I'd love to be able to tell you guys NO I would not but I honestly don't know if I would or not.I'm not to the point yet where I am ok with this break up and don't miss him/love him/want to be with him.Honestly right now I think I would although the trust factor would be a very hard issue to get over.I just don't know this is our second break up,I don't know if I could handle a third but as I said I'm not at the point where I know I'd say no way if he came back!




What would you do if they came back to you?

i am actually facing this decision right now...i went and seen him the other day cause he is sick and had to be taken to hospital....he cried and begged me to forgive him and give him another chance...i got a ten page letter from him today.....i am so confused and not sure yet what i am going to do.....so i cant answer this question yet...maybe i can get some insight from others answers on here and we will see what happens.

Not In A G.d. New York Minute!!!!!!!!!! :( :( :( :angry: :angry: :angry: :blah: :blah: :mad: :mad: :mad:

thats a hard one I love him with all my heart I still think about him 24-7. But he cant be trusted and I know he would hurt me again. But i have have known him for 15 years and he knows me better than anyone else. But i know he will nnever change so I will have to say no.

I get letters from him almost daily. Havent responded and dont plan to. He had his chance and he blew it not once but twice. It hurtd when i read his letters because i really wanted to be with him. But I dont believe he has changed and even if he has its to late for us. He didnt care then I dont care now. Im not willing to risk a heartache for him.

Pebbles

in a new york minute!!!! you bet I would. But I guess I am the only one who's man does NOT want to come back....

I like this question Cali because it has been a little over three months since we broke up and if you had asked this question a couple of months ago I would have said no way absolutely not, but now that we have been talking on a regular basis I have to yes I would and he knows it. He said we will see what happens when he gets his parole in June....

yes, in a N.Y. minute!!! in fact he called tonight and we are talking and both of us have expressed our love to each other. don't get me wrong, we know that some things have got to change as far as communication goes between us and we are now working on this. i hope it works out as i don't know if i can handle another break-up...rosi

Not even if I had never met and married MR. D.

Not even if he won the lottery.

Not even if he stopped using.

Not even if he were the last man on earth.

NO I would not take him back.. He has made his choices in life and never thought about what it would do to us until after the fact and now he can pay for his choices by himself.. He is to set in his ways to change now.

I'm actually dealing with this right now. He called yesterday and hearing him made me miss him so badly! He may come home sooner because they messed up sentencing him and I just think about how it was, how it could be. But deep down, my heart is telling me NO! He messed up when he was home before, he will do it again. I don't think I could stand breaking my own heart again!

I don't know.
I took Cali's advice and posted a personal ad to boost my self esteem ya know?
WELL NOONE responded...LOL so I deleted it.
Not a very good boost to my ego at ALL! :haha:
these are the pics i put up

and this one lol
http://www.prisontalk.com/gallery/showphoto.php?photo=1400&password=0&sort=1&cat=all&page=1

Yes I would and will --if he gets it together, that is. I still want us to stay friends if we can because we had so much going for us for a while.

He became distant and careless with me so I had to stay away. But for me, nothing is forever... if he treats me right, I'll be there again -- just a lot more cautious though.

I go back and forth with my answer for this.. It is hard because I still really do care about him BUT he is such an addict that I don't really know if I would ever trust him. Drugs are what destroyed our relationship and he says he will always get high.. So realistically the answer would have to be no..

I am at the point that I can say NO and be OK with that. Right after I sent that letter, I wanted to get that sweet gushy letter saying how much he loves me and that he did not mean to put the ultimatum on the table and he takes it back and how much he wanted me with him. Now I could have received that letter because I do not open the letters I get and throw them away or hide them from myself. I have really started to enjoy this being completely single and not having to answer to anyone but myself...

HUGS

Mel

It would definately depend. In your situation, I would, you stated so many times that he tried, he never made you feel like you were an intity and you yourself questioned the relationship ALOT!!! You know my mom once told me I "ran a man off" because I doubted him so much, as to what was his agenda for this, or that, and he didn't feel that I was putting 100% into the relationship because I spent so much time downing it, but I picked my face and heart up and learned from that experience, never to do it again. I am going to live life for what it is and stop doubting my relationships so much, I would hate to lose Woody that way.
Kesha

In my strongest of moments... I could say "hell no", but the truth is, I love this man. It's killing me to be away from him. I know us being apart is what's best, but I know that I have the strong potential to fall weak. I remind myself daily that he has far too many issues to work through and he needs to do so ON HIS OWN. It's hard to not want to step in to help, but I simply can't. I'm learning to live again and it's really not all that bad..... today, anyway. :)

Qwerty said my exact words and feelings.....But it's just the fact of the nature of his crime, and all those that are against us....so, I'm playing by the rules and moving on...I'm in a new relationship, but in the back of my head....I still want to be with him...well time will tell I guess.

i dunno if i would. i am on the fence, part of me says yes, part says no. i cant trust him, and what he told me when we broke up (although i think he was saying it to protect his heart) would always be in the back of my mind... :shrug:

He knew if he went back in that he would do this bid alone. I sent him a letter that put in writing what I would expect before we could get going again. Abuse counselling, get his driver's license and insurance organized, etc. In other words, bring me a life you can be proud of, instead of parasitizing mine. if he follows through, then it's a maybe. I don't think his ego will let him do the counselling. He got all the support in the world from me for three years, and he can just move along and get it from some new chick without having to do a true inventory and do some changing.
What does that really sound like a yes or a no or a maybe? I don't know.

It would definately depend. In your situation, I would, you stated so many times that he tried, he never made you feel like you were an intity and you yourself questioned the relationship ALOT!!! You know my mom once told me I "ran a man off" because I doubted him so much, as to what was his agenda for this, or that, and he didn't feel that I was putting 100% into the relationship because I spent so much time downing it, but I picked my face and heart up and learned from that experience, never to do it again. I am going to live life for what it is and stop doubting my relationships so much, I would hate to lose Woody that way.
Kesha


Yeah, what she said.

When my man came home the first time, it didn't work out. We lasted 6 months, and then I had to move to another state to get away from him. I knew that it is not what I wanted my life to be.

Not to long after I left, he went back to prison and I had to make the decision on whether I would support him and be with him. Well, we did get back together and are worknig things out. I have to say that we are closer now than we have ever been.

But, my choice is still clear. I can't deal with the fighting, constant drama, never having any stability. When he comes home, if these things have not changed, than I cannot be with him.

This is a good question. I was talking to my aunt about it the other night. I told her even though I am pretty sure I won't be back with Mike, I couldn't say NO WAY am I going back because I don't want to have to eat my words. I did love him and he was good to me but like others he hurt me and he is an addict and still hasn't changed from what I hear still getting in trouble in prison. The way I look at is only God knows what will happen and I am leaving it all up to Him. I am not sitting around expecting Mike to change or for us to get back together, if he called today I would tell him no we are not getting together because I know he hasn't changed. But years down the road I can't say because people do change but he would have to have a differnt lifestyle and be proven that he is on the right track. So I am also not sure in the future what I would say.

To all of you that answered this question, I am wondering how many ended the relationship with your man, did he end it or was it a mutual decision? I ended my relationship about 6 months ago and is now regretting my decision. I feel as if I wasn't patient enough even though I gave him about 7 months. He was gone all weekend and came in at midnight every night during the week. I keep telling myself that I did the right thing but now am lonely, depressed and missing him so much. How do I get over the pain?

My guy was the one to decide that it was over between us and he is the one who now realizes he made a big mistake, but does realize how much pain and hurt he caused me to suffer through. Due to that he doesn't want to hurt me again like that for now wants us to be friends.

It's been four months since I broke things off with my baby...and I had to do it, because I was going crazy. As much as I would like to say that I don't miss him or want him back, I'd be a liar if I did. There isn't a day that passes when I don't think about him/miss him/wish things were different. I know that I'm doing the best thing for me right now...he has to be able to stand on his own, and fix his own mistakes and issues, and not depend entirely on me (which he was).

A part of me still holds out hope for the future, though.

I guess I'm just a hopeless romantic. Even if we never get back together, I'll love him till I die. It's just harder this way, lol. :D

Candy I left My Ex and I don't have any regrets about it. I dont regret going though everything I went though with him (without him really). It has made who I am today. And today I'm a much better person, more open to the things around me. I have found things about myself that I have lost in the past. I have learned to deal with my Codependent ways. I would never take him back he has done alot to me before he went back to prison and while he was locked up. They say that when someone is gone you love them more. but in my case it taught me that I really did not love him at all. I wanted to fix him and I have learned that you can't fix anyone but yourself. As for how to get over the pain, Time heals all wounds!! Hang in there girl if you ever need me I'm only a PM away.

Amy

My guy ended our relationship but i felt it coming. He had been pushing me away for a little while. I know that he was doing that to protect himself from hurt. It's not the most effective way to protect yourself and it's a pretty stupid and immature thing to do but sometimes he's like that. I would take him back but it would be more on my terms this time around. He just wrote me a letter telling me that he wants to be friends. I doubt that he will be able to keep the relationship on that level but we shall see. I plan to be more assertive and speak my peace whenever I want to. I am going to make me a priority. I usually make them a priority but now it will be me. If he doesn't like it then he can stay gone1

I can honestly say that after everything I went through with Rick, I would never go back with him. Even though he had his good sides at times and could be a real sweetheart, sometimes the bad things/ qualities about him were greater than the good. I know some of you know my story, and it was a painful ride for the last few months before I decided to put an end to it.

I am extremely happy beyond words that I have found someone (Rene) whom I can truly count on, and who respects, appreciates, and treats me like a queen, and most of all who loves me and shows me he loves me each and every day. This is something very new to me but I feel now that this is it. How could I ever let the most beautiful relationship I've ever had slip away. I am truly, madly, and deeply in love with Rene.

So no, I would not take my Rick back, I have been doing GREAT without him, and it would take a really big miralce for him to change his ways. I do pray that he does so that one day he can find someone else and be happy too. I dont wish him anything bad because I believe that everyone deserves a chance at being happy, so hopefully one day he will realize how much he hurts his loved ones and wakes up from the world of gangs and drugs that he lives in. Maybe then he will find someone that he can be happy with, but I would not ever put myself at risk again.

It depends on where He and I are in life...

Being that I am a forgiving person, I would say yes.

no but we didnt break up for anything either of us did we broke up because we have both grown apart and changed and we are not the same people that we were when we married. i am now in a different relationship and eventhough i will always love him i am not in love with him.(i'm in love with my bf now)

Right now I would say NO. I believe his is mentally unstable and that is not going to change without therapy and meds...which he won't get in there.

I love this man. But I don't think he is going to change without serious therapy and a desire to change and in so doing admit he isnt perfect. So unless I saw a sincere desire on his part to save our marriage, a willingness to go that extra mile for me and then another extra one - like I have gone for him over and over again - if I saw that he actually loved me, if I saw a spark of hope somewhere I would hang in there with him. But right now I haven't seen any of that; all I see is him trying to twist the truth around and blame me and save his a**. So that being said, I just can't put myself through this anymore, I will have to let him go.

I was sitting here and I was wondering if anyone had asked this question... because I was wondering if I would ever take him back. My answer to myself is no - I am worth more than that. No matter how much I care about him, love him, miss him, need him. I cant ride the emotional rollercoaster anymore. I did all I could for him, loved him with his faults, his Hep C everything. My love for him was unconditional. I cannot compete with his meetings and his family. So as much ass what I love him, I cannot allow myself to be emotionally messed up anymore. I deserve more than this. I deserve a man who is going to love me with same amount of love I have for them. I am not prepared to be used. So my answer would be NO, as much as it hurts.

I really am going to be honest i love him and i need him and i think about him constantly....I'm now dating but not happy i tend o compare the two, and it's not the same. So my answer is i will take him back in a heart beat,if he where to stop cheating and i believed him.....

I havent broken up with anyone in prison but i was engaged for 2 years but together for 3 and he hurt me a lot but needless to say i still have a place for him in my heart, i would have to think long and hard about it.

But most likely it would be a no because i am in a good place in my life now and i have someone who cares for me and no hes not perfect but he does have a big heart. I dont think i would trade him or leave him for anyone right now.

So i would say NO even if i do still kind of have feeling for him, but only cause he was a big part of my life.