Hello every one,

Well the idea of being marrid has finally started to sink in:o .
My in laws are very sweet people, but my husband cousin( they were raised as brothers, they are so close) has just been arrested for attempted murder. His girlfriends daughter was molested, and he went to talk to the guy, and they argued and he shot him, in the butt. The sad thing is he just got home from jail in 2004 for having a gun. While he was in there his daughter was molested. I know he snapped, once he found iout about his girlfriends daughter. He told his mom he blanked out with rage. My thing is the GIRLFRIEND has not pressed charges against the guy.. why?!?!? beats me. I want to talk to her, but HOW.. what should I say?? I don't want to get involved with her, shes not a very good mom( my opinion) but I want whats right for that lil girl and my cousin in law.. help me.. Thanks
Tan D.

Why hasnt the state pressed charges? I hope things work out for the cousin.

What should you do? I suppose if you can remain calm talk with the girl moms and suggest she seek counseling for her child and press charges if the state hasnt already.

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God's peace and love to you in this moment, take a second and get your breathing right...how old is the daughter? You'll have to either lead the mother to press charges or go around her, but the molester MUST be charged. Also, judges are sometimes sympathetic to victims that react without thinking, and if you could get the defense to file for testing for delayed-stress-disorder with the molestation being a trigger event it could get him out of the Attempt, being a felon in possession (and use) of a firearm may revoke his parole, or they may just intensify his current parole agreement. Do this because to seek Justice is to Seek Truth. And always pray God's Will in your life, do not dispair.

**thanks so much**

It is your responsibility to GO to the Sheriffs Dept. and tell them what you just told us about this young girl. This happened to myself and my two sisters. The abuser lived in the home with us. My mother did nothing. Neither did my relatives. My mother drank/drugged and was absent, leaving her 3 daughters with a child predator. See no evil, hear no evil.

I've had 7 years of INTENSE therapy and have spent thousands of dollars. I tried to commit suicide starting at 11 and this contined until I was 26. At that point I had 3 or 4 years of self-mutilation under my belt, an eating disorder and several phobias. I couldn't shower without my husband standing outside the shower, because I was afraid someone was going to kill me. I deprived myself from food. I have scars on both wrists. I lived my life in total fear. I was molested, never raped, but the abusers started raping both my sisters at the age of 6. One of which has 6 personalities. The other one is an addict.

Forget manners, forget "sweeping it under the carpet". Please help this child. Women that have been raped and/or abused tend to abuse themselves for many years until they seek help. Some make it through the suicide, some don't.

Hello every one,

Well the idea of being marrid has finally started to sink in:o .
My in laws are very sweet people, but my husband cousin( they were raised as brothers, they are so close) has just been arrested for attempted murder. His girlfriends daughter was molested, and he went to talk to the guy, and they argued and he shot him, in the butt. The sad thing is he just got home from jail in 2004 for having a gun. While he was in there his daughter was molested. I know he snapped, once he found iout about his girlfriends daughter. He told his mom he blanked out with rage. My thing is the GIRLFRIEND has not pressed charges against the guy.. why?!?!? beats me. I want to talk to her, but HOW.. what should I say?? I don't want to get involved with her, shes not a very good mom( my opinion) but I want whats right for that lil girl and my cousin in law.. help me.. Thanks
Tan D.

Are you OK? And what is the situation at this time? I want to know the update - good or bad. Please let us know.

Hello every one,

Well the idea of being marrid has finally started to sink in:o .
My in laws are very sweet people, but my husband cousin( they were raised as brothers, they are so close) has just been arrested for attempted murder. His girlfriends daughter was molested, and he went to talk to the guy, and they argued and he shot him, in the butt. The sad thing is he just got home from jail in 2004 for having a gun. While he was in there his daughter was molested. I know he snapped, once he found iout about his girlfriends daughter. He told his mom he blanked out with rage. My thing is the GIRLFRIEND has not pressed charges against the guy.. why?!?!? beats me. I want to talk to her, but HOW.. what should I say?? I don't want to get involved with her, shes not a very good mom( my opinion) but I want whats right for that lil girl and my cousin in law.. help me.. Thanks
Tan D.

Well, my cousin in law was sentenced to 8-13. The girl has since dropped him and moved on. His mom asked the girl so why didnt you press charges, her response was, I have enough going on right now:angry: . His mom said she was going to look into it further for the girls sake

Hello every one,

Well the idea of being marrid has finally started to sink in:o .
My in laws are very sweet people, but my husband cousin( they were raised as brothers, they are so close) has just been arrested for attempted murder. His girlfriends daughter was molested, and he went to talk to the guy, and they argued and he shot him, in the butt. The sad thing is he just got home from jail in 2004 for having a gun. While he was in there his daughter was molested. I know he snapped, once he found iout about his girlfriends daughter. He told his mom he blanked out with rage. My thing is the GIRLFRIEND has not pressed charges against the guy.. why?!?!? beats me. I want to talk to her, but HOW.. what should I say?? I don't want to get involved with her, shes not a very good mom( my opinion) but I want whats right for that lil girl and my cousin in law.. help me..

Thanks
Tan D.

Hey Tan,
Wow i am not sure what to say for advice, but I wanted to tell you I am sorry that you are going throught that cause that must be a tough situation to be in. I would tell her that she needs to do the right thing for the child or maybe call the services and let DSHS know your feelings towards the mother even though I know she is family to an extent.Family or blodd or friends, not child should be hurt like that an not taken care of... No child should have to deal with that and if the mother is not doing her job as a mother then she needs to either take cae of her business and buck up to the responsibility or she needs to let the child go into the hands of someone that will.. I might let her know that you are sorry about the problems that have occured but maybe open her mind up a little and take care of the gift that she has in her ife (HER DAUGHTER) she is the victum too and needs someone more then ever right now to take her through the steps so that she does not become angry or remorseful ect. How old is the child? Man that makes me sick that someone would have done that to her. A holes that do that need tobe taken care of....I feel like your guys cousin did the right thing by hunting him down, maybe he should have clocked him a few times and took his butt to the POPO;s but I guess when you get that pissed off it is hard to control your emotions.:angry: I would not be sure what i would do if anyone hurt my kids !!!! I might be wearing some stripes and chains too....Good luck, I pray for the best for you...Tera

No doubt about it if someone was EVER to touch my kids in any way, shape, or form I would with NO DOUBT in my mind be is prison for life...Lots of love an prayers for that poor lil innocent child in her time of need!!!!!!

yeah this is awful im lucky i dont have kids cuz id tweek if this happened in my life my thoughts are with you

:rolleyes: It seems to me like you are putting way too much into meaningless details. Why do you care where this guy got shot, and that this guy has been in trouble before for guns, and blah blah blah.
Isn't the point here to get a child molester off of the streets before he hurts another child? Everything else just seems to fall to the side, unimportant, doesn't it?

i agree with alexsmom

I dont care if that childs mother were my sister, she is as guilty as the molester if she let it happen or didnt do anything about it,and I would let her know that! That is just my opinion, but when you have a child it is your job and not to mention instinct to protect them how ever you have to.....I would most definitly face time if someone hurt my children in anyway as well.