Okay we have been in this forum for a few days now, and we have discussed quite a few topics that affect our lives. It's time for something positive!

What is the good points of being in an interracial relationship?

Even if you think it's just being silly or funny please post it!
:D

The children turn out BEAUTIFUL :)

There aren't any color lines between the two of you! :)
You are showing others not to be afraid of different races mixing, HELLO ! 2005 :)

YOU ARE IN LOVE AND WHAT ELSE MATTERS? NOTHEN

Lovespell took my answer:D .. They are the most beautiful babies in the world..:p Going out dancing is always fun, this man has some moves:dance: ...Never a dull moment and lastly he is the man that makes my life always exciting. He is my heart and my world..:heart:

I can't say this about every IR relationship I've been in...but, since I've been with Kevin...he has taught me so much (and vice versa). We have discussed our "backrounds" and so forth...and well, to me, it's exciting learning something new everyday.
It's just the feeling that I feel when I'm with him...he makes me smile & laugh...he's just fun to be around. And...the kids ARE beautiful (all kids are beautiful to me tho)...their color just comes out PERFECT...& that is a definite plus. :thumbsup:

Great thread, Leigh!!!

Sel

I'm glad you guys are responding back. I was worried nobody would! You guys are right, the children are beautiful. I don't have any, but my nieces are so da*n beautiful it makes me sick. My sister did the thang on them! I love my babies!

...seeing no colors and loving with our beating hearts just like everybody else!

It lets you genuinely fall in love with that persons heart and everything about them. It enlightens me to see people for peopl and not for what they are. I love being able to experience his family and him, my family. Race is not an issue in our lives but we do appreciate each others culture.

miracle is the best thing of my ir relationship. everything else is good but shes the best.

michellelynnwil~ Beautiful, beautiful baby.. You see that is what I'm talkin about..:p

Lovespell beat me to it too! I would have to say the best thing besides love that comes out of a IRR would be the beauitful children! I wish I had a picture of my daughter to post :( .

michelllynnwil~ohhh I just wanna eat her up! She is too pretty!

Here's my nieces:

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I think the kids are beautiful and my son has a better TAN than me..and dont have to work at it lol. I also feel its 2 humans comeing together as one its not about race for us.

michellelynnwil~ Beautiful, beautiful baby.. You see that is what I'm talkin about..:p

She IS absolutely beautiful. I'm 45 (black, my husband too) and I remember back when I was in h.s. Black girls used to say they were gonna marry a puerto rican so they could have mixed babies with nice hair because they look so much cuter. I never fed into it though. I mean it just never phased me like that -- "cute because you mixed".

Many of you say you don't see the color in your interracial relationships. I do because white is white and black is black. For me, it's with the children that I don't see the color. I mean it's obvious that you can tell the child is mixed, but I don't see it as being cute because it's mixed. I see it as being cute because the child is cute, regardless of complexion.

I wish I had a picture to post too :(



Lovespell beat me to it too! I would have to say the best thing besides love that comes out of a IRR would be the beauitful children! I wish I had a picture of my daughter to post :( .

lovespell, you are exactly right. the most beautiful babies in the world. my great grand daughter, which i have custody of, is so beautiful, i wouldn't care if she was pink, purple or green, but she is mixed, as some one on here said.
BUT NO MATTER WHAT, SHE IS GODS' LITTLE CHILD, AND MY LITTLE ANGEL, MAY GOD ALWAYS PROTECT AND GUIDE HER IN HIS WAYS..........

Wifey I agree with you 100% I always here people tell me and my husband that our children are going to be so beautiful because they will be mixed. My response is that my children will be beautiful regardless. All babies are beautiful and should be cherished regardless of race or anything so superficial. One thing that I dont agree with you on is the fact that white is white and black is black. You're speaking about "race" wich is a generic title that was created to discriminate and seperate. The first to Be a "race" were the Irish when they came to America. there are different cultures however white is not white and black is not black unless you yourself use that to distinguish an individual and place them in a group :)

One thing that I dont agree with you on is the fact that white is white and black is black. You're speaking about "race" wich is a generic title that was created to discriminate and seperate. The first to Be a "race" were the Irish when they came to America. there are different cultures however white is not white and black is not black unless you yourself use that to distinguish an individual and place them in a group :)

Stilvng, I was not talking about race, I was talking about complexion -- that's why I used the word "color" and not race. I do know that all white-skinned people are not what you'd call "the white race" based on how you broke it down. Color and complexion are one thing, but race and culture, I know, is another. I have first cousins who have pure white skin and hair to match, but, they are not white -- they are Black. If I offended anyone else, please accept my sincere apologies.

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She IS absolutely beautiful. I'm 45 (black, my husband too) and I remember back when I was in h.s. Black girls used to say they were gonna marry a puerto rican so they could have mixed babies with nice hair because they look so much cuter. I never fed into it though. I mean it just never phased me like that -- "cute because you mixed".

Many of you say you don't see the color in your interracial relationships. I do because white is white and black is black. For me, it's with the children that I don't see the color. I mean it's obvious that you can tell the child is mixed, but I don't see it as being cute because it's mixed. I see it as being cute because the child is cute, regardless of complexion.

I too would have to say that when I look at my children, I don't see a particular race but just beautiful children. Now I would say when it comes to my husband and I, we both agree that a good thing we like is the way my milky white skin looks lying next to his caramel color skin. MMM, MMM. Man I love :love: that sexy man. I miss him. I better go before I fry my keyboard with my tears. :cry: :cry: :cry:

I agree the children are beautiful. :D

You get to experience "more of the world." Another's culture and language and customs.:thumbsup:

When the love lasts through all the trials you know it's real.;)

I would have to agree with vsbaby, I look at my son and see a beautiful child, Me and his Daddy just happened to meet by chance (me white, Him Hispanic) I never expected that we would be having children together, but god has blessed us with one and hopefully more.

I love being with my man he treats me like a queen, I have always dated outside my Race but have also dated inside my race. I have always never cared what anybody thought of me for dating somebody outside my race, an I still don't. I believe that it doesn't matter what color, race, age or religion you are if you love someone you love someone plain and simple.

They thing I can't stand is When I am out with my son, people don't believe he is mine, or they always ask What "Race" is his daddy. See my son looks nothing like me except my chin. Everything else is Daddy all the way.
I will see if I can attach a pic.

I get that all the time. What "race" are you? Or even worse...what was your daddy? LoL Usually I say I'm a marathon, and your not ready to run it...

LMAO
I should use that one!!!!

Well I don't know what race my father was. And I don't feel like explaining to them that I don't know who my father is. I hate that. I just check white and keep going. I have blue eyes so nobody will ever think any different. It's funny though, we live in a almsot totally South American community (El Salvador, Mexico, Honduras, Ect...), and everybody knocks on the door and tries to sell me stuff in Spanish. I just let them finish and tell them I don't speak Spanish. Then I have to argue with them for fifteen minutes...

You don't speaka Spanish?
No.
You don't speaka a little Spanish?
No.
You not Spanish?
No I'm a white girl.
Nooooooooo.
Yes
Nooooooooo.
Yes
You sure you don't speka Spanish...

It's funny to me now.

oh i know
It is so funny... I was at my brothers tattoo shop a few weeks back and a family walked in the only one that could speeak english was the little girl. The owner of the Shop (which by the way is Hispanic) does not speak one word of spanish. He looks at me and asks me do I know any spanish, (hi I am the biggest white girl you will meet) I said not enough to speak to them. He says well you better start learning, my son is eight months old, like he understands if I am speaking english or spanish, all I could do was laugh. His daddy speaks spanish to him and I pick up from him little bits here and there, I guess eventually I will learn. I kinda want my son to be Bilingual.

If I had a child and the father spoke other than English I would deffinatly want them to learn. I live in Texas, and I'm not sure what Cali is like, but you da*m near have to be bilingual to get a job or function in society. I know a little, and can tell you what I need, and I understand what people are telling me, but having a conversation....it ain't happening.

Well here in CA I am sure is not as bad as it is in Texas however, some jobs pay you more if you can speak two languages, whatever they may be. So well in the future I am sure that will be one of the qualifying factors of aquiring a job.
Yeah that whole convesation thing ...... I can understand better then I can speak, my "white Girl" accent gets in the way and Rolling "r"'s is not happening

I failed spanish with a 35 because I can't roll my R's. No Rrrruuufles has riiidddgeess...NOTHING!

LMAO
I know exactly what you
mean

I'm Black -- light-skinned and hispanics sometimes mistake me for being hispanic because sometimes I can pass. I regard it as an honest mistake. Nothing more, nothing less, because that's what it is. Many times when I go visit my husband one of the hispanic ladies will speak spanish to me, and I'll tell her no hablo espanol, hablo engles, and she'll be surprised and say "sorry". Sometimes they may want to ask what's my nationality -- if they did, I wouldn't think anything of it because IMO, that's an honest question, an honest curiosity, that it's only a big deal if I make it a big deal, and because it's nothing, I don't.

I already knew that there are differences in the way peope of different ethnicities think -- I'm enjoying this section because it's confirming my thoughts, along with other thoughts that I've had. People can say we're all the same all they want, but what we all are is human. But some thinking patterns do differ amongst the nationalities/cultures/races.

Example: I was watching America's Next Top Model and Tyra had taken the girls to South Africa. A black girl on the show won a challenge and the prize was to go into Mandella's cell where he spent 30 years. Can you imagine the feelings that would overcome you if you were to walk into the cell of your husband/fiance -- just looking around, observing and feeling "wow, this is where my baby spent his time." The girl was so moved that she began to cry from emotion while she looked around the cell, and I related to that, because I would feel the same, even if it wasn't Mandella's, but my own Baby's dwelling place in prison. One of the white model contestants on the show won the key to open the cell, so she's the one who opened the cell. So what happened was one of the other white models broke on the black model who cried, protesting that the only reason she was crying was because she didn't get the key to open the door. The black girl was telling her that was so not true, that she was just moved by being in the cell Mandella lived in, but the white girl would not accept that and insisted that the real reason the black girl was crying was because she was not the one given the key to open the cell.

I saw that episode and I thought for a minute until she could get out her story a that was the reason she was crying, but also remeber how she treated the one girl, actually the girl that won, She treated as if she was not balck, but she was mixed, and she kept trying to tell her that but I guess she could only see the color of her skin and not anything else.
Like you said how people mistakingly take you for being hispanic. I don't know how that feels other then people thinking that my son is not mine because he looks nothing like me and has a darker complextion then mine.

As for going into my honey's cell.... I couldn't imagine what it would be like, I don't think I would go even if I were offered the chance. I didn't even like going onto prison grounds to visit. It is all very terrifying for me. My Man is able to put up with it somehow and always tells me of things and I ask him not to, i would rather not hear about it, nor about his past.

As for going into my honey's cell.... I couldn't imagine what it would be like, I don't think I would go even if I were offered the chance. I didn't even like going onto prison grounds to visit. It is all very terrifying for me. My Man is able to put up with it somehow and always tells me of things and I ask him not to, i would rather not hear about it, nor about his past.

I hate going to the prison too, and that's why I've never allowed myself to get used to it. I do it because I have to, and because I hate going there I go once a month instead of making every visit like I used to do. I've told my husband I'd love to see his area, I'd even want to lay on his bed and just let my thoughts wonder "this is where my baby slept". I'd want to see where he keeps his clothes 'n stuff and just wonder "this is where he kept his stuff". I hate the prison too, but the place that he occupied, if I could see it, I would definitely feel moved being there. To best describe the feeling, it's like sleeping with a pair of his worn underwear or worn clothing. I'd feel so moved, so like "this is what he wore". However, I washed out that feeling when I washed his clothes when he got sent up! LOL

Example: I was watching America's Next Top Model and Tyra had taken the girls to South Africa. A black girl on the show won a challenge and the prize was to go into Mandella's cell where he spent 30 years. Can you imagine the feelings that would overcome you if you were to walk into the cell of your husband/fiance -- just looking around, observing and feeling "wow, this is where my baby spent his time." The girl was so moved that she began to cry from emotion while she looked around the cell, and I related to that, because I would feel the same, even if it wasn't Mandella's, but my own Baby's dwelling place in prison. One of the white model contestants on the show won the key to open the cell, so she's the one who opened the cell. So what happened was one of the other white models broke on the black model who cried, protesting that the only reason she was crying was because she didn't get the key to open the door. The black girl was telling her that was so not true, that she was just moved by being in the cell Mandella lived in, but the white girl would not accept that and insisted that the real reason the black girl was crying was because she was not the one given the key to open the cell.
I understand there are differneces in thinking. I honestly don't think it has to do with culture, near as much as it has to do with parenting style and environment. This example, to me, is a differnece of people, not culture. I would have seen the black girl in the same light as you did, she cried from pure emotion of human life wasted in a nasty cell. I'm a white girl ;)

We learn from each other as human beings. That's the positive side. Cultures are different, there's no mistaking that. However, I'm fascinated by the differences :)

Stacy

I thank you all for the wonderful comments about my miracle. I named her miracle because iwas not supposed to have any children. She was a blessing wheither she was mixed or not.miracle is the best thing of my ir relationship. everything else is good but shes the best.

I already knew that there are differences in the way peope of different ethnicities think -- I'm enjoying this section because it's confirming my thoughts, along with other thoughts that I've had. People can say we're all the same all they want, but what we all are is human. But some thinking patterns do differ amongst the nationalities/cultures/races.

Our differences is what makes this society/world of ours unique. I can't imagine a world where everybody looked and thought the same. Conformity would drive me crazy. I have always strived to be different!

I can't even lie...I would be moved to tears just like that model was. Mandela is a living historical figure. I can't imagine. He is one of those ultra-famous people that I would love to meet before they pass.

As for going into my honey's cell.... I couldn't imagine what it would be like, I don't think I would go even if I were offered the chance.

I hate going to the prison too, and that's why I've never allowed myself to get used to it.

In April, I and a dozen other PTO members took a trip to Alcatraz for the day, during the San Fran G2G. Now, while I can't speak for everyone else, I can tell you that I was literally overcome with emotion as I walked through those cellhouses. It was incredibly moving to stand inside those cells, and try to picture what that existence must be like....to fathom the pain, isolation, and hopelessness that grows (and thrives!) in such an environment. As I caught the eyes of several others in our group, I realized I was not alone in my thoughts...they, too, were feeling the same way. I wasn't the only one who wiped away a tear or two.

Thinking back over all my guy and I have been through in the past few years, I can't begin to imagine my state of mind if I were able to stand in his cell--where he ate, slept, cried, laughed, dreamed--with nothing but my own thoughts. I can't say for sure if I could handle it or not, either.

Like Wifey-Ma stated above, I do not allow myself to "get used to" the prisons I've visited (he's been at 2 facilities since we met). There is nothing attractive, romantic, or appealing about his address. We have great visits, and cherish every moment spent laughing and talking together, but I will never be "comfortable" within those walls, because I hate it THAT much.

I must say, this is a very interesting thread...and I'd love to see the "prison cell" aspect of the last few posts started up in another thread (maybe in "Hear To Hear You"?) However, for the time being, let's try to stick to the original topic of this thread, which is "The good in IR relationships".

Thanks to everyone for some great input ;)

Susan
PTO Senior Moderator

Example: I was watching America's Next Top Model and Tyra had taken the girls to South Africa. A black girl on the show won a challenge and the prize was to go into Mandella's cell where he spent 30 years. Can you imagine the feelings that would overcome you if you were to walk into the cell of your husband/fiance -- just looking around, observing and feeling "wow, this is where my baby spent his time." The girl was so moved that she began to cry from emotion while she looked around the cell, and I related to that, because I would feel the same, even if it wasn't Mandella's, but my own Baby's dwelling place in prison. One of the white model contestants on the show won the key to open the cell, so she's the one who opened the cell. So what happened was one of the other white models broke on the black model who cried, protesting that the only reason she was crying was because she didn't get the key to open the door. The black girl was telling her that was so not true, that she was just moved by being in the cell Mandella lived in, but the white girl would not accept that and insisted that the real reason the black girl was crying was because she was not the one given the key to open the cell.It is so sad that people assume things based on a person's race.
I am glad we can look at the positive of our relationships.

Same here. I often get asked what I am because of my complexion, and hair grade. I get asked if I am Dominican A LOT, sometimes I get asked if I am Puerto Rican, but Dominican is what I get asked the most. I get my hair done by Dominicans, so when I go in there, everyone tries to speak to me in Spanish and I am like.. :confused:

My mother is VERY fair skinned, and is often asked if she is White. I have friends who ask me if my mother is White, and I tell them no. Then they are like, "oh, she is Spanish". Nope...she is Black. Then they look all confused because of her features. She is fairskinned, her grade of hair etc..and most of her side of the family is fair skinned. My daddy on the other hand...he is as dark as they come...lmao. :p

[QUOTE=Wifey-Ma]I'm Black -- light-skinned and hispanics sometimes mistake me for being hispanic because sometimes I can pass. I regard it as an honest mistake. Nothing more, nothing less, because that's what it is.

We try to celebrate both of our cultures (I'm white, he's black) We tend to have very interesting menues especially during the holidays.

The best things about our IR is that we found each other and together, we created a son and daughter.

Ive got a big head sitting here reading all of you say that mixed race kids are beautiful!! :D Yes we are!! LOL We get more beautiful as adults too!! :haha:

I think that the best part is being able to teach the beautiful kids that color is nothing but a vision, and that there are no differences besides it. Teaching children that they should be confident about who they are. Theyve got the best of both worlds! :) It makes them more open-minded.

Mixed race kids make beautiful kids too!! :p

I think Damon is such a sexy man! I love the way he makes me feel. I have never felt this good with a man of my own race. I do have a daughter from a man of my own race and she doesn't find a boy of her race attractive. Like mother like daughter. Once you go black you never go back! Ain't that the truth! I love when people stare at us wondering and thinking when they look how beautiful we look together.

Dont tell anyone...i have a thing for chocolate...smiles

I love playing in his hair it's so beautifully different(he's white, with long hair). To be honest everything is good.:)

I love his family. I feel so welcome and loved by them. You know I think my husband's family is closer and more verbal with thier affection. I enjoy sending time with them rather than my own family because they love both of us and our son. Also, I love my husband's skin color - dark and smooth. That's just what I love.

I love how we look together! I think we make a gorgeous couple!

I just have to say my opinion about the mixed babies. IMO most bi-racial children are adorable, maybe more than the single-race child.
HOWEVER, my son, who is bi-racial, is cute and gorgeous not because of his complexion and the color of his skin, but just because he is. He simply came out beautiful, but his color isn't was makes him.

I don't think that the people that answered "the children" meant anything about complexion, when I think of BR children I don't have the opinion because of the color they turn out.

Color is not an issue. An interracial relationship is like any other and it's made what it is by the couple's inside and what they put into it, not what they look like on the outside so I really don't see any good points unlike a "normal" relationship.

My Answer to the Question:The good points we have in our relationship, I could go on. But I have a wonderful man that loves me unconditionally and I do the same for him, we're truly happy and content with each other.

Just my 2 cents...

well for us everything is great because its just an awesome relationship we never really are about the colors at all my son is mixed and he is adorable and i love him for him and the best part of being in an ir is that you have learned to love someone for who they are beyond all boundaries. my fiance is just da bomb and i love him cuz he is him and he loves me for me and we dont see each others color. marie

Hey... I gotta ask! I notice on the picture you have Vanilla it says 6/27/2005- does that mean your baby is home already?

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If y'all don't see color and that's not the issue, then how can you even ask the question about what is good or what is bad about IR relationships? Aren't they just relationships like all relationships? Think about it. You go on and on about the whole situation, but it's not any different than any other IF you aren't seeing the color. Yes, love is love so..........what's with all the questions about good or bad? I didn't see a thing about customs of any race maybe being something you couldn't buy into. Say, for instance, their language, dress, music, holiday celebrations, etc. There we can expect some differences, but I don't see where this "color" that no one seems to see, is about good or bad.

I failed spanish with a 35 because I can't roll my R's. No Rrrruuufles has riiidddgeess...NOTHING!

your nieces are adorable, especially that youngest one. i thought you were mixed with something too in the picture with all three of them.

but i think the best part about it..this sounds really superficial though..but i like the way we look, lying next to each other. our skin against each other..i just think it looks beautiful. oh. and that love stuff.:rolleyes: haha.

oh. and IMHO i think it's really sick to say a biracial child is cuter than a single race child. that just sounds awful. almost as awful as a the "good hair" argument.

its great cuz he is the one out of all the men in this world who is my soulmate and completed me. He makes my soul sing and my heart skips a beat. the best thing so far from being marrid to him besides his unconditional love and support and respect is our beautiful lil girl..

OK THE GOOD ...:p I LOVE THE WAY WATER ROLLS OFF OF HIM AND THE WAY HIS AZZ LOOKS WHEN HE IS TAKING A SHOWER IT REMINDS ME OF TAYE DIGGS WHEN HE IS IN THE SHOWER ON STELLA GOT HER GROOVE BACK:p AND AT NIGHT WHEN I ONLY SEE THE WHITES OF HIS EYES..I LOVE HIS LIPS..PLUMP AND JUICY ..I LOVE THE CONTRAST OF OUR SKIN WHEN WE ARE HOLDING HANDS AND ..THE WAY HE LOOKS IN BLEACHED WHITE SHEETS AND NOTHING ON UNDERNEATH:D THE STARES AND THE OMG LOOK AT THEM:eek: THE BEAUTY WITHIN FAR BEYOND THE COLOR OF HIS SKIN..AND WHEN YOU ARE GIVEN A GIFT TO SEE WITH YOUR HEART AND NOT WITH YOUR EYES ..HE IS MY SWEETEST SIN AND IF HELL IS THE PRICE I HAVE TO PAY ..TO PLAY IN HIS "JUNGLE" BOOK ..ILL PAY :fb: OUR UNION OF SOULS ..THAT CAN NOT BE DESTROYED BY RACE,PREJUDICE OR HATRED IS TRULY GOD GIVEN ...I HOLD MY MANS HAND PROUDLY AND WALK THROUGH THE FIRE ..SO LET THE HATERS KEEP HATING ..CAUSE THAT IS THE FUEL THAT KEEPS OUR LOVE TRUE :rolleyes:

lol...i don't remember if i answered this, but here goes again? lol.

i love the way he gets mad and hisses at me in spanish...
the way his skin looks against mine when we hug or kiss or hold hands...
the way his features are different than mine (his nose is long and straight, mine is short and round)...
the way he teaches me about his culture and the things HE loves (his food, his music) and the way i can do the same to him...
not to mention the lil one that's on her way! we argue all the time who she's gonna look like...i can't wait! yeah, by far, she's the BEST thing about our relationship! her and the others hehe...

Ok I just want to say that I hope one day i have kids that are even half as cute as your children (all of you who have them). Dang! Cute kids. And I'd like to say that being bi-racial does not get you good hair lol. I've wanted to cut mine sooo many times. When I was little I didn't want curly hair and never wanted to brush it. But as I grew older I like my hair. It's weird because out of all my family me and my brother and sister are the only bi racial ones. all my cousins married same race and except for my mexican aunt who married into the "white" side of my family (but is now married to a mexican), that's it. and you know what's weird? I never even noticed that or thought of that until RIGHT NOW. So as far as my family goes I don't see in race or color. weird.