Hi I am one of the wives who is marryed to a prisoner I would like to get to know you hopefully that we can become friend. It no hram in talking to another man. I do need a friend to talk to. Some time it get lonely out here for the wives also when you can't be with you mate. So , if anybody is listening feel free to talk by. :wave: :cool:

Angela...
Welcome to PTO.... It does at times get lonely being away from your man... But friends can fill that void until the time when he comes home.... :) I know you will find friendship here...

ANGELA-WELCOME TO PTO-WE ARE HERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU NEED US

Welcome Angela...feel free to vent at any time. We';re here for you

ANGELA:

WELCOME TO PTO.... YOU ARE RIGHT, IT IS VERY LONELY FOR A WIFE WHEN HER HUSBAND IS INCARCERATED..... IT IS VERY HARD TO DEAL WITH...... OUR LOVE AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU. ALL OF US HERE ARE IN VERY MUCH THE SAME SITUATION AS YOU ARE...... KEEP YOUR LOVE IN YOUR HEART AND ALWAYS REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES YOU HAD AND WILL HAVE AGAIN...... MY SON IS IN PRISON AND HE IS ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED TO A GIRL THAT HE LOVES VERY MUCH AND WHO LOVES HIM.... THEY MET WHILE HE WAS INCARCERATED... THEY HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO EVEN SEE EACH OTHER FOR 6 MONTHS.... SHE WORKED FOR THE DOC AND THEY HAVE BANNED HER FROM VISITING HIM....

MY LOVE A PRAYERS TO YOU
DONNA

Angela - welcome to PTO. It's okay to vent whenever you need to, we're here to listen and support you.

I know how that feels I'm currently engaged to an inmate and we are planning on getting married soon, but I'm wondering if I would be able to fully commit to him for the rest of his sentence. (He has 5rys left). No one to talk to and be with physically for five years is a long time. I really do love him though and I do get lonely.

CREAMY-A-- I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL, REALLY I DO-IT IS A HUGE COMMITMENT, BUT IN MY HEART I CANNOT IMAGINE BEING WITH ANYONE ELSE-- I GET LONELY TOO BUT FIND SOLACE IN MY KIDS, MY FRIENDS, MY PTO FAMILY, AND GOD. TAKE CARE--AND KEEP COMING BACK; WE ARE HERE FOR YOU IF YOU NEED US

welcome creamy. I agree with Sherri. I just chose a man who might be in prison for another 22 years...so hang in there

Thanks guys I really do love him even if everyone else refers to him as the 'jailbird' but I don't care what they think anymore. I have great people here.

LEONDA:

LOVE CONQUERS ALL..... MY FUTURE DAUGHTER-IN-LAW HAS A POSSIBLE 8 MORE YEARS TO WAIT UNLESS SOMETHING HAPPENS WITH HIS HABEUS CORPUS OR PAROLE...

SHE REALLY DOES LOVE HIM AND I SEE IT MORE EVERY DAY.... SHE HAS A 19 YEAR OLD SON HERSELF AND IS LIVING BY HERSELF... I KNOW SHE WOULD LOVE TO TALK WITH YOU..

GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS.... (HER PEN NAME IS LOVE MUFFIN)

DONNA

Leonda....
Just another note to say you really aren't alone in being lonely... but know that it is possible.. :) We just have to find other means of support and socialization with those who understand... and make the most of the contact we do get with our men... I may have another 3 years left.... but each day that passes brings him closer to home with me...
Hang in there girl.... glad you're here!!

David, pick Leonda photo off and place it on the left.

There's another one "I" like looking at! :-))

Creamy, my husband and I have 15 years to wait. It is hard not being with the one you love physically, but you will find that emotionally you will become so much closer. Good luck to you and welcome to PTO.

Tracy

Wow Tracy, I knew I wasn't alone in this. I wish I had more enthusiasm lik you. Just let me know if anyone wants to talk!


I wish I could put my picture under my name but the pixels are too big! I'm not that good at things like that. Thanks for the compliment!

Leonda, in the intro forum there a post with an email link where you can send that photo as a attatchment to David and he will post it by your name. He just did mine.

Leonda I just wanted to tell you that everything will work out if you love eachother-Love is the the only thing they cannot take away from us! Just remeber that with each day that passes you are one day closer to being together!! IT is easiest to take it one day at a time--for ma at least..hang in there and if there is anything I can do or you just need to talk --we are all here for you!

My husband has been gone for 2 1/2 years now and has just over 2 to go. It does get lonely, but God has kept me sane. I try to focus on the day when it's all over and he comes back to me. It's hard, but you can do it. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you feel overwhelmed.

Waiting is incredibly difficult, I usually am ok but sometimes out of no where the thought of 5 years just overwhelms me and I am left with this sick feeling in my stomach. Fortunately it passes.

Friends and a good support network are incredibly important

Morrigan

I can not even imagine 1 year, let alone 5 or 15! I am so missing Cliff and he only has about 60 days left. When I get really lonely, I write him a letter with all of the feelings and things I'm going to do to him when we are back in each other's arms. It gets rather steamy! :eek:

I have noticed that mostly ladies replied. I agree that it can be extremely lonely and frustrating on so many levels, especially if one is "young" [at least at heart]. However, and this is for all the ladies here, please don't ever think it is easier for us men when our loved one is in prison! I feel the pain of absence every day.

Trust me, you are NOT alone by any means and most, if not all of us, share your pain in one way or another.

Best wishes,

Jim

Hello to all here,
My joe is in till his parole date in June 2003. That is supposed to be Mandatory parole. He will have done 10 years under old law.He will have 10 on parole.I am praying for the money for an attorney to get him converted to new law if the courts will allow.I have no one to talk to because our circumstances are unique.I work for a criminal justice system.I would be considered scum and ridden out on a rail if anyone knew and I am so alone and so frustrated.I need a support system desperately.Joe does his best but I still need more since I can not visit him at all.Please pray for us.

ANGEL- YOU HAVE OUR PRAYERS AND OUR SUPPORT- PLEASE COME TO US WHEN YOU NEED US- THERE ARE OTHERS HERE WHO HAVE IN THE PAST OR CURRENTLY WORK IN THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM. OTHERS WHO HAVE BEEN OR WILL BE GOING TO PRISON, AND OTHERS WHO HAVED LOVED ONES IN THE SYSTEM. WE ARE ONE BIG, BEAUTIFUL,BLENDED FAMILY!! PLEASE CONSIDER YOURSELF A MEMBER OF OUR EXTENDED FAMILY AND LET US ALL BE HERE FOR EACH OTHER. EVERY MEMBER OF THE PTO FAMILY ADDS THEIR OWN SPECIAL GIFT TO THE OTHERS. THANKS FOR ADDING YOURS!

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We decided to use this time to share and learn the fine print of our marriage. We discuss and talk about all manner of different topics from lampshades to romantic islands.
Have you ever noticed in a restaurant where couples will sit and not share a word or smile or laughter during the course of an entire meal? Of course you have there thousands of them - but not ours by our own design... you have this opportunity in yours as well. Please consider this option. It helps the time pass faster and it is very rewarding. Hon we've even shared our favorite Christmas as a child and our most horrible teenage date... no topic is forbidden we talk about it all and in the process our trust grows as does our knowledge of each other... we share laughter and tears and when he comes home we'll speak another language without words...... it's just a thought

PJD--I agree.

My husband and I have always talked about everything--communication was never a problem! We continue to share our lives--our day to day stuff, memories of places we've been, wonderful meals we've cooked, camping adventures, plans for our future--from decorating our home to planning our garden, we laugh, we hold hands and retreat to our own world. I am amazed at how much we've learned about each other as well. We've talked about some of the challenging times and as strange as it would seem--have been able to work through those "little things". So, inspite of the "heinous" situation--we chose to continue to build on our strong foundation.

My stepmother sent me a card years ago with the following: "In life many stones will be thrown in our paths--we can choose to build bridges or walls--either way--the choice is up to you." We chose/choose to build bridges to each other. I keep this in mind each day.

Just my thoughts...

Molly

I like that quote Molly- may have to post that one up in my bulletin board..