I really do love my husband but after getting him out of his depressive mode and now it's my turn, I don't feel he's giving me any of it back in return. He's a take no crap from a person and I'm more laid back. He feels I should be like some of how he is. It isn't my style. I feel I can get my point across without having to be rude or blatant about it. I feel when he tries to tell me how I should be he's not happy with the way I am. He says he just don't want anyone to walk all over me and that's cool. I'm also having problems with him reading into my letters, things that are not there. He blows things out of proportion and I don't think he hears me. He hears what he wants. He'd tell me how good I take care of home and now it's a different story. I came across an article about the role of a husband and wife and how a wife should be subsive. At first my knowledge of it made me real leery and adamant about not giving in but after reading it I was like submission is a beautiful thing. I sent him the article and he loved it. Now I'm getting letters about how I don't listen and I need to do this and that and I need to do as he asked. I think once he even said as he's told me. Another thing that bothers me is that each letter I get feels like I'm reading a fortune cookie. He says he's preparing me to better myself. I'm fine with that but these are my letters each day...10 pages of wisdom or philisophical gems. Sometimes I just want hey baby how are you and i love and miss you. Since we been through this I can't get myself to write him. My words seem to be said in vain and it's putting a strain on our marriage. I'm at a loss, any words would be helpful.:confused:

Hi! I am by no means a marriage expert or anything of the kind but I have been married for a long time now and some things have continued to ring true.

#1 Submission does not mean being a doormat
#2 You have to be free to be yourself at all times
#3 Total acceptance of one another
#4 Support does not mean that you have to agree
#4 Ask for what you want
#5 State what you do not want
#6 Get to the root cause of anxiety, issues, stressors

I read quite a few different things from your message. The short list above are just some of the things that I picked up on in your message. It sounds like you and your husband just really need to sit down and discuss quite a few things because it sounds like a lot of different things are going on right now with the both of you. Remember to always communicate openly and lovingly.

I hope some of this helps! Please feel free to PM if you want to talk further or in much more detail.

God Bless!
Ronnie


I really do love my husband but after getting him out of his depressive mode and now it's my turn, I don't feel he's giving me any of it back in return. He's a take no crap from a person and I'm more laid back. He feels I should be like some of how he is. It isn't my style. I feel I can get my point across without having to be rude or blatant about it. I feel when he tries to tell me how I should be he's not happy with the way I am. He says he just don't want anyone to walk all over me and that's cool. I'm also having problems with him reading into my letters, things that are not there. He blows things out of proportion and I don't think he hears me. He hears what he wants. He'd tell me how good I take care of home and now it's a different story. I came across an article about the role of a husband and wife and how a wife should be subsive. At first my knowledge of it made me real leery and adamant about not giving in but after reading it I was like submission is a beautiful thing. I sent him the article and he loved it. Now I'm getting letters about how I don't listen and I need to do this and that and I need to do as he asked. I think once he even said as he's told me. Another thing that bothers me is that each letter I get feels like I'm reading a fortune cookie. He says he's preparing me to better myself. I'm fine with that but these are my letters each day...10 pages of wisdom or philisophical gems. Sometimes I just want hey baby how are you and i love and miss you. Since we been through this I can't get myself to write him. My words seem to be said in vain and it's putting a strain on our marriage. I'm at a loss, any words would be helpful.:confused: