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I posted this in visitation, and thought afterwards that I should have put it here. Ooops!

HELP!

Chris is going through a rough time right now and just wants to be home. He's been in almost 3 years and I think things are getting to him.

One of his friends just got out yesterday and the past few visits Chris has told me he wants me to be home and all he wants is for me to be happy. I tell him over and over and over again that I am happy. Yes, things are frustrating for both of us because we want to be together, but I am happy. I TRULY AM HAPPY!

Anybody else gone through a depression stage? He's been through them before, this one just seems to be hanging around longer.

Thanks for being there for me.

Sheila

For my Partner, the depression comes and goes... It is not easy to deal with and he has his ways... he keeps himself busy. When he is the most depressed he writes and draws and looses himself in his creativity. This works for him.

All you can really do is reassure him and love him through this!

yes, I think we all do. Being lock up and not being home with their loveds one is an awful feeling.
Stand strong by his side.

I am sorry Sheila :( My husband also goes through these phases and is going through one right now too. What can we do? Like Lulu says, I stand strong by him and let him know that I am here. I send him a lot of mail and cards to help him out. He deals with it by keeping really busy. He works and takes different classes every night of the week and also keeps busy with creative projects that he sends to me as gifts. I wish you and Chris the best, hope he pulls out of this soon!

Hang in there....just keep reassuring him that you love him and write and visit as much as you can...hopefully it passes soon...

Deb

MY GUY JUST NEEDS TO BE TOLD OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN THAT I LOVE HIM EVEN THOUGH HE KNOWS I DO.:)

My husband has been in prison for almost 17 years....he goes thru this a couple of times a year. I have noticed that it sometimes happens when I'm having issues and problems at home and he can't be here to help me thru it or when he knows that the problems are because of him.

When it gets bad, I try to keep him reassured that we are going to be together soon..........he knows it, but they also need to HEAR it from us!!!

Mrs. D

I have been through this as well.
He seems to go almost in cycles, with a couple weeks bad, then slowly moving back towards the sunshine once again.
In our case, he needs to keep busy. Forcing himself to be involved with as many groups as he can and being in a job where he works more hours in a day helps alot.
Maybe you could suggest that to your hubby, to join something or get involved in something new?
Take a course, start a hobby, etc?
I know it sounds kinda lame, like that is going to help the depression brought on by being locked up, but I do know it has helped mine before.
Good Luck

Thank you all for the suggestions. I know this will pass, it's just so hard when he's going through it because I tell him continually he's got nothing to worry about.

I just get worried because if he gets down I don't want him turning to something to make him feel better. He hasn't, but it's in the back of my mind. I guess that's when I need the re-assurance and he gives it to me.

Thanks again for all your helpful insight!

Sheila