This may seem like a strange request, but here goes. I would like to talk with a ex-con who did a long bit. I need to try to understand my husband a little more. Hes going through some things and shutting me out and its driving me insane. So if there is someone out there I would be greatful if I could ask you some questions.
Thank you,
Sheryl

I'd like that too

I only did 21 1/2 months but would be willing to help if I can. Just pm me if you want.

I only did 8 months but it was HELL. I had a easy program but being away from my family was the worst. Please let me know if you have any questions. I might not know all of the answers but I will try.

Sheryl - look up Masonic in the members list - he's posted quite a bit about his feelings while down.

This may seem like a strange request, but here goes. I would like to talk with a ex-con who did a long bit. I need to try to understand my husband a little more. Hes going through some things and shutting me out and its driving me insane. So if there is someone out there I would be greatful if I could ask you some questions.
Thank you,
Sheryl

Your more than welcome to PM me with any questions you have. I did 5+ years at SCI in Georgetown, DE.

I have done time and also I have been in long term relationships with 2 different men who have, you may PM me if you wish.

I have done almost 8 years and I understand how you feel and also why he is " shutting " you out, please feel free to ask any questions that you want ( i do not know how the pm thing works, i have not been on the internet all that long!

I did 12 years in a BOP Medium Security Facility. Feel free to ask me if you wish.

I hope by now you have gotten great answers to your questions. I will take a moment to answer your general concern however.

Alot of times when your loved one is going through something inside, they in alot of cases do not want to worry you more than is necessary. Their are things that someone incarcerated deals with on a daily basis that alot of people would never generally have to worry about.

Sometimes your loved one will push you away because they do not want to worry you, concern you, or scare you more than you already are.

My suggestion in this would be to tell him that you understand something is going on, and that if he can talk to you about it, not only can you help him get something done about it, but that it can keep the two of you stronger together.

Sheryl, you don't have to be an ex con to answer this. Men often do not like to talk about problems , they are creatures of action. Women like and need to talk and understand feelings, men do not.Some men will open up and talk but many men just do not work that way, they have learned to bottle things up and work out stress. When he is ready he will talk but nothing can force that. Just love him and accept that. Good luck to you!

^^^ Men act on instinct more often than women, and are very impulsive, hence the prison population being mostly male. Even though there are more females in the United States. Men dont tend to think straight a lot of times. I wish I knew why, maybe I could help myself......

You have probably gotten you answers by now (I hope). Anyway I spent a very long time in max security years ago and it will change a person forever. Prison life is a life like no other. I went to prison a violent offender, was violent inside, and came out very violent. Only age brought about changes to me. I know the beast still lives in me, I trust very few and like even less. I go from hot to cold fast. On the outside people used my reputation for their own gain, many times people tried to hurt me because they were afraid of me. It has made my life tough.

i hope you get all the answers you need !

This may seem like a strange request, but here goes. I would like to talk with a ex-con who did a long bit. I need to try to understand my husband a little more. Hes going through some things and shutting me out and its driving me insane. So if there is someone out there I would be greatful if I could ask you some questions.
Thank you,
Sheryl Ask away.I went to prison at 17.Got out at 26. I,ve also been married and have custody of my two boys.In my case it was my ex who was the problem.But yes,after spending 9 yrs. in prison,I got out in 1982, I had many troubles in relationships,life,and just coping.