positive so I thought. Everyone isn't concerned about IR relationships which is true. I see it sad that there are still people in 2005 worried and caught up on the whole "black/ white issue." I just wanted it to be known that everyone isn't. You're right she may have not rolled her eyes because of what I thought but I guess I'll never know. Hell she was staring me down and I ignored it. But when she rolled her eyes I knew the gesture was meant to be seen. If anyone has a logical answer and reason why she'd do this other than the fact I mentioned I'm willing to read about it. So far I haven't read any. Again I wasn't being negative towards any of you being in IR relationships. Some may have took it that way. Whatever the case I wish you all well.

ok...i would totally agree with you...however you got a few key elements incorrect in your statements above. i never said that YOU stared at him, i said that YOU said that HE stared at YOU. so your first point is null and void because you misread what i wrote. my point coincides with YOUR point EXACTLY, YOU don't know WHY she rolled her eyes, so for you to ASSUME that it was because of her IR status was a wild GUESS, and hardly any reason to "vent", because you may not know WHY she even stared. it probably has NOTHING to do with her being one race and her man being another. that was YOUR assumption, YOUR reasoning for her staring. unless you heard it from the horse's mouth, don't assume that you know the story. for all you know, her man is probably having issues with YOUR man, so she's making issues with YOU via eye contact and rolling her eyes. this is prison, you have no idea why she rolled her eyes. it was probably because you were cuter than her. probably because she is immature and wanted to just prove a point that she wasn't afraid to let you know that she didn't like you because your hair was neater. it probably was because your man owes her man 5 stamps and a rollie. who knows??!?! and believe me, i wasn't confused to the intent of your post, all i'm saying is that until you KNOW that was the reason for her behavior, don't ASSUME that it was because of her skin color and her mans, because you MAY be wrong. YOU had the skin color issue on your mind, because you made it an automatic reasoning for her to roll her eyes at you. no one is bashing you, i'm just putting another view of the situation on the table for you to consider. maybe you were wrong, that's it. maybe you are right. but you never gave an inclination that she behaved in a certain way that made you KNOW she was rolling her eyes because of her IR status.

again, if someone rolls their eyes at me and hubby on a visit, i'm not going to assume it's because i'm black and my hubby is white. i'm going to first off assume it's because he's fine as wine...especially if (as you say) IR couples are not that uncommon. no one is going to give you another answer as to why she rolled her eyes. how can we? no one was there that day, and if YOU don't know why she rolled her eyes than we SURELY can't know why she did it! you may be right, you may be wrong. we'll never know. but don't assume that it was because she was hispanic and her man was black. especially if she was staring you down. it was probably because your man looks better than hers. you're saying that some don't care about our IR relationships. that's true, so it behooves us not to assume that people are always staring at us because of our differences. and it behooves others to not assume that we're staring at them because of our differences. i might be staring at you and thinking, "i'm gonna go out and buy that shirt cuz da** it's cute on her!" not "oh, she's looking over here cuz i'm black and my man is white."

Least that's what I was taught.

So very true.
But sometimes our thoughts are indeed the truth to matters and indeed the overall realilty. Allowing us to hit the nail right on the head.

very true...but it's still unfair to assume the truth. like you said, if you want to make sure your thoughts are right, just ask. that way, you'll have no doubt.

ive always been in interracial relationships and my family dont care ive never cared about wat other people thought i dont even pay them no mind i believe if u truly love sum1 than it shouldnt matter wat the color of their skin is and anyone who is against interracial relationships has some serius problems and they need help

YOU don't know WHY she rolled her eyes, so for you to ASSUME that it was because of her IR status was a wild GUESS, and hardly any reason to "vent", because you may not know WHY she even stared.


Mrs.Chris,
I refuse to go back and forth on this matter. Anyhow, I am indeed TOTALLY aware that this was an assumption. If I would of been able to ask the female myself I would of. If you don't have a logical reason of why she did the gestures why post a book of possibilities for me to consider? Almost everything you mentioned makes no sense because I know for a fact my man doesn't owe dude anything nor has beef w/ dude. ( He would of been mentioned it.) If I see someone in a shirt/ hair do I like I'm not gone roll my eyes at them or stare them down. And my man has money on his books so him borrowing from another is out the question. Whatever the case I didn't make the thread to "vent" as you called it. If that was the case I would of said "I need to vent." That's YOUR assumption. All I was saying is that everyone isn't concerned about other's business. I assumed that ogirl may have did her gestures due to the possiblity that she was involved in an IR relationship. Hell our eyes met I don't know what she could of been thinking. (The possibilities are endless.)That's the only reason that makes sense to ME. So whether that was her reasoning or not I just wanted it to be known that there are some people who could care in the least about others business or who they choose to love. That's what WAS on my mind. And I didn't feel you were bashing me. LOL! You have your view. And I have mine. When people look at you it probably doesn't run thru your head what others have to say or think about your relationship. But a few women stated above that in the past it use to run thru their head. All I'm trying to say is love who you want to love regardless of what others may say or think about it. Just don't always think that EVERYONE is against who you may love. In the future I'll think over the possible reasonings a person would do gestures as which were done towards me besides it being an IR possibilty. (If that's once again the case.)But before I close I must say the first thing I asked my man when I told him what occured was "I wonder why she rolled her eyes at me? I'd hate to think she thought I was worried about her business." Since I'll never know her reason behind the gestures I want it to be known that everyone doesn't care nor concern themself with the business of others.

Mrs.Chris,
I refuse to go back and forth on this matter. Anyhow, I am indeed TOTALLY aware that this was an assumption. If I would of been able to ask the female myself I would of. If you don't have a logical reason of why she did the gestures why post a book of possibilities for me to consider? Almost everything you mentioned makes no sense because I know for a fact my man doesn't owe dude anything nor has beef w/ dude. ( He would of been mentioned it.) If I see someone in a shirt/ hair do I like I'm not gone roll my eyes at them or stare them down. And my man has money on his books so him borrowing from another is out the question. Whatever the case I didn't make the thread to "vent" as you called it. If that was the case I would of said "I need to vent." That's YOUR assumption. All I was saying is that everyone isn't concerned about other's business. I assumed that ogirl may have did her gestures due to the possiblity that she was involved in an IR relationship. Hell our eyes met I don't know what she could of been thinking. (The possibilities are endless.)That's the only reason that makes sense to ME. So whether that was her reasoning or not I just wanted it to be known that there are some people who could care in the least about others business or who they choose to love. That's what WAS on my mind. And I didn't feel you were bashing me. LOL! You have your view. And I have mine. When people look at you it probably doesn't run thru your head what others have to say or think about your relationship. But a few women stated above that in the past it use to run thru their head. All I'm trying to say is love who you want to love regardless of what others may say or think about it. Just don't always think that EVERYONE is against who you may love. In the future I'll think over the possible reasonings a person would do gestures as which were done towards me besides it being an IR possibilty. (If that's once again the case.)But before I close I must say the first thing I asked my man when I told him what occured was "I wonder why she rolled her eyes at me? I'd hate to think she thought I was worried about her business." Since I'll never know her reason behind the gestures I want it to be known that everyone doesn't care nor concern themself with the business of others.

we aren't going to go back and forth...you're exactly right. you have your opinion and i have mine. but you admitted that you have no clue why she rolled her eyes, point blank. i was just throwing out possibilities of why she rolled her eyes. you don't know why, so you can't say one reason over the other was the reason she did it. and what you would do in a situation does not speak for others. there are some pretty petty people in this world, she may be one of them. this again takes us full circle back to my original post (no need to reiterate haha). *smile*

and believe me... IR couples thinking that anyone is against "their love" because of them being IR isn't any more or any less than anyone here on PTO thinking people are against "their love" for being with incarcerated men and women.

I believe that there are a few ppl out there that are insecure about what others think about them being in an IR relationship but not as many as we would like to believe. As many have stated you may have been mistaken in the reason this female rolled her eyes and as you have returned to say that you could have been mistaken and that was just what you thought your opinion..

So that whole thing is clarified and everyone can understand that you vented on what you believe to be her reason and now they can post their opinions about insecurity in such relationships..

First off let me clear up some things since this story is so "confusing".
I get regular (phone) visits so when I was sitting down talking to my man the other inmate had his back to me. So that eliminates me staring at her man. (LOL@ the thought.) In fact if you read above you'd see where I wrote that he turned around as if to see who I was. Whatever the case that was the first thing that occured. Secondly, the reason why I am assuming that she rolled her eyes at me is because I don't know of any other reason she would have to roll her eyes at me. That's the main reason why I said "I wanted to walk out with her to know what the problem was." The whole issue of her being a different ethnicity NEVER crossed my mind. I didn't post this thread as to talk down on IR relationships. A couple of people weren't "confused" with this thread. if anything I was being positive so I thought. Everyone isn't concerned about IR relationships which is true. I see it sad that there are still people in 2005 worried and caught up on the whole "black/ white issue." I just wanted it to be known that everyone isn't. You're right she may have not rolled her eyes because of what I thought but I guess I'll never know. Hell she was staring me down and I ignored it. But when she rolled her eyes I knew the gesture was meant to be seen. If anyone has a logical answer and reason why she'd do this other than the fact I mentioned I'm willing to read about it. So far I haven't read any. Again I wasn't being negative towards any of you being in IR relationships. Some may have took it that way. Whatever the case I wish you all well.

Ok so i think you are saying:

you went to visit your man. the women next to you was visiting her man. her man turned and looked at you and girlfriend rolled her eyes. You assumed it was b/c girlfriend thought you were looking at them in a bad way about their IR relationship.

If I have this correct...maybe she was and maybe she wasn't. Who cares about her (I think that is your point). You are there to visit your man and you are not wasting time looking at her and her man.

I say this is her problem and move on.

I agree with mrschris ((((Missoneluv))) I also believe that maybe the IR relationship caught your attention more than anything. I know if someone rolled her eyes at me I would most definately not assume than it was because they were in an IR. That just doesn't make sense to me but you have your own assumptions. I think you just have proved the point as to how many people really do think about the color instead of the love they have for eachother. I am not bashing you but that is a heck of an assumption to me. I can see if it was the other way around and you rolled your eyes at her and she assumed why you were doing that but not in your situation. That is just my OP.

I was also wondering since you and her can see eachother were you looking at her first and then maybe she rolled her eyes b/c you were looking?!? Then I can see why you might think that she rolled her eyes at you b/c of an IR. If that is the case then maybe she was saying to her man "look at that girl staring at us probably b/c of us being in an IR" and that is maybe why he turned around and looked at you....who knows....I was trying to see where you were coming from sweetie!!

No offense taken I hope!!!:)

msoneluv....nevermind my last question!! I see where you said your eyes met...now I see why you might have assumed that. That is my fault for not reading correctly. Sorry, I feel you now boo.:thumbsup: Sometimes I am a little slow.;)

:) well my man is chocolate black...im creole..but my skin is the same color as like alica keys...so by looking at us you would not think we are in this kind of relationship..but i could care less what haters see or say...they cant ever do anything about it!:thumbsup:

I don't have a comment on any of the previous threads I just wanted to give my opinion on IR relationships ...the way i see it is if you are happy and they treat you well then what can anyone say isnt a realtionship all about HAPPINESS ...and another way i see it is we are ALL human just a different color skin!! " If you cut each of us in the same spot we will all bleed RED"

Noone can be certain of course but I have to wonder if this woman rolled her eyes because she may have been given grief by others for being in an interracial relationship and this was just a defense mechanism on her part. Of course another thought is the fact that I know alot of people for whom rolling their eyes has just become a habit, some roll their eyes 'bout everything.

Just a thought,
Patty

Noone can be certain of course but I have to wonder if this woman rolled her eyes because she may have been given grief by others for being in an interracial relationship and this was just a defense mechanism on her part. Of course another thought is the fact that I know alot of people for whom rolling their eyes has just become a habit, some roll their eyes 'bout everything.

Just a thought,
Patty



I have to agree with you on that I also have a habit of rolling my eyes when people say things or do silly things like my kds i am always rolling my eyes at them but doesnt mean i love them any less!!!!:thumbsup:

i agree Hot.

she may have been rolling her eyes because of the IR thing, but she may have been rolling her eyes for something else. either way, we don't know...so it's not "safe" for us to assume that it was for her being in an IR relationship and to comment on that alone is unfair.

obviously, her being in an IR relationship IS on some people's minds...especially if that's why she DID roll her eyes! she probably gets stares all the time...so like you said...it became some type of mechanism.

First off let me clear up some things since this story is so "confusing".
I get regular (phone) visits so when I was sitting down talking to my man the other inmate had his back to me. So that eliminates me staring at her man. (LOL@ the thought.) In fact if you read above you'd see where I wrote that he turned around as if to see who I was. Whatever the case that was the first thing that occured. Secondly, the reason why I am assuming that she rolled her eyes at me is because I don't know of any other reason she would have to roll her eyes at me. That's the main reason why I said "I wanted to walk out with her to know what the problem was." The whole issue of her being a different ethnicity NEVER crossed my mind. I didn't post this thread as to talk down on IR relationships. A couple of people weren't "confused" with this thread. if anything I was being positive so I thought. Everyone isn't concerned about IR relationships which is true. I see it sad that there are still people in 2005 worried and caught up on the whole "black/ white issue." I just wanted it to be known that everyone isn't. You're right she may have not rolled her eyes because of what I thought but I guess I'll never know. Hell she was staring me down and I ignored it. But when she rolled her eyes I knew the gesture was meant to be seen. If anyone has a logical answer and reason why she'd do this other than the fact I mentioned I'm willing to read about it. So far I haven't read any. Again I wasn't being negative towards any of you being in IR relationships. Some may have took it that way. Whatever the case I wish you all well.oneluv, first i'd like to say nice picture#2 i don't think you owe any explanations , iam a 34 year old mother of 8 bi~racial children ,uuh BEAUTIFUL children between ages 8 weeks and 16 years old , lemme say black/white is the new generation when it is all said and done, let it be any nationality we are all goin to have people who agree or disagree , like most of ur responses say it is nunya business they don't know nothin bout this here, and people are easier offended in IR RELATIONSHIPS because that is what society allows , my man is a black man and other than the one i was married to and had the first 6 of my children , but this man came along after i was divorced and took me and my 6 kids and god grant me 2 more... who cares what color he is?? no offense to anyone and i dunno why but i have not ever really had any problem with racial issues and if so i have never seenor heard of any ~~!! good luck to all of you and yours...

like most of ur responses say it is nunya business they don't know nothin bout this here, and people are easier offended in IR RELATIONSHIPS because that is what society allows
I'm glad YOU were able to see the purpose of my post. Or as "venting" as others have called it. LOL! Whatever the case that's EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Whether the female was/ wasn't rolling her eyes true of me I don't have any reason to worry about her or anyone elses business. In fact once my man gets out I'm going to be in a similar situation being that the majority of his body is covered in tats. I wonder how I'm going to react to people staring at him. Hmmm. Guess I'll have to ask for advice one that day comes.

Ok so i think you are saying: . . . If I have this correct...(I think that is your point).
MiaBellaAngela, just want to mention you cracked me up to pieces :D and that's because for the life of me I could not grasp this thread.

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whitted angel, girl, you is one I can definitely relate to -- WHERE YOU BEEN HIDING?!?! :D This world is full of people who talk the talk but do not walk the walk. So when I come across a person who walks the walks -- THAT PERSON STANDS OUT in my book and I have to pay homage. who cares what color he is?? . . . i have not ever really had any problem with racial issues and if so i have never seenor heard of any ~~!! I love that because it's my EXACT sentiment: when race really does not matter to you then you will not make a matter out of it. It would seem to me that that person truly would be oblivious to the racial issues of "did she just stare at me?", "did she just look at my child?", "did she just roll her eyes at me?" "etc."

I can also relate to the "easily offended" comment you made because that does seem to stand out in this forum. Further, I started a thread yesterday that, to me, was no big deal at all, yet, people did easily get offended and a couple flat out told me my question was offensive. :confused:

I truly hope no one finds this post offensive, and if you do, I really don't know what to make of that because it is not coming from an offensive place, but from a real and honest place.

I love that because it's my EXACT sentiment: when race really does not matter to you then you will not make a matter out of it.
I can also relate to the "easily offended" comment you made because that does seem to stand out in this forum.

you said exactly how i feel. when race really does not matter to EITHER party involved in the issue, then neither one would make a matter out of it. my point exactly.

as far as being easily offended well, i feel that way about plenty of forums on PTO...i feel that plenty of people here are easily offended (but what do we expect, we're dealing with delicate situations!!!). and well, of course, my take on offense is...if you get offended by something, work on it so you won't be offended by it. i'm not too offended by much of anything anymore unless it was purposely designed to be offensive toward me personally, or designed to demean me, my family, lifestyle or my relationships (and believe me, that has to be one WITTY design). then i take offense, i have a right to. and well...i try to deal with that as tactfully as possible. i don't like to be offended, and i don't like to offend people, which is why i try to think before i speak, try to think about whether something will be offensive before i say it (someone on another thread said, "if you have to say, 'no offense', before making a comment, then you are probably going to offend someone, and you know it, hence the apology beforehand, 'no offense'"), and not offend people by focusing on THEM and not the issue at hand, or by pointing out problems with them (not saying anyone did any of the above).

i'm not easily offended by IR comments or issues, people have their opinions, and well, quite frankly, people in general will continue to have issues and opinions, no matter HOW much they deny it. i have no problem with the attention...and i have no problem explaining why i choose to be wit who i'm with. color isn't a sensitive subject here, partly because there are no people i love more than my biracial children and my biracial hubby, and well, love is strong!

. . . i feel that way about plenty of forums on PTO ...and not offend people by focusing on THEM and not the issue at hand, or by pointing out problems with them
ooooh girl, I'mma sucka for personal growth so I'mma stick that olive piece in the pot with my other gems because that's a piece that I can use!! :thumbsup:

I can only speak for myself as to why I use the "I hope nobody gets offended" disclaimer. No matter what you say or do, you are not going to please everybody, period, that's life. :shrug: So for those in the crowd who don't feel pleased or whatever, I'll mention the disclaimer only for them to let them know that what they are feeling was not sent with my message. It's always my hope that no one will get offended by what I say but because I agree 100% with what you said in orange, I am aware that somebody(s) just might anyway.

i totally get you on the offense issue lol. people should walk around saying, "no offense ma'am" "no offense sir" because you're right. people will ALWAYS be offended somewhere. you cannot please the world. so i opt for self pleasure instead LOL.

but i mean...really...it is up to the person who is offended to understand why they were getting offended anyway. now we're all human, we ALL get offended and hurt, but until the day we die, life is all about improvement. i know i used to complain and get the watered up eyes at whatever a person said to me. now...i look at them and let them know they are ENTITLED to their OPINION, because it won't be on my mind when i go to bed later on!

anyone ever see the breakdown of ASSUME???? ASS/U/ME

Marriage is not a private affair -- it does concern other people, otherwise you wouldn't need a licence to get married. If you don't believe me, just try to marry someone of the same sex and you'll know what I mean. Even whether or HOW you have sex, and whom you have it WITH is regulated by other people, otherwise there wouldn't be incest laws, sodomy laws, prostitution laws, adultery laws, polygamy laws, decency laws, obscenity laws, etc. Society is very cult-like and even decides which part of your body are shameful (to expose) and which ones aren't. Just try to do something as innocent as breast feed your baby in public, and you're going to find out in a hurry.

I think that people get paranoid because of attitudes of SOME ignorant people and also what the media has to say, especially when it comes to black men with white women.