Well I should say he had someone else do it for him. I got a call tonight at about 6:45 and the name said JR, but when I connected and said what are you doing the guy said this isnt JR, Im his friend he gave me your # and asked me to come down here and call you to tell you " he's cool off you".. I was like WHAT?? He said he don't wanna be with you anymore... I was like is he there, and he said NO, I said so he gave you my # told you to call me and tell me he dont wanna be with me? He said yep he said JR told him to tell me to leave him alone. I was crying by this point, but I said ok and hung up.

So I worte him a letter telling him I got his friends call and that I was glad he did it now rather than later. I also pointed out that he lied to me and that he has made it where I will find it hard to trust anyone. The last thing I said to him was that I did not hate him, but that I would always hold him in a place with me, I told him I loved him and I said goodbye.

I really hope he changes his mind, I have never loved anyone the way I love that man, and not sure if I ever will again. What really pisses me off is that Sylvia said we were gonna be together, she said we would get married and that he loved me. How could she have been so wrong? She's never been wrong, how could she have been so very wrong?

What am I gonna do now? He was my life, he was everything to me and now Im so alone without him.

Awwwwww man I hate to hear this because I KNOW how it feels,I'm going through it myself right now and it sucks like you he was/is the love of my life and being w/o him is horribly hard
I'm so sorry :( I'm really sorry he had someone else call you that is just ROTTEN in my opinion,he could of least wrote you if he wasn't going to speak to you about it in person or on the phone.Maybe he is just tripping and will calm down but then you must decide if your ok with all of this and can handle his mood swings or whatever it is he is going through
Hang in there baby HUGS

I am sorry everytime I read a post like this.Its like these guys dont understand that a woman who will stand by them faithfully while they do their time is a strong woman indeed,and worth their weight in gold.But you gotta admit,that was a pretty chicken**** way to break up with you.He shoulda been man enough to do it himself,he owed you that respect. BTW,who is Sylvia??

Are you sure that it is from him??? I don't think I would take anyones word for it unless it came from the horses mouth. You never know what they are doing in there.
Hang in there sweetheart! You know everything happens for a reason. And there is some reason that this has happened. **********{HUGS}}}}}

Sweetie, it's a gift; take it and run.
Enjoy that fab car yourself ;)

(((hugs)))

Are you referring to Sylvia Brown? Anyway, it seems that JR would at least have the heart to call you himself. I think he took the cowardly way out of the relationship. I would give it a few days to see if he surfaces in any way.

I am sorry everytime I read a post like this.Its like these guys dont understand that a woman who will stand by them faithfully while they do their time is a strong woman indeed,and worth their weight in gold.But you gotta admit,that was a pretty chicken**** way to break up with you.He shoulda been man enough to do it himself,he owed you that respect. BTW,who is Sylvia??
Sylvia Browne shes a world known psychic.. shes on Montel all the time and in the news for working with police and stuff.

I mean I think it's weird too, he's never been the type to not say what he feels, but for some reason this guy seemed like he was telling the truth. Besides JR hasn't called so it's not like I have any reason to doubt it.

((((HUGS)))) Personally I would prefer getting it from the Horse's hind end, but if you think it is genuine then dust off baby and find that sunset. Sorry you have to go through this.

((((hugs)))))

I am so sorry to hear he did it that way.. I agree with what others have said in that he should tell you himself and with the letter you sent hopefully he will return a response for you..
sylvia can be wrong as no reader is 100 % I can say that as I do the same for a living and any one offering a lock is not being true to the proffesion.. there are aspects that can effect this that changed.. be true to the now and roll with waht is going on.. stay strong and stay true to yourself as you should be smiling and not crying..
good luck and take care

deep breath honey it's going to be ok! with or without him!

ok, now how long has he been in? cos i mean, to have a friend call you to do the deed is very- um, middle school? it sounds like he isn't very mature at all. what I should have said is "is he for real?" my gosh~!

this is my :twocents:

write him. are you for real? cos ..... list off a bunch of things about him and what he said and did with your relationship. but keep your cool cos these guys are often frightened to death by a woman running soley on emotion. men aren't very emotional for the most part. they are driven by things like instinct and all that blasted testosterone.

I wouldn't write him with the specific intent of gettin back with him. he will figure he messed up bad. and don't come runnin if and when he does. tread lightly. it may help your healing process. oftentimes sh like this is trial run for what's to come. maybe he will come to his senses. and if he has any, he should.

(((hugs)))

I am sorry everytime I read a post like this.Its like these guys dont understand that a woman who will stand by them faithfully while they do their time is a strong woman indeed,and worth their weight in gold.But you gotta admit,that was a pretty chicken**** way to break up with you.He shoulda been man enough to do it himself,he owed you that respect. BTW,who is Sylvia??


I totally agree with everything Cyndi said...especially the part about him being pretty chicken s#%@ to have someone else call you. I can't even imagine how you must feel right now., but I agree with Irisheyes66....take it as a gift and run. At least you both didn't get married. Gosh sweetie, this really upsets me because he's no kind of man to have someone else call you! I mean, I'm soooo confused....it sounded like everything was going so well. I know you visited him the week before and of Easter and the pictures made it look like you both were so happy. I am so pissed of at him and he's not even my man! :angry: :angry: :angry: We're all here for you okay honesy... (((HUGS)))))) :o

From reading some of your other posts, I am really not surprised that this guy is acting like this.To me he is acting like a selfish little kid and I agree with you when you say you are glad he did it now rather than later. You deserve better. And I'm not saying that because I'm an expert on relationships or anything(far from it), but just speaking from experience. I was in love with a guy who I thought loved me. He got sent to prison and I did everything I could for him. Packages,clothes,letters every day,money,phone calls,visits every sunday(along with driving his friends' girls too), you name it I did it. I even got married to him, got his name tatted I could go on and on. I was blind to the fact to say the least, everyone told me that he treated me wrong, even his own mama. I didn't wake up and realize it until one day I went to visit and I was so happy about the grand opening of my new hair salon and I wanted to tell him all about it, he cut me off mid-sentence and said he didn't want to hear about all that where was his money and had I sent him his package? I walked away and never looked back. It hurt so bad but you know what all the tears finally dried up, I put all of his letters and pictures in a box and I went on with my life. That was over 4 years ago and now I have a wonderful family and a man that treats me like a Queen. At the time I never thought I could ever love anyone like I did him but now I look back and I wonder how I could ever have loved anyone who treated me like he did. I know this was alot and like I said I don't claim to know it all but life is constantly learning from your mistakes and I know I got a lot more learning to do. I look at him as a star in my sky pointing the way to my King Divine. Keep your head up Gyrl everything is gonna be allright!

I am really sorry to hear this. It sounded like everything was going well for you guys. I have been in your situation before with my man, and I would like to say that he will come crawling back to you in a few days cause that's what happend to me but who knows, you know? I dont know why these men think that they can go thru their sentence alone and dont need anybody, and act so selfish and ignorant but they do. Hugs.

From your posts, I have seen that you really have put a lot of effort into just getting to visit him, and if he doesn't appreciate and respect all you have done for him enough to contact you himself... well, like Irish said, take it as a gift and run. He may be having a rough time with things, but it this really isn't the way to handle it.

Good luck Girlie! Chin up and stay strong.
Jenn

I am sorry about what you are going through. Hang in there and here's a (((((((((((hug))))))))))))for you.

OMG! I totally know what ur going through. Let me take it one step further, I was with my man and he did all the same rotten things to me and then even got with my best friend. I changed my number, I started returning his letters without opening them. This went on for a good 4 months. And guess what? He found his way back to me. I was the one that sent him money and writing materials, stamps, quarterly packages...etc.... My best friend couldn't take it, she got tired of the prison scene quick. Well he realized that I was the one he wanted to be with. I suffered a lot, just thinking about it makes my eyes swell up with tears. Imagining my best friend with the love of my life. He called me via three-way on my celly, I wasn't taking his calls, he finally called me at work and I talked to him finally. He even sent me letters to his sisters house. I finally read them and they were the most beautiful letters I have ever read in my life. So we've been talking, but I stand firm that I will not do or say anything definate until he gets out. I love this man with all my heart but I'm not going to do EVERYTHING for him anymore. Granted not much he can do from where he is, but he now treats me with respect. I used to visit him every weekend, now I've tapered it off to every 5-6 weeks. We'd talk on the phone almost every night, now I stand firm on 2-3 a week. This is on my terms now and he's cool with it. I let Marty go, and I left it in God's hands, I had done enough, and he found a way to communicate with me after I shut down all forms of communication with me. Let JR go, if he really loves you he will find his way back to you. IT hurts a lot I know, please feel free to PM me if you feel the need to talk. I think we live in the same town. You will be fine, even though right now it feels like your world is crumbling down around you.

Girl,
Big hugs for you. You'll get through this, and one day be happy again. You will find true love. This was a fanasy, he isn't who you thought he was. You deserve so much better, you went to the ends of the earth for that man. He was so spoiled and he took and took and didn't give back. True love flows back and forth between two people, when it's there you have no doubts and you just know in your heart how much he loves you. Why hold unto anything less?
You usually always had your doubts about the way he treated you. He is a cruel, abusive man to not even have enough love his heart for you to call you himself and say goodbye.
Believe in your self and anything is possible. Time to start a new day. You'll make it girl. PTO girlz have your back.
Hugs

i am sorry to hear that you are going thru this .. maybe something is wrong and he needs to clear his mind. he may call you in the morn or tomorrow and let you know he loves you

Sorry To Hear This! Who Would Have Thought This Would Have Happened To You And Jr. I Guess Things Aren't Always What They Seem. Good Thing It Happened Now And Not After You Two Married, It Would Have Been So Much Harder Then. Take This As A Blessing In Disguise, You Don't Deserve This, Not Someone As Beautiful And Lovely As Your Are, You Are A Sweetheart And Apparently He Didn't See This, He Doesn't Deserve You, Your Too Good For Him. ((((( Hugs ))))) Stay Strong And Keep Your Head Up! God Bless You Girly.

I'm sorry that you are in so much pain.. But really sit and think about it, is this the kind of man you want to be with. One that does not even have enough balls to call you himself. take this as the gift and run!!!!

JR was true to form based on everything else you've posted about him. Be thankful you didn't marry him and that you won't be blowing all your money on a user anymore. Guys like him are a dime a dozen. He just knows how to work you. You are worthy of much more. Let your next guy spoil you and treat you like a queen.

Give it time..if it is meant to be..then it is meant to be..I know waiting sucks (dont I know it) but wait and see what happens..dont toss in the towel just yet..give him time to come to his sences..

((HUGS))

Sorry to hear this news ... I would be a little suspicious as to why someone else called you ... maybe someone is trying to split you up and calling "claiming" this is JR's message? I don't know, just a hypothesis ... but if it is true, and that was his cowardly way of ending the relationship, trust me, you may not realize it yet, but you are so much better off without him ... no REAL man tenders his responsibilities like that ...

Wishing you much peace as you get through this trying time ... we are all here for you anytime you want to have a cyber cry ... :)

I am so sorry to hear this. Just remember you are a true gem and gems are to be handled with care. Don't settle for anything less!

sorry to hear that! Maybe it is a gift! I wouldn't want to be with someone that couldn't talk with me and would need a friend to do it for him. I wouldn't let him know that you are hurt! If I were you, I would stop ALL communication. Let him HURT! Let him be the one crawling back to you! Don't write, accept phone calls, NOTHING! No packages, etc!

Girl if this is true then it sure is a GIFT! You have done so much for him and if this is what he has to offer then you are better off. I hope everything works for YOU! I hope that you find the strength to move through this hurt and trust me on the other side is the opportunity to meet the right man for you and much more enjoyable days!!!

This is SUCH CRAP!!! He'll come crawling back and when he does be prepared knowing exactly what you want so he can't put you on a crazy rollercoaster ride to only end up alone in the end. Be strong girl and you know PTO is here for you!

i'm so sorry to hear this.I can't imagine the pain you are going throgh right now.It was very immature for him to have someone else call for him.All I can say is that God is working in your life right now and always watching over you,There is more to your life than him and it will get better suffreings that are endured will always turn to Joy..One day soon you realize that everything that happened is a plan from God designed just for you.Pull yourself together and know that you are a super nice person and you have a lot to offer somone,And you deserve the best.Take care and God bLess..HUGS

WOW - girl all i gotta say is what a punk ... you deserve betta than that ....

I am so sorry to hear that you are hurt! But I believe this is a blessing in disguise, any man that is not man enough to call himself isn't worth your spit. Go on with your life girl. It'll take a while, but hang in there and you are in my prayers.

Sweetie, it's a gift; take it and run.

Short and sweet and true. (((((hugs)))))

Every broken heart is a blessing in disguise. Your a fighter, and your a down @$$ woman. He screwed it up, not you. This simply means that something better is coming your way. You may feel hurt right now, and it a little while maybe even angry or bitter. But when that wears off...you will be able to look for a man who treats you better than anyone else ever did...like a QUEEN. You need that, and don't settle for less. Good luck sweetie and ((hugs)) breaking up is hard...it just shows how much of a man he is. He couldn't even do it to your face, he had to get his friend to call. LAME:blah: You deserve so much more!

Damn, that just aint right!! All the others are right JRslilmomma you deserve so much better than someone like that. I know you love him and all but someone like that aint worth waiting around for. Just my opinion on that. We all love and support you no matter what.

If you ever need anything or need someone to listen please feel free to PM me day or night!!

Pita McNasty

I agree with Irish- this is a gift!!
He is obviously acting like a child- too bad some of your friends from here can't call him and tell him what we think!!!
You deserve so much better- he'll just move onto the next person he can use- you however can move on to someone who will appreciate and love how wonderful you really are.
Tears hurt, but they won't kill you!!! Your life will be so much better a few days out from this- he'll still be playing the same little games. You're better than he ever deserved... and if he comes back crying- think on it- obviously his quarterly packages have been more important than your feelings!! If you get back with him- don't start sending all the money and stuff- make him prove himself to you!!
Good luck!!! You will end up fine!! I know I was there once.

After reading jr'lilmomma post I felt like he could not do it himself because that really not what he wanted to do. Ever think he di it for you! to free your mind I mean really if you do time with a loved one sometimes feels like your doing time yourself behind bars. I'm doing time with my man and we had up and downs we talked about being apart and did it for a week but all that was on my mind was he ok I miss him wow what is he doing. I have 2years and 3months in I put it all in gods hands.

I am so sorry he is putting you thru this. But Irisheyes said it best, girl. Stay strong!

oh girlie where is he at I am going to go find him and hurt him for hurting my girl I am sorry maybe he is just getting pre-wedding jitters dunno but it still is no reason for him to treat you like that. Obviously he has some growing up to do having someone else call you tell him to be a damn man! ok I am getting mad writing this but keep that head up girl. *hugs*

O.K. First off, he did not brake up with you, he had someone else do it! I serioudly doubt he meant it that is why he had someone else call. You two are about to be married, you know this man, do you really think he would have someone else call you and end the engagement etc. I think he is just messin with your head and wants to make you nervous! I think he is playing games, in my opionion, this is not the time to play games, and I would make that a point! If he did mean it and broke up with you through a friend then girl, you deserve SOOOOO MUCH BETTER!!!!! I'll bet when you don't visit when you were supposed to he will be calling you, so play the game back with him when this happens, make him beg for you back. Don't let him mess with your emotions like that...this is your life you're talking about here! Marriage!

But I do want to know how you got in touch with Sylvia Brown...she is the bomb and I can never be where she is at!

Hang in there sweetie and stay strong, your relationship with Jr is not over, I am sure of it and I am not a physic...LOL!!!

What??? girlie didn't you just have a great visit with Jr awhile ago.. thats not good girl. Why the hell did he have some stranger guy call ya and break up with ya? What an a$$ hmmm. I don't know what to say to ya I am in shocked big time. I really hope things work out and you two are back together.. Hang in there girlie & lots of (((hugs)))

Hey my names cutie pie and i here you girl. I kinda having the same sorta problem. I went to jail and met the man of my dreams while i was there now we have been togehter for 4 months and he means the world to me i love him with all my heart but i met another guy the other night and we went out had fun and stuff now he thinks that we're toghether but i love my man in prison and i don't know what to do i don't want to start something with this other dude and then tell my man in prison i found someone else and never speak to me again cause i love him but he still has another 8 years to serve he just got his appeal accepted and he could get out by august but i never thought it would be this hard and i would care so much if you have some insight let me know. everyday i have the fear that my man in prison is going to call me and tell me that he's getting back with his wife (cause he's marrried) he says he's getting a divorce but what happens if i wait all this time and he gets out and goes home to his wife instead of coming home to me

Hang in there, girl. ((((((HUGS))))))

girl i don't know what to say, i am sorry you gotta feel like this though, i hope you keep us updated, cuz i agree w/some of the other girls, could this be a joke? could someone else be messing w/the 2 of you? is he just scared? i hope all turns out well, regardless of the reason, i wish you didn't have to go thru all this, lots of hugs!!!!!!!!!!

Pam...... ((HUGS)) Sweetie I cannot stress this enough-- you deserve so much more than JR will ever be able to give you! I trust he will come crawling back but I hope you will be strong enough to stick to your guns! Is this really the type of man you would like to spend the rest of your life with??? He spared you sweetie!! Can you imagine going through with the marriage and then this happening down the road? Ouch. Now that would hurt! I think you gave him way more power and control than he deserved and although it may feel like he is your life now-- there should be so much MORE to your life than being treated like CRAP!! Think about it-- you could have a man pampering you and appreciating you completely-- instead of a user and abuser (referring to emotional abuse). Please stay strong we are all here for you sweetheart!

I know it's easier said then done, but if this is true girl, you got to just let it go. There is more to life, I believe this. Just keep your head up and be strong regardless of the outcome. And love yourself more than anything!

((((hugs))))

I am so sorry this happened to you sweetie! But I hope things get better for you. You're in my prayers!

sweetie,
I soooo sorry this happened. But things are never set in stone. just be careful and think about what you really want for a life partner. things will be good. love, j'slady

I am so sorry to hear about this. And I am even more sorry that he couldnt have been a man and did it himself!

If this man had his pin number and your number, it is a safe bet that JR had him call.

Did you both have a fight or was this a complete and total shock to you? Regardless of the reason, what he did was completely immature and inconsiderate.

You stated, "I hope he changes his mind", but girl, you really have to think about that. Is this the kind of man that you want to be with? You do not deserve to be treated this way.

Everything happens for a reason, and I would take this and just roll with it. If he could do something like this, then who knows what he is capable of doing. This man acted like a child.

I have read many of your posts and you seem to be a "good girlfriend." You deserve so much more than what this man is willing to give you. (((Hugs)))