Hi. My son is 18 and goes to court next week for sentencing. I talked to him yetserday and he seems very bummed out, more so than usual. He is looking at 1-2 years. He was on probation prior to this incident and he got a letter stating that his probation was revoked. I am not sure exactly what that means at this point. Can he be sentenced to even more time? Anyone have any tips as to how I can keep his spirits up? I feel so helpless, there seems to be nothing I can do to help him now. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Good morning Joyce,

I just want you to know that I am thinking of you and your son.

I don't have any answers and for that I am extremely sorry. It is so hard to find answers when we are walking in unknown territory. Just wanted to let you know that I am hear to listen

Hopefully someone here will have some answers for you.

Take care.

Susan

>>>I am not sure exactly what that means at this point<<<

I would think you son knows the "why-for's" and is scared (bummed out)?

At 18, I would guess he still has the thinking, "I can do what I want, when I want and how I want"? And breaking probation (somehow) the long arm of the law is now saying, NO YOU CAN'T?

Is you son looking at State or County time (1 to 2 yrs)? If he gets time and with your help, hopefully it will get his attention in the thinking department.

I don't have any information in reguards to what might transpire. But keep the group posted, because this is one great group of people that will try and give you some insight/support as things develope.

CEPORA:

GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR SON! I KNOW YOU AND HE ARE VERY CONFUSED AT THIS POINT... YOU KNOW, BRay IS ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. THIS IS A DECISION THAT YOUR SON MADE TO BREAK PROBATION. THIS IS HARD I KNOW FOR YOU TO REALIZE, BUT WE ALL AS MOTHERS MUST DO THAT. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ERRORS HE MAKES IN JUDGEMENT... EVEN THO WE LOVE THEM AND WILL ALWAYS STAND BY THEM, THE DECISIONS ARE THEIRS AND I KNOW WITH MY OWN SON, IT DOES HELP THEM TO GROW AS PERSONS. THEY DO LEARN FROM THESE EXPERIENCES EVEN THO THIS IS THE HARD WAY....

IN MOST STATES, THE ORIGINAL SENTENCE IS WHAT HE WILL SERVE, WHATEVER IT IS.... THEY USUALLY DON'T ADD TIME.

MY BEST TO YOU BOTH
DONNA

my best thoughts for you and your son! I hope things will turn out the best way possible!