As some of you know, I received a letter from my guy a little over a week ago, ending our relationship. I had a feeling that it was coming because he had been so distant and appeared to be shutting down and cutting everyone off. I know that it has only been a week but I really miss him and I keep checking my PO box hoping for a letter. I keep hoping that he just needed a break to get his head together and he will realize what a stupid decision he has made. How long have some of you waited and hoped that they would change their minds? It's driving me crazy, not writing to him. I think about him all the time and I don't know what to do about it. I want him to come back and I don't want to wait around forever. I feel stuck! Thanks!:confused: :help:

Its been almost two months here and I won't lie I still from time to time hold out hope he will realize that he made a mistake and wants to work it out even though I know it probably is not going to happen and even if it did it would be kind of scary wondering if I'd just end up hurt again.I still miss him like crazy.Some days are better then others

Hang in there HUGS

I honestly haven't been in your situation with my loved one breaking it off with me while he is in prison, i think that it would be a lot harder and i'd be holding out hope longer for a reconsiliation (sp?)
The longest i held out hope for was I think about 3-4 months.
Hang in there girl, hold your head up high and keep smiling :)

Mine has been about 2 months now, and i finally gave up hope completely this weekend!! Too many rude mean letters coming my way, unfortunately it got real ugly. For your sake I hope that if it is over, it needs to be a good clean cut with no ugliness or meaness.. It is never easy, and it hurts like hell and you have alot of questions I am sure!! I still do and will always have them and they will stay unanswered, but maybe that is also fort the best. Nothing anyone can say will make this better, easier or anythying like that. But it will get better and yes time does heal all wounds!! That an a huge measure of pissed off ness!! :) :)
God works in very strange ways I am hear to prove!
If I can be of any help please feel free to PM me.
Sincerely,
Patricia:)

Well you know my situation...when it happened I chose to dive into another relationship and to be honest I never really held any hope because with both phone calls he made himself pretty clear it was over. It has now been five months and he wants to be friends and I kinda want more, but to be honest I think the best thing is for me to completely let go.

You are right PSMITH. I have a lot of unanswered questions. Like why he broke it off in the first place. The letter I got gave some lame excuse that I know is just a load of bull. I think that I am more worried about him because I know that he is shutting down. I guess I could say that I am lucky because I am not having any of the ugliness. I just got one short letter telling me to never write or visit again and to leave him alone. He said that he hopes that I find someone to love me for me. I thought that I had. I know that he loves me so I don't understand why he doesn't want to work at the relationship or at least help me with some closure by telling me what went wrong. I guess whatever is wrong is on him at this point. I know that I will hold out hope for a little while but I have decided not to put my life on hold and I am going to go out with friends and have fun and if someone comes along before he comes to his senses then it's his loss. I do love him though, with all my heart. I guess how long I will wait is yet undetermined.

Hang in there ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))
I just went through something similar, he just all of a sudden stop writing and we grew apart. It had been a year...I had another relationship and a baby. Now this weekend we saw each other again after 11 months and all those feelings came back. When it's real it's real. LET GO AND LET GOD....WHAT HE HAS FOR YOU IS FOR YOU. So if that's the man for you he will come around, even if it takes awhile. They have nothing but time to sit there and realize they made a mistake.

I wish to God I had never met him. He hurt me beyond belief. I would have rather had the nastiness in a letter, and never have him come home. He put the nastiness right in my face. I still can't deal with the fact that he never cared for me, he was just using me. That hurts so bad I can't wrap my brain around it. I cry until I throw up. All the lies. The other woman. The drugs. I am in so much pain I have to remind myself to breathe.

I don't hold out any hope he will ever come back. After what he did to me I don't want him back. I love him so much but I have to walk away from all this. I have to take care of myself. You only have to kick me in the heart once.

I'm sorry that you had so much nastiness thrown in your face. I don't think that I could handle that either. I believe that my guy is just ending things out of fear and frustration and that is too bad. To a rational woman like myself it doesn't make sense to give up on something because you are frustrated or afraid like he is doing. To me that is the time to dig in your heals and do battle. But a rational woman like myself can also tell when there is no sense in fighting a losing battle and that is where I think that I am at. I am so sorry for you lunachild but no one deserves to have their heart kicked like that. I hope that the pain subsides in time for you and that some good things happen in your life, in both our lives. Take care of yourself as we are all that we really have to count on. Good Luck