I have a question for anyone whose in an interracial relationship with a loved one in the texas prison system i have been in interracial relationship for so long and because i have never had a problem with this it comes so naturally to me my children are all bi racial but this inter racial forum made me think about something i am going down in feb to see my fiance in texas hes in the middleton unit right now for him i am wondering how will they treat him once i leave there??? its a concern i have just wondering because i am not use to seeing too many ignorant people i dont care personnaly what anyone thinks its just that he is confined in a place that i am sure has some racial issues so anyone know if this could affect him there let me know thanks

I dated someone in a Texas prison in the past. We got nasty looks. I was singled out by the CO's (mostly women) and told I was not dressed right (even though I was very conservative and others were hoochy). My then-man said when he would leave to go back to his cell he got grief from the COs. Like they wanted to strip search him and stuff like that. Since he knew his rights he spoke up in a polite way.

Hopefully your man is not getting too much grief.

I have only had one incident that I thought was might have been an issue. The day after we got married, I went to go see my husband. The chaplin was supposed to tell him that Friday but didn't get a chance to do it until that Saturday morning. Well when they brought him into the visitation booth (he's in high security for now), the guard looked at me and smiled and asked Markiest who I was, and he responded back "my wife". Well that guard looked at him and said well shes finer than a edit. KeKe just ignored him and sat down, well later on they started jacking with him. He had stood up, and one of the CO's saw him and called him a horny edit. He wasn't doing anything. They came in and kicked underneeth the bench/stool they sit on. That is the ONLY time I have had a problem. Matter of fact that day we got a very long visit, normally 2 hours to the second, but this time it was over 3 hours. There are vary rarely women that work in high security, and the ones that are seem to be very nice. White women, black women, green women. The men are normally, and equally just as respectful. I did have one CO hit on me when he was walking me to the building. Other than that Markiest has never said anything about what they do after I leave, and I think he would if they were trippin' in any sort of way. I have been in IR relationships too for very long time and have only had a few problems and I would consider that problem one of them. My sister has a friend she sees quite frequently at the same unit my husbands on, and she gets funny looks from some of the female CO's but they don't treat her or him any differently.


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My husband is in French Robertson next door to Middleton. My husband is black & I'm white. I have never had any problems with the male co's, but the women are another story. They pick on my clothes, put us @ the furtheriest a part tables. Try to cut my 2 hour visit short. Thanks to timex that hardly ever happens anymore. Chris say's the females co's give him a real hard time at first. They would tell him he wasn't going to get anymore contact visits with me also say things like your kinds not good enough for you. We don't have near the trouble we used to have. Good luck. Remember to wear a watch & check it with the time they write down.

If you do not face prejudice, in the Lonestar state, then you are blessed. I grew up in Southeast Texas and were my Dad still alive he would disown me, for having married a Native American. I was taught the worst sort of prejudice, as a child. Forty-two years, of life however, taught me, that a man is a man, and trash is trash. That six letter word that upsets so many black people, applies to men of all colors.

I have been treated bad in the Texas system, merely for caring for an inmate, of the same color as me, which is lily white, by the way. Don't expect alot of kindness, here. And I would not put faith, in all of it I did get.

Several years ago, I dated a gaurd that worked the unit, in Newton County. He would have seemed an angel, with the families, of inmates. But he told me about being rude and mean to prisoners, just because he could. He laughed and just did not get it when, I came unglued and demanded to go back to my own car. He is a homegrown Southeast Texan and as prejudice, as the day is long. But, God got that one for us. The last time I ran across him, he has a debilitating disease. He is not half the man of those inmates that he enjoyed torturing.

Not all of us are terrible here. But, do not let anyone kid you into thinking that prejudice has been eradicated, in Texas. If you want to see what yet happens here, type Jasper County and dragging death into your search box. Or, try Texas jails and inmate hangings, there have been a few of those, in my lifetime.

There is a guy here that has been a descent friend to me. His daughter dated a young black boy, in High School. I normally keep nothing that a friends child does that the parent considers wrong, to myself. I have kept this secret, for two years. He would disown his girl. I have yet to see him and tell him, I married, other than white. He may place me in the same category. If so, 12 years that we have been friends would not matter. I have let remarks go, about my associating with the wrong people, before. I can give others the right to thier opinions, as long as I can have the same, but he is not so open-minded.

Old habits do die hard and there are alot of hardheads still around.They don't call it the REDNECK state, for no reason!!!

Good luck, I hope you get the good ones..........

eldons Wife Thanks For Keeping It Real Prejuiced Is All Around And Still Exsist God Bless You I Have Been Very Fortunate Not To Have Had Any Problems In Dealing With These Kinds Of Issues I Have 3 Interracial Children And Thank God I Never Had Any Problems But Im Way Up Here And My Concern Is For My Baby I Am Praying They Parole Him Into Chicago Once We Are Married Which Is Only In 4 Days Woooo Weeeeeee Take Care All And Thanks For The Replies

RMD4EVER, just saw your post. I am a white woman and my husband is black. I have alway gone to see my husband every weekend since he has been locked up. He has been in 4 different facilaties in Texas, Middleton being one of them. I have never had any bad experiances because of our race. I find for the most part if you follow the rules and are nice to the guards then they are nice to you. I think allot of it also depends on the relationship your husband has with the guards. My husband is very laid back and very easy to like. He don't give trouble unless there is no other way. I truly think you will not have a problem at all. Actually while he was at Middleton I saw several IRR while he was there, I even made friends with one girl and we still talk and do things together. I don't think you will have any problems at all. Also if he is still at the Middleton Unit when you go they have a hospitality house across the street. They let the families stay for free. It is really nice and clean and the people are great. They have free breakfast for before you go for your visit and everything. I see you are in Chicago so this will save you money on a room. The name of the hospitality house is Eunice Chambless Hospitality House. It is a man and his wife from a church who run it. Thier names are Billy and Barbara Wilson you would need to call ahead to reserve a room. The rooms have bunkbeds and then they have bathrooms with showers and a place for you to get ready. They also have a few family rooms if you are taking your kids, the family rooms sleep 6 people. The number for the hospitality house is 325-548-2180 and if you don't get a answer there you can call 325-893-1784 and ask for Billy or Barbara. Since you live so far you should be able to get a special visit. The hospitality house opens Friday night, so you could stay there Friday, Saturday and I think even Sunday night... I hope this all helps you and I wish you luck and love...

My husband and i are also a bi-racial couple. I go to visit every other week sometimes every week. I live in San Antonio. I have never had any problems from any of the gaurds male or female. So far everyone has bent over backwards to make sure that our visits are as comfortable as possible. I have even requested certian tables or areas because I can't stand the smell of burnt popcorn ( you know what I am talking about). The warden came and spoke to us on the first visit after we got married.
Some of the female gaurds who I had spoken to on a regular basis brought us a hostess cupcake wedding cake. I agree with the other woman who wrote that it has a lot to do with the inmate. My husband has been there for 5 years and while he is not a suck up by any means he knows that he is there for the long haul and does as he's told and keeps up appearances. When he needs to dump he dumps on me to keep from getting aggravated and losing it there. I hope things go better for you. Maybe I'll see you there sometime.

hey Everyone Thanks For The Help And Input I Am Now Mrs Rmd 4ever We Got Married On Aug 23rd I Flew Down To Dallas And His Mother Stood In For Him I Have An Awesome In Law Family As I Do A Husband My Husband Is A People Person And Laid Back Also He Doesnt Look For Trouble Either I Know He Will Be Fine He Told Me Some Of The Inmates Brought Him Ice Cream Lol As A Celebration On Our Marriage Which Was Really Cool When He Gets Home We Will Do The Church Renewal Of Vows In Texas Right Now We Have To Wait Between Nov And Jan To See If He Gets Parole And Then Come Home Everyone Have A Good Day I Dont See Us Having Any Problems There I Truly Believe For The Most Part Its All How One Carrys Themselves Thanks Again God Bless You All

Congrats on the wedding .. my husband is white and i am west indian .. we have never had any problems in vistation at all .. its true what some one said about facing prejuidice but it is every where it is not worst here.. Its just some ppl have narrow minds and some ppl just tend to run into those kinds of ppl i have thru my life time and when our daughter was born it seem like that was alll i was running into .. but i alwys had something to say to them. the Co's at my husband prison some are cool.. they all know me from coming since he got there and i was preg and when they see her they all come running to say hi(she still just waves doesnt speak to strangers) . I have had a rough time with couple of them who just seemed to be having a bad day and taking it out on everyone.. but i havent had any problems due to our race.

thanks For Sharing You All Have Helped A Great Deal Thanks For The Congrads Ewife I Just Will Be Glad When Hes Home Or When I Can Have A Visit If Hes Not Home By Feb Then Im Flying Down Its Been 9 Months Since I Last Saw Him When He Was Here Ill Probaly Be So Nervous By That Time And I Never Cared About What Anyone Thinks Anyway They Sure Dont Pay Them Bills For Us Lol Everyone Have A Great Evening

Well I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years going to see him at the Central Unit in Sugarland. All I can say it all depends on the type of relationship your loved one has with the CO's... I have had some trouble here and there... But from what i know it is because they "like" my boyfriend or what not. I really don't care because we have that bond and love with one another that no female in gray can take away..ya feel me! Alot of it is the fact that he supposedly 'copped' out for a white girl.. But love is love and that is all that matters!!!

well Guys I Went Down For My Special Contact Visit With My Hubby Feb 10 Thru The 12th I Got That Saturday And Sunday And It Was Awesome My Daughter And I Stayed At The Hostess House Across The Street They Are Very Nice People There And Very Helpful We Had No Problems Everyone From The Prison To All The People We Met Were All Very Helpful I Got My Kisses In And Hugs,the Co On The First Day Was So Laid Back And There Were Other Mixed Couples There The Next Day, That Didnt Even Matter We Were All Treated Great But My Hibby Knows How I Am We Are Both People (people) I Was Courious Because I Never Had To Deal With Another State Nor The System Until Now But I Flet Like I Was At Home In Texas I Met Some Very Nice People There I Thank You All For All Your Help Take Care Now Were Waiting For A Answer From Parole ,,,, All In The Process

Congrats on the wedding! Glad you enjoyed your visit and didn't experience any problems...I guess I've never looked around the visiting room to see if we get any stares or not (i am asian and my husband is black) i think i will do that when i visit this weekend and see who stares w/ the evil eye...i guess i've just been blind to racism and not really experienced anything out of the norm...

I have a question for anyone whose in an interracial relationship with a loved one in the texas prison system i have been in interracial relationship for so long and because i have never had a problem with this it comes so naturally to me my children are all bi racial but this inter racial forum made me think about something i am going down in feb to see my fiance in texas hes in the middleton unit right now for him i am wondering how will they treat him once i leave there??? its a concern i have just wondering because i am not use to seeing too many ignorant people i dont care personnaly what anyone thinks its just that he is confined in a place that i am sure has some racial issues so anyone know if this could affect him there let me know thanks

My Husband is in Tennessee Colony and I cant speak on all Texas prisons but there it is BAD. They have got use to it by now but at first they use to trip with him after visit was over. I go every weekend and he just started gettin contact in Jan. and that is so funny. I dont mind the looks... that just shows that they are stupid. When we hold hands through out the visit and then you get a kiss at the begaining and at the end my husband finds the need to rub it in and like i said i dont care. He be tryin to get all freaky with his kisses just to piss them off. But Yes it does cause problems sometime. They dont really trip on me anymore though. One guard did tell him to sit his " black ass down" though when he got up to give me a kiss... Still go and see him though!!