I love my husband dearly and i have been praying and have prayed and laid some things out before the Lord regarding my marriage, and it seems like things are progressively getting worse. Have you all ever experienced that? But although things dont look so good in the natural realm, i know that God has it worked out in the Spirit realm. We are to speak those things that are not as though they were. I have to admit I am guilty of negative speaking at times, when things dont seem to be going as they ought to.Although things look terrible and the Devil is trying to get into our marriage via other people,meddling in laws,etc. God is still on the throne.I believe everything has a season. Things just seem to be falling apart and looks like it will never work out. During these times is when the Devil really tries to make his voice heard ("why dont u do this, just get a divorce,have an affair,or you should just whoop so-and- so's behind...) One thing I had to learn was the Devil's voice is loud and boisterous, and he always tries to get u to make a decision in a hurry. Although things are going the opposite direction of which way they are supposed to, its like i hear a small quiet voice saying to me, "Remember what I showed you" So hearing those Words are what continue to give me hope.The Devil has stirred up so much strife, that my husband and I arent even really speaking right now, to be honest.He hasnt written me, I wrote and mailed a letter of 12 pages Monday evening,telling him how I feel.I may get a response I may not. I even plan on going to see him on Sunday. I am very hurt and disappointed in him, but I am not mad. I have spent too much time and energy being mad and wanting to hate. I tried to be hateful (but the Christ in me just wont allow it) When I have friends saying, just "do you", "dont worry you have three years,you may not even want him when he gets out,etc" When I stood before God and entered into the convenant of marriage, I vowed until death do us part.For better or for worse.Seems like Ive seen the worse so its gotta get better, amen? I listened to a message by Bishop George Bloomer the other evening and he said the worse thing a Christian can do is to give ear to the Devil (listening to the advice or counsel of someone that is unsaved) Bishop Bloomer said, "That cannot be God, How could it possibly be God that is advising you through this person" I admit, I'm guilty of giving ear to the Devil. Sometimes when I am praying about something, or awaiting some kind of response from God, it seems as though He gets quiet. I find myself crying out to Him saying "Where are You God, are You listening? Can't You see they are trying to destroy me?? Why won't You do something to stop them, I know You have the power to..." But this morning at work, and was walking down the hallway, as song came and ministered to me. It was 'Stand' by Donnie McClurkin. I believe that was God just letting me know that He hasnt forgotten about me, and that He is still here.It's so hard for me hear, because I dont have any christian gyrlfriends here. All the gyrls I know are from way back when, and when youre going thru trials and are weak and weary,its hard when u dont have a gyrlfriend that u can call up and say, lets go into worship together, or lets pray or something like that. I have been praying that God allow me to cross paths with some awesome women of God that I can do these things with. And He has, but they live in different states.I dont have a church home and am still searching for one.I just needed to speak what was on my mind and heart, thanks so much for reading and thanks in advance for those of u that respond.I will be praying for u guys, pray my strength in the Lord.Love ya!!!

Xanobia

God Bless You Xanobia! I pray that you are able to hear God's whisper of guidance. I pray that those interferring in your marriage will be set aside. I pray that your heart's desires be fulfilled and that your strength is maintained to continue your fight against the enemy. Our God is an awesome God and He is able!

Thank you so much Nuro's wife, I appreciate your prayers.God bless!!

Xanobia, I know exactly where you are coming from. Instead of me being steadfast I fell weak and gave my ear to Satan. Like you I am without girlfriends and find it hard. Stay steadfast. Just because you haven't heard from God doesn't mean he's not working. He may not answer when you call, but he's always on time!! I will keep you in my prayers and I ask that you do the same for me. PM me anytime!!!

Shona`

Wow Xanobia, it is like you took all of my thoughts out of my head and wrote them down..............

Thank u so much Shona, i get all antsy when God is quiet. I start spazzing like He just isnt listening or, as if He's turning the other cheek. At times like that I dont know what He's expecting me to do.The Devil is sitting here trying to make a joke of my marriage. And with the way things are going, in the natural eye, it may actually appear that my marriage is just that. So many people are thinking that they are "getting away" with so much. All I can say is, they MUST not know who my Father is! So from now on ladies, when Satan comes knocking at your door with all his drama, just calmly say "Jesus, will You get that for me?"

Okay,Buttaflyy, I am here, I was feeling so down and discouraged I have not been online here in about a year, and for some reson I felt like signing in, Well it was to be incouraged, see my husband Jimmy, has been home for 2 years and he was in prison for 8 years, i tought things would get better but, they just got worse. I have been crying all day wondering why I waited for a man that is so self centered.. You see I am a God fearing women and faithful. I teach the youth Drama at my church and satin can not stand it so he uses him to get me to be angry and say thing's I don't mean. Thank you for letting God use you to remind me of the power of the tounge,, I am in Georgia not to far from you send me a message if you are interested in talking further.. God Bless You.. And be still and know that he is God... It is a mind game your husband is trying with you I can feel that.. Don't worry yourself with he will come around,, No weapon formed against you shall prosper!

i just got through posting my thread about things not going well and i read your post!! THANK YOU !!! you spoke of what is on my mind and weighing heavy on my heart and soul. I try to let Go take over my life and trust that he will show me the right things to do and say, but at times it seems like their is no clear path... once again thank you... I wish we were in the same city and state because i would dearly love to pray with you and for you ...God bless, take care and keep the faith.
Sincerely, Patricia:)

Ladies, first of all, i just want to tell u all I love you guys, truly from the bottom of my heart.PSMITH,jimmyzgrl,and Shona' a.k.a. Sugargallon,Kobe16,afresh30 you guys are truly a godsend, you are exactly the kind of women that i have been praying to God to connect me with.I just want to tell u how much u guys have encouraged me by your responses.Everyone was saying how encouraged they were from what i wrote, and how they were feeling similar, so of course Satan wasnt feelin that, he tries to attack me even harder, with doubt,negative thoughts,etc. But u guys have encouraged me so much to just hang in there.It reminds me that God isnt allowing me to go through all of this in vain.i had just been having thoughts of "just throwing in the towel, to heck with this,what am i waiting for, ive had enough!" but after talking to sugargallon last nite, it gave me hope to hold on.even when we think God is quiet, He is still moving..Sometimes we just have to get out of His way.Sometimes we think that God can use our help in blessing us..Not!! all we do is get in the way and mess things up.But i definitely look forward to talking to u guys some more in the future.jimmyzgrl, please pm me, id love to talk to u. p.s. it makes such a difference when people actually respond to the threads that are started,instead of just reading them and not leaving any feedback.you never know God may be trying to bless someone else with your testimony.So to all who read these threads, Speak up!!! i will talk to u guys soon.pray my strength in the Lord.love ya!!!

Xanobia I am here for you. Anytime you need an ear, Call me!

I just saw this post. And I lift you up in prayer, as I do the others. This past year has been full of blessing, after blessing, after blessing... and even more so doors closing, and another door closing, and another... which is God ordering my steps. Marriage is a minsitry by which trials come to make it stronger. Your ability to stand, and continue to stand is a testimony of God's Glory in life and Victory in Death. The fact that you can stand is to His glory, and the death of the lies around you that you able to still stand... that is victory.

The fact that you are callings things that are not as though they were, speaks life to those deadbones (or wounded marriages). Sister, I stand in agreement that our God is able.... able... able... to do exceedingly and abundant of all that we can think and ask.

I pray today for forgiveness, because in this blessed year, there has been some hurt and sorrow. I use to be an advid biblestudy participant. I knew what God was able to do and doing, and somehow over time, Satan had his time. After all was said and done, I removed myself (which was disobedient), and didn't want to have anything more to do with it. Your post just reminded me of how importnat and serious our roles are of being encouragers in the body. We as Christians need each other. I pray and offer to be someone that can pray with you!

Thanks so much rywill for your prayers and your taking the time out to respond.thats what its all about you guys, lifting each other up in prayer.being there for one another.so often when we are down we need to be edified, and then when the blessing comes through for us, satan attacks another person in the body of Christ, and were too caught up in our own lives, too busy to encourage or pray for someone else, when we were in the same jacked up mess the week before when God saw fit to have mercy upon us and bring us out of the bondage that we were entangled in.On the serious tip ladies,I know u all believe in the power of prayer, and there is strength in numbers.When two or three touch and agree... come on here somebody, i know u know the rest.I need to know where my true prayer warriors are at?? I need to know where my travailing women are at? God is laying something on my heart,and only the serious need apply.There is about to be a move of God's Spirit. I need my wailing,travailing,fasting,praying women to get with me, I would like to form a prayer group for prayer warriors,yokes are gonna be broken,there is going to be deliverance in a mighty way,people are gonna be set free.God is getting ready to do something awesome.I can feel that within my spirit.but-we all need to get on one accord,is anyone willing to take a stand with me?? i just feel that all these trials and tribulations are more than just about us and our men, thats only a small part of it.God has other children too besides us...Amen? If anyone is truly interested.please contact Sugargallon or myself, thanks so much, pray my strength in the Lord..Love u guys

I know this was sometime ago..not too long though..but just had to say

I LOVE YOU NOBI!!! :D cant wait to talk to ya!

u should buy the book the powerof a praying wife by stormie omartian it is very inspirational and u should buy the other 1 for ur husband which is called the power of a praying husband same author

Hi, I'm faily new here and I would just like to say that everytime I read a post, I really seem to get some incouragement out of them. U people in this forum are all so awesome. I admit I really get teary eyed while reading some of the posts but it's only cause some of them hit so close to home. My Jim was taken three months ago and it seems like for ever all ready.
I don't know how I am going to do waiting for allmost four yrs. HIs sis is my roomate and she thinks that I am crazy to wait for him, cause he's messed up so much in the past. He's used drugs his whole life and I have never been involved with drugs. I admit I've tried a couple but that was when I was a stupid teen. I get so confused sometimes I just feel like running away from everything and everyone. Jim turned my life around full circle. But I can't imagine what my life would be like without him. I was only with him for six months before he turned himself in, but I guess it was long enough to know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I was with him 24 7 and he quit doing meth he was one of the leading meth cooks here in Utah. I wasn't around him in 2005 but I've know him and his family for over 22yrs. I know I'm not getting any younger either and all I should need in my life is God. But I also like the company of a man that I can share everything with too.Sometimes I can't believe that I am willing to wait for him, but I can't on the other hand imagine being with anyone else either.I pray that God will point me in the right path. I also pray for everyone else not only my family and friends but for just plane everyone on this planet. Take Care and God Blesss and Keep the Faith..:) :) :) :)