Has anybody ever been in this program? My deal is that I think my guy might be hooking up with another resident there and I dont really know how strict there are about that. I cant imagine that they would have an opportunity to be together without being noticed but at the same time he seems to come and go as he wants there. Any info and advice would be great.

Thanks

Hi calgirloc,

I have heard about the Phoenix House, not from personal experience, but from its reputation as being a good program.

I am not sure, but most programs do not encourage relationships between residents. its not a good idea for many reasons, and if they know of this, I am not 100% sure that it would be tolerated and accepted.
Here is a link you can look at.

http://www.phoenixhouse.org/California/About/index.html


I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. I don't know if you are just suspecting him to be with someone else, or if he has done something to lead you to believe this. In either case, I would speak with him before you jump to conclusions and upset yourself even more. Often times the loved ones feel replaced and kind of when the addict is trying to get and stay sober. They are so committed to their recovery, that the loved one feels neglected and not cared about. Also, they might have a 30 day no contact rule in place, as he gets adjusted to the rules and regulations of the treatment facility. I hope you will look into getting some help yourself. There is alanon and naranon for family and loved ones of alcoholics and addicts.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
http://www.naranon.com/

I hope this helps, and hang in there :)