I would to know if is possible to fall in love for a prisoner in death row just being "penpal" with... just exchanging lovely letters... Anyone of you happening this special and strange experience in his/her life??? ;)

Antonella,
I am in love with my fiance and we started off as penpals. He is not on Death Row but I can relate to how you feel.
Im sure someone will be along soon!
Big hugs from London, England to you and your love!
Joanna x x x x

Welcome to PTO! Sure, I think it's possible.

Best wishes to you!

Hi and Welcome to PTO.

Although my husband is not on death row...because of his sentence he is considered a lifer. I met and married him while he is in prison so I can relate to your feelings. You will find lots of support here!!!

Mrs. D

welcome to PTO

Antonella, of course it is possible to fall in love with someone on death row i also have someone on death row and he is my penpal :D. It does not mean that you cannot fall in love with a man who is in there, we are only human. Make each other happy for as long as you can :)
Good to have you with us on PTO.

Welcome to PTO Antonella~

IMO yes I it is very possible to fall in love with your pen pal rather he is on Death row or not~

Beck

I fell in love with my penfriend on Death Row. I live in England and we became friends and eventually fell in love through our letters. Although I was lucky enough to be able to visit him on a number of occasions, this didn't happen until we had already expressed our feelings to each other.
Unfortunately he was executed four years ago, but I never regretted our relationship. I told him so not long before he died and that meant a lot to him.
I am now in another relationship with a prisoner, this time over here and I know that he will be looking down on me and be pleased that I've moved on in my life.
Hope this helps you. Please PM me if I can be of any more help to you.

Welcome to PTO...You'll find alot of people here that have fell inlove with there penpal...

Welcome to PTO!

-As you see already, there are many members of PTo who fell in love with death row pen pals. Keep coming back!

Wow Antonella, tu t'es quand même décidée à faire ton intro !! :D

Welcome to the PTO family :) You will find a lot of support and caring people here. I fell in love with my penpal, though he's not on death row. I strongly believe love can be found anywhere.

I don't know if you've noticed yet, but we have a Europe forum on PTO, between the Canada forum and the US regional forums, at the bottom of the PTO homepage. Don't forget to visit, maybe you could find some info there.

Which part of Paris are you living in ? I'm in the 10th arrondissement, along the Saint Martin canal, between République and Jacques Bonsergent subway station. I very often go out for a beer in le Marais area, at COX bar Archives street. If you feel like talking, feel free to PM me, we could meet somewhere.

All my very best wishes to you and your friend.
A bientôt j'espère
Philippe

Another warm welcome to PTO!!

MY BOYFRIEND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE IS ON DEATH ROW. WE HAVE NEVER MET BUT CORRESPOND THROUGH LETTERS.GOD SENT US TO EACH OTHER AND WE ARE MORE IN LOVE EVERY DAY...

To love and be loved is a wonderful thing no matter what the situation. Best of luck to you and welcome!

of course it is possible !!!
to fall in love with somebody you have only contact to him
by letter, or a voice at the telephone.
love will found a way !!!

hannah

Hello Everyone - I have to say that I began corresponding with a DR inmate that I knew before prison and am now very much in love with him and he with me. We plan to be married in the next 6 months. He has a good chance of winning a sentence reduction through appeals and eventuall parole so I love him and wouldn't take anything for the relationship. I was married 11 years and never experienced the depth of love that I found in loving this man who happens to be on death row. Blessings and Peace to you all!

Yes, it is possible!!!! I only know my husband on death row. We fell in love a short time after we start writing to each other. A year later we visited each other the first time!! Oh,yes we love each other!!!!

Hi, Antonella:

I'm an eternal optimistic; some call me Pollyanna, since I'm a believer that love blooms in the strangest of circumstances. I'm writing to over 20 guys, half of which are on DR. To tell the truth, I'm kind of/sort of developing feelings for one of the men on DR. I keep denying it because there is a big age difference, but who knows what will happen.

oooh yea its possible!! love is strong, love isnt behind bars...

That is one of the most wonderful things about love. It knows no boundries. It is like a gift that is given with no expectatios.

Love is in the heart :)

anything in our lives is possible , and love just happens to be a feeling that spreds like a virus, very contagious , but sooo Good when it hit , I really don't think it matters where the person is on death row, lifer, 10 - 40 years , when the lord alows us to be blessed with this gift he gives , there is no stopping it . Just go with you feelings and hope for the best,
Good luck
Terri
:cuffs:

ANTONELLA,

My name is Paris and I met my boyfriend first as a penpal and then we meet he is on deathrow. I love him with all my heart and we are together no matter what happens. Follow your heart it is not a easy road but if it is the path you take only you have to live with it. Welcome to PTO and good luck.

Welome to PTO! I think love is the most wonderful in life and each time it comes it brings education, happiness, and most of all each of us a step closer to perfection. Good luck!!!

anything is posiible and you can enjoy your time together no matter what it is in letter righting or visits or on the phone just cherish the time you have together

Falling in love with the right man is never hard no matter where he is....

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:love: Hello

Well! it is possible to be married to a deathrow inmate and be real happy.
Last Sunday My Gypsy and I celabrated our one year wedding aniversary.
at first after we got married we got off on the wrong foot.
not My Gypsy and I but the mail was messed up for ages.
And just last monday i received a letter after 6 months.
We couldn't talk on the phone for a great while because he was in a H.U
where he couldn't use the phone that much and because we have a 7 hour time difference we didn't talk for 5 months.
Can you imagine what that was like?

Well last satherday he called and we talked almost for two hours.
and we had our own little celebration over the phone. :yes:
So yes it is possible to be hapily maried to a deathrow inmate.
It's tough don't get me wrong now!
But with a strong heart and a lot of love and compassion everyone can make it.
Check out my website or send me an e-mail........

www.geocities.com/vladd77/CASE_WALTER_STOREY.html

god bless
namaste

Gea Storey ( Holland) :thumbsup:

Van harte gefeliciteerd Gea, met je trouwdag! I've read about you and your husband some time ago, and I'm very happy for the both of you!
I wish you lots of luck and happiness!

veel liefs,
Marion ( Holland )

Welcome to PTO!
Yes, falling in love with your Death Row Pen Pal happens! It sure happened to me, as hard as I fought it it still happened. He's the best thing that ever happened to me!

my pen pal is now my boyfriend. letters and phone calls and just bonding with eachother is a very intimate thing and once you know the person for whom he/she is then i can say it may not be that hard to fall in love......well it wasnt for me.......

I would say so, yes. I have three penpals on Death Row...I'm not involved with any of them, but I think it's possible. Just enjoy what you have, letters, visits, etc...and that's all you need is love.

Definitely is possible. We can't choose who we fall in love with. My advice would be to seriously discuss this with your pen pal before choosing whether or not to pursue a relationship. That way you two can be sure that this is what you really want. It's not an easy relationship, but look at all of these incredibly happy people who have posted. It's not easy, but it's definitely possible. Good luck!

I have a very "special" friend who is on death row. At first, I didn't want to admit that I had thos etype of feelings, but the more we wrote, the more I saw how exceptional he was. I have never felt this way for someone, not on such a deep level. I feel like we are the same person sometimes. We answer each others questions before we even receive the letter asking the question, we have a connection that I've never felt with another person. Loving someone is a wonderful feeling, be it a death row inmate or not. But I have to say that with all the happiness, comes some very deep pain. I can't bear the thought of losing him, I will be losing a part of myself. I suffer emotionally on a daily basis. For your own sanity, please make sure you are able to deal with the downs that come with loving someone on death row. I wish you the best of luck!

I have a very "special" friend who is on death row. At first, I didn't want to admit that I had thos etype of feelings, but the more we wrote, the more I saw how exceptional he was. I have never felt this way for someone, not on such a deep level. I feel like we are the same person sometimes. We answer each others questions before we even receive the letter asking the question, we have a connection that I've never felt with another person. Loving someone is a wonderful feeling, be it a death row inmate or not. But I have to say that with all the happiness, comes some very deep pain. I can't bear the thought of losing him, I will be losing a part of myself. I suffer emotionally on a daily basis. For your own sanity, please make sure you are able to deal with the downs that come with loving someone on death row. I wish you the best of luck!i agree with you with all my heart; in fact the way you described your feelings about your special friend is the exact same way i feel about my fiance' who's also on DR. the thing is, its important to enjoy people and show them loe while theyre here and you have the chance to do it, wether the person is on DR or not. i used to feel that anxiety, worry and pain in the beginning but the closer i get to my man the more i love him and i love him for being who he is not so therefore the thought that hes on the row doesnt cross my mind....im enjoying him while hes here. so if you have feelings for your friend, why not let him know how you feel? you have nothing to lose but happiness, and though hes on the row you may be able to enjoy his company for years before the penalty comes, if that part even happens. so try it. youve got nothing to lose.....

It took months, for me to find to the word for what I had been feeling since only a few weeks after I began to write a death row inmate. I only told him yesterday; the word that had escaped me was intimacy. Not intimate as in physical touch or sex, but truly intimate. The two of us almost seem to live within eachother. We know eachother in a way noone else has ever known either of us. He says that I scare the hell out of him, because it is as if I can see through to his soul. I feel the same with him, he knows and understands all.

It is an awesome thing without doubt. We have a faith and trust between us that I have never shared with another man. And, I know had we started any other way, but by our letters, too many self-doubts would have plagued us both, to allow what we now share. We have promised eachother whatever God gives us of forever and I do depend on that. What we feel is far more real than what I could share with a man that had never been through as much as he has.

I do believe we must all walk through the fire to truly appreciate what we are given in this life and I know the men who have survived their time on the row have indeed walked through the fire. The man I share my life with lives in hell and yet he brings me great joy. Neither of us expects our relationship to be easy, however we expect it to be worth it.

I thank God that both of us trusted our inner spirits when they prompted us to trust despite the fears we had of what we felt growing between us. Trusting your instincts is all any of us can do and falling in love with a man comes from within our hearts, not from the environment that either of us exists in. You will recognize love when it comes; noone else can make the call for you. However, I can tell you love comes from all over and from all hearts. Those who seek shall find.

Kricket ~ what a beautiful post !!!!

I can relate so much to what you wrote...

I think you said it perfectly when you said "The two of us almost seem to live within each other." :) It is a new kind of intimacy I have never known before...and I have never found the words to describe it...until now !!!

welcome yes its true u can love some one on death row my boyfriend is on death row in san quentin we have been together now for 4 years i live in london uk and im hopeing in coming to see him nxt year good luck

it happens everyday!!! theres nothing wrong with it; love can be found in the strangest places. love is a gift, so when it comes your way just accept it and be happy!!! :)

i fell in love with a death row inmate a year ago, first it was letters, then phone calls and then the visits, i love him more every day and feel blessed that i have been given this special man in my life.

I would to know if is possible to fall in love for a prisoner in death row just being "penpal" with... just exchanging lovely letters... Anyone of you happening this special and strange experience in his/her life??? ;)
Yes Antonella, it's very possible to fall in love with a pen pal. When you sit down to write you write from how you feel. So you've got a lot of feelings going on and being transmitted -- that's how bonds form -- that's how people fall in love.

I would to know if is possible to fall in love for a prisoner in death row just being "penpal" with... just exchanging lovely letters... Anyone of you happening this special and strange experience in his/her life??? ;)
Ohh yes!! I never would have thought it before I started writing but some of the feelings exchanged just never come up with other "outside" friendships. There is a kind of bond that seems to gradually build up between people that share the writing lifeline... My pal tells me things that I think a lot of people would never dare and that makes me look at him with other eyes. He really seems to know the inner me and is very good at reading between the lines when I am down. It should be me supporting him!!!!!! But many times it's him boosting my moral......

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

My fiance'/soulmate and I fell in love through our letters -

He in on Death Row at San Quentin.

Never thought something like that would happen to me!

Ahh yes...I fell in love with my fiancee, and he is on dr in Florida...so it is definately possible. It is a strange experience at first. I never would have thought it possible b4, but, it has been 3 years now.

Antonella, what a beautiful name!

Yes, it happens, it happens, it happens! It happened to me, and he is on death row.

I just recently went to my first visit with a guy on DR FL that I've been writing to-we are now together. It's weird, but a good experience, even though it isn't easy

Yes, I fell in love with my man on deathrow threw letters. after 4 years and talking to many many women....be careful...these men on deathrow...unlike population are extra good at being charmers..and once they got you start to get demanding in their own way...and are very selfish and self-centered.
Don't fall for the trap is my advise...I wish I never did..and know many who feel the same.

after falling in love with a deathrow inmate 4 yrs. ago....I realize that we really fall in love with the man we think he is ...more than the man he is. But no one could of told me that until I woke up.

I would to know if is possible to fall in love for a prisoner in death row just being "penpal" with... just exchanging lovely letters... Anyone of you happening this special and strange experience in his/her life??? ;) It is possible to fall to fall in love with a death row inmate. I am currently engaged to a death row inmate. When we first began to write and he would make enuendo's I would discourage them simply because of his situation. But after a while I found myself depending on him for certain things. Now I have been able to visit him since we began writingm and have fallen hopelessly in love with him. It's kind of like the old saying 'don't look a gift horse in the mouth'. There is a reason we found each other and fell in love and thats all I need. It's easy to fall in love with the physical but mental is a whole different ballgame. Just whatever you do don't let the situation deter you and you also can't judge a man by one moment in his life.

I would to know if is possible to fall in love for a prisoner in death row just being "penpal" with... just exchanging lovely letters... Anyone of you happening this special and strange experience in his/her life??? ;)

you know what girl? I never asked me this question before...but now it is here. Nobody can deny it. This is a strange and great feeling, he's everything I have ever been looking for...but I am asking myself: am I normal? there must be someone in the world, even closer to me, who can offer me what I need. The answer is, yes, there may be, but he caught my heart first, and now it belongs to him. Doesnt matter if he's in DR or not. Doesnt change anything. It is sad but so real and pure you know. When I started writing him, I would never have imagined this (4 years ago). Though I instantly found him so fine!!!!!!!;) but it was inconceivable. Now it's hard to talk about it to my friends/family. I just think they can't understand. This is a world so far away from us, especially here in France (you have to add the geographical distance I mean). He's so perfect.:) If you wanna pm me, no problem girl, you can also write in French!;)
Peace up to all of you!:heart:

Yes, you can fall in love. I also did and I am also going to marry him this year. The person you meet in your letters is the person who he is now. As we all are humans, we all make mistakes. The worst thing about it is, that they get punished terribly for a mistake they once have done - innocent or not -. But it doesnt mean they have no right to be loved and fall in love again. And one thing I learned out of my relationship: Love conqueres all and cannot be killed from any State law !!! My husband to be may have a few years left,which we need to take as much quality time out as possible, but this is something he can take with him, if the state of California decides to kill him. The loving memories we share are not be taken away - from nobody. Good luck to you. I found the love of my life.

Yes, I fell in love with my man on deathrow threw letters. after 4 years and talking to many many women....be careful...these men on deathrow...unlike population are extra good at being charmers..and once they got you start to get demanding in their own way...and are very selfish and self-centered.
Don't fall for the trap is my advise...I wish I never did..and know many who feel the same.
You seem pretty hurt. But believe me things like this can happen to you also if the person is in the world out here.
There will be always men in prison who will use women, I had written to one too before I met this man now. Accidently I found out, he was writing the same letters to many other women.
This man I have now is different. I have had guys out here as well and they fooled and cheated on me - so this is for sure.
Things like that only happen if you let it happen and if you are aware of it, it wont harm you.

Sehr schön gesagt :)

Love does find a way. I'm sorry for your pain Desperate.

Of course it is possible! It happenned to me and I am considered the most level headed person going (apparently) and then people decided I lost my mind! But I wouldn't swap my man for the world. Sometimes you just have to take a chance! What have you got to lose? I doubted my feelings at first, I just figured it would be another complication for him, and for me. But now, we are as happy as can be. You could find love on the outside, but would you be any better off? Any man can betray a woman and vice versa, but it the love you find is real, it will stand everything that lies ahead. I know my guy could be there for the next got knows how many years, before/if execution comes. But I will be with him all the way, and I will be there if/when he dies. Grab any happiness you can. I was married for several years, and my husband turned out to be a pretty useless liar - he got caught! But with my guy, I have found a person who is so completely on my level, I never thought I could find this, but I did and I am always by his side! Just be careful, some are charmers, some are just looking for kicks, but some are genuine and need loving. If you don't have experience of death row apart from this guy, then just heed that warning. I have been involved with DR for a good 10 years, and I have learned alot, both good and bad. But if you really feel it is right, then just go for it and enjoy it:thumbsup:

well i'am not sure, but i thought i will do some good, and it's starting to get to me now. it sepose to be a frienship, but his kind words to me it's making me wonder. i know im not the only one who is writing to him, so i wonder through his letters i feel so much for him, but i know, i will never be with him. i think i need help or im going to get crazy. how could it even get that far???????

Kalleen, it just does. There are times in life when things happen and there is no way to explain them. Just let yourself enjoy it, like you would with any other man. Many of us here have gone/are going through the same thing. It can be the most rewarding thing in your life.

My penpal is on Death Row. He wants a relationship with me.He wrote me:"I want you to be my girlfriend,the only women that i want to spend my live with,to be with,to think about holding and kissing each day."I never meed him, we only write.

Yes it's possible, IMO it doesn't matter where he is...if it's going to happen, it will.

Just my 2 cents.

Yes you can, and when you least expect it! After writing for 2 yrs., my penpal and I fell hopelessly in love although we tried fighting it. I have a "normal" life on the outside, but my love lies in there and I live for the weekly visits! We make each other so very happy, and S.Q. can make us miserable, since they do whatever they can to stifle communication with loved ones. I wouldn't give up our love for anything, but be prepared to have added problems and disappointments...and learn to be very patient, understanding -- at least that's how it is at San Quentin.

Yes you can, and when you least expect it! After writing for 2 yrs., my penpal and I fell hopelessly in love although we tried fighting it. I have a "normal" life on the outside, but my love lies in there and I live for the weekly visits! We make each other so very happy, and S.Q. can make us miserable, since they do whatever they can to stifle communication with loved ones. I wouldn't give up our love for anything, but be prepared to have added problems and disappointments...and learn to be very patient, understanding -- at least that's how it is at San Quentin.
hey girlie!!! you know im with you on this one!!! ;)

I wrote the following in a previous post, before I became Eldon's wife, On the 15th of June, of this year. Not only is possible to fall in love thru letters alone, it is possible to maintain very meaningful relationship. We thus far, survive with 1300 miles between us. Twenty minutes, on the phone each week and the many letters that we exchange, keep us strong.

From November 2004

It took months, for me to find to the word for what I had been feeling since only a few weeks after I began to write a death row inmate. I only told him yesterday; the word that had escaped me was intimacy. Not intimate as in physical touch or sex, but truly intimate. The two of us almost seem to live within eachother. We know eachother in a way noone else has ever known either of us. He says that I scare the hell out of him, because it is as if I can see through to his soul. I feel the same with him, he knows and understands all.

It is an awesome thing without doubt. We have a faith and trust between us that I have never shared with another man. And, I know had we started any other way, but by our letters, too many self-doubts would have plagued us both, to allow what we now share. We have promised eachother whatever God gives us of forever and I do depend on that. What we feel is far more real, than what I could share with a man that had never been through as much as he has.

I do believe we must all walk through the fire, to truly appreciate what we are given in this life and I know the men who have survived their time on the row have indeed walked through the fire. The man I share my life with lives in hell and yet he brings me great joy. Neither of us expects our relationship to be easy, however we expect it to be worth it.

I thank God that both of us trusted our inner spirits, when they prompted us to trust despite the fears we had of what we felt growing between us. Trusting your instincts is all any of us can do and falling in love with a man comes from within our hearts, not from the environment that either of us exists in. You will recognize love when it comes; noone else can make the call for you. However, I can tell you love comes from all over and from all hearts. Those who seek shall find.

Eldon's wife:
The above brought tears to my eyes. I pray that God understands the great love you share and allows the two of you to be together, whenever, however, FOREVER. thank you for sharing this

hi and welcome to pto yes it is possible to fall in love with ur penpal mine is the love of my life we have been writing to each other now for 4 years and in oct im going to see him

Yes it is possible to fall in love with someone on death row. the time we had together was wonderful but he was executed and it took me a long time to deal with the pain of it, it hurts, a part of you goes with him. that was 5 years ago and I still feel it. be thankful for the time you have together and say a lot of prayers for him.

I met someone through letters and yes we fell in love he is not on death row but I think its possible to fall in love through letters and talking on the phone!!
enjoy it while it lasts although there are many problems that you go throught everyday day with this situation

sue in London

yes it is possible i started writing to my b/f as a penpal he is on death row it has now been 4 years and in 2 weeks time at last we are going to meet

You cant control Love. It just happens. Yes its possible! Follow your heart

:thumbsup: We don't choose love,
It Chooses Us:p

Hi!

I will join the rest... It's defiantly possible - I didn't think it myself - but I got wiser. :)

All the best.

XXXXX, Anne-Kathrine

I would to know if is possible to fall in love for a prisoner in death row just being "penpal" with... just exchanging lovely letters... Anyone of you happening this special and strange experience in his/her life??? ;)