View Full Version : Three way calling with someone in jail or prison

05-10-2003, 07:07 PM
Does anybody use three way calling feature on their phone to let a loved one to talk to someone they can't call directly? Is it hard and can they detect it and get in trouble?

11-14-2004, 08:03 PM
Mine does the three way thing because he cant call me directley, I didnt even know that it wasnt allowed, but we have never gotten in trouble for it. I dont see how they can detect it.

11-14-2004, 08:13 PM
i have 3 way calling but we dont use it, i think it depends on th phone service provider if they think you are hanging up, hear the click to put one on hold etc then they disconnect the call

11-14-2004, 08:18 PM
I know at the prison that Dave is on...on the recording before the call goes threw it says "If you try to use call waiting or three-way calling...your call will be disconnected". Actually...I think it's like that at all the prisons in NJ. I know it is not allowed...but some people know how to work it and get away with it!! I have never done fear of losing a call...or him getting in trouble. He has never tried to call me three-way...even though I would love to talk to him...I don't want him to get in trouble. Our luck...he would get caught!!!!!! Hugs:p

11-15-2004, 01:55 AM
becareful because if its mci they can detect that you are 3 waying and block your number forever. You will have to change your number of get a second line.

11-15-2004, 02:09 AM
Yes, it happens all the time. You just have to make sure when you call the other person, don't click back over until the other person answers. (hint hint LOL) If they, MCI, hears the ringing, they will detect it and give you a warning. Good luck! :D

11-20-2004, 11:37 PM
Well I have used three way calling and waited till the other person was talking to click back over. In the middle of the phone call for no reason it hung up. Now they passed out a memo (to my honey) saying if anybody got caught using it or call forwarding then they could get a DOR and that number could be blocked from the system and they could lose their phone privileges. Well I just now found out that my number has been blocked so I got what they call custom ringing and it gives me another phone number while getting to keep the original. So now I'll really know for sure its my baby calling when it rings different, since he will be the only one with that number.:thumbsup:

11-21-2004, 12:08 AM
all i can say , lol , is why listen to the same message you have been , when u can click and dial at the same time ?? if im payin , why are they mad ??

11-21-2004, 07:52 AM
One reason they give for not allowing 3 way calling is because inmates(in PA at least),can only call approved numbers on their list.It prevents fraud,contacting victims and things of that nature.
He can't even call me when I am visiting him if I stay in a hotel,when they transfer the call to my room,the new phone system thinks it is a 3 way call and disconnects,then it is reported to security at the prison to investigate and the inmate loses phone privilidges,plus they can be written up for it and given a case.

11-21-2004, 08:58 AM
Does anybody use three way calling feature on their phone to let a loved one to talk to someone they can't call directly? Is it hard and can they detect it and get in trouble?

Pause for a moment and ask yourself the important questions..

1...Why is he forbidden from calling that person directly?
2...Why is he trying to "violate" the rules?
3...Why is he trying to get you to help him break the rules?
4...What penalty will he pay if caught?
5...What penalty will YOU pay if caught?

If you don't want YOUR calls from him forbidden, then abide by the rules. Don't do that 3-way calling. If you choose to try and skate around the rules, don't cry when you get caught

11-21-2004, 09:05 AM
My ex has to call me via 3-way. I only have a cell phone. Hes been able to get through quite a few times; however, i only actually got to talk to him once so far. Until he gets into the FOB, that is how it goes until he gets his phone cards.

11-21-2004, 09:07 AM
For 14 months, I use d 3-way calling so that Sebastian and I could talk with friends and family together. Our local carrier is SBC and we were billed for prison calls by Consolidated. Those are the local companies here in Illinois. I also forwarded my home phone to my cell phone so he could reach me wherever I was. Yes, I heard the recording at the beginning of the call about not forwarding but I took my chances. We never had any problems. Having said that, I wouldn't want anyone to get into trouble or lose the privilege of talking to their loved one so even though I did it I'm not recommending anyone do it. Just givin' ya the facts in my situation.


11-21-2004, 09:07 AM
I would never chance it. You lose your phone priv. forever if they catch you.

11-28-2004, 04:59 PM
I don't think that using 3 way calling is so much a way for them to get in touch with someone they aren't supposed to. (At least in my case it isn't). We use 3 way calling so that he can talk to my mother... who lives on the other side of the country and can't afford the HUGE collect call fees that they charge because she is out of state... and so that he can talk to his brother for the same reason... there is no rule breaking here... he isn't trying to contact someone that he isn't allowed too, just trying to save some money for all concerned. :)

In my case it is a bit different, as there is no message saying that "special calling features" are not allowed... so it's entirely possible that the company that we go through does not restrict that... I don't know about other places though.

11-28-2004, 05:05 PM
In New Jersey the recording says you can not use call waiting or 3 way or you will be disconnected. I have known people who have used the 3 way but I also know that if you get caught you will get in trouble. And I am not oging to use my time or money for him to talk to someone else on a 3 way!

11-28-2004, 05:47 PM
I do it for his friends sometimes. Twice it has been detected. It comes on and says "A third-party call has been detected on this line. This call will be reported." It repeats it once, then that's all. We've never had any trouble with it.

11-30-2004, 09:49 AM
We've done the 3 way calling, knew how to trick the phone and we've also been caught for it. But the getting caught was a fluke. The phone didn't notify them of this, it's a long story, but story short we still got caught and lost phone privileges for 6 months.

Retired - S
11-30-2004, 12:21 PM
My sister in law does it for my brother in law. He is in county right now and of course you are not supposed to do it. They know how to block it to where the phone can't detect it. But they don't call people he isn't supposed to. She uses it to call us since we can't accept collect calls anymore or his sister who can't accept them either. I only did it once for my husband while he was in and that was it. He never really needed to do it.

11-30-2004, 12:41 PM
See, I dont have a house phone, and my cell phone doesnt accept collect calls, and I have absolutly no way to make it so it does accept them, so there HAS been times where Lance has gotten a 3 way in order to talk to me!!!!

11-30-2004, 12:53 PM
Well, I know in NY, in the county jails it gives the message, "If you make a 3-way call, your call will be disconnected", but in the state prisons I've never had a problem and they don't have a message or any restrictions that I've ever known of. I've called plenty of people for Billy on 3-way....and it's not that it's people he's NOT supposed to talk's people that can't accept collect his mom...she's about the only one I really call for him.

11-30-2004, 02:28 PM
In Federal you can't make 3-way or have your call forwarded to another number. Which makes it bad if you are used to having your home calls forwarded to your cell when you're out. So we have to stick to a schedule. If you get caught they loose their phone privledges for a long time. I sure wouldn't chance that. Those calls are too important.

12-01-2004, 01:40 PM
Another thing...the phone doesn't just disconnect you on three way calling. I was talking to Jeremy and I was on my cordless and it picked up a neighbors phone call and it was ringing and it disconnected us. I was so mad! He called right back but how can you stop some random interference? I know don't use a cordless right? :pLOL Well at that time I didn't have any other. But just thought I would tell bout that cuz they thought it was a three way call.

08-22-2005, 11:17 PM
What happens to them when they get caught, besides us losing our phone privliges.

Doc's Sis
08-23-2005, 05:33 AM
In Ohio, they do have a way of finding out about 3 way calls. Recently, I placed a call to Doc's attorney so Doc could leave a message on his machine. Was done because Doc was not able to call him directly - something to do with MCI!! Well, before Doc could leave a message for the attorney, this recording came on saying that they had detected a 3 way call and there will be an investigation!!! That one scared me but so far, nobody has asked either of us what it was all about.

08-23-2005, 06:28 AM
you can do the three way calling if you don't make it so obvious. If you play it off right, it can be done but if your loved one is caught there's a possibility that all the person's phone calls are taken away and they get thrown into the box. It's a win-lose situation and should be taken with much caution.

08-25-2005, 09:33 AM
I Heard That They're Getting Smart And Connecting Computers To The Phones, That Way They Can Detect Who Youre Calling And If Youre Using Three Way, I Guess You Cant Really Use Three Way Anymore, They Might Disconnect Your Call...i Could Be Wrong

08-27-2005, 11:02 PM
Im not sure if it's just tha detention center,but jus like NJ phones,it says before tha phone call on tha recording 'if u use 3 way or call waitin features u will be disconnected' blazay blazay..i've done it once or twice,but u gotta do it REALLY quick,maybe between 1 an 2 seconds,an i think he presses a number tha whole time until u click back over..but i've messed up a few times an tha call hung up..

08-28-2005, 10:20 AM
the places where 3way calling is not allowed...some people just click over and call the 3rd number and wait for someone to pick up then they click back over...because the ringing will hang it up... but then again some places normally allow it. it is kool to let your man call 3 way once in awhile but dont make it an often thing...because if the ppl dont want to pay for him to call them direct..then they are not that important anyways...please dont be fooled. thanks!

Doc's Sis
08-29-2005, 06:49 AM
I'd not place a 3 way for friends of Doc's but do it for Doc so he and other members of my family can communicate. If he calls them direct, it costs them $20 PER 15 minute call.
if the ppl dont want to pay for him to call them direct..then they are not that important
Other members of my family do love Doc and he is VERY important to them....but they have very low income and can not afford those $20 calls.

CJ's Man
08-30-2005, 08:45 AM
During my busy season, when i was making a considerble amount of more money than i am now, i put money on my phone and CJ's sister's phone. Her sister has custody of her son while she's in there and so she can talk to him and her family I did that. At one time, i didn't know that an inmate could have more than one number to call, so i only put money on her sister's phone and her sister would three way me. It's been seven months and we never heard anything about it. Now that I'm about broke each week, i only put money on my own account because they charge you a fee if you don't put at least 30 on each account. So now I 3way her sister so she can talk to her and her son. I can't see why that would be a problem, but I guess if it's against the rules i just have to pray we don't get caught. As you all know, the families of the inmates get the financial hardship, so I just can't swing two numbers right now. This is the only way for her to at least get a call or two a week to her son.

09-01-2005, 11:34 AM
ga says it will be disconnected to but if you are doing a 3 way call and don't click back over to your inmate till the person answers it goes through and doesn't disconnected but if your clink back over while it is ringing it will disconnect you. if you can answer a beep for call waiting then you should be able to use 3 way as long as you wait untill the person answers to click but over to your inmate. hope this helps ,christy

09-01-2005, 11:37 AM
it's different everywhere! My husband did three-way a lot in New York. He said he had to blow into the never got into detail and asked why.... :confused:

09-01-2005, 05:15 PM
I have, to let Joe talk to his mom... *Shrugs*

09-01-2005, 06:06 PM
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!! LOL! My husband got away with making 3 way calls for almost 2 years. Just last week he got a DR and is in confinement for making a 3 way. IMHO...It really isn't worth it if it's against the rules in your state!!

09-01-2005, 08:50 PM
my man calls me on three way now on my cell...we abused our phone priveledges and my phone's been off since april 1st. so for now he uses his "hook up".

09-05-2005, 02:31 PM
it's different everywhere! My husband did three-way a lot in New York. He said he had to blow into the never got into detail and asked why.... :confused:

hahaha, it sounds REALLY weird, but thats how it is in la county jail and some of the other ones. They have a machine that hears the clicking over, so if you blow really hard into the phone, it doesnt hear or pick up on it, so it doesnt disconnect you. I didn't understand it at first either and i was kind of weirded out too but its the only way it works!!

09-09-2005, 12:08 AM
Well here in Michigan they tell u in the middle of the recording if they hear anything no 3rd party calls are allowed but they dont hang up the phone but as far as forwarding your not suppose to do that either but I do it all the time and they have never given me any problem about that at all so far~! I keep the calls forwarded while I'm gone to my cell and I forward the calls to his brother's cell phone all the time because it only costs him 8.00 to call me collect or debit but it cost him 21.35 to call his brother so it's just easier on everyone to forward the calls but I agree if he wasnt allowed to be talking to someone I dont think that I would be helping him do that I wouldnt want to lose our priviledges ~~~!!!!!


09-09-2005, 01:45 PM
There is ALWAYS a risk of consequence of breaking the DOC rules.
I think it all depends on what state you are in and whether or not it's something they enforce.
Thanks for sharing your husband's experience, Marie. That's horrible.

I Love Chris
09-10-2005, 08:38 AM
The messages from the Marine base say you can't use three way on the recording. It says "If you use three way, your call will be disconnected and this call is being monitored and recorded."

11-07-2005, 11:14 AM
Does anybody use three way calling feature on their phone to let a loved one to talk to someone they can't call directly? Is it hard and can they detect it and get in trouble?
My friend was caught using 3-way calling and he lost 30 days phone privilages for each time he was caught. Once they catch you the first time, they listen to all your conversations to find more. They told him if they found any more they would consider it a repeated offense and add more time on instead of loosing the phone.

11-10-2005, 01:08 PM
I asked this question a while back, I was considering it for my baby's brother. But I found out that if we got caught it depends on the CO that gets the info but he can give a warning the first time or he could suspend my Man's phone priv. for a min. of 6 months up to like a year! I'm not taking the chances on that one. My advice get ALL the info from the prison before hand, know the ins and outs before you do it! I agree that is me paying the bill and so on but we're at their mercy.

11-10-2005, 04:07 PM
PERFECT advice Jami!!!


11-11-2005, 01:28 PM
I don't know if it's against the rules where he's at now or not. He helps me with the phone bill, and he only has a short time left anyway, so when he wants to "sell" a three-way call I just laugh at him, and pick up a pen to write the number down. I have no idea what he's trading for, I asked once, but I forgot.