This is a forum for people who have friends on Death Row. Rather it be a penpal or close friend or both. This is the place for you to come and talk, cry vent talk about problems or just how your friendship is going.

I know many of us have friends that are on Death Row and we need a place for us.

So Welcome to our New forum Friends of Death Row Inmates.

softie

I think this forum is an excellent idea :D
Thanks Softie.

I know that there are alot of people on PTO that are great friends with death row inmates, and there hasnt been really a place for them to post, and get the support that they need. Now you all can come to your own place, and discuss your friendships, how it is all going, and have a safe place to vent, talk, cry, whatever. :)

So to all your people on PTO that have a friendship with people that are on death row, welcome to your forum :)

thank you softheart for this forum, i think its a gresat idea, and i am sure it will be a great success

thank you softheart for this forum, i think its a gresat idea, and i am sure it will be a great success

YW Honey. I am hoping it will give everyone a place to come too.

softie

This is the first time I have posted here, I just started writing to several people on death row. this was a great idea, and I hope it takes off, we need a place to come also.

Thank you softheart. I write to a DR inmate and we really needed this here.

Can anyone see this forum?

Sure can Joy it is Friends of Death Row inmates! It was created in June of 2005! That is the date my first post on this thread was made. It was a new forum then.
Foxylady is new and just saw the forum and was just thanking us for having it here.

softie

Can anyone see this forum?

Many thanks from me too!

Ive been writing a inmate on DR polunsky for a few months now and we have got on well,but today I just found out he has a date set for next year,I feel very sad and Im not sure whe ther or not to tell him what I have read on the net or wait until he tells me.How do you say goodbye to someone in a letter when the time does come.:confused::confused:

Hi blondebabe and welcome to PTO!! :) You will find lots of support here and there are a few people that have been and are in the same situation as you.

blondebabe saying goodbye to someone you care about in a letter is really difficult, but iknow from my friend who lost his life that it is really important to them if you can do that when the time comes, i guess it just lets them know that not only are they loved, but that they wont be forgotten

Hi Blondebabe ... :( I feel so sad for you reading that information on the web. Do you know if this information is accurate? Where did you see this info? I'm afraid, I'm like you, and wouldn't really know what to do for the best either, it's a horrible situation. I'm new here too, so I don't have any experience with this, but am interested in others' experience. If this information is on the web ... will he definately know about this? Sorry if I sound a bit ignorant, but, as I said before, I'm not sure of the procedures around such an awful situation. My heart goes out to you.

Ive been writing a inmate on DR polunsky for a few months now and we have got on well,but today I just found out he has a date set for next year,I feel very sad and Im not sure whe ther or not to tell him what I have read on the net or wait until he tells me.How do you say goodbye to someone in a letter when the time does come.:confused::confused:

I don't know what I will say when that time comes to my Will. I'm not sure I would tell him until he actually told me though. I care about him too much to cause him pain. Not that I would be the one causing it, I just wouldn't want it to come from me ya know....I feel for you.

I'm also really glad this forum is here. Been having a hard time to relating to others on here. It's hard when you know he is never getting out. Life would be better than this evil DP.

if the information is on the web then he will already know about it, if you mention it or not is hard to answer, i did not mention it when my friend got his date i waited until he told me and that showed me which way to go with answering his letter, but all wee could do is to continue to build lasting memories between us, he did tell me that because of my love for him and the beautiful memories we shared that it helped him not to be scared of what was to come, so its best to play it by ear in my view, but het everyone has different ways to deal with the situation, hope it helps a little as i know how hard it is for you

You guy's are so cool.....im dreading the day i get the letter that he has a date...im checking the prison website every day since he told me he prob only has a year left...man how do you do that?? no doubt, when the time comes ill be back here looking for advice....and i know ill get the best, most caring advice back....thank you all so much guy's, its a honour to be able to come here.

Yes, thats how it is: An honor and a big pleasure.
To meet all you here, to share thoughts and feelings and to be supported like that is definitely a possibility to survive all this.
And about the subject you talked here: I would definitely talk with my friend about the date if one is set. Its so important to be honest and open-minded. When somebody dies alot of people stop talking to you in the free world because they dont know what to say, because they dont want to hurt you in bringing up memories.
Thats so wrong!
You need to talk! You must talk! The date is a reality and you both have to find a way to get along with it. Dont let your friend alone with all the thoughts, talk and try to figure out your ways to "survive" this horrible time. This will bring you closer together than before and that will show you how deep and precious a friendship can be.
They dont bring it up sometimes to protect you but they need to be protected, loved and seen!!!!!!
Dont think its their turn - its not! They have enough to carry.
So start conversation, dont wait when your friend will get a date. Time will be limited then and each day will be so much more precious when they face execution.
Dont waste a second, please. Each second together is a second you will never forget, which will stay in your memory.