What a day yesterday. I did pull it together and get to work. I worked 12 hours and yesterday was visiting hours at the jail. They are only on Thurs. and Sunday's. I could not get away from work in the afternoon and I just made it for the evening hours.

I think my son is being transported today. They would not accept any money from me last night for him. This is different then the last time I left money at 9:00 at night. The woman behind the desk told me the Captain had said no money after 5:00 (so they can get a money order at post office next door)??

There are a couple of the guys in the bull pen that are giving him a hard time. One told him he will get stabbed if they send him to this one prison and the other who has a beef with my daughter said that someone will cut off his ears when he is sleeping. What can I say? What can I do? I just told him to let it go and that somehow this is making them feel better to pick on him. I gave the example of how kids would pick on him in school. You have to remember that he is about 12 in his mind and actions. This makes me sick literally.

To me this is going to be the hardest for me when he gets sent to the receiving center. I am so afraid that no one will recognize his delays and he is not going to understand something and get disciplined. I am trying to take this one day at a time so as to not become so overwhelmed. This forum is my life line. I sure hope I don't sound like a big baby here but I am confused and terrified. (poor combination)

Well, gotta run Thanks for letting me vent
Susan

Susan I feel so sorry for you and your son. I've been working with people 'like him'. Maybe you could write the warden of the prison he will be at, to let him know about his mental abilities. Maybe there's a special departement they can put him on? Like i.e. they have suicide watch, they might have a special departement for people with lower mental abilities?

SUSAN-I AM SO SORRY THAT YOU ARE IN THIS POSITION-I AGREE ABOUT CALLING THE PRISON, HIS PROGRAMMER AND MAYBE THE WARDEN TO LET THEM KNOW YOUR SON'S SITUATION. I DON'T KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY CAN DO, BUT THEY CERTAINLY SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO SOMETHING. I AM STILL VERY UPSET ABOUT THE FAT THAT SOMEONE WITH HIS MENTAL CAPACITY WAS CONVICTED. ANY CHANCE OF AN APPEAL?

Susan...
Hey... never feel like you can't come here to vent!! I DEFINITELY agree with the other ladies' recommendations to make some calls to wherever he is sent to MAKE SURE prison officials are aware of his special needs.... If they are aware, they are responsible to take steps to ensure his safety.... They need to know from the beginning that he has someone on the outside that is looking out for him too!! It keeps 'em on their toes and makes 'em a little nervous.... It sounds like your son has run into a few of the "bullies" and it is very true that it is just like the elementary school playground.... They want to see how he will react and are looking for entertainment....
Just keep encouraging your son to mind his own business and to listen to what the officers tell him to do. Another thing that I have seen with developmentally delayed inmates is that if they build a good relationship with the officers, the officers will take a little extra care in looking out for them (sometimes... the good ones at least...) But even that spreads.... I had a few pretty delayed guys on the unit that I worked in, and even though some officers couldn't stand those guys, they treated them with respect just because there were another few officers who really liked those guys... and they didn't want to have a battle with the other officer....
You hang in there... and keep us posted.... You are in my thoughts and prayers... You can't be there to look over him, but a higher power can...

Your post made me think of something. You said, if the prison is informed, they are responsible to take further steps...so maybe it might be a good idea to send a registred letter about it to the warden. it costs a bit of money, but you'll get a notice when the letter is received. Just in case, they can never say they never knew about his situation. Because you'll have the proof of the post office that the letter has been received!

I work at a collection office and I know this little trick works with debtors that are stalling to pay. So it's just to assure yourself and make sure you have some proof. You never know when it might come in handy

SUSAN,

I KNOW YOU ARE VERY SCARED RIGHT NOW..... ALSO, I AM SURE YOUR SON IS SCARED ALSO..... DO CALL THE SUPERINTENDANT AT THE PRISON AND SEND HIM A REGISTERED LETTER IMMEDIATELY.......

HE WILL TELL YOU WHO THE CASE WORKER WILL BE FOR YOUR SON.... YOU CAN STAY IN CONSISTENT CONTACT WITH THE CASE WORKER. SHE WILL KEEP YOU INFORMED OF YOUR SONS PROGRESS.....

GOD BLESS YOU CHILD AND KEEP POSTING.... SCREAM IF YOU WANT TO.... CRY WITH US,,,, WE WILL BE HERE TO HERE YOU..

OUR LOVE

DONNA

Susan... I agree with the other ladies, send a registered letter to the wardern and copy one to his case worker. Then they will both be aware of the problems. There must be someting they can do! My prayers are with you and your son.
Norma

Something else along with that, if there is a medical person that can attest to his capabilities, it puts them on notice. If you can get a statement from a doctor send it certified as well.

Norma & tigrldy, this thread goes back to 2002. If you look at the blue bar that goes across the top of each post, you'll see the date the post was made.

Bless you both,