I Dont Even Know Where To Start But Here I Go...i Have Been Writing My Friend For Almost A Year Now And We Have Fallen In Love Although It Was Not The Reason For The Relationship. I Wanted To Just Be Someone He Could Vent To And Depend On If He Ever Needed Anyone. Well To My Surprise, We Are In Major Love :d :d !!!
The Problem Comes In That I Live With Another Man That Is Great To Me And My Kids And I Do Care For Him (we Have Been Together For 2.5 Years). He Pays All The Bills Which Is Great But I'm Not In Love With Him. I Dont Want To Keep Dragging Them Both Along Until I Decide What To Do. My Friend Knows About My Boyfriend And Says That It Is Hard For Him To Advise Me Because He Cant Provide For Me The Way He Does But I Know It Makes Him Question Our Love.
I Really Want To Move Out But The Truth Is That I Cant Afford It Even Though I Make Pretty Good Money At My Job. A Single Mother With 2 Is Hard. Times Are Not At All Hard Now As Far As Money. I Truely Love My Friend And Plan On Being With Him When He Gets Out But Thats Another 8 Years. My Kids Are Already Attached To My Boyfriend And Most Of The Time I'm Happy With Him. I Just Don't Desire To Be In A Relationship Where I Am Not 100% In Love With Him.
Do I Stay With My Boyfriend Or Do I Take A Step Of Faith And Move Out And Wait On The Love Of My Life? Maybe If He Didn't Have So Long Left Things Would Be Easier...i Am So Confused And At A Loss For Words...how Did I Ever Get Into This Situation...

I don't really know what sort of advice I can give you. I just think that you should be true to yourself and those that love you...

Good luck to you and yours.

"In love" rarely lasts. Loving, however, does. And your incarcerated friend has all the time in the world to pay attention to you and think about you and say what you need to hear, while your "housemate" is out there thinking of you in a real way - earning, caring, doing. The problem with the incarcerated is that they usually (not always!) have problems that reappear once they're out and faced with lots of choices. And 'way too often they make the choice that takes them away from you, back to the old bad ways.

My dad and stepmom had a marriage that lasted until his death - 40 years. I asked her once whether she was in love with Dad, and her interesting reply was that they almost completely skipped that step and went right to loving. It was the best marriage I've ever seen and they were completely hapoy with each other, without that "in love" thing.

You should always follow your heart ... no matter what struggles and off beat choices we are faced with in this life.. you know what you need to do and only you can make that decision ... advice is sound but it is only you that can use it wisly....

If you are in love with the inmate, then you are just using your boyfriend who is out their providing for you and your kids and he deserves better than you if thats the case. You need to decide whats in your heart. I certainly wouldn't want someone with me, just because I could pay their bills, but emotionally your mind is with another man. If you want the inmate, yes, it will be hard, but make your own life. Otherwise, its just all bull and all talk, because you can't live in a fantasy world. Please take the time and decide, both men deserve the truth.