As most of you know, I do legal work at a family violence crisis & resource center. I am sad to say that our numbers are picking up drastically now that summer is upon us. Women tend to stay in the relationship until the children are out of school for summer. They don't want to uproot them in the middle of the school year. The heat also makes tempers flare. I did two protective order hearings last week. Both were very extreme cases. As the heat rises, so does the number of women being beaten. Every 3 minutes a woman is beaten by her partner! That is a huge number! If it includes you or someone you know (even men), get help. There are great resources out there. If you need help with anything just pm me. I'll do anything I can to help...counseling, resource searches, legal advice...you name it! Take advantage of the help you can recieve. Don't wait...do it now!

Jamie,

Thanks for posting this!!!

Mrs. d

In San Francisco, you can call

LA CASA DE LAS MADRES (415) 503-0500
RILEY CENTER Services for Battered Women (415) 255-0165
ASIAN WOMEN'S SHELTER (415) 751-0880

Maybe we should have a thread that just lists these emergency numbers?
- Jane

wonderful psot, thanks for sharing

Thanks for posting. I read about the statistics as well the other day.

My son is also in a facility for a spousal dispute/domestic violence yet he has never hit his wife nor would he ever consider harming any woman. The person he married is the one who always starts by screaming / hitting him taking his cell/car keys, whatever she can to push his button's. His crime is holding his arms up to protect his face & body by doing this she obtained bruises on her hands & arms as a result of hitting him. I have seen many, many times when she's caught him off guard and threw him to the pavement breaking his ribs, scatching him, kicking him in the genitals. Then calling the police on him so it looks like she's such a victim. Their daughter has told me her mommy hits her daddy, all the time. Not once have I been there when she hasn't started to fight with him. I have witnessed him running to the bathroom to lock himself in hoping she'll stop, yet all she does is break down the door on him and start wailing on him. My daughter, his sister has also witnessed this when she finally decided to come with me to help them move. This one lasted until 4AM, my daughter & I could not stop her so we stayed in the baby's room trying to confort & keep her from crying. Where's the justice? why can women inflict so much pain, aside from the damage to their childs' psyci & well being. If he calls the police on her, she turns' it around, her hands bruised from knocking the door in so of course the PD believe's 'her' the wife, never the husband. She was in the army 4 yrs. & her father was also a Policeman, my son has no chance so can anyone tell me what is it he CAN do?

I remember when I took a course on domestic violence that it isn't just men who abuse their wives. There are women out there who abuse their husbands, but there is such a stigma out there against the abused male because society thinks that they should be able to control their wives, etc. Plus, I guess it must be very shameful for a man to admit that his wife hurts him, especially if he discloses amongst other men.

I wish there was something that I could tell you, some agency that you could go to for help for your son. It's very sad that he's having to do the time. Perhaps there is a domestic violence clearinghouse in your state. You could start with that.

I'm also concerned about your son's wife. People who abuse think that they're above the law. If she was abusing him, that doesn't leave much hope for the children, you know? If she could get away with having him locked up for beating him up, I shrudder to think what may be happening with the kids. She needs to get in for some psychological help before something worse happens. This is awful for everyone involved.