There's been alot written about white women and black men but not much about the opposite. Even when I'm on a visit with my husband, I can honestly say that out of the 3 facilities I've been to with him over the years, I've never seen a black woman with a white man. I'm black and my husband is puerto rican and even that has been rare to see. It doesn't seen to be a popular interacial mix. What do you think?

I agree with you. White women and Black men or even white women and Hispanics-Puerto Ricans- are more common than Black women and White, Hispanic, or Puerto Rican. My daughter's aunt who is a Black woman is married to a White man. I wonder why you never see those kind of couples?

I am mixed (Black and White) and I use to hear so much stuff when I was with a white guy.

It is pretty common around here...I see black women/white men...alot. There are more black women/white men couples at our visits than there are black men/white women. I do remember when (around here) it was more commen to see a black man & a white woman tho...

I have seen quite a few here in houston at county and some at the prison where my husband is .. my husband is white and i am west indian.. What i have learned is that some women who are in interracial relationship that in the prison system they feel as though if they go to visit that they may caue some sort of problem for their man..

You see it way more now than in the past. Especially in the cities. But, no, I have never seen it at any time while visiting

Really? Is it more unacceptable in Texas to be involved in an interracial relationship?I have seen quite a few here in houston at county and some at the prison where my husband is .. my husband is white and i am west indian.. What i have learned is that some women who are in interracial relationship that in the prison system they feel as though if they go to visit that they may caue some sort of problem for their man..

it isnt real common here in Illinois either .. my hubby is white and we get a lot of curious stares especially from black men

Im black/asian and my husband is hispanic. we get stares and comments all the time here in texas when i go visit him. this co asked me if i was visiting my friend when she had the visitation slip in her hand stating in capital letters that i am his wife. i dont really care what people think and we just laugh at it. I seen one other black girl whose husband was white at the same prison but other than that i dont see it too often anywhere in or out of prison.

It is not very common here in NYC. In all actuality I don't see that mix too often on the streets either. Not saying I have never but you just don't see that mixture too often. I believe in prison you won't see it too often because most men hang out with there own race while in there. In the facilities I have visited I have only seen white woman with black or hispanic men.

Wow, honey :) Let me give you an example. My mom is puerto rican and was with a black man for 5 years, prior to that she was with another black man for 4 then after that it was 2. It's acually not that rare to see a puerto rican with black. Culture wise we have alot in common. Oh and here in the south it's common to see black and white couples men and women together ALLLLLLLL the time. I moved from boston to florida almost 3 years ago, and for some reason is much more accpted here then up north. When it comes to it hun You love him He loves you and that's It. Take Care I hope this helps. Pm me if you want to chat as well.

There's been alot written about white women and black men but not much about the opposite. Even when I'm on a visit with my husband, I can honestly say that out of the 3 facilities I've been to with him over the years, I've never seen a black woman with a white man. I'm black and my husband is puerto rican and even that has been rare to see. It doesn't seen to be a popular interacial mix. What do you think?

wow, i've never really paid this much attention. i'm seeing more and more IR couples, so it kind of skips my mind. and chris and i rarely bring up the fact that we are different races! although there is clearly racial tension in the prison system i haven't experienced it personally with chris *yet*. i'm black and he's mixed, white and puerto rican. he does tell me stories about how the prison yards and dayrooms are always "segregated". the "morenos" on one side and the "hispanics" on the other. he says that while they are all for coming together and cooperating when the time is needed, they aren't neccessarily friends, or even associates at any other time, and sometimes the tension between them is enough to cause a problem. he also mentions that he will probably have problems when word spreads that he is with me and i am black, not because it IS a problem, but because with the general atmosphere of the prison system, people nitpick and find reasons to cause problems for each other. jealousy is a B! however, i've clearly seen him helping out other inmates of all races. i'm hoping that when we have contact visits we don't get weird stares because of our skin color, but then again, even if we do i wouldn't care. those 4-8 hours per week with him are too precious to be wasted paying attention to someone who should be paying attention to their visitor and not me and my man!

My siggy will tell you where I'm coming from with this.
Not to be cliche but I am a smart, Black sister who is blessed with a gorgeous Italian Stallion (LOL)

You really do not see these kind of couples sad to say. Unless I've missed something my man and I are the only BlackW/WhiteM couple on the floor, always.
I can deal with curious stares from anyone else but when I get them from the typical IRR couples, I get angry. Most of the time it's just stares, but I recently had a situation where someone said something. When they called out my man's name so I could bring his package. I guess something about his name screamed out WHITE, because A black woman made a remark to her friend something along the lines of " oh sh*t another lost one..."and then her friend replied "oh I could never give myself to a white man, I might as well let him whip me too." :angry:
I felt the heat creep up in my face and I wanted to educate that b** but I remember I had someone more important inside to deal wtih.

I can't understand why people are so hung up on the past. I don't understand why people are still making judgements based on the color of someone's skin....

Love is LOVE regardless

Wow...I'm glad this thread was started!!

I'm black dating a puerto rican male. At our visit I saw mostly all black or all white couples. i did see two black inmates with Hispanic females. I was the only black woman there with a hispanic male. When the visiting area was packed full...Manny even looked around and said "Wow...this is odd!" I asked him what he was talking about and he goes "Now I see brothas with white women or hispanic women all the time...but I have never seen a hispanic dude with a sista" He was referring to us and said we were the odd-ball couple!!

I know there are more of us black women out there dating non-black men who are inmates. I wish I would see it more at Dixon, but I guess they figure they will stir up trouble for their men. Until Manny opens his mouth, most people think he's a very light skinned black male. So if they don't know him.....they think we are a black couple!!

I did get a call from him today and he his whole unit is talking about "How Manny pulled A Sista!!!" I think that is the funniest thing. They are teasing him and saying that he must have talked some serious game to pull a black woman from Chicago and make her visit him up at Dixon!! :dance:

he said the one black male inmate that was at the table next to us who is a friend of his bowed down to him once they got back to their unit!!:bow:

I think it was meant as a joke though!! He said they are calling him "Mr Big Stuff" now!!!

If I'm remember right there is a couple at the prison my almost-husband is at...I think the woman is black and her man is asian.
I've seen them once or twice, but usually I see a couple white women there with with black men, sometimes theres 2 or 3 interracial couples there including myself and my almost-husband.

But I think I do see a lot less black women w/ white/hispanic men.

My best friend was married to a white man(who beat the hell out of her), then she was married a black man(who just about killed her) and now she is engaged to a white man, who thinks the sun rises and sets on her a@@! They have been living together for close to 20 years now and just let someone say something to her or him and he will go right through them.

My other(black) best friend dates MEN:)! She doesn't give a damn what color they are. We're all just people as far as she is concerned. But, she just got engaged to this absolutely sweet and cute as hell black man:)! She's the one, we call ourselves a black and white cookie! I am white with dark hair and she is black with blond hair.

.....They are teasing him and saying that he must have talked some serious game to pull a black woman from Chicago and make her visit him up at Dixon!! :dance:

he said the one black male inmate that was at the table next to us who is a friend of his bowed down to him once they got back to their unit!!:bow:

I think it was meant as a joke though!! He said they are calling him "Mr Big Stuff" now!!!

I could believe it if that wasn't a joke. It's so funny you said that, My man got a reaction like that too. he told me that after our 1st visit he and I were a hot topic and it was all good. His buddies were saying he had to have some serious pull if he could handle a sistah:rolleyes: . One of them was brave enough to talk about my behind and earned a punch in the head for it LOL. (btw,That bowing smilie is killing me!)

Up here in Michigan you see a variety of interracial relationships! And when I say variety and there's lots of it going on here in this state.

Come to think of it, out of all the facilities I have been to (4) I have never seen that mix. Now on the streets, I see it all the time here in Charlotte. Makes me no difference-love is truly blind anyway!!!

Don't you wish the world was color blind? I've lived in NY all my life. I don't even notice! We are all people. What difference does it make, really?

My siggy will tell you where I'm coming from with this.
Not to be cliche but I am a smart, Black sister who is blessed with a gorgeous Italian Stallion (LOL)

You really do not see these kind of couples sad to say. Unless I've missed something my man and I are the only BlackW/WhiteM couple on the floor, always.
I can deal with curious stares from anyone else but when I get them from the typical IRR couples, I get angry. Most of the time it's just stares, but I recently had a situation where someone said something. When they called out my man's name so I could bring his package. I guess something about his name screamed out WHITE, because A black woman made a remark to her friend something along the lines of " oh sh*t another lost one..."and then her friend replied "oh I could never give myself to a white man, I might as well let him whip me too." :angry:
I felt the heat creep up in my face and I wanted to educate that b** but I remember I had someone more important inside to deal wtih.

I can't understand why people are so hung up on the past. I don't understand why people are still making judgements based on the color of someone's skin....

Love is LOVE regardless
WOW...unbelievable!!!! So sad...they are the ones LOST! I am black and my boyfriend (well should I say fiance', he asked me to marry him Sept 1 once this is over and I haven't answered yet) is Italian (stallion). I AM SO HAPPY, but I am scared too. But anyway enough about that.

I have been so eager to see him till I guess everything has gone over my head LOL. I wear blinders sometime. I was married to a white man for 11 yrs. SO I guess I have learned the "ZONE OUT" LOL

Take care and remember what's important

JASMINE & KRIS

I could believe it if that wasn't a joke. It's so funny you said that, My man got a reaction like that too. he told me that after our 1st visit he and I were a hot topic and it was all good. His buddies were saying he had to have some serious pull if he could handle a sistah:rolleyes: . One of them was brave enough to talk about my behind and earned a punch in the head for it LOL. (btw,That bowing smilie is killing me!)

I just asked Manuel in a letter what the talk was about us. I gotta know what was said!! :-) I know that one black friend of his that bowed to him did say something because he was staring his behind off. I'll report what was said once I know. I told Manuel not to hit anybody if they made ac comment on my behind because I have one of those Beyonce behinds...so I know somebody said something!! :thumbsup: I told him he doesn't need more time added for some man's comment!!

My fiance is hispanic and I'm a black woman and I know what you mean. We are in Texas and I have never seen a single couple like us. He has been in and out for about 1 year now and since I've been visiting him we are the only black W/ Hispanic or white M couple I've seen. It's funny though because he has a really hispanic last name and everytime I go see him and give the guards his number when his name pops up they give me this really strange look and say him name out loud to make sure they have the right person. When he was in county they would call the visitors up by the last name of the inmate they were there to see and when I walked up I got all kinds of stares. I actually don't mind that much I like the attention. I love my man and I'm not about to be ashamed of him for anyone. I've never gotten any negative coments, only funny ones, like this one hispanic Guard told me " you're dating a beaner?" I thought it was funny and he laughed too. So I think you just have to take things like that lightly. Who cares what other people think. I love my sexy latino lover!

Really? Is it more unacceptable in Texas to be involved in an interracial relationship?




oh hi mami!!!
hola!
and how are u today, all of u guyz?
i hope fine,az i am new here,from ny like u susan.
i kno that for us here in ny,jer-z area, i kno i see
PLENTY OF BLACK WOMEN FROM TEENZ AND UP,
to adults wit ESPECIALLY LATINOS & even whites.
so i am used to it,and it dont bother me to see it,
i luv it! :p AND I KNO IT IZ acceptable in nyc, jer-z alot!
the whole interracial thing iz prettie hot to me,az
u r combining TWO different races az one,and to me
being of latina descent,mixed wit trini,&dominican,
i kno alot of people who are black, we ALL com from
the sam place in history anyway.........
but susan from ny who started
this good thread,
i will HOPE u pm me az i will u,since we live
near each other,az i hope ALL will welkome
me on here az well!

huggz & besos......

i live in nj too but i can count the # of times i've seen a black fem/white male couple on one hand. :confused: no one does seem to flip out about it though..i mean you get the occasional a-hole, especially in certain parts. i'm cool with it though one of my closest friends and i have always dated white guys. :D

completely off topic: wentworth miller from that show prison break..is a beautiful man. and welcome thugsdreammami:D

I just started watching the show...so I don't know who is who? But is that the brotehr that just got in...the one that is masterminding the escape? If so, the man is fine!! I haven't told Manny about the show and don't plan on....then he'll watch and no I like that guy with the pretty eyes!! he knows I like any guy with pretty eyes...inclluding him....he has the cutest hazel-green eyes I've ever seen!!


completely off topic: wentworth miller from that show prison break..is a beautiful man. and welcome thugsdreammami:D[/quote]

My fiance is white and I am Caribbean American (Black). My family originates in St Kitts which is located in the British West Indies. Being that Dave and I are both Hippies is enough to get looks. He'll wear his bandanas, and Harley shirts, and I wear pretty much the same if not other 70's gear. When I first moved into the country ya know all eyes were on me. I kinda liked the attention because some races have a certain stigma on them judging by the color of theur skin. But me??? I got out the biker jaket, and the biker boots and the rock & roll T-shirts and that was that. I would hear KOOL..... Aw your KOOL.... Your into Skynyrd & Floyd, and The Stones and all that? I was like yep. I have always had an attraction for white men!:p Mmmmmm I know this is gonna sound sick but the whiter in color the better. I like white skin. My preference. And I'm into the white guys with the long hair and that Biker/Hippie look. I don't care what anyone thinks. I am me, and I have to please me. I knowhe loves me blind, and I love him blind, and we have a beautiful Blended and mixed family. I'd have it no other way! So we're all in it together ya know??? PLU People Like Us! ;)
Sincerely Yours Niecey Colette

My fiance is hispanic and I'm a black woman and I know what you mean. We are in Texas and I have never seen a single couple like us. He has been in and out for about 1 year now and since I've been visiting him we are the only black W/ Hispanic or white M couple I've seen. It's funny though because he has a really hispanic last name and everytime I go see him and give the guards his number when his name pops up they give me this really strange look and say him name out loud to make sure they have the right person. When he was in county they would call the visitors up by the last name of the inmate they were there to see and when I walked up I got all kinds of stares. I actually don't mind that much I like the attention. I love my man and I'm not about to be ashamed of him for anyone. I've never gotten any negative coments, only funny ones, like this one hispanic Guard told me " you're dating a beaner?" I thought it was funny and he laughed too. So I think you just have to take things like that lightly. Who cares what other people think. I love my sexy latino lover!

First off you make it seem as texas only has a few ppl but you that may just be your county.. cuz come here to Houston and you will see many interracial couples.. i have been to san antoino and seen interracial couples as well as dallas and forth worth.. So you cant say that no other interracial couple here in texas. For i am West indian and my husband is white.. and we gets no drama..

Really? Is it more unacceptable in Texas to be involved in an interracial relationship?

To answer this question .. no its not .. i was just making a statement for i have talked to many others who believe that the prison system is basically what they see on tv.. not necessarily from the state of texas but all over ..

So i may have made my statement wrong i didnt mean all and i didnt mean only in the state of texas..

Hey Jillian:
Thanks so much for posting to mine! Your little one is adoreable. Hey I was wondering is your guy light in complexion? Maybe that's why you get the looks. I know what you mean by how they call out the name. My fiance's last name ends in ski....... so they know that it's a polish last name and they look at me. I don't recall there being black women with white men in county or even in state. It's always white girls visiting black guys. You sound like a real nice person girl. Please keep intouch!
Niecey Colette.
Oh P.S. How long is your guy in and what is he in for? If you'd rather not say on the board......My E-mail address is **Email address removed per PTO policies. Please PM this member**. E-mail me anytime.
Niecey Colette

Hello, I am one of the rare. I am black and my husband is white. I never see black women with white men and I go to see my husband at calipatria state prison.

There's been alot written about white women and black men but not much about the opposite. Even when I'm on a visit with my husband, I can honestly say that out of the 3 facilities I've been to with him over the years, I've never seen a black woman with a white man. I'm black and my husband is puerto rican and even that has been rare to see. It doesn't seen to be a popular interacial mix. What do you think?
Same here Wife C -- I think in my time with my husband I have seen 1 maybe two tops Black women with a white man and 1, two tops with a hispanic man.

What do I think? I think because of the swagger, passion, physical strength and complexion of a Black man, that there is a fascination about him. It's like the latest style -- everybody wants one so they line theirself up to get themself one.

Aside from those differences, I do believe that non-Black women in relationships with Black men find that they are basically the same as men of other races. That there are differences among the races but when you get into the core of the man, what they find is men are men and that they all do the same men things.

I'm Latina (duh LOL) and my man is Black, big freakin' deal. NOBODY had ever wondered or at least said it or showed it to me with the exception of the older Latina that I helped up the staircase to the visiting room well and not until she saw that the man I was visiting was infact Black. I swear the hostility we hold towards our own is more prevalant than the black/white, etc crap ever is....

Just me and him and we don't really care,
Patty

I've seen one black woman with a white man in the visiting room at the prison my man is at; Green Bay Corr. Inst., WI. But I don't go as often as I'd like because of the distance so I can't really say how many come there. Once I get in the VR, I can't see anybody but him anyway :drool: :D.

Where I live, though, in Texas; I see more and more of black women with white guys out on the streets. It is becoming more common, thank goodness!

I see it all the time. Its as common as... being gay these days! I think people have just let go of their inhibitions and are following their hearts where ever it may lead them! Some of us right into the prisons! ;) I see it both on the street and in the visiting area! Rather I want to or not! Its not quite as common for black women to date outside their race but... with less and less options I dont see why we shouldnt!! I am fully black and have dated, white, mexican, asian, mixed... hell Ive dated them all! A man is a man... love is love. Once you stop looking for the differences... you dont even notice it!

I'm black and the absolute love of my life husband is white. In the prison he's in, I've seen a couple of other couples like us, a few more WW/BM, and some others but altogether a good hand full of interracial couples nevertheless. My husband is extremely proud of me cause he shows our picture to everyone he comes in contact with, the CO's everybody; at first I thought he was kidding about showing everyone but quickly I could tell because when I walk in the place people are staring at me before he even come out to visit. Once he does come out we get even more stares and I see out of the corner of my eyes those some people passing whispers back and forth to each other. At first it kinda use to bother me, but now we both just laugh at them and feel sorry for them, because we see them prejudice cowards. They would rather stare, point, and whisper about us than to realize that we are together because we have found true love that surpasses color and all other obstacles (hello we are maintaining a long distance marriage in prison/outside world). We allowed love to define us, instead of us defining what love should be and how it should look. Although I haven't personally experienced any backlash from anyone in the prison (but I have from a few stupid family members though), my husband says he has from a few inmates, CO's, and an assistant warden. He says although it's highly offensive to him, he doesn't sweat their stupid comments as long as he never witnesses them saying them to me directly. He says surprising though that aside from those few, everyone else just sees me as a faithful wife by his side and doesn't think anymore about it.
My personal thoughts about it all is, life is to short and to full of uncertainties to limit true love to the color of ones skin. It's hard enough to find a good man (in prison or not) as it is. So if you find one; (I don't care if he has blue, grey, and green plaid stripes running from head to toe and a wavy yellow line across his forehead, if he treats you like a queen, respects you, your body, and your mind, always puts you and your wants and needs above his own, loves being in love with you and all he wants in return is the same kind love) then the heck with everyone else. Real love is like the lotto, you may win a few $$ here and there, but the jackpot is a once in a lifetime chance for some.
My Husband Is A Gift From God That I Appreciate & Cherish Because He Does All Of That & More For Me....He Was Like That Before He Was Incarcerated....He Like That Now....& He Will Be That Way When He Comes Home.
My White Man Is Just That....A Very Good MAN!!!!:D

my fiance is at the harris county jail in houston. i'm black and hes mexican-american. i see alot of mixed couples, but i havent seen any black women with other men yet. in houston its pretty accepted. sometimes some hispanics have asked me if i'm cuban.

Good gosh! You know how hard it is to find the right man? No way I would have found him if I limited myself based on race.

My mom use to tell me, "All colors aren't alike and all &$*#&( aren't black."

I use to have to make it clear to people that I dated men. Color didn't matter. I'm black and my husband is white. He could be green and I wouldn't care. He is everything I want in a man. We waited a long time to get married because his mother was having a hard time with the idea of us even dating. We're talking going to church twice a day to ask God what she did to deserve this...hard time. :) When I visited (they live in the mid-west), she didn't want me to leave the house. She was still having a hard time up until the wedding. After the wedding she changed...I became family and family is one of the most important things to her.

In Texas we'd get comments or looks depending on location.

Once we were eating at some little dive that I wanted to visit. I'm a sucker for out of the way diners that are famous for something. Any way, two black guys kept looking at us. When they finished eating one of them stood up, pointed at me and yelled, "We're fightin' some revolushun and youse eatin' wid de enemy!"

I stood up and yelled. "Spell enemy!"
That didn't go over well. Note To Self: impromptu spelling bees are not good for conflict resolution.

Here in upstate New York, I suppose there are comments made. I've only heard one once. I do notice some surprised faces when I've been dealing with people and then introduce my husband.

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I have a good friend from Paterson who is black and her husband is puerto rican--I saw it alot at EJSP in NJ. There were many black women with white men and hispanic men but that was at least six years ago and we haven't been back there since, but it was common then.

I really like you... We have alot in common. I hope to talk to you soon.

Just wanted to say hello. I am a bi-racial female in love with a white inmate here in Illinois. I live about 2 hours away from where he is. We are engaged - hope to marry shortly after he is released. I come from another forum that just wasn't for me - a lady on that same forum told me about this one and I can already tell I am much more comfortable here.

Hope to talk with you all very soon...

I'm a black woman whose boyfriend is white. He's locked up in Kentucky (yup, it's exactly like it sounds) when I go see him, it's not the c/o's that look at us funny it's mostly the older people there, and sometimes the other inmates. I don't see the big issue myself. I just fell in love in with him, his color didn't matter. But sometimes we get looked at like we're committing a crime (like that's why he's lock up, right??:confused: ) Anyway, to add to this his mother doesn't approve (his siblings are fine with it) and my father wouldn't approve, he doesn't know, but my mother and sisters are ok. Is it really that big of an issue??

im half black, and ive just recently noticed that i date alot of white guys. I never look at race or skin color as a factor, i guess it just happens.

i wonder what kind of stares i will get when i fnially visit my boyfriend, he`s hispanic and im black. its accepted here but he is in oklahoma

Josesgirl,

I would not worry about it. I put too much stress into it, but now we laugh and give them reasons to stare at us. Just enjoy your guy. Welcome to the website!! :-)

Josesgirl, It is more accepted than you think here in Okla mostly due to the colleges that are here, but no matter dont worry about what they others are thinking love your man be proud of him and hold your head up high....The only thing i have to say to the haters when they look at me and my man (Im white, he" black) is try it you just might like it, and go on about my business, people need to wake up and get a life they always complaning about how lonely they are well its prolly cause they afraid to step outta their so called comfort zone. My lord if people were blind everybody would be in love and happpy cause then they wouldn't be able to see color and would find out that TRUE LOVE is in the heart and the person. and the skin color has nothing to do with a couple being in love or happy..Good luck girl you will be fine.........

thanks missteail, thats exactly what i planned to do.

Great comments ladies. Color certainly does not matter. At this point we are so engulfed in our situation, I can't really tell you if I have ever noticed couples around us at all. Kind of funny now that I think about it!We are both truly awarer that we are different races...I am black and he is italian (white). But that has been so swept under the rug along with noticing reactions. Till it all just goes over my head.

He has mentioned that a few guys were like, ask her if she has any friends for me!!! Or she is HOT (along with the guy hand slap, macho thing). So I guess it is a an ego boost there. But we are both accustom to dating outside our race. He has a son from a previous relationship (black/italian) and I have 2 daughters (black/white) So I guess this is second nature. LOL

I am concerned about causing trouble for someone also. I am black and he is white. We are in Kentucky, by the way, and he is in a minimum to medium security facility.
Any advice.
Thanks,
Kizsa

I'm black and my husband is Mexican. We visit regularly and really haven't had any problems with the fact that we're a mixed couple, but we do get stares that we notice from time to time. Racial tensions between blacks and Mexicans run high in CA prisons, but my husband hasn't had any problems that I'm aware of. In fact some of the black guys have more respect for my husband now he says. He gets along with everyone, but he doesn't "associate" with any other group, but his own. Which I find strange, but it's prison life I guess.

He has told me how he had to explain to some of his countrymen that I'm different because I'm from the East Coast, which apparently makes a difference somehow. The staff gave us looks at first, and every time there's someone new on, I notice the look when they see my Mexican last name, but otherwise it's been cool. If it wasn't cool it wouldn't matter to us, we know how good we have it together and that's all that matters.

There's only one other interracial couple in our visiting room, she's white, he's black. There use to be another couple, where she was black and he was white, but I don't see them any more.

Oh for the day when race doesn't truly matter. I heard Morgan Freeman say tonight on 60 minutes that racism will end the day that people can address each other as man/woman and not be defined as black man/woman or white man/woman. Amen to that.

:wave: I'm a black woman and I'm technically single right now lol :o but every single one of my ex's are white men ... all 4 of them. :p Including my ex(???) Bobby (:love:) who is currently serving time in Florida. I haven't been to visit him yet, so I'm not sure what the racial mix in his prison is like. :shrug:

My town, Columbia, MO, has many differnt races only because it is a college/university town. It is not uncommon to see an interracial couple here and I love it! :D :clap: :yay: However, it has been my experience that my own race still seems to have a major problem with interracial dating/marriage. :( My own God-Mother (aka my Aunt) who is a minister, gave me a speech as a teenager and warned me not to date outside my race. :cry: My older sister (2yrs older than me) would fix me up with black men no matter who they were or what they were like just to get me to date within my own race ... she's now happily married to a white man :rolleyes: :hmm: ... on a side note she's always been fairly controling and kinda evil and yep she continues to "hook me up" with any male 18 to 99 (I'm 32 yrs old) regardless of their race or personality :p :banghead: . I fear someday I'll wake to a knock at the door and she'll be standing there with a group of 80 year old, homeless, tooth less, mental patients ... :faint: seriously she's odd like that lol :p

Anyway ...

I am very open minded and choose who I date based on thier personality (yes age and employment status are also very important:p). Although I do simply prefer white men, they are what I am attracted to, I tend to get along with them better than any male of another race. It's my personal choice, my love, my heart, my decision.:thumbsup:

I believe men and women should date whoever makes them happy regardless of what other people say or do.

Just my :twocents: .

Happy New Year! :beer:

Hey everyone I seen this forum but never really paid much attention to it. I am a black woman and my man is a mix of Colombian and French so we are a irr couple but I just don't see it. When I first wrote to him and told him my race I really didn't think he would reply but he did an asked me why would he have a problem with me being a sista. He I asked him in the begining does his friends know that I am black and he said yes and that they are not surprised all of his then posters were of dark skin women. Now it's just a way of life for us I however have not been to visit him yet but as soon as I do I will let you know what I see in the visiting room.

Tia

This is a very interesting question. I am African Amercan and my husband is Black/Italian. He has very fair skin with green eyes. Most people look at him and assume he is Latino. I on the other hand have a dark brown complexion. So sometimes people stare. They always wonder how we met and all of that. It's funny most people seem to be too occupied with their own visits. As they should be. I've seen a few interracial couples. All Black men and ??? women.

Wow I'm new here and this is a very interesting subject. I am black and my husband is white. We get crap all the time from CO's to other black inmates harassing my husband because they can't believe we're together. Peopla, especially older white couples they are the worst. I just don't see what's to stare at? I love when people make comments because I have the smartest mouth and a specialty for come backs.

Im Black, and Irish, and my fiance is a white guy. I guess I don't really have an opinion about it. Colors and races and religions really aren't a big deal to me. I just think it's awesome that everyone can be so diffrent. I guess things like that are rare, but I know that one day probably everyone will be more than one race (if that already hasn't happened). Because even "white" people with "white" people is just skin color. It might be an Irish man with a Polish woman. So there's so much more to it that I just don't even bother.

My boyfriend is white and I am blk and dominican.
I deal with comments all the time, even my one friend always made "white" jokes about him to me when me and him first started talking.
I told her to stop with the jokes though.We always got stares in public. Esp. when he came around my house. I live in a mostly white neighborhood. Some are racist and out right. It was annoying at first but now I am used to it, he still wasnt he would always say something to whoever was looking, he might kiss me or grab or smack ass just to piss them off. lol I dont see anything wrong with it. If you love someone you love them. You didnt fall in love with their race. You fell in love with them for their character.

My man is Mexican and im Mixed (black & cuban). The CO were wondering who i was going to see at first, but i know that was largely because i was from California and i had traveled to Illinois. I always get looks when i go to see him but i think its more of the blk guys wondering how he got me, lol:rolleyes: . I only think that because Froggy has told me himself that alot of the "brothers" respect him more because of me, plus hes a nice guy too. Love is blind, all i can say is thank god i have seen the light:D

Wow , Lets see im hispanic and so is my husband.And we do see alot of that here as well.But let me tell you what NEVER worry about what others may ssay or think.Cause people are always going to talk and comment & yes it may hurt to have to hear what they have to say.But just remember you'll never be able to please anyone no matter what.Hell it's hard enough trying to please your own family you know what i mean? So just worry about what really matters.Thats you and yours!You can't help who your attracted to nor who you fall in love with!!!!!!!

. . . It doesn't seen to be a popular interacial mix. What do you think?
Based on what I've seen during my trips to the penn, I agree.

Where my husband is now, there's a black lady who visits her husband and he's a latino but I don't know the specifics of his nationality. I never asked because it never mattered. Nobody looks or stares at them, or even gossips. Where I go everyone is so amiable -- both on the bus, at the hospitality house and on the visit.

One thing that my husband picked up on that I hadn't really noticed is when they terminated visits a few visits back, while there were others who registered before her, her visit got terminated. And, a white lady who was there visiting her husband with their children got terminated. That kinda surprised me because the c.o.s always seem pretty cool. But see, that's "seems" -- I don't know how they "really" are, or at least the one who decided which visits to terminate.

brito, i'm in nj right by nyc and i really don't see it that much. my hubby and i...and a friend and her hubby...are quite honestly the only two black woman/white or latino male mix i've seen. i really don't see too many black females dating men of other races...not even in the prison. when i was there last week i saw two other couples like us though...black woman/white or latino male though...so i suppose 3 out of about 100 is a pretty good odd... :shrug:

Im black my boyfriend is white but we have never dealt with the prison visitation process. we had our visitations denied due to other reasons but he is getting released soon to a shelter and its in an area where this might become an issue...Its hard to believe this is getting discussed but it is a real issue. My friend was out with her white friend (male) to a movie and she said she never got so many looks but we live in WV where you never know but hopefully I will not have to deal with it. Its hard enough dealing with issues with his release and us getting on our feet, so hopefully my race will not be an issue.

Im black my boyfriend is white but we have never dealt with the prison visitation process. we had our visitations denied due to other reasons but he is getting released soon to a shelter and its in an area where this might become an issue...Its hard to believe this is getting discussed but it is a real issue. My friend was out with her white friend (male) to a movie and she said she never got so many looks but we live in WV where you never know but hopefully I will not have to deal with it. Its hard enough dealing with issues with his release and us getting on our feet, so hopefully my race will not be an issue.
I went out on a date with a black women once :thumbsup:. The first thing I noticed is that black males didn't seem to approve of it. Other than that it didn't seem like any body noticed or cared. I think with all the famous black models and music video girls :) you see these days white men have come to realize that black is bueatiful.

I have only noticed black men with either white or hispanic girlfriends. Not too man black women with anything else.

to me race doesnt matter. i am white my 2 of my children are half domincan my son lives in santo domingo during the school year. i see him in the summer. and also have a 1 month old who father from africa who i married. all my life i always dated hung around different people black, hispanic, or cape verdean etc race doesnt matter just the person inside that counts.

It is pretty common around here...I see black women/white men...alot. There are more black women/white men couples at our visits than there are black men/white women. I do remember when (around here) it was more commen to see a black man & a white woman tho...

i see it out here in new jersey when i go see my sweetie but also when i see my friend locked down. i see more blk with white women But also blk women with cute white guys.not too many hispanic men with the white women though.

I am the only black women to visit a white man in the visiting room where my now husband is,I see a few black men and white women.We did get married there also,I guess that gave them a lot to talk about.Who gives a dam?Not me!

I think that besides one other woman, I'm the only black woman to visit a hispanic man at my husband's facility. I can't say that I've seen a black woman with a white man while being there.

My man is white n Im black n I didnt really every see a black women coming to see a white man. Its like it was un heard of. I remember i went to see him n officer had been eyeing me the whole time n was trying to talk to me when he look at the sheet n saw that I was here to see my man n when he look him up on the computer he saw that my man was white he eyed me like wat the hell, n got all cold n get giving me dirty looks. My man said that his boys/friends in the unit knew he had a gurl but they didnt know I was balck n when they saw pictures of me they started getting on him Like damn how did u get her god damn a black gurl n a fine one damn. They all couldnt believe that i was black, but when they talked about my booty n the rest of my body he got a little upset. He's home now n he said that they said he must have some serious game to get n keep me.

i am an East Indian Muslim woman with a white boyfriend. There arent that many of us around, either. We get stares and questions from South Asians and Muslims. And I think a lot of White peopel are weirded out that my man, who is white and Irish, would be in love with a Muslim woman. But we dont CARE!!!

i am an East Indian Muslim woman with a white boyfriend. There arent that many of us around, either. We get stares and questions from South Asians and Muslims. And I think a lot of White peopel are weirded out that my man, who is white and Irish, would be in love with a Muslim woman. But we dont CARE!!!
Yea i understand what you are saying i dont see alot of west indian women and white guys .. either .. so i feel you on that.. lol

I am a black female, well, mixed if you want to get technical. My fiancee is white and I go to visit every week at least once. But no, I don't see many others at these visits.

Bright Blessings,
Vida

I am a white male (late 30's) and my special lady friend (who is currently incarcerated)
is african american. Talk about odd!

She's an amazing woman (!) and I am la very ucky guy. http://i87.photobucket.com/albums/k154/scootermannn/pepper1.gif

I think that besides one other woman, I'm the only black woman to visit a hispanic man at my husband's facility. I can't say that I've seen a black woman with a white man while being there.

I have, WifeC, but it's only about 3 couples I see of that combination. I may be wrong, one or two of the men may be light-skinned hispanic. (?) Maybe that's more the weekday VI regulars, and that's why you haven't noticed. (?)
It's still a minority, as far as couples go, nonetheless.

my husband is white and I am black, im in MD and i see it every now and again. Its so funny my husband is home now so when people see the two of us together they break they're necks to try to look in our stroller to see what our baby looks like! i wish i could show u guys but its saying my the attachment it too big

I'm biracial (black and white) and my boyfriend is white. Now when we first talked before all of this he actually had done 45 days in the twin towers in LA County for a DUI four years ago. He kept commenting on how the CO's wouldn't let you forget you are a peckerwood, and the other racial catergories don't get any less demeaning. The only reason he didn't have to join up with the Arayians was because he was only in there for such a short time and they respected that. Now when he called me to say he's in because of his current charges he was asking when am I relocating to Cali to come and see him. And I could be considered hispanic looking, light skinned black you name it depending on how I do my hair that day, and I'm like you already told me it's an issue there and I'm thinking why would you want to add me to the mix of any trouble you already have to deal with. But I think it was his way of letting me know he doesn't care, I on the other hand would have to be positively sure that it's not going to affect his stay negatively. I sent him a picture of my son and his dog (my son is blonde and blue eyed with curly hair and looks like a surfer) but I'll have to see about sending one of me only because he told me some pretty bad stuff went on with the authorities making sure you stuck to your people and I would go crazy if I caused some hassle for him. We'll see, it's only been a little while and once the trial is done and if he gets time in state then we'll talk about the ramifications of me visiting....

but I'll have to see about sending one of me only because he told me some pretty bad stuff went on with the authorities making sure you stuck to your people and I would go crazy if I caused some hassle for him. We'll see, it's only been a little while and once the trial is done and if he gets time in state then we'll talk about the ramifications of me visiting....[/quote]

Yeah the Whites have to stick with Whites in there. But it doesn't mean they are all racist. Send him pics of you !!
Whites and Mexicans riot too, but that doesn't affect our relationship at all.

Howdy..

I'm a while male and I visit an african-american female who is
incarcerated for a few more winters. We visit every Wed and Sat nights.

I'm about as white bread (as I've been called) as they come. I didn't even
know a single song by Mary J. Blige .... (Note: she's not on the classic
rock radio station).

My eyes have been opened up to a world within the US that I really didn't
even see or really know about. I find myself more blessed each day I can
spend time with her. She's a wonderful lady in every sense.

There's an African-American woman who is married to a Puerto Rican guy where I visit. They have the cutest little boy ever, absolutely adorable.