My parents and brother r like freakin out about me being with someone in prison. They think hes such a bad person since hes in there, and they say that hes not good enough for me and my life isn't going to go anywhere. I'm holding down a job and going to college. I am very happy with him. I have tried to explain hes a very sweet guy and I love him and even tho he made a misake hes still a person and deserves love and forgiveness and they won't listen. There using my college against me saying they won't pay for it anymore if I stay with him and they went through my room and found some letters and articles about him and read them and burnt them. So now I'm in the process of moving out. I love my family and i know there scard for me and trying to watch out for me. I love him and I plan to marry him and I would like my family there. How do I get them to accept him without losing them? I'm not giving him up. I love him and i can't be without him. He makes me so happy and everyone has noiced how much I've changed for the better since I found him. So why can't they see it?? I need some advice

I know exactly what you are going through, my sister is just like that. She calls my man 'that person' and says 'he's a convict' I know exactly how hard it is. Although I don't have advice for you, I wanted to let you know your not the only one. I wouldn't stand to have her burn his letters, I would go crazy on her. Just stay strong, you know what you want and what will make you happy, I wish I had more advice. Keep your chin up. :grouphug: for ya

My heart goes out to you. I don't think there is really any way you can convence your family. We were married before he went in and my family was really disappointed in him, they would have loved to see me just have walked away from him and started my life over. Well it didn't happen and over the past year and 39 days, they have come to realize that I love him and that I will stand by his side no matter what. I had to tell my mom that if she couldn't say anything nice about him or be supportive when he got out then I couldn't be around her or anyone else for that matter.

Today they are really supportive. they write him more than his own family does and they support him alot more than they do....Point is: They (our families) want what is the best for us...they want us to be happy....they don't want our lives to go on hold for anyone. But for me once they saw the changes in him, through letters and our relationship and how much stronger our marriage has gotten, their attitudes changed....

From my own experiences.....you have to live YOUR life for YOU!!!!! When I met my husband he was/is in jail. My family didn't understand why I would want to be with someone that was going to be in jail for the next 2 1/2 yrs.,,,,but then they saw how happy I was and the difference he made in my life,,,,,they still don't understand it,,,but it's not for them to understand,,,,,If your family doesn't understand thats their problem,,,they don't have to accept him,,,they just have to accept the fact that you love him. They aren't the ones thats got to live with him, or be married to him,,,,,YOU ARE!!!!! BUT ....TRY to talk to them,,,TRY to make them "SEE" how you feel,,,and HOPEFULLy they will come around,,,GOODLUCK!!!!! God bless!!!

I Really Dont Have Any Good Advise For You B/c I Go Through The Same Thing !
I Have Known Shawn Since We Were 14 Years Old ( 13 Yrs) And Most Of My Family Hates Him . Just The Other Day My Dad Said He Would Drive Me And Mine And Shawns 2 Sons To Brickeys So We Could Visit Shawn Has Never Seen Our 6 Month Old Son So Im Really Glad My Dad Has Opened His Heart And His Mind To This It Really Made Me Happy :) My Mom Hates Shawn And That Will Never Change And So Does My Dads Wife And Her Kids But Oh Well !!i Look At It Like This I Love Him He Isnt Perfect Noone Is He Has Made Bad Choices And He Knows It . I Do Not Judge We As Human Beings Have The Tendacy To Do So But It Is Not Our Place To Judge Anyone For What They Are Or What They Have Done .. Also Keep This In Mind Follow Your Heart And If It Feels Right It Must Be ,just Go With It, The Only One To Judge Thee Is The One Above Thee And That Is Not The Human Race Here On Earth That Is Our Lord Jesus Christ In Heavens Job .
I Know It Is Hard But You Keep A Smile In Your Heart And You Love Your Man You Send Him As Much Support As You Can Through Letters And Phone Calls And If Your Able Try To Visit ..
Try Not To Let It Get To You And Maybe One Dayin The Future Your Family Can See Why He Is So Special To You And What You Love Him For .
Hang In There
God Bless
Keep Your Head Up

Here If You Need Me
Stephanie Lynn

Your parents should not have burned the letters. However, they do love you and are very concerned about you and your future. I don't suppose you'll understand that one until you have children of your own. Don't argue the point with them because until he gets out and they see for themselves that the two of you truly love each other and want a future together, things won't change too much. Hang in there. God willing, all will work out but it takes time - lots of time.

My Bryan is at Brickeys Also! I go see him all time and we write ALL the time but he can't call me until I move out cause my parents put a block on our phone so he couldn't cause there tryin to keep me out of contact with him as much as they can but I don't care cause in 3 weeks I will be on my own and he can call me! I'm really excited! All my friends except 3 have disowned me cause I chose him over them but I don't even care. Nobody understands and never will until they meet him and know why I'm inlove with him! He makes me smile and the thought of him, and he makes me feel so good. Nobodys been able to do that in such a long time! I haven't been happy in a long time but nobody can see that. They just see him as a convict, an absolute noone! But I know who he really is! I know that this is right and that this is what is in my heart and I don't care if everyone in the world turned there backs on me for it.

I Really Dont Have Any Good Advise For You B/c I Go Through The Same Thing !
I Have Known Shawn Since We Were 14 Years Old ( 13 Yrs) And Most Of My Family Hates Him . Just The Other Day My Dad Said He Would Drive Me And Mine And Shawns 2 Sons To Brickeys So We Could Visit Shawn Has Never Seen Our 6 Month Old Son So Im Really Glad My Dad Has Opened His Heart And His Mind To This It Really Made Me Happy :) My Mom Hates Shawn And That Will Never Change And So Does My Dads Wife And Her Kids But Oh Well !!i Look At It Like This I Love Him He Isnt Perfect Noone Is He Has Made Bad Choices And He Knows It . I Do Not Judge We As Human Beings Have The Tendacy To Do So But It Is Not Our Place To Judge Anyone For What They Are Or What They Have Done .. Also Keep This In Mind Follow Your Heart And If It Feels Right It Must Be ,just Go With It, The Only One To Judge Thee Is The One Above Thee And That Is Not The Human Race Here On Earth That Is Our Lord Jesus Christ In Heavens Job .
I Know It Is Hard But You Keep A Smile In Your Heart And You Love Your Man You Send Him As Much Support As You Can Through Letters And Phone Calls And If Your Able Try To Visit ..
Try Not To Let It Get To You And Maybe One Dayin The Future Your Family Can See Why He Is So Special To You And What You Love Him For .
Hang In There
God Bless
Keep Your Head Up

Here If You Need Me
Stephanie Lynn

You Keep A Smile In Your Heart :) And Stay Focused And Positive And It Will Be Alright For You And Him When He Gets Out !!!

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Stephanie Lynn