Greetings everyone..it's been awhile since i posted in this forum. I have been goin through so much with my husband and his family and their webs of lies and deceit.:argh: it just seems like i havent had the strength to call out and travail to God on behalf of my husband, i am just so tired ya'll. Emotionally, spiritually, I am just drained. I feel so empty. I was attending a church but due to some things that were going on in there, I stopped attending. I felt that my Spirit man couldnt be nutured there. Now since I havent found a replacement, I dont go anywhere.There has been alot of turmoil caused by my husband and his family in our marriage. They are always interfering, hes cleaving to his mom instead of to me, and I feel so messed up. I asked God to restore my marriage. That has been my prayer for some time now. It seems like ever since I prayed that prayer, things have progressively gotten WORSE. It got so bad yall, that I wrote my husband a letter yesterday just telling him that I was tired of him putting his family in our business,hanging on their every word, and running to his moms for everything instead of coming to me, i told him that i was just tired, and that I wanted a DIVORCE. In my heart I really dont want a divorce, but I am just soooo tired(i just dont feel like i have the energy).I am drained.Emotionally and spiritually. It feels like I am fighting a losing battle. I am at work today and one of the patients from my office came in a prophesied to me. She said that God has already worked it out.She said to not even worry about it anymore. I just started crying. She said she knew what it was, but it wasnt for her to "come out and say" I had to speak it, and she definitely gave me confirmation. Confirmation that God hasnt left me, He is still here. And He has already worked it out. She said the Bible says No weapon formed against you shall prosper. Now I dont know what to do, cause I know when he reads that letter he's gonna be fuming:mad:, I wasnt rude or anything in the letter. I just told him that I am tired of him frontin on me for his family..I am tired of him acting one way in front of them to appease them, and when he gets in front of me, hes acting totally different.Please pray for me, I had to get it off of my chest.I dont want to throw in the towel on my 1 yr old marriage, but it just seems like his mom wont cut the cord and i get tired of competing cause it seems like i cant win...So just stand in agreement with me,that God will rectify this situation.

God is still with you, and she is right, " No weapon formed against you shall prosper".... Honey Im sorry things have gotten so far out of hand. Try, and I say try, because it is difficult to do..to let go and LET GOD......
He will never leave you nor forsake you, and good luck in finding a new church home where you have the support and spiritual strength you need! (((((Hugs)))))

God is always here! He does have it all worked out. But I have to comment on something you said about your husband. His cleaving to his mom is in essence her invitation into the marriage. He has to be the one to cut that cord, not his mom. When he does that I am sure that you will see immediate resolution to many of the "his" family issues.

Stay strong and prayerful.

God Bless.

Nuro I know how you feel I was once there and well my situatution may be a little diffrent from yours but i feel your pain totally God is in control and he won't ever leave us you see the enemies uses our weekness to try and control our lives causing pain and heartaches bit I an here to tell you to hold on the battle is not your it belongs to the Lord and I pray that you find peace in your relationship and continue to trust God will bring you and your husband through I love you my sis ter and please stay strong and fight for your marriage I sense you are a very strong and loving Lady who has so much to offer stand on Gods word and know that the truth will keep you strong "God hasn't bought you this far to leave you " he know your needs and he hears your cries I will continue to pray for you and your husband


Shaye

Buttaflyy: You cannot control your husband. I'm sure you've all ready figured that out. BUT...you can control YOURSELF. You need to do what God has told you to do and He will take care of your husband and the intrusive family.

The Word says, "Wives respect your husband." That's what you need to do. I wouldn't deal with all the antics of his family. If you hear something stupid or negative, just answer with a smile, "That's nice." And walk away.

Also, you may want to get Stormie O'Martin's book, "Power of a praying wife" I know the library probably has it, if you don't want to buy it. It will TOTALLY help guide you.

God bless girl!

Thank you ladies for all of your prayers and responses.Nuro's wife: I TOTALLY agree with you 100%. He has to be the one to cut the cord. But I guess hes just not prepared to do that. So where does that leave me? Hmm.. I am not sure.I called my mom in laws house on Friday, cause I know they went to see my husband on Friday, and when I called, his alleged baby mama answered ( I say alleged, because there is speculation that this child isnt his, but his mother and them seem like they dont want to know, they go get the baby, provide etc. and this girl still obviously wants my husband, she has made that very clear.my mom in law doesnt want to get the blood test cause they have already gotten attached to the child, and it seems like they know it may not be his, but do not want to know the truth one way or the other) my mother in law is always tellin this girl what goes on between me and my husband giving her false hopes etc..but i said all that to say this- I called my mom in laws house Friday cause they went to see my husband, and I was going to tell her to forward a call to my phone so I could talk to him about these things that are going on.I called and the baby mama answered the phone, I thought i had the wrong # so i hung up and called right back and my mom in law answered the phone. I was like is Tierra over your house, she was like no. i said oh, so u guys have the calls transferred over to her house so he can talk to her? She was like duh..uhh, and started stuttering cause i caught them out there yet trying to do dirt to me again. Where does it end?? I guess it never does. So he called me yesterday and I told him that i called there and i know hes been talking to her behind my back,etc. I told him that he can have her, i am so done. how much can one person take? i dont have time for any of these games.. i am truly fed up.thanks for ALL of you that are praying for me. But right now I think I am just gonna remove myself from the situation so that I can heal from all the hurt and let God deal with him. I am not accepting any calls,answering any letters or going to visit or send any money...

Girl, you do what you have to do to get through this. Yes, I think distancing yourself from the situation to protect yourself may help.

God loves you and so do we!!

Is your husband into the Word, or just you. If he's not in the Word then it's possible he doesn't have much concept of what a husband is because the bible lays it out. He is out of order and the way I know it he will have to cut the cord to momma and become one with his wife. God has an order and He does not play with us. If we want His blessings, we have to do things His way. He does not work on our terms but on his. I firmly believe that things will not get better until your husband becomes one with you because once he does that then he's in the order that our God wants. Your husband's eyes will open differently -- he'll be in a better position to recognize God and his blessings and will therefore be in a better position to acknowledge and appreciate just how good of a God he is.

You can be tired on all accounts but don't ever get spiritually tired, ever. Does your husband have any interest in reading the bible and learning about God's order and doing things His way?