I am just entering an interracial relationship. When Jason was in prison, he wrote and asked me to get job applications for this guy he had befriended in prison, Tyree. Well, that was the end of it until Jason took off. Then one day I got a letter from Tyree. He had heard about Jason through his own sources. And it just grew from there. Letters and now that he is home phone calls. We haven't even met yet. But this is fun and it feels right. We were both getting kinda carried away in our letters and he wanted to slow us down. He is for real and wants to make sure we are going to work. He actually told me he doesn't want me to lose anymore weight because he likes his women big and I am just right the way I am. He doesn't care I have mental issues. I am twice his age, older than his mom:0, but she don't care either just as long as I don't hurt her baby. He is very mature and he will actually think I am younger than him when he meets me.

I was raised in a very racist town but I never had a problem with any race. I'm just not like that. I am fasinated by other cultures. My family will go through the roof. But since I haven't heard from any of them in months I don't think they're an issue! My friends can't wait until I get to see him and they are scheming all kinds of ways to get me down there. His mom invited me to come and stay there so I can meet the family and she asked me if, "I liked her son". I told her yes I do. A lot. He is always so happy and laughs all the time. He is is very gentle and quiet, he will be the eye of my hurricane.

He is having a hard time finding a job because he has a felony but I found a website in the jobs forum and sent him an address of a place where he lives that will help him get a job or train him on computers.

I am hoping to go down there next month. A friend is going in that direction anyways and she is going to drop me off at the train station and pick me up there a week later. I can't wait. I hope I can do it.

He asked me if I had ever been with a black man and I said no and he asked why not and I told him the opportunity never presented itself. I've been married for 20 years and waited for Jason for 4 years. I told him that I didn't care if he was purple with green stripes and pink polka dots. If he treats me like he says in his letters that is all I want. Just to be treated right, for the woman I am and accepted for who I am. Nothing else matters to me. It never has and it never will.

I have two best friends that are black. One has been with a white guy for about 20 years now and I grew up with her. She was the matron of honor in my wedding. And the other one:)! we call ourselves a black and white cookie, she is black with blond hair and I am white with dark hair. She is my party buddy, we live in each others back pocket friend.

He is just so damn sweet I have to at least see if he is the one.

When my parents got married back in '76 it was not an issue within their families. Other people saw it as a problem, but like you said as long as he treats you right it should not matter. I feel like love sees no color so it don't matter. Good luck to you. I wish you the best.

Good luck with your relationship and don't let anyone ruin your happiness.

WOW we have a lot in common. I grew up in a very racist town where mixing races almost never happens. After moving away with my job I began to date out of my race. My mom was OK with my decision, My dad protested for a little while, but you have to do what makes you happy! As of right now I am in a relationship with a guy who is bi-racial(blk&white) We haven't had any problems so far.

I too am in the same situation; I don't really see myself in a bi-racial relationship but everyone else does...like it's a problem! I was never racist! I didn't grow up thinking that I would be dating another race but mine...but what-do-you-know...I am! I have always dated blk men but never found the one for me until I met my fiance'. He is such a great man and he's so true to me. I don't like to see people who LABEL eachother. We are all equal so therefore that is the way everyone should be treated.

Good luck lunachild! Let us know how it goes!! We ALL want details...:-)

Good luck with your relationship! I wish you the best. I am also in an interracial relationship and it's never seemed to matter (and it's been 11 years!)

Wow. Love this forum. I see there is going to be a few misunderstandings though. We just have to realize that some are more accepting of comments than others. I personally have been dating outside my "white" race for 11 years and I am married to the sexiest, creamy milk chocolate black man that I have ever met. There was some static at first from family but it soon gets old and they realize they can't change me or who I love. I have 2 beautiful biracial boys and I would not change that for anything in this world. Their father likes to ask them if they are black or white and my youngest who is four will say that he is neither, that he is just brown. My oldest who is 8 says he is not going to choose either race because he and his brother are brown and they world will just have to make a new one. I am very proud to be with my husband and to have such beautiful children. I believe "You do what makes you happy, as long as it is not physically harming others, then it is right" You can't help who you fall in love with or who you are attracted to so there is no use in fighting it. Just let it go and let God.

I am also in an interracial relationship, and still dealing with the fall out from my family. We have been together a little over a year and he is the love of my life. I never really thought that I would date someone out of my race, but you don't control whom you fall in love with. He treats me wonderful, and I love him. He was just transferred from the county jail to SCI Greene, because of a parole violation, which I'm sure is going to cause even more conflict with my family. But this is my life and he makes me happy and I won't let rude and ignorant people destroy that.

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Their father likes to ask them if they are black or white and my youngest who is four will say that he is neither, that he is just brown. My oldest who is 8 says he is not going to choose either race because he and his brother are brown and they world will just have to make a new one. That is SOOOOO cute. My daughter says brown. Kids don't care. And we shouldn't either.

Good luck Luna. You deserve some peace and happiness ;)

Stacy

I don't have children but my nieces are biracial. The youngest is 5, and refuses to drink regular white milk because she honestly thinks that the chocolate is what keeps her brown.

That is SOOOOO cute. My daughter says brown. Kids don't care. And we shouldn't either.

I don't have children but my nieces are biracial. The youngest is 5, and refuses to drink regular white milk because she honestly thinks that the chocolate is what keeps her brown.

Aren't kids just the cutest? I have a friend who has bi-racial children and one of her daughters made up her own little word for her color. She says she is "chocolata". :D I wonder if she has the same chocolate theory. :hmm:

Luna, best of luck to you with your new relationship. I hope everything goes great for you two.

My boys are totally okay with it. They want to meet him. They have always told me that I should date outside my race. They were raised in the city and my oldest's best friend is black. They have dozens of black friends. They used to call him "White Chocolate". Both of them can freestyle with the best of them. They write rap and rhyme all the time.

I moved out here into the woods last summer and it has been interesting. My two little "gangstas" have turned this tiny little high school upside down. They come from the city and they do not put up with anything racist. Even the teachers have some respect for them for how they stand up for theirselves because they do it intelligently without swearing or calling names. They could be orators or in a debate club the way they can talk.

I think it would be hard for me to be racist when i have darn near every race in my family and that is no lie..

Luna what makes you happy makes your soul sing and that is how you know that your life would be happy.. wish you the best..

Life is too short to live with regrets...go on down there and see what this man's about. I wish you all the best!

Good luck Luna...follow your heart and I wish you the best!

Good luck with your relationship and don't let anyone ruin your happiness.


Good Luck DON'T let anyone interfer with what you want and if it feels right go for it ............RACE SHOULDNT BE AND ISSUE :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

Hi, Luna! I have missed you... it's good to hear from you again and see that you are happy.... Bless you.

Lisa

:thumbsup: luna follow your heart. don't let others ruin your chance at happines. i have always dated outside my race and have heard more crap from my family about it but they finally relized that nothing they could do or say was going to change me. i now have 4 beautiful bi-racial children who i love very much. as for whether they consider them selves black or white when the oldest was about 4 if she was mad at me she was black and mad at dad she was white. now my youngest she is 8 she said she is carmel. and they all say they will date any race they choose and i encourage them to

My husband and I grew up in a very racist town also but that didn't stop us. We have been togeather since I was 15 and he was 16 ( almost 11 years) and have been married for 1 yr & 2 months. My family hates it b/c he is black and I am white but they can't decide my happiness. They really hate him now that he is in prison. But he is truly my best friend and my soul mate! I LOVE HIM SO MUCH! Good Luck!