I am going to visit a friend on texas dr. I have come to find out that he has lied to me... He is unaware that I know. It hurt my feelings. Surely has changed my trust. He's never asked for anything except understanding. I now have an issue. I think that his lie, was a safety coating for his truth. His family has neglected him and rather say that a very close member is dead and the other parent he detests. My understanding, wants to talk about it and get it over and proceed with our friendship. But my thoughts don't want to understand a lie. I do understand parts of his frustation. He's alone...

Well - now that you are visiting you can confront him with the lie and take it from there. I don't know how "serious" this lie is, but you seem to be 'understanding' as to why he lied about whatever. I guess now you have to figure out if you can accept it and move on. Of course it is crusial that he tells you the truth this time!!Who knows - maybe this can bring you even closer together? Stranger things have happened :) GOOD LUCK!!

What I would do is when you visit him is talk to him about it. Tell him you know he lied and this is how you know and what. If you don't talk to him about it then it will fester inside you and eat away at you.

No matter what you decide rather to continue with the friendship or walk away you need to talk to him about what happened, for your own peace of mind.

I do know that if you continue the friendship and you don't talk to him about what happened. Your relationship with him will be slowly chipped away. Because you not knowing will eat you up inside.

Honey talk to him about what has happened and go from there. Trust can be rebuilt and the two of you can move on from this. If you choose too. But he will have to be totally honest wth you.

softie