ericsbaby
09-11-2005, 01:26 AM
I'm Ericsbaby and have been reading PTO for a while. This is my first time writing. My fiance's ESO date is in 2006. We have a year left. He is an SO but says he's innocent, so does his family. Today I'm down because this type of relationship is new to me and it's hard, seems too hard at times. We met and knew almost instanly that we were meant for each other. We have known each and have been engaged for 3 months now. Today I found out some info about him that he has not shared with me yet and it just made me question if I'm doing the right thing by waiting for him and committing to marry someone incarcerated. I know many of you have felt the same way at one time or another. Any advice? :confused:
I do love him but just feeling a little down about things today.:cry:
I must say I enjoy reading your threads, they help we when I need to hear from someone who understands what I'm going through.
longhair3236
09-11-2005, 02:17 AM
hey, im angie, how long have you known this guy? well me and my husband have been married for about 10 years and separated since 1999. i will never love another man like i love him and always will. right before we separated, his 12 year old daughter said he had been molesting her since she was 7, she is 18 now. at first i didnt believe her because she was a typical 12 year old, you know, sneaky, lied some, but when she told me exactly how my husband was in bed, i knew she was telling the truth. i felt so bad. before she said anything i never even thought about molestation very much, but now every time i see a man with a little girl, i cant help wondering and i dont put nothing past a grown man. he always got so mad when he heard anything about someone molesting a child, but i guess you never know. it drives me crazy, and of course he denies it. i will always love him, but we can never be together again. he is now in elmore co for different charges and has never been convicted of his molesting his own daughter and he probably never will. oh well, i dont know what your boyfriend did, but please be careful. good luck. you never really know a person totally, not ever. hope this helped. maybe it can help you think about things a little longer before you marry this guy. well gotta go. you can write me if you want to. (delete email address)
rottn
09-11-2005, 07:44 AM
Welcome to PTO. The only advice I can give you is to take your time. I wish you luck and we will be here for you no matter what decision you make.
melbo
09-11-2005, 08:47 AM
Welcome to PTO...glad to have you here! Hang in there sweetie and try to stay positive.
joeswife
09-11-2005, 08:51 AM
Welcome to PTO!! Stay strong!
ericsbaby
09-11-2005, 10:56 PM
Sorry guys still getting use to posting and made a mistake and posted twice. Tried to delete this post but could not figure out how.
ericsbaby
09-11-2005, 11:00 PM
:) Thanks you all for the encouragement. Thanks longhair3236, you're right you never really know someone. We are taking this year to get to know each other better and I'm getting to know his family. I do love this guy very much. I have clarity about the info that he had failed to mention to me in the past. I love him and will stand by him through this time. Going on vacation so I'll check you all out week after next. stay strong and you're in my prayers.:wave:
DeniseJ
09-12-2005, 09:14 AM
glad you found us and welcome to the alabama forum...just to let you know, it took Kenny some time to tell me everything about his crime too..because he was scared of it running me off, but mostly because i didn't want to hear it...because it didn't matter to me, I simply Love Him reguardless...
take care on your vacation...look forward to see you back
denise
Lysbeth
09-26-2005, 12:34 AM
Welcome to PTO and especially to the Alabama forum family - glad you found us! :)