WOW!! I received a reply to my letter to him and his was beyond vicious!! he told me that he would rather go back to his crack whores and living with his meth dealer (she had kids in the house!) then be with me and our son because I am old!!! I am 7 years older then he is, true..I could not believe that he went there!! He also refused to send me back my pictures because he might need them in the future deoending upon me!!! I took that as a threat!! wasnt it??? yes they are private pictures.. He will not send back the normal ( clothed) pictures because it would take too mant stamps! i snt him a $10.00 money order yesterday to buy stamps and return all of my picS.. He also doesnt care how the DNA results come in, said it wouldnt change anything!!! This is a man I gave everything to!! What a fool and an idiot I was. Prison does change some men for the better, I really do believe that.. But not in this case. there is no doubt that he is only learning how to be a harder , meaner, criminal!!
That letter hurt, I have to tell you !!!:angry: :(

awww girlie I am so sorry what a piece of crap! That ticks me off just reading this PM me if ya need anything girl you are better than that keep your head up. You will find someone who can respect you and treat you the way you are supposed to be treated. take care

I am sorry for you - I will pray for you and you do not deserve this

I'm so sorry that he talked to you like that! That is horrible. If he is going to be like that, you and your child are better off without him. Good luck and God bless. Lisa

Psmith, I have been following your posts and I really think this relationship being over is the best thing. I know you want your son to have a dad but do you want something like that? He sounds rotten and mean and you wouldn't want your son to pick up those bad habits. Your son needs to be raised to be a man and have respect for women, I don't think he will get that from Scott. And you don't deserve to be treated like crap either. The hurt will fade but you must always keep your head held high. Good luck to you.

I'm so sorry that he talked to you like that! That is horrible. If he is going to be like that, you and your child are better off without him. Good luck and God bless. LisaTHANKS FOR THE REPLY.. SCOTT'S MOM LIVES IN MESA AZ.. HE IS FROM TUCSON . THEY RUN JET DRAGSTERS.. THIS IS GOING TO HURT OUR SON MORE THEN ANYTHING, AS I HAVE NEVER, NEVER BAD MOUTHED HIM TO OUR SON, OUR SON HERO WORSHIPS HIS DAD AND CAN'T WAIT TO GO RACING WITH THE ARRIAGAS!!! HOW DO I TELL HIM THIS??? HE'S ONLY 6 YEARS OLD! WHY ON EARTH IF HE DIDNT WANT HIM, WHY LET ME BRING A LITTLE BOY TO MEET HIM AT A PRISON?? SORRY TO DRAG ON!! :(

WOW!! I received a reply to my letter to him and his was beyond vicious!! he told me that he would rather go back to his crack whores and living with his meth dealer (she had kids in the house!) then be with me and our son because I am old!!! I am 7 years older then he is, true..I could not believe that he went there!! He also refused to send me back my pictures because he might need them in the future deoending upon me!!! I took that as a threat!! wasnt it??? yes they are private pictures.. He will not send back the normal ( clothed) pictures because it would take too mant stamps! i snt him a $10.00 money order yesterday to buy stamps and return all of my picS.. He also doesnt care how the DNA results come in, said it wouldnt change anything!!! This is a man I gave everything to!! What a fool and an idiot I was. Prison does change some men for the better, I really do believe that.. But not in this case. there is no doubt that he is only learning how to be a harder , meaner, criminal!!
That letter hurt, I have to tell you !!!:angry: :(IRISH MY SWEETS, IF YOU STILL HAVE MY HOME NUMBER.. CALL ME TONIGHT OR I AM AT THE OFFICE TILL 4 PM MY TIME... YOUKNW THE AREA CODE *telephone number removed, please use our PM system for such personal information*

awww girlie I am so sorry what a piece of crap! That ticks me off just reading this PM me if ya need anything girl you are better than that keep your head up. You will find someone who can respect you and treat you the way you are supposed to be treated. take care
THANK YOU FOR THE KIND WORDS... THIS TOO SHALL PASS!! I'M GOING TO START THE NEW ME TOMORROW.. HAIR CUT ( ABOUT 9 INCHES OF BLONDE GOING LOL ) GOING TO GO TO A SALON FOR A SKIN PEEL THING>????? KIND OF SCARED OF THAT!! LOL NEW CLOTHES ( I HAD SAVED $1000.00 TO BUY HIM NEW CLOTHES) TORE UP HIS NEW CREDIT CARD I HAD GOT HIM..... LIFE WILL BE GOOD.. TAKING "MY" SON TO A RESORT SUNDAY FOR THE DAY AND HAVING A DINNER PARTY TOMOOROW NIGHT ( SMALL & CASUAL) THANKSSSSSSSSS:)

oh psmith ((((hugs)))) you are better off girl. i know you know that and you are just so dam pissed that he is pushing your buttons like this. it will be ok, dont give him the satisfaction just let it slide....lots of love

psmith, I can't believe he was so cruel with the things he said to you, what a jerk!!! You don't deserve to be talked to that way!! I know it hurts, but I'm happy to hear your picking yourself up doing some things for you and your son,

That's just what you need to do, good luck girl!!

Oh girl---I am so sorry! I think you should end all communication with him. If he writes throw it away or mark return to sender.

I am sorry for the words he used and as far as your son he has YOU. YOU love him enough for two people. Give him a great big hug from PTO!


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Ugh, I am so sorry for this hun! I really am, its sad when they can get so vicious. Just remember that people do say mean things when they are hurt, not to make any excuses for anyone... I just know that I have done it in the past~said things that I never meant just to be mean and hurtful.

Hugs to you
Heather

That is so messed up. I'm sorry that he is being such a jerk.. If that is the way that he wants to act about your son then your son is better off without him in his life!!! Hang in there!!

I am soooooo sorry he is being nasty :( You and your child deserve so much more then that. HUGS to you

If he says he would really prefer the crack ladies, well good, perhaps they will appreciate suich treatment- meanwhile I like your recovery plan! think of that awful letter as a gift, helping take away whatever desire for him you might have still felt.

I am very sorry that this happened to you. I hope you enjoy your day, and forget all about what is going on. Go have a good time and be with your son. It might not seem like it now, but life does go on and for the better a lot of times.

God bless!

I agree with has. THis man doesn't deserve you or your precious child. At least not right now. WHat he needs is the crack whores. Let them have him ;) You move on and remember a higher pwoer gave you a precious gift, much more precious then he'll EVER understand.

((((HUGS))))

Stacy

Psmith...we have chatted backstage about this crazy situation. Girl I'm sorry it unfolded this way, but better now than later. It is so obvious that he doesn't deserve the love and loyalty you are capable of giving.

Even if he wanted to move on he didn't do it like a real man and for that he is just flat out WRONG! He never deserved you and he showing that now! Sure you'll cry and there will be hard days but be thankful you didn't live another day in this wasting time on someone who didn't value you nor respect you!

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THANKS FOR THE REPLY.. SCOTT'S MOM LIVES IN MESA AZ.. HE IS FROM TUCSON . THEY RUN JET DRAGSTERS.. THIS IS GOING TO HURT OUR SON MORE THEN ANYTHING, AS I HAVE NEVER, NEVER BAD MOUTHED HIM TO OUR SON, OUR SON HERO WORSHIPS HIS DAD AND CAN'T WAIT TO GO RACING WITH THE ARRIAGAS!!! HOW DO I TELL HIM THIS??? HE'S ONLY 6 YEARS OLD! WHY ON EARTH IF HE DIDNT WANT HIM, WHY LET ME BRING A LITTLE BOY TO MEET HIM AT A PRISON?? SORRY TO DRAG ON!!


Psmith, I'm so sorry that you are faced with this situation. It's so sad that your ex is now not wanting anything to do with you and your son after he knows how much your son adores him. I don't know how to tell you to tell your son, it's going to be tough. It's great to hear that you are treating yourself at the salon and treating yourself and your son to the resort and dinner party. You both deserve it. Your ex will someday open his eyes and see what he's lost in you and your son, and will realize how awful he's been and I bet he'll regret losing you both by his actions. You've got to focus on yourself and your son now. Take it one day at a time, that's all you can do. Good luck and God bless. Lisa

sorry that you are going through such a rough time, you and your little boy are better off without him. stay strong and hold your head up high you deserve it.

Hey there, just want to add my (((hugs)))) to the pile :).

I'm glad you're doing the salon thing and taking "your son" out! What a rat for bandoning his son that way... I know it's hard so keep spoiling yourself and pampering the "new you"!!

psmith...Sorry you have to go through this hurt...

((((hugs))))

DLG

I feel so sorry for your little boy, but in the long run your son will be better off.He has his mommy that loves him enough for two. You and your son have a wonderful time and just think of only the two ( Special) people, YOU AND YOUR SON.

Most importantly he needs to remember that you are the mother of his child and he should respect you for that.

Did you ever put the request in to be taken off the visitation list?

Mel

I am so very sorry about all of this. Just know you have us and we care about you darlin!

(((Hugs))) Oh my god, I cannot believe that he wrote that to you! What a looser!!! Ugh!

I know you are hurting, but you do not deserve someone who is going to treat you like this! Girl, you are strong and you will get through this.

Always remember, what goes around, comes around and he will one day get his!

First of all I want to say that I am so sorry that you have to go through this. But you will get through this. My ex husband was nasty with me when we first split up. I disappeared form his life, filed for divorce, got re-married, changed my name and kept to myself. Made it impossible for him to find me. Well that was 14 years ago. He left me with a beautiful little girl that I raised, with the help of my new husband. She never lacked anything, and when she asked about her father I simply told her that someday she would see him again. As she got older, she really began to want to meet him, and that was okay. I never said one bad word about him. She is 16 now, and she decided she wanted to locate him, which I did and we set up a meeting. It was all nice and all, the plans they made to spend time with each other, but...he never folllowed through on anything with her. My point is I didn't have to tell my little girl what a jerk her father was, she's kinda figuring that out herself. I did talk to him on a few ocasions and once he even argued with me about why we broke 14 years ago. Why would we care to bring that up? I ended the conversation. You will be fine and so will your son. Sometimes not having these men in our lives is a blessing. Take care of you and of that precious little boy. :)

Jason said the same thing to me. I totally know how you feel. He told me "I was to fat to f***"(he was the one with the huge gut), "if he wanted a ho, he would come home"( I haven't had sex in 16 years), he is messing around with a teenager that lives in my town(I am ten years older than him).

He did the same thing to me my ex did, and threw 4 years of counceling right down the drain. The worse thing is, he knew it and did it deliberately. My brain and sense of self-preservation was screaming, "He has to go" and I called his PO. He took off.

Thank God for my kids and my friends. They have kept me from going off the deep end. I gave all his clothes to the Rescue Workers, burned all his letters and cards, from him and to him. I have found out a lot of things about him since then and he has a lot of problems that have nothing to do with me.

You take care of you and that little one. Always focus on the fact that you are all that matters. No one deserves to be treated like that, EVER! It falls into the catagory of mental and emotional abuse and you need to run in the other direction and not look back. Your not the fool or the idiot, he is and don't ever forget it. Any man that forsakes his child, is not worth the air he breathes. I have been surrounding my kids with as many POSITVE male roles as I can. And your son, seeing you being strong and not taking that kind of s***, has already started to learn a valuable lesson on how NOT to treat women.

Hang in there, it will get better.

That is just wrong, on so many different levels. Is there any way you can call the prison and find out about getting those pictures back?
If you want someone to talk to who has sorta been there, let me know.

they cannot help me as this is not considered contraband!! they cannot make him send it back at all... i did send a $10.00 money order with his reply letter ( which was pure class by the way) and I hope that he has the decency to send the pictures back after he buys stamps with the $10.00??? we shall see what happens. :blah:

Definitely pure class, lady. Way to take the high road!

I don't know the whole story so excuse me if I'm wrong here but;

-He won't return your photos
-he's denying your child
-saying he'd rather be with a crack whore.....etc

he sounds like a guy who's is really hurt and in love to me. If he didn't care, he'd not be so hurtful and he'd not care about keeping your photos. Seems to me he is trying to hurt you back for the pain he is feeling.

I don't know what his relationship was like with his son but, it's too bad that he will be the one to suffer....I'd be very carful what you say to him at this point while your angry.....his little heart is tender at 6!

Good luck and stay strong!

Honey, I am so sorry for the pain that you are going through. Since I don't know you personally, I can't really make a comment on it, but from an indirect observer, I'd say that you got screwed and that nobody deserves what you got. All I can say is that I hope you and your son will be okay and that you will someday find someone who deserves all that you have to offer. I know it is painful right now, but time heals all wounds (or so they say). Good luck and keep the faith.

Lisa

I'm sorry you are going through this right now. :no: I understand how you feel.:( Mine could be sooooo vicious too. :cry: His words could be so damaging. They ultimately ruined us. :nono: I suppose mine weren't the best either. :argh: But, hang in there. :yes: You know you have us and we all here, are here for you. :) I appreciate all of you guys being there for me too, always. Wishing you the best.;) :o Love, Sheila

WOW!! I received a reply to my letter to him and his was beyond vicious!! he told me that he would rather go back to his crack whores and living with his meth dealer (she had kids in the house!) then be with me and our son because I am old!!!
I would never, ever speak to him again unless I had to. This is vicious and mean and cruel and there was NO reason for this kind of talk. I would let him go abuse someone else, not you!

I am so sorry you had to hear those things. HE does not deserve YOU.:grouphug:

Well, psmith, it sucks, pure and simple.
If you'd like to hear an alternative, listen to this!! When I had my ex picked up for DV against me, he called a few more times, and the LAST time, when I said that even though I loved him I would never put up with any more abuse, physical or verbal, his reply was "Well, then! I'll just have to marry you when I get out!!" Huh????? What part of no didn't he understand?

You'll be getting over this in short order, with the program you've set up for yourself, so look forward with excitement and joy to the rest of your life without him.

PS. I would bet money it is not about your age. Please. He's just going below the belt and trying to find weak spots to hurt you. When someone starts talking like that, cruel, I think, well they showed their true colors and they are not pretty!

I hope you are doing well! and still doing things for you! I don't know your whole situation, I tried to read some of your posts. But it seems to me that he didn't want to be in the relationship anymore so he tried to find something to blame it on, like you asking if other's visit...what a loser!

what a jack ass! i cant believe he said those things to you either! maybe your son would be better off without this clown in his life! he must have some serious issues, if he'd rather have "crack whore's", then be with you/there for his son. im glad to hear your doing something for YOU now. be strong for your son, you be much happier with just the two of you right now. he dosent deserve to be in your lifes anway! let the crack whore's have him!

As cruel as his letter was it was also the key to your future, a bigger better brighter one without him!!!

Best of luck to you,
Patty

I'm sorry you are having to deal with such a mean person. If I was you, I would forget him! What he did was cruel :mad: I wish you luck, and maby he will go back to hs crack ho's! I wouldn't spend another second thinking about him!