Josh and I have been done for 3 weeks as of today! After he received the break up letter from me, he left me alone. No phone calls, no letters, he just went away. I was sad but relieved. Today, my phone rang and it was him. I hung up twice on him then realized that I need my closure. I needed to tell him to go on with his life. So I take the call. Come to find out they made a mistake in sentencing him. His 2 to 14 years is only supposed to be up to 2 years! This gets me crying. He's telling me he loves me, he wants me back. Many times he asked me if I met someone and I just kept telling him no, even though I have. I didn't want to bring him into this situation. Now he's got to be re-sentenced and I am just a wreck. Hearing him made me miss him, made me want him back, maded me angry. I'm a jumble of feelings and now, to find out that he's going to be home much sooner than we had thought, it's got me confused. I know I moved on, but do I still love Josh? Can I still love him? Should I feel like this..... I know things can only get better but this is a major setback for me!

Oh girlie I feel your pain I too got a call this weekend and hearing his voice crushed me all over again :(

You probably do still love him even though you have moved on,only you know what is right for you whether you want him back or are content now.I wish you the best,I know it is rough! HUGS

hi, i don't really know your situation but i'm going to give you my 2 cents worth anyway... this is just my opinion.
If you really do love this guy then why arn't you with him?. If you've moved on and are in love with your new guy stay there and don't give your ex mixed feelings. When you cry on the phone and such he might get mixed messages and think that there is still a chance for the two of you to get back together.
Either start rebuilding a relationship with him or don't it's as simple as that.
Just my 2 cents worth sorry if i have offended you or anyone else reading this.

Hmm....tough one. Question is, how do you feel about the new man you are dating? If you go with Josh.....are you prepared for him to maybe get the max of 2 years? No matter what you decide we are here for you........good luck!

Why did you send him the break up letter? Did you just not want to wait for him that long??

I posted a thread as to why I left him but I'll sum it all up. Let's see, he got high behind my back, he stold from me, not once but twice, he lied to me, caused me to lose our baby from stressing me out, and he went back to prison because he claims he "accidently" slipped my (at the time) 9 month old neice a Xanax, causing me to lose my guardianship of her. That's why I left...... It's hard because I want to believe that he can change, I love him more than words can say but how do you stay with someone who cost you so much in life?

Just keep staying strong :) I am sure that you made the best decision for yourself and that is all that matters. There will always be rough paths in the road but we have to keep our heads high and keep on truckin :D

HUGS

Mel

Wow! I understand how you feel. I went through the same type of things, but with my sister. I am still going through them. She is not in jail, but she is doing things to me that you say Josh did to you. Hang in there! I'm sure you will make the right decision.

dinky i am going thru the same thing right now trying to make the decision to try again or keep it broke off.....wish i could find the answers for both of us...love u girl and know i am here if u need anything

Robin

Dinky girl I"m sorry that i'm late in this thread.. But I have been a little busy!!! You know how i feel about this.. You wanted closer and did not get it.. You are not going to get it from him cause I hate to say they don't really move on like we can.. YOu know that no matter what I'm here for you call me and talk anytime!!!! Love Ya AMY

I say take it one day at a time. You dont have to make a decison now. Tell him how you feel and what you worry about. You got plenty of time to decide what to do. He has hurt you and caused you to loose alot. That can not be forgotten-good luck.

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I have gone through that also in the beginning of me and my fiance's relationship, he hurt me badly before he went in, we weren't together at the time he went in but we were together right before.Anyways I was very hurt and upset and I continued writing him nice letters mean letters you name it I let him have it. After a few years we continued and then boom he hurt me again and after that I didn't think I could go back to him so I took a break from him. We still continued to write but nothing major ya know. Then I had to ask myself if I could ever forgive Marcus for what he did to me and if I could then I had to let the past go and not hold onto it. It took awhile and experienced other men and Marcus knew everything I never kept anything from him good or bad. Well I came across i very nice man and I thought there is someone else out there for me but Marcus still tugged very heavily on my heart. Well to make along story short here I chose to forgive Marcus for everything and forgive myself to it takes two and my heart just melted and I knew that love is very strong if it was real to begin with. Now we are on a wonderful journey but our past does creep up and I try not to let it get to me. We are working on a healthy relationship now and I can't wait to continue our new journey hopefully right into his arms.
So you have to do the same take some time you don't need to answer him right away you have every right to have broken it off with him I would have if I was in that situation.

You don't have to give him an answer right away...but do explore your feelings and try to understand them...maybe even write out a pro's and con list for each guy. It might help put things into a perspective for you. Explore if it's a co-dependant relationship with your ex...explore if it's out of lonliness of companionship with your new guy, discover who you are happy with....we tend to go back to familiar people or situations because it is a comfort zone, but we have to challenge that and forge ahead, eventhough we are not sure where it will lead us.

good luck sweetie and ((hugs))! It's a hard decision, but do what you really feel is the best thing for you. :)