WHAT CAN PARENTS DO TO HELP THEIR INMATE CHILDREN AND THEMSELVES TO ACCEPT AND DEAL WITH WHAT HAS HAPPENED?

I am not one to set back and let things just happen... my son has needed my help in the past, and I have been there...sometimes the system needs a little push to help them do the right things... and I will forever be on there Butts to make sure my son lives his days out as it should be, not what they decide it should be....Mother Rain

Mother Rain:

Haven't heard from you in awhile. Good to see you post.

You are absolutely correct. They only hope they have is for us to continually stand by them and see if we can get things done when needed. The kids who don't have parents visit them or family of some type, never get anything.

Sometimes I think we can go too far, but we must voice our opinions when it is necessary. On occasion you do get the DOC to hear what you are saying


Talk to you later girl.... Come back soon.


Donna

My son avoided prison but had to accept a plea and is a registered sex offender. at 18 the DA said either accept a plea to battery or face a trial 18 years in prison and chemical castration. Well now we are living with the hate mail and fall out of this. He didn't sexually violate or batter anyone but due to accepting the plea life is dealt. I love him but wow do i see the system failures.

Karen Bee:


You are so right. A Mother's love is unconditional. It is hard to explain to anyone except another Mother. But, there are times we have to stand strong with them also.... Yes, we must try daily to change the system.
You have done the very thing that most people do, because we are told by lawyers that a plea bargain is so much better than going to trial...

I too, have fell into this trap. Once you sign those papers, nothing is ever the same. We must try to fight the injustices in the system. Yes, it's the best we have got, but we really do need to make it better. It also is the best in the world, but that's not saying too much.

So, ladies, as Mothers, let's try hard to stand together and let the people who can make changes help us make them.

Sincerely

Donna

Hello Mothers
I see the unwritten suffering between all these posted lines. Visiting is so bittersweet, can't wait to see my son and then when the topic of freedom shadows the visit, I leave so emotionally exhaused. My son didn't take a plea bargin and then received "life". Then again that is what they offered him on the plea...25-life. He said he is still glad he didn't take it even though now they gave him 42-life. That was the extra punishment for going to trial. Appeal seems like a way to give false hope....pretending something is being looked into but more likely it is on the bottom of a large pile of magazines that never made it to our loved ones.

People have no idea what it is like to have thier world turned inside out and the emotions that come with having a child or anyone locked into the system. If your son has taken a plea and come home....find a way to shut those people out who feel the need to punish continuously.

Being a mother does not mean we condone crime. We just wonder how many people should be allowed to punish one person. The news media plays games with lives of the public figures as well as private citizens and usually the truth hasn't been determined behind the scenes. The public only remembers the negativity seen or heard broadcasted.

Once in the system, I think there are so many reasons to try to keep the slot filled. I think it is so important to have teens get accquainted by education of where and what they are headed for if they become involved with the courts.

I will stand firmly by my son in seeing that he does get decent treatment as long as I am left on this earth. Who knows what powers we may posess once we move on from here. Spirit is a strong thing! My best to all Mothers out there.

JAILHOUSE

I JUST SAW YOUR POST... SORRY IT TOOK SO LONG TO REPLY... I HAVE NOT SEEN YOU HERE IN AWHILE..... YOU ARE SO VERY RIGHT ABOUT ALL YOU HAVE SAID... WE WILL ALWAYS LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY.... I TOO, WILL STAND BY MY SON TO INSURE HE IS TREATED FAIRLY... THE DEPT OF CORRECTIONS IN NORTH CAROLINA HATE TO SEE ME COMMING BECAUSE THEY KNOW I WANT SOMETHING CHANGED WHEN I DO...

MY BEST WISHES TO YOU AND HOPE TO SEE MORE OF YOU HERE...

DONNA

Hi donna ...you right about what you saying.....I just wish I was with my son when he went trough all this .....i just found my Son again in December2002...and then it was to late.....but as long as i live .....I will fight for him...I wrote so many letters in the past Year´s to all those different places ,like the govenor,Lawyer sand so on......but most of them don´t even answer.

This System Sucks.....The Sentences are way up to high....My Son was charged with 2 counts of unarmed Robbery...to 30 Years!!!!!! They charged him so high because he is a so called Habituel Offender......Smoking pot and drinking under 21 ....little things really.He is only 23 Years now....

oh yes let me get my 2 cents in the prison system for the most part is rotton to the core and alot of the cos are just makeing their check; and the bad thing is the inmates have to pray each day their cos are haveing a good day; cause when thay have a bad day then everybody has a bad day; i had the opportiunty to visit travis hes been moved to lincolnton cl thay wernt rude but thay let us know right fast thay didnt want to fool with visiting day; my husband had to push me up a long hill with a narrow walkway to get to the visitor section; i was glad he went with me that time theres no way i could have gotton my wheel chair up that hill;the prison ws realy sorta nasty loking inside and outside but i did have a wonderful visit with travis havent seen him but one time seince 2001; now marion where buckie is is a nice place and either thay put up a big frount or the people there are really concerned and careing people both to inmates and visitors; plus the place was spotless; and ive wrote my share plus lots of the pto members have written places on account of buckie we as mothers have to stick togather and if we learn any thing new pass it on to the other members cause what worked for your son or daughter may help someone elses child personally i perfer sue myricks offine she gets you a answer quickly; travis found out my codition from his loud mouth sister and had been satisified at swan quater and he busted a fit to move closer home i called sue myricks office here in gastonia and talked to tom becker sue myrick called me back and said she understod that both of my sons had been moved closer to home when she heard travis was 400 miles from here she threw a fit and sent tom becker to swan quarter and monday morning he spoke to the warden and wed travis was on his way to lincolnton ci; this woman gets things done and called me and told me travis was being moved to lincolnton; i gotta give her hands up shes a class act all the way