I'll be driving my in-laws to Brooks Correctional Facility for their first visit with their son. They are 80 and 86 years old and don't want to make the one hour drive themselves. I am the only family member willing to make this trip. That right there tell you lots about the relationship between my BIL and his three other siblings- none of them want to see him. I don't think it will be a pleasant visit, and I'm wondering, can we just get up and walk away from a visit? I thought I would arrange a code phrase for my in-laws to use to signal me that they've had enough and want to leave. I feel weird posting this, because everyone else is always so excited about visits with their loved ones, but I know this won't go well. I think my in-laws know this too, but just have to see for themselves. My BIL is not a nice person, and I just want to be very prepared to get my in-laws through this with the least emotional damage. Any hints? Thanks.

Any visit can be as short or as long as is comfortable for you. I hope that it is a good visit though. Welcome to PTO and the Extended Family forum. I'm the Moderator for the Extended Family and if I can help you with anything, please feel free to PM me.

I understand what you mean. I would definately do the code word or even a look. If they give the look then you'll know it's time. If you talk to you BIL before the visit let him know that you are nervous for your inlaws. That way maybe he can try to stay on the up instead of making things worse. Let us know how it goes. Good Luck.