Just wondering. Her husband was still out, the last I read, and I'm wondering if she's OK. Anybody heard?

Hey - Anybody Listening?

Havent heard anything

looks like her last activity was the 19th at 5:56 pm

I hope everything is ok. Will someone please post here if and when they hear something?

I too worry about Isadora and hope all is well for her and she did NOT take him back.

Oh you all are so sweet for worrying about me. ((((hugs)))) I am not used to it as my husband has everyone's minds all twisted and has made me out to be an evil B**; he's so manipulative. Not one person has called me to ask how I am doing! I was so hurt but I talked to a DV counselor and she said that people are reluctant to get involved and it's kind of a touchy subject that people don't know what to do about. Also she said my husband is probably steering people away from me. True that! I actually have been in New Jersey visiting relatives for a week just to get some distance and time from all of this. It was a good week and it really hurt me to come back home. Do you know what I mean? It just hurts to be in this town now. Now there is a no contact order and that is good, my husband cannot be anywhere around me or contact me or he goes to jail cause he violates his bond. He has been good about it and hasn't been bothering me. But I know he is soooo mad, he is insisting on taking this to a jury trial. I can't believe he is dragging me through all of this, so much stress. I told him to just be a man and admit he hit me and take what they give him. He is like no way, he said he will lie in court and say that I hit him first and it was self defense. I told him he is going to make a fool of himself cause no one is going to believe that, since he is 6'4" and I am 5'4"! So who knows what will really happen. Sometimes he likes to talk sh** but then he doesn't follow through on it. You know I have just had an education about Domestic Violence that I sure didn't want but Lord my heart goes out to all the ladies who have been through what I have and I know many have been through worse. It is truly a nightmare. At least now my home is once again peaceful with him out of it. You know he is really a typical abuser from what I have read about them. He really is in so much denial about his behavior. He really believes that I provoked him and he was justified in hitting me. Well I go back to the Dr. this week to see how my eardrum is doing. She said it had a large hole in it and may need surgery. Anyway thanks for asking about me!

...hugs...glad you are okay!

Deminblue - thanks for asking about her!!!

Isadora - I am sooooo glad to hear you are learning the lesson so many women
have had to learn. My personal DV situation was back in the 70's. I learned too and I've tried to help women I see in the same situation over the years. I'm old enough to be your mother and I'm sad to say that what I found out was "it takes what it takes" before women will get out of the abusive situations. It's incredible how many times they go back before the lightbulb comes on. I knew one woman who went back even after her newborn got a fracture on it's head (she was holding the baby during the fight.) She lived close to me and I motioned for her to come in my home when I saw her screaming and running with her baby. Cops came, ambulance came and took the baby, the guy went to jail and a month later they were back together.


Don't talk to him or his family. His is a very sick, controlling love and he needs help but not YOUR help. Listen to the Domestic Violence counselors!

Hang in there and congrats on taking these steps towards freedom from him.

Isadora,

I am glad that you have been able to get away from him. May God continue to watch over you.

Shona`

Isadora - i'm so glad you're safe. And not talking this time about anything more than sadness. Sad is a lot better than physical injury. Miserable, yes, but 'way up the scale from being beaten.

So now what's keeping you where you are? Maybe soon it will be time to move, so you can breathe untainted air and make your own friends and live your own life.

Peace