In the last couple of weeks I had really done some thinking....... He and I have been together for over a year and half, I have known him for over 20 years. I had written a letter telling him that I loved him and was still deeply in love with him but I had to move forward and that we would never be what each other wanted each other to be. All this week I had thought that I really needed to see him, for my own selfish reasons but at least to see him and talk and let him know that when I said I still cared and would always be his friend, that I meant it....When I got there..... he didn't know I was going but the smile on his face told me we would be ok. We talked, I cried and my god was it the hardest thing I have ever done to say that I wouldn't be picking him up, that I wouldn't be the one he came home to...... I had told him that no one has ever made me feel the way he did and he looked in my eyes and said "there will be another" with tears in his eyes. When I left, he asked if I would be coming back...... I said no and at that point I just had to turn and leave..... it broke my heart and still does.

Overall, I do feel better and know this is the best decision....... and I will make it, but I miss him.........

I want to thank everyone for all their help, comfort and support. PTO has truly made a difference........

Best of luck to you! Do something nice for yourself. Be well.

A break up is always hard no matter who ends it.Hang in there honey,if you feel you made the best decision for you that is what is important that you are ok
HUGS to you

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I Wish You Peace And Comfort.

AW ((hugs)) Take care hunny:)

ALways remember, Time heals everything. Hopefully someday you can look back upon this day and know that it was hard, but know with no doubt in your mind it was the right thing to do. Everything will be ok..**HUGS**

Thank you all for the support. I really feel good today..... relieved in a sense.

Leaveing someone you truly love is one of the hardest things to do.When Joe and I have those rare hardcore aruguements or debates..I break down literally because I can not be without him.When we break up it only last for 10 mins or a day..I could never imagine how hard that was for you and for him.If your heart feels you made the right decision you did.Take care of yourself and know that God has great plans for you..Have a GOD blessed day!

I know your decision to end the relationship didn't come easily. It never does as there is so much to consider. In the end you have to do your best to do what is right for you. I wish you much happiness...

All the best,
Patty

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You will find all the needed support right here with us. Remember, we are always here for you. These decisions are not easy to make, and I am sure that is was difficult for you. I wish you much happiness and strength.

HUGS

Mel

I feel for you... I think for me it has often been even harder to leave someone than to be left. It hurts either way, but I am glad you are feeling some relief now.

hugs, Q

Hugs to you.... I know that leaving someone you love is so hard. I broke things off with my guy when he was locked up because I was so fearful of him going back to the life he was from... BUT, I missed him so bad that before he got out we got back together... I wish I would have stuck with my gut feeling, because he did end up very shortly after getting out, going back to drugs and then he left me... and that was heart wrenching... So, stick with your gut and I am sure everything will be fine!!!!

~~HUGS~~ I know that leaving someone is not an easy thing to do. But you are right to listen to your gut and what it is saying to you.. I hope that you keep on feeling better with each passing day!! We are here for you no matter what!!!

Everyone is right, leaving someone is never easy but I have left guy's before and it was never as hard as it is now. Leaving them while they are locked up, while they depend on us to be there, to love them, to support them! But time heals all wounds and we are all survivors of this and you will make it! :) Good luck to you, stay strong and you always have us!

I hope that you find peace in your future.

So I was doing great and today I got a letter............. not a bad letter, but I don't think he has listened to a word I have written or said. In his letter he talks about special plans he has made for my birthday and how he can't wait to see me again, that he can't understand why I haven't written.............

Ok, what did i miss???? I'm in shock. I flat out told him that we could never be, that I would never be abe to trust him, I did say that I would always be here for him and remain his friend but the plans he descibed of my birthday are that we are still together!!!!!!

I was so happy that he understood and that it worked out so easily.......... I should have known. So now my question is.......Do I write him back now, let it go or give it more time to sink in?

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It seems to me that he is still holding onto that you and he are still something. Im not sure where he got that, but maybe he just figured it was a phase you are going through. I don't know what gave him the impression or what part of "we could never be" he doesn't understand, and I am sure that you have made that clear in all too many ways, but sometimes it takes awhile to sink in.

I think that when someone does something to a loved one to break their trust, it's hard to accept that that behaviour caused someone to have enough and walk away.
Sweetie, I don't have any answers to your issue. I feel confident, that you will know what to do, and when you will do it.
I wish you peace