Hi i have a case where i have told a friend of 6yrs that i would hold his personal belongings(1large bag of paper work) until he ws to get out of jail which is most prob 2 yrs away. "ive had the stuff now for 3yrs+"
I receive a phone call from him about a week ago as i had written to him and told him i was putting his property in at prisoner aid, we spoke and he tried his manipulation stuff but now im aware of it all i tend not to fall in to his crap. At the end of convo he said come and speak to me about all of this BUT dont come empty handed, if i was to well then dont bother coming down (this also was said to me late december so i havent had contact with him until last week) I hung up on him as once again this guy thinks im a fool.
I believe that after the help and support i have given this guy i feel he has disrespected me as a friend and has no morals and is only thinking of his self.
Now i have made the last decision i will ever make of this guy and that is to hand his bag over and that way he wont need to see me on release, i also want to remove myself as his next of kin and stop all phone calls to my house.(It seems anytime there is contact with him there are dramas) I dont think im wrong but i would like your opinion on it, should i keep my promise and hold his bag and just on his release have him pick it up from some where other than my house by some one else or just save the worry and trouble later on and just get this guy out of my life for good??:confused:

Sounds like you've already made your mind up.

You know the situation better than any of us, so whatever you feel is the right thing to do for you is what you need to do.

Maybe you could give his stuff to a family member or someone you know will make sure he gets it when he gets out. If you want him out of your life, I'd definately get rid of any reasons he would have to seek you out later.

His family wants nothing to do with him, i was the only person who stood by him but gave him to many chance's, now i feel he has used them all up with me.
There was a time where i really thought he may have changed but sadly enough i believe his home will be jail for many yrs to come and i dont really want to go through it anymore on a personal bases.
I believe you can only help someone so much they need to put effort into it as well, its the same old senario 'nobody wants me so i mose well be a criminal' all the pity stuff but never prepared to change his old ways just wants to run with the negative on the inside as he saids its the only way to survive, I say crap as ive seen him do 6 months of clean jail, study and all other things one can do to make time pass easier.

well i rang 'prisoners aid' and they wont take it so know im stuck what to do, i have rung the jail to speak with the welfare officer just awaiting the return phone call.

Does he have a solicitor? If so you can give the paperwork to them. If not, well you can try his family as a last resort.

I agree with Medea, and when the prison contacts you, make it clear you dont wont know more calls from him

As i said above:

His family wants nothing to do with him, i was the only person who stood by him but gave him to many chance's, now i feel he has used them all up with me.
There was a time where i really thought he may have changed but sadly enough i believe his home will be jail for many yrs to come and i dont really want to go through it anymore on a personal bases.
I believe you can only help someone so much they need to put effort into it as well, its the same old senario 'nobody wants me so i mose well be a criminal' all the pity stuff but never prepared to change his old ways just wants to run with the negative on the inside as he saids its the only way to survive, I say crap as ive seen him do 6 months of clean jail, study and all other things one can do to make time pass easier.

No solicitor either just legal aid ones...
Someone i know suggested just to pack it up and send it to the jail with no return addy on it???

Is it a lot of paperwork? If not you can probably leave it in property for him as legal documents.

I wasnt going to give up on legal aid i rang back again today and spoke with the fellow in charge also i have spoken with the welfare office from the jail and the property should be out of my house by next week (providing he signs for it to go to p/aid) i dont see why he wouldnt.. hmmm

Well he refuses to sign the paper work for the bag to go to prisoners aid so i guess im stuck with it!!!!

he is playing games with you and wants some sort of reason to come back and see you.
Get rid of it if you want him out of your life or otherwise once you see him again you will take pity and go through the cycle all over again

Yes i totally agree i was thinking the same thing but no more games im finished with him and his b*****i really cant believe i fell for his crap for 5 yrs, i really helped him as much as i could then when it came to the crunch and i said NO he got all dirty on me and the negative stuff came. I dont need that im better than that. His stuff has been handed over now he has no reason to come back near me...he is playing games with you and wants some sort of reason to come back and see you.
Get rid of it if you want him out of your life or otherwise once you see him again you will take pity and go through the cycle all over again