Hey ladies,
I hope this note finds you all doing well, AS for myself well I am a little down and out :( U see my hunnie wrote me a letter and in this letter he is asking me for a "special" favor. He asked for some shoes and he found a pair in there and the guy stated he would give them to him for 50.00 and for me to send a BLANK money order to his mom... (OF COURSE BY THIS POINT IM NOT BELIEVING HIM AND CRYING RIGHT :( ) well then he goes on to say how he needs them RITE NOW because he does not want to wait for a package.... I am sooo disappointed and hurt right now because ladies I had just began to put my guard down and begin to reallie feel for him... needless to say i wrote him a letter explaing to him the 3 things i didnt agree with 1.the fact of why all of sudden he needs them NOW ( too suspicious) 2. 50.00 for used shoes hell naw and 3. a BLANK money order... who does he think he's foolin'. I thought his mentality had changed... what would you ladies do??? I told him in the end that if it aint done right i dont participate??? I didnt end things with him in this letter... but Im soo hurt and confused... what would you do?? please all the advice will be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!! ;)


God Bless

Sometimes they just try to get us to do things just to see if they can get by with it. You stood your ground, and you told him how you feel. That's the best thing that you can do. Either he can accept it, or he can cry about it. Either way, you don't do anything you are not comfortable with!!! I'm sure you two will talk again soon. Depending on his reaction to the situation I feel you will know what to do.

Good luck girl!!

Hey Angie
Thank you so much... I can't wait to hear his reply.. feels like an eternity inbetween letters. Thank you again...

Well I think you did the right thing, and I agree with Mongo's Mama that you'll figure out what to do depending on his next move. I hope everything works out for the best--keep your head up. :thumbsup:

RAYNARDS
thank you so much I appreciate all the advice.......... I can get right now. He hasn't gotten my letter yet...SO i am still waiting on PINS and NEEDLES... right now. thank you again for all the advice...:)

Hi Mattzbaby,
I completely agree with mongos mom. You spoke your mind and feelings and he can either accept it or say something totally different. Either way youll know what to do and say when you recieve his letter.
Until then dont stress, things will be fine.

vita

p.s.
HELLO ALL MY FELLOW IRONWOOD GIRLS!!!!

:( well ladies... i don't know what to say, I am so depressed and upset!!! I still have no heard from him no phone call, no letter nothing!!! I guess Ive seen right through his game... :confused: but well.... I dont know what else to say or think ... enless i dunno for some reason he hasn't gotten my letter yet, but i doubt that right, ladies are stating mail is flowing good.. so i don't know what to think :(
I want to thank you ladies for all ur encouraging words during this horrible down time... I suppose this maybe God's sign for me... huh???

:( well ladies... i don't know what to say, I am so depressed and upset!!! I still have no heard from him no phone call, no letter nothing!!! I guess Ive seen right through his game... :confused: but well.... I dont know what else to say or think ... enless i dunno for some reason he hasn't gotten my letter yet, but i doubt that right, ladies are stating mail is flowing good.. so i don't know what to think :(
I want to thank you ladies for all ur encouraging words during this horrible down time... I suppose this maybe God's sign for me... huh???

hi mattzbabygirl,
Im sorry that you havent heard from him yet, but give it some time, maybe he hasnt recieved it yet.. When you first posted this thread it was on a friday, and its only been a week minus Sunday. It normally takes 2-3 days to get there, and then it takes them forever for the mailroom to sort it out and for him to get it. Mattzbabygirl, dont give up hope yet, give it another week and then if he doesnt write back, then you can say oh well ladies time to move on. I say girl, just go on with your daily living, dont think about it and if it was ment to be it would be. The more you focus on it and the more you think about it, the worse its going to be.... until then stay cool, and just go on living. Seriously, just dont think about it.

Stay strong and if your spiritual pray about it..
Good luck mattzbabygirl keep me posted
VITA<~~~~~~~~~

Hey Vita,
Thank you very much for ur inspiring words... I needed to hear those... I am so scared that I am not gonna get a letter and never hear from him again.... :( BUT, I suppose that is all I have to do is wait.... I am trying not to think about it BUT its all I think about you know??? I have been really trying to stay busy and not think about it...thank you very much!!!!!!:thumbsup:

mattz i to understand you but honey there is so mush going on in there that we dont know about for are love one dont tell us for they dont wanted us to worryie out here but one think i can tell you is mail takes up to two weeks for them to get it and if they are on lockdown it will take longer to get so be still and wait for a reply from him. honey also the cost of things in there is more then out here thats the way the guys make a liveing in there by selling there things for more, but for you to sent a blank mo to this guys mom i would think before doing it.

HEY ladies...
thank you all so much for your help, I could not have done it without you ladies... but we got through it... we had a visit yesterday and it went wonderful.... I truly feel that I made the right decision in standing up for what I felt and he was not mad @ all... He understands how I feel about " if it aint done right, i wont particpate" we discussed it and then ended it right there... he is so awesome and understanding. He understood all my fears and worries.. and placed me @ peace with all of it. BUT ladies I couldnt have done this without ur encouragement because GOD knows I wanted to give up on him... SO thank you so much and GOD BLESS each and everyone of you and keep our loved ones safe and sound!!!!!1 :thumbsup:

HEY ladies...
thank you all so much for your help, I could not have done it without you ladies... but we got through it... we had a visit yesterday and it went wonderful.... I truly feel that I made the right decision in standing up for what I felt and he was not mad @ all... He understands how I feel about " if it aint done right, i wont particpate" we discussed it and then ended it right there... he is so awesome and understanding. He understood all my fears and worries.. and placed me @ peace with all of it. BUT ladies I couldnt have done this without ur encouragement because GOD knows I wanted to give up on him... SO thank you so much and GOD BLESS each and everyone of you and keep our loved ones safe and sound!!!!!1 :thumbsup:

Hi mattzbabygirl,
congradulations mattzgirl, im so happy for you.:D Keep in touch mattzgirl and tell me how your doing... until then toodles:thumbsup:

VITA<~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hey Girls...i Was Wondering If Anybody Knew A Number Where I Could Find Out If My Man Is In The Hole Or Not......and What Information I Need...if You Guys Can Let Me Know..i'll Really Appreciate It...

you go girl let God and all will work out for the best for you and your love one. keep intouch with all of us here i pray that b yr is off lockdown by now dose anyone know whats up with this yard? i have not heared from my son for 2wks just worryied

Hey Mattz--good to hear everything worked out for the both of you--good going:thumbsup:.

Babypokie--I should have called someone before I got online--but I know after the Calipat incident last week they went in lockdown as the CO's were sent to Calipat. Anyway, last I heard--over the weekend--blacks, whites and others were up. I'll post more if I hear anything else.

I haven't posted because my internet service is off:rolleyes: --today I'm at the library to check in. I'm trying to stay in town (Blythe) because my baby wants me here--not driving trucks all over the country. But I'm having a real rough time financially and since my phone is off as well as my virtual number I can't talk to him.:( No visits because of drama with CDC:mad: --they cannot deny me, but they can do what they do which is add drama to our situation. Ladies--I should have created a new post--anyway, I'm going through it in the worst way.:cry: I haven't seen him since April--we haven't spoke to each other since June and well you now how the mail can be. So what I'm going through today maybe resolved by the time he gets a letter--anyways a friend who works inside and sees my baby daily told me that he is trying to transfer so that the drama here will end. I'm not sure that I like that idea--he's been at ISP for 10 years and I just feel safe knowing he's got people inside to watch his back--know what I mean? Anyways had to vent--will check in tomorrow and I hope everybody is doing well--sorry so into my own $#!+ that I didn't send love to you all--stay strong ladies:thumbsup:. Send me some good luck good prayers please-- I soooooo need it. :grouphug: If I hear anything new, I'll post asap.

Mattz hey girl i got here late but its a scary situation and like i told you earlier it's exactly whatt im scared of. but i must admit that i am totally depressed now, its been 3 weeks and no response....i need help how do i let go....it's making me sad...but i guess it's for a good reason. I could only vent out with u because u know what is going on...thanx and im glad things worked out for you :)