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Phil in Paris
03-25-2003, 08:59 AM
by Mitchell Anderson

I have always had an irrational fear of jail. It's not that I really think I'll end up in jail, but you never know. I just know I don't ever want to see what it's like on the inside.

Maybe I've seen too many prison movies. I remember one television movie in the seventies starring Susan Dey, (I think I had to watch it because I was obsessed with "The Partridge Family") in which she played a girl who was wrongly sent to prison and, just before she was to be released, killed another inmate in a brawl. Her life was over, and my fear of jail was cemented. I also think subconsciously I knew that because I was gay, prison was one place I definitely didn't want to go.

A few months ago I received an e-mail from David Forbush who lives in Frederick, Mich., and works for the Michigan Department of Agriculture. He has been volunteering his time visiting a gay prisoner in the Michigan Correctional System. In his role as a listener and go-between for this inmate, David has seen first-hand the institutional abuse and discrimination toward gay inmates that is rampant in the prison system. His stories have not only confirmed my long-standing phobia of prison, but have also demonstrated yet another place where gays and lesbians are treated as second-class citizens.

David has befriended an inmate named Ron Rousseau, who was incarcerated as a "sex offender." According to David, the case against Ron was of questionable merit, yet he was found guilty and sentenced to one-and-a-half to 20 years. "For a gay prisoner, expect 20," David says. "He was found guilty of taking photos of juveniles when in fact, he was doing everything possible to talk the kids out of it." Guilt or innocence aside, because Ron is gay, he has been confronted with gross violation of his rights to equal treatment by a prison system that regards homosexuals as less than human. David writes:

The homophobia and horrible cruelties that he [Ron] has experienced in prison have been too numerous to count. Ron has been incarcerated for 7 years and is facing the possibility of another 20. Ron is 37.
If you met him you would really like him and be impressed by his intelligence and caring. Really emotionally strong, though I can't understand why. I am usually the one moved to tears by some incident that happens to him, but not him.

In jail, he has been raped, always placed in a cell with a sexual predator (it's the unofficial policy of MDOC for gay inmates), called "sissy" and "fag" by guards, had guards inform the predators that he is gay and likes it, and is fair game for frequent and unwarranted tickets. Only 14 percent of the sex offenders get paroled.

Through his correspondence with me, David tells me that the Michigan Department of Corrections (MDOC) includes on the inmate's classification forms a box for "Homosexual." The MDOC looks at court records to determine if an inmate is an "active" homosexual, and they mark the box accordingly, (no inmate would volunteer this information). Classifying an inmate as gay is tantamount to giving them a secondary sentence of a life of torture inside the prison. Prison guards, employees and other inmates routinely verbally, physically and sexually abuse known homosexuals. Gay inmates are less likely, according to David, to be given fair parole hearings. The first question that is often asked is, "Are you a homosexual?" The inmate's answer is irrelevant since it is already indicated on the MDOC form. Their hearing is tainted as they are considered "predators" simply because they are gay.
David has taken Ron's case to the Michigan Department of Corrections pointing out the grossly unfair treatment he is receiving in prison, carefully noting each incident and hoping to get them to change their policies. Prison culture is one of intractable silence. The "team player" mentality supports lying and denials among the guards that any overt discrimination or abuse exists inside the prison. Without corroborating evidence, a gay inmate's accusations against the system are next to impossible to prove. And so Ron and other gay inmates continue to feel the sting of institutionalized discrimination.

The personal emotional risk David has undertaken on Ron's behalf cannot be underestimated as he deals with prison issues and visiting a gay inmate. He writes:

...[It's] like coming out of the closet a second time. It's difficult the first time you mail a letter to an inmate, which has his number and the institution name on it. You hope no one sees you. You almost sneak it into the mailbox. The visits with the shakedowns are tough at first also. You can imagine the isolation the inmate must feel as his friends drop by the wayside ($7.50 for a 15-minute call makes this form of contact difficult, too). Sooner or later, all of them are released. By then family and friends have drifted, they have learned how to be a proper criminal, most were innocent or minimally guilty, and they have been degraded so much that they start to believe it. Where can they live? What friends and family are left? How can they get money for clothes and transportation to and from a job? They have learned that fairness doesn't work. Society does everything it can to make them repeat offenders.
Imagine the poor gay kid who might be outed at his arrest. Or perhaps he is in prison for another crime and suddenly discovers that he is gay. The only examples of gay relationships he knows are these predatory situations complete with feminization and frequent beatings. He will think that he is the only gay person in the world. Imagine the isolation with family and friends deserting not just because he is an inmate but a fag as well.

Brave, I'm not. I just hang in there when my knees are shaking. Right now, it is getting to me.

David is continually affected by his relationship with Ron. I am in awe of both their lives. If you would like to contact Ron in prison, you can do so by writing him at:

Ron Rousseau #171281
Carson City Correctional Facility
10522 Boyer Road
Carson City, MI 48811

Please also feel free to e-mail David at dforbush@freeway.net. I am sure he would appreciate the encouragement as he continues to do this most difficult and emotional work.

Retired-6
03-25-2003, 09:30 AM
Phil:

Thank you for this thread... and I will be emailing David and writing to Ron.

I think you struck on an interesting point in all of this.... coming out of the closet in prison.

The "coming out process", as we call it, is a very difficult thing to go though and in some cases, dangerous as well because of the consequences that can be had upon one's emotional well-being. Especially with the younger GLBT people. As a result, it is very important that GLBT people have viable resources and constant support during this time. Countless of teenagers have committed suicide because they could not handle dealing with their sexuality issues, while also dealing with the prejudices, discrimination and hate. Many teenagers are abandoned by their families; kicked out of their homes and then classified as social degenerates.

With the increasing laws that charge teenagers as adults, there comes with it very specific consequences when that teenager is then put into general population of an adult prison. The risks sky rocket that the teenager will be immeditely subjected to sexual slavory by other offenders and sometimes, even by other guards. For some CO's can be just as preditory in sexual slavory acts with offenders as offenders can be, regardless of their offenders age.

Chris

Phil in Paris
03-25-2003, 09:58 AM
Chris

A sad thing concerning the young offenders, is when they find out once incarcerated that they are gay. What vision of gay love and gay sexuality will they get ?? Nothing but violence, rape, submissive and coerced sex !!! :(

They will feel so lonely, and what kind of human relationship will they have once released ?

Phil

lulu
03-25-2003, 10:06 AM
oh man, my heart goes out to him. ok, i will write to him tomorrow. :)

Retired-6
03-25-2003, 10:23 AM
Phil

I agree with you completely, because at its core is the very real probability that teenagers discovering their sexuality in prison...sexuality that is genuine and not merely a perception because of the sexual acts occurring... are very much at risk of experiencing severe psychological problems and the in ability to ever experience love in all its wonderful wisdom and glory.

I also think there is another very real risk of perpetuating the hate against gays on the outside, because of what many straight men are also subjected to, i.e. rape and sexual slavory... we must be careful and mindful to remember that being rapped and subjected to sexual slavory is not solely confined to gay men. Yet, in regards to the comming out processes and abundant factors, questions, fears and so forth therein... it is a time unlikely to bring forth any degree of rational comprehension or self-respect/acceptance. Because not only are you discovering a deeper part of you and who you are as a person and as a gay person, but to do so in prison only compounds the problems faced ten times, ten times that much more.

Chris

pookie
03-25-2003, 04:19 PM
You know as horrible as it sounds, it is a true and normal occurence in prisons. The fact that it is normal is not only sad, but also sickening. That story was real interesting, and I am with you Philly, I am very very fearful of prisons......not so much because I am gay, but just period.

tebkrg
03-25-2003, 05:09 PM
I have only to say that I am glad that there are people out there like David that care to care...

piscescarodine
06-15-2003, 08:25 PM
i read what you wrote and it took me back over well i was 19.
i say this two weeks of being passed from cell to cell. well in Omaha theire jail if most people want a perosn out that tank just bring to front and he will would be removed. even that down for selfish prepose and at lest someone different night.
i hope it makes sense.

mabear
06-16-2003, 05:51 AM
I saw Michigan so here I am.

MDOC WILL CEASE
LABELING GAY PRISONERS

In a letter to the American Civil Liberties Union, MDOC Director William Overton stated that the department will no longer label prisoners as to their sexual orientation. As of April, forms and departmental regulations were being altered to drop the requirement. No decision has been made regarding whether information from previous records will be purged. The department will continue to label sexual predators.

Steve Morse, president of the ACLU Northwest Branch board commented, "Unfortunately, it may not reach the true underlying problem which affects gay and lesbian inmates. The abuse that they experience needs to end and we will continue to monitor that."

Source: Gongwer News Service

Phil in Paris
06-16-2003, 05:04 PM
Thanks for this information mabear :)

JJH
06-16-2003, 08:01 PM
Gosh, prison is scarey enough. Being gay in prison has to be the ultimate nightmare.
Good thoughts going to you, Phil, you and yours.

JCinNYC2003
06-30-2003, 11:18 PM
Hello all. I'm new to this site, and this is my first post. I thought this was a really interesting thread, including the article and people's thoughts about coming out in prison. I started writing guys in prison through online ads, but I wanted specifically to write gay men. I had a couple who turned out to be fakes, but several others that I'm in touch with now have had real interesting coming out processes. Some were involved with "queens" or transvestites on the outside, or were just becoming aware of their feelings for men when they got locked up. But a few of them have been very cut off from their families for being gay.