I started a thread on Tuesday after I got a letter from my guy telling me not to write. I knew the red flags were there. I knew that he was going to break up with me. I prepared myself for it but I hoped and prayed that I was wrong. Well I wasn't. I got the letter today that said that he no longer wanted to be in a romantic or friendly relationship with me and that he wanted me to leave him alone. Well I will do just that. I did write a WTF letter to express all the things that I have been biting my tongue about for the last two months because I knew that he was under a lot of stress with his parole hearing and then the decision. I sent it to him today along with the pictures that he drew for me (avatar and siggy) with a big black X drawn through them The letter overall was nice in content because I am that kind of person but I sent the drawings as my way to get my licks in. I know that he is pretty messed up and will eventually figure out that he is a fool and made a mistake but I don't intend to sit back and sait for his dumb butt to come around. His pride will probably get in the way of his re-initiating contact with me anyway. Time to move on. I just wanted everyone to know how much I appreciate all the support that I have gotten from PTO when non one else was around or knew about my situation. Thank you ladies. Take care!

Hang in there girl.I am sorry for your breakup,maybe things will eventually work out.I will keeep you in my prayers.

((((hugs))))....so sorry that's how things worked out..... you be strong girl!!..........

Bella

Awww Sweetie Im Sorry Youre Going Thru This ((((hugs))). It Sounds Like You Have A Good Head On Your Shoulders And Know Just How To Pick Up The Pieces And Move On. Youre Showing Your Courage And Your Stregnth And I Commend You. Keep Your Head Up Girl. Thru Your Post I Can Sense That Youre The Type Of Woman Who Is A True Warrior And Got It Goin On For Yourself. He Was A Fool To Give Up On You, But Its His Loss!! Keep Pushin' Sweetie. Hes Gonna Regret His Decision Later.

good luck sweetie and ((hugs)). We're always here if you need us...:)

I am sorry this has happened....stay strong sweetie...we are all here for you!

I'm so sorry!! But just remember we're still here- whether you're with him or not!!
Good luck!! You'll be in my thoughts!

I never understand it when I hear stories like this!!!! Are these fools crazy? Do they not understand that it takes a SUPER REAL WOMAN to do what we do.

Girl, you are in my prayers but you deserve better. Your heart seems sweet and you need someone that will cherish that part of you. Look to God for strength...

Good luck to you girl! You sound like you are doing what's best for you, as you should. I am sorry though, I know it hurts.

Girl I am so sorry to hear that. He won't miss you until your gone, and then its going to be too late and he is going to know he effed up. Keep your head up..everything happens for a reason. We are still here for you.

I'm sorry to hear about your break-up :grouphug: Keep your chin up and be strong!!

well girlie all i can say is I am sorry I hope you are feeling ok. He will come to his senses 1 of these days and realize what A HUGE mistake he has made and I am sure he will regret it all until then keep your head up and stay strong

So sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time...((((hugs))))

im so sorry ma .. atleast you have the stength to walk away

your in my prayers

Be strong, keep ya head up... stay positive!

...hugs...

Sorry to hear about the breakup.. It blows my mind that these guys do this.. I know from reading your posts in the Michigan forum, you went above and beyond for this guy. He's taking out his bad breaks on you.
Hugs

im sorry baby, this is not the only man out there...he did you a favor, this was not your soulmate, so dont ever feel bad about what happened, feel blessed that you are now able to find the right one and he is not holding you back anymore. all the best wishes for you ((hugs))

I'm so sorry that he did this to you.. But good for you for not waiting around for him to realize that he did lose the best thing he has ever had in his life.. Hang in there cause it does get easier!!!!!

I'm so sorry to hear this :( As someone going through a recent break up I don't wish it upon anyone! Hang in there honey,if you want to talk we are here
HUGS

He doesn't know what he gave up. It'll hit him hard. Keep your head up...

I am so sorry to hear about your break-up. His loss right!?! Well you hang in there and remember we are always here for you no matter what. Take care.

it sounds like youve made a good first move with the WTF letter. I need to send one myself, i just dont have the strength to do it right now. Sending the pictures back will send a strong silent message... u go gurl :)

Sorry for your break-up. But you are the important person, take care of yourself and stay strong.

Dang is it in the water...there have been quite a few posts like this lately.

Girl you have everything you need to make it through this. From your post I can tell you are strong so look within you for the courage to find sanity and happiness everyday.

He will so miss you! It is hard to find a "real" woman who is down for this struggle and he will realize that. I hate you have to go through this!

((((HUGS)))) You know your PTO girls are here for you!

Oh no LD :( I'm SO sorry. What crap :( Girl, you KNOW we are here for you anytime! Don't run away from us just because he's being a meanie. Hang in there.

((((HUGS))))

Stacy

I'm so sorry he decided this was the way to go. He will definitely miss you. I don't understand how they think at times. Stay strong. You will do just fine. HUGS!

I won't be running anywhere Stacy. Angel already told me that I couldn't leave. The one thing that my age has taught me is that I never give up a good thing. I have met some great people here who have gotten me through some rough times and are going to help me get through this as well. Besides if I didn't have my PTO G2G's I would never get out of the house LOL!

Your right Optimistic, I think it's in the water or the air or there is a full moon coming or something. There seems to have been a bad turn of events for a lot of us. I don't know what it is.

Thanks for all of you. I didn't cry all day because I was too busy keeping it together but now that I am reading all of your posts the tears are flowing but that is a good thing because I don't like to keep things inside and this is a safe place to let it all go. Thanks again. After I get through today I will get through tomorrow and we'll see what happens after that.

AW.. (((((hugs))))) no you can't go anywhere.. we are family!!!!

Hang in there... he will realize his loss one day!

Stay strong, and good luck in whatever you do in life. May the sun always be upon your face, may the wind always be at your back....(i don't remember the rest of it but you get the idea). And never, ever lose your sense of humor. Laughter always heals. :haha: :haha:

You had better not go anywhere because we will come looking for you !!!
Big hugs, as you know I'm hoping for the best here and you will always have a friend when ever you need one. Well you got about 44,000 of them here actually.

Hugs,

be strong let him go .... it is his loss. it may be raining in your heart at present but soon you will have sunshine :)

So sory to hear that, but i bet you anything he willl write and apoligize once he starts missing you, until then hang in there:love:

Hey Lady, I know it's been a few days, but I hope you are still doing alright. Like I said before, there must be some kind of 'funk' going around with some of our guys.
We're all here for ya!!

I know a pastor who formerly went to prison 4 times. He was an addict and kept lapsing and then doing crimes to make money. I know he told the mother of his children to forget about him at one point because he felt he was bad for her and their kids, and he told her to move on. they are now happily married! but perhaps at this point in time, he doesn't feel like you have a lot in common or it is working out.

Thanks again everyone for the words of encouragement. They help to get me through when I am having times of doubt in myself. I just go back and re-read these posts and feel better. Still no letter but I didn't expect one either. I am OK with it for now. I have bben very busy with other things that have helped to keep me distracted. Thanks again, all of you. You don't know how grateful I am that you are there.

Hang in there LD's I know its rough believe me,we are always here for you HUGS

LD: Sorry to hear about your loss. I have just recently re-established a relationship with an inmate (he's a lifer) I first met back in '95 and stopped writing to in '97. We are in the throes of a whirlwind "courtship" and so far it feels right. But I have read many posts and I know this relationship forum is a new one. Some spoke of something being "in the air" for our guys to be acting up and ending relationships. I have thought about such a situation in MY case, but I'm just thinking about the "what ifs". I know I shouldn't. But I just want to be duped, ya know? I also think it could be thanks to a lot of pen-pal sites these days and guys with so many responses they probably give their pen-pals to other guys. Just a thought, that's all. My mind can wander...LOL I try not to get onto this particular forum, but I want to stay informed too. 'Cuz there's always that possibility. Ok, that's enough from me...I'm rambling...sorry so long. :)