Howdy y'all! :)

I started writing to a person on death row here in Texas back in December, and I had no clue how it would change my entire life. I never imagined that I would actually be considering this person one of my best friends!

Anyway, one of the guys who is housed just five cells down from my pen friend has lost contact with a pen friend who went by the name of "Sunshine." I've spent the last few weeks trying to locate her, and I have had no luck. (Like me, she used to attend Sam Houston State University -- and the last time he heard from her from her was 2 1/2 years ago. He misses hearing from her greatly -- and I've taken it on as a personal matter to try and find this person for him).

My point in writing this is to let everyone know that if you decide to become a pen pal, you need to see it through. You become these people's friends, and when you just stop writing because it's not convinent for you, then they're lost (it's your loss too).

I know that I'm preaching to the choir for the most part -- the thing that inspired me to become a member on here was how supportive and how dedicated everyone is to helping their friends, family members and loved ones.

In the event that any of you are the "Sunshine" (Mathney) that used to write to the person I'm talking about, attended SHSU, were originally from Ohio and lived in Houston while going to school at SHSU, please send me a PM. I don't know why you stopped writing, but I know that my friend's friend thinks about you all the time.

Thanks to all of you who are pen-pals! It makes a HUGE difference in these people's lives!!

Good luck with your search...I hope you find her

I am sorry that your penpals friend is missing his penpal. If i were you, I would print of the Reason, Season, Life time story about friends and send it to him. I know you have the best intentions and all that, but I have to tell you I would have probably not got involved. There is absolutely no clue as to why she stopped writing, but she did. I know as for me, when I have stopped it was usually for good reasons.

I am sorry that your penpals friend is missing his penpal. If i were you, I would print of the Reason, Season, Life time story about friends and send it to him. I know you have the best intentions and all that, but I have to tell you I would have probably not got involved. There is absolutely no clue as to why she stopped writing, but she did. I know as for me, when I have stopped it was usually for good reasons.
Hey! Thanks! Where would I find the "Reason, season, Life" story?? Is it on here?

All I know is that she was the last to write him, and he lost her address when they moved him to a new cell, so he never got to write her back. He kept hoping that she'd write again but she never did. BUT--like you said, there's probably a reason for that. I just wanted to try and find her and let her know that if the only reason she didn't write back was because he didn't, that his reasoning was justified.

A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Author Unknown

A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Author Unknown
THANKS -- that's awesome! I printed it off and am sending it to my friend's friend!!

I love the poem it is great.
I have talked to my husband and he understands and I am beginning to be penpals with diffrent people and why. In the last six months our lives have been changed and thankfully he is not facing death, but the entire thing opened my eyes to people in general and friendship is something I can offer and give. Everyone needs a friend even those that the rest of the world consider a monster. We see something else

Everyone needs a friend even those that the rest of the world consider a monster. We see something else


Hawks Lady you are so right :thumbsup: