My fiance is has been in for 3 months now and I know having no idea of how long he is going to be in there is really stressing him out. All he ever does is worry about me. I know he loves me and he wants to make sure I'm okay. I tell him all the time not to worry. Then he gets all pissed off and says well I guess you don't need me. I'm really not trying to say that. He has been in remission from cacner for 3 months and all I want him to do is take care of himself. But one minute he is all worried and the next completely mad and pushing me farther and farther away. He has been diagnosed bi-polar for quite some time. One minute he will be all sweet and loving. Then the next he will tell me to find someone better since it seems like I don't need him. how do I make him know that it is him I want to be with, him I love. I tell him I love him all the time but it's almost like he doesn't believe me.

This is a really great bipolar support and information network sight:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/links/bi-polar.html

Hope it helps.

Pisces,

I would follow buggles advice and read all you can about BiPolar Disorder. The more you understand it, the more you will understand your fiance.

My husband has panic attacks when he is stressing over me and other loved ones. Its because he's locked up and when he suspects that something may be wrong, there's NOTHING he can do. Its a natural thing for our loved ones. They are helpless when it comes to US and it goes against the grain of who they are.

What works best for us is me letting him vent and getting it out of his system and then talking to him without downplaying his feelings.

mrs. d

Good advice here. The more you learn of this illness, the more you can understand it and understand what he goes through. Being in prison it tends to make things worse as well.,

His doubts and such is most common when they are lock up.

You will remain in my prayers

Cara PiscesGirl23,

Hello there! Everybody's given you good advice. Here's my lack of 2 cents :) I know that you knowing that it's not you, it's him doesn't help much. Yet, it's a place to start. There are groups for families of the mentally challenged, such as NAMI.org , and SCI, Mind Freedom, TruehopeNutritionalSupport888-TRUEHOPE www.truehope.com , (http://bmj.com) for related articles, etc..
There's sliding -scale counseling, some through neighborhood clinis that you also might find supportive. Keep your self growth going, the more you're in touch with your growth, the more you can give to others. All the best!