What do you think is the best part of being single again?

I know that many of us are down and blue, because I am one of those as well. I am trying to put a positive spin on things and look at the other side.

Lately, I have been thinking about what is the best part of being single. I love the fact that I do not have to write him a darn letter every single day, because that is what he expected. I am saving so much on stamps that I can soon afford a nice shopping spree. Also the phone bill is more reasonable now. No more $400 dollar phone bills, by next month that shopping spree with be just great!

I still have my penpals and write them all the time. But not having to buy a book or two books of stamps every week is nice. I was so tired of going to the post office all the time. I felt weird because I know that they recognized me because they would always address me by my first name as I walked up to the counter. :D

Let's keep this thread going and adding to it every so often when we think of something great about being single :D:D

men say women bring drama but they bring on just as much, every time you start to feel something for a man it s starts, having the bed to yourself is a plus, and not having to do another mans laundry is a bonus, if i have it my way i would take a weekend man versis a long term relationship, because you got to have a man for a few days because there is some things you just cannot do yourself.:thumbsup:

Hellooooooooooooooo :)

Am I allowed to post in this forum even though my relation is not over ?? I'm far from being a virgin :p so I can speak from past experiences. :rolleyes: :D

- being alone in the bed at night and be able to read as long as you wish without having someone by your side grunting every 5 minutes "can't you put the damn light off" ???

-not worrying about WHERE and with WHOM he might be when he should already have come back home a few hours ago and don't answer his cell phone.

-don't have to say "yes of course, your grandma can come and spend a few days at home" when you already know that a few days will be a few weeks, that his grandma is blind AND German and that HE will not take care of her when she's here, but YOU will have to, meaning both going out with her for a walk AND speak German.

-no longer wondering if there's gas in YOUR car whenever you need it and he's obviously unable to fill her up, even though he's very able to use it.

-no longer making a fool of yourself in a subway station, asking the clerk to decode the name of the station, the date and the time on the numerous subway tickets you found in his pocket when you were about to put his pants in the washing machine.

-no longer having the apartment turned into a jungle because he likes plants but can't see when enough is enough and an apartment in Paris is not the Amazonian forrest.

That's all for the moment, but I guess I could come up with a few other things. :)

Phil

Hellooooooooooooooo :)

Am I allowed to post in this forum even though my relation is not over ?? I'm far from being a virgin :p so I can speak from past experiences. :rolleyes: :D


Phil, you know you are more than welcomed in our little home away from home :rolleyes:

I LOVED your statements about the best part about being single, you had me cracking up all over the place LMAO

I look forward to what you might come up with. Maybe I should print these out hehe

HUGS

Mel

I think this is something that many of us can relate to. At some time or another we've all been single. Even right now most of us may not be single, but for the most part we are lving single lives.

There are a million reasons why I hate Chris being gone, but here are a few reasons I like this arangment

1) Having my space---I hate sharing my space
2) Not having to ask permission or tell someone else of my plans--Such as spending money
3) If I'm not in the mood to cook then currently I can get away with feeding the kids mac and cheese with sandwiches for dinner
4) Not having to get up and do my hair or makeup if I dont want (otherwords lounge lol)
5) Listen to the radio station that I want or watching movies that I want
6) See above posts

Being able to do what I want, when I want, how I want, with who I want..... I'm such a spontaneous person that I never know what I'm doing to do at any given time and now I don't have to get permission or offer explanations for my actions! Woo hoo!

Being able to dye my hair whatever color I want too, he wasn't too fond of my frequent hair dying, but I always needed change, now I can....

Having my own private, no one is allowed unless they ask, space! I need my space, lots of it too!

No longer having to take time out and write a letter or go to the post office to drop it off and risk being late for work, just to make sure he gets it!

No more having to be scared when the phone bill arrives, so happy about that!

Um, that's it for now, I'm sure I'll be able to add a lot more soon enough...

I think this is something that many of us can relate to. At some time or another we've all been single. Even right now most of us may not be single, but for the most part we are lving single lives.

There are a million reasons why I hate Chris being gone, but here are a few reasons I like this arangment

1) Having my space---I hate sharing my space
2) Not having to ask permission or tell someone else of my plans--Such as spending money
3) If I'm not in the mood to cook then currently I can get away with feeding the kids mac and cheese with sandwiches for dinner
4) Not having to get up and do my hair or makeup if I dont want (otherwords lounge lol)
5) Listen to the radio station that I want or watching movies that I want
6) See above posts


I am so with you on not having to do my hair and make up LOL also the dinner thing my daughter lives off mac and cheese LOL

The best part of being single let me see where to start!!!!


1. Not having to answer to anyone but myself..

2. If I want to buy something I really dont need then I can and not worry if I will have enough money to visit this week.

3. Wearing whatever I want when I want..

4. Being me not what he thinks I should be.

5. not having to get an oil change every couple of weeks..

6. I love to do my hair and makeup now where befor I did not like to do cause it might get me attention..

7. Not being told that I should wait do things until he gets home..

8. Spending time with my kids instead of visiting!!!

9. Not sharing my closet with his clothes anymore!!

10. But most of all I have come to realize that there are alot of men out here and my god there are some real Hot ones that are nice and have a job!!!

Good thread and I have to agree with Tnt about the radio station but I still fight with my teenager in the car over it!!! :thumbsup:

The best part of not having bam bam in my life anymore......HMMMMM can i say everything....lol. He was never my "MAN" but i treated him like a king. He needed money there i went to the post office. Its so nice to have money for me. Not to worry about visiting letters or cards or stamps.. I hadnt even gone on a real date waiting for his dumba$$ to tell me he loved me....

A sense of "stress-free is the way to be" all around me...not worrying about the next phone call saying, "I'm sorry to inform you that your husband has been arrested"...

Boy am I taking advantage of a lot of these while Mr. D is in prison ;)

We don't have to fight for remote control ownership.
We don't have to wash their smelly socks and skiddy underwear.
There are no pairs of shoes left in the middle of the floor to trip over at six in the morning.
We can lie in the bathtub for as long as we want.
We don't put a load of laundry in and then find ten articles of clothing belonging to him lying in heap in the corner of the bedroom.
We don't have to fake an orgasm.
We don't have to shave and can turn into yetis if we want.
We don't have to buy and write our own Valentines/birthday/Mother's day cards.
We don't have anyone saying 'you're not going to wear that, are you?'
We don't have to suffer their cooked meals and then spend an hour trying to get the burnt, congealed mess of the bottom of our saucepans.
I love not being accountable to anyone - if I want to do something, I just do it!
I control my finances and if I screw up, it's my fault, not because my man has spent money we need down at the bar and on bookies, etc.
I enjoy sleeping in my double bed and having it all to myself.
I can be moody without anyone trying to find out if something's wrong! If I don't want to talk - I just won't!
I have FREEDOM to choose.
I love it now my pillows are a dribble free zone.
I love waking up and not hearing the sound of snoring.
I love going out and not having to say where I've been or what I've been doing and what time I should be back.
I love going shopping and not having to hide what I've bought in the wardrobe and pretend I've had it ages.
I love being able to have control over what I spend and where I spend it.
You can tell him what you really think instead of keeping the peace.
You can be rude to his family.
You can eat what YOU want.
You can join a gym because you want to.
You can be rude to his boss.
I can have my friends over to drink wine and behave outrageously WHENEVER I want (because he never liked those friends anyway!).
I can open the curtains when I get dressed instead of fumbling about in the dark trying to keep quiet.
I don't have to worry about what sort of food to buy because he never liked any of it anyway. Now I can eat whatever, whenever I choose.
I'm not made to feel like an idiot for sitting on the Internet - I can surf to my hearts content.
I can listen to Depeche Mode 24/7!
I can spend all night on the phone without having to justify it.
I go to bed when I please, not when he 'wants to'. I can read all night and have the radio on.
There's no one to criticise the state of my car!
There's plenty of space in the wardrobe.
I don't have to appear interested in his job.
I no longer spend hours looking excited in computer stores or car showrooms, do not need to admire mobile phones, personal organizers, latest gadgets...
I can make a mess, and never tidy it up.
I don't have to write cards on his behalf for birthdays or Christmas.
I no longer have to excuse his behaviour - OR MINE!!!
You can do a smelly fart without being told it's 'unladylike'.
You are entitled to an opinion!
You don't have to satisfy yourself while he's in the bath to make up for the fact he couldn't manage to give you an orgasm in the first place.
You don't have to like Starsky and Hutch/Star Trek/Airwolf.
You don't have to watch the '10 minute free view' on the Playboy Channel with the sound turned down.
You don't have to take being called a 'man hater' just because you disagree with what he says (let's face it, they're usually always wrong anyway).

You dont have to hide to be on PTO because they are thinking you give the computer more attention they you do them

Oh Girls you are too funny I love the one about "We don't have to fake an orgasm."

Oh and i love not having to sit at home waiting for his call. Where were you? Why werent you home when i called?.....Awww i hated that

Tonight I had my first feel of independence. I went out with the girls and spent MY money and now I do not have to say "honey I can't send you money right now because I went out with the girls" and have him make me feel guilty. :D

I LOVE EACH AND EVERYONE OF THE REASONS YOU POSTED MRS. D!!!! :D:D:D

HUGS

Mel

Hmmmmm well I'll admit I'm not thrilled with being single again at all BUT I can think of a few things that are allright!

#1 Not having to share the bed with the man AND the cat now its just me and the cat :)

#2 My money is all mine,just for me.I spent TONS on him so now I have extra for myself

Boy did Mr. D grumble when I told him about this thread and that I could take advantage of parts of the list as well! :D He said, "Don't get TOO used to it, I AM coming home one day." :D :D :D