PSMITH3127
03-27-2005, 11:19 AM
:angry: hi ya'll..
Just got back into town and i logged on and saw the new forum!! Finally... yeahhhh
Cali, hi girl! I am totally with you as youknow I am also going through the same thing sweetie. I have ot tell you I have bad days, really bad days, somewhat better days and I have had maybe 1 or 2 good days. Today is a bad day. It is Easter Sunday and Scott didnt send our son a card, a letter, call or anything. When I got back intot own last night the first thing I did was check the mailbox and wow, nothing from him!! I have gotten 3 more bitch me out letters since the one telling me to move on! One says that after he finds out the outcome of the new case, if all goes well he wants to resume the relationship, the next one says that he doesnt want to jump into a relationship when he gets out, the last one says that "IF i WANT TO SALVAGE ANYTHING OF WHAT WE HAVE" i had better stop saying mean things?????? I have not written Scott since last monday ( 13 days exactly) 2 weeks ago. I was surprised to get any mail at all since I got the youneed to move on letter... I am also at the same point as othwers, I cant's believe that he isnt trying to call me, that by this weekend he figured out that I havent written anymore and , I was really depressed last night after checking the mail box. It surely must be an ego thing, as someone else pointed out. No one wants to think that they are so easily forgotten and that they are going on with their lives and we are here crying our hearts out over it, rehashing it all, trying to figure out where it went wrong and not getting any closure. Women need closure! for men, they say " it's over" and that's closure enough for them. You also think ( well I sure do) that he will realize he mieesed up the best thing he ever had, the only one who was there for him while he is down, the only one who always came through!!! He must think about that somewhat????? I tell you what ladies! it's hard as hell!! because we put so much of ourselves in being there for them, then it's basically thrown back in our faces... and that hurts!! my situation is worse, as we have a 6 year old son together, so I am going to have to face him and deal with him when he soes get out... plus I have to try to answer our sons questions about why we cant go see his Dad anymore and so on... I cant for the life of me figure out why he put a stop to our visiting him now in Safford, but just wrote me that we can come see him as soon as he is moved to another yard????? what the hell is up with that???? why doesnt he want me at Safford anymore?? all these un answered questions that we are left with...
I know it will get easier, time heals all wounds. One day I will be able to maybe not laugh at this, but not be angry, hurt or bitter. cause let me tell ya'll, I am mad as hell right now!! I have not thrown any letters aways, and I have asked him 3 times to send all ( private ones especially) pictures back and all 3 times he has said NO!!! he wont send them back.. thank god there is no faces on the private ones... If anyone is going through this and needs to chat, please feel free to private message me.. I am totally here for anyone of you ladies.. Happy Easter to all of you ...
Just got back into town and i logged on and saw the new forum!! Finally... yeahhhh
Cali, hi girl! I am totally with you as youknow I am also going through the same thing sweetie. I have ot tell you I have bad days, really bad days, somewhat better days and I have had maybe 1 or 2 good days. Today is a bad day. It is Easter Sunday and Scott didnt send our son a card, a letter, call or anything. When I got back intot own last night the first thing I did was check the mailbox and wow, nothing from him!! I have gotten 3 more bitch me out letters since the one telling me to move on! One says that after he finds out the outcome of the new case, if all goes well he wants to resume the relationship, the next one says that he doesnt want to jump into a relationship when he gets out, the last one says that "IF i WANT TO SALVAGE ANYTHING OF WHAT WE HAVE" i had better stop saying mean things?????? I have not written Scott since last monday ( 13 days exactly) 2 weeks ago. I was surprised to get any mail at all since I got the youneed to move on letter... I am also at the same point as othwers, I cant's believe that he isnt trying to call me, that by this weekend he figured out that I havent written anymore and , I was really depressed last night after checking the mail box. It surely must be an ego thing, as someone else pointed out. No one wants to think that they are so easily forgotten and that they are going on with their lives and we are here crying our hearts out over it, rehashing it all, trying to figure out where it went wrong and not getting any closure. Women need closure! for men, they say " it's over" and that's closure enough for them. You also think ( well I sure do) that he will realize he mieesed up the best thing he ever had, the only one who was there for him while he is down, the only one who always came through!!! He must think about that somewhat????? I tell you what ladies! it's hard as hell!! because we put so much of ourselves in being there for them, then it's basically thrown back in our faces... and that hurts!! my situation is worse, as we have a 6 year old son together, so I am going to have to face him and deal with him when he soes get out... plus I have to try to answer our sons questions about why we cant go see his Dad anymore and so on... I cant for the life of me figure out why he put a stop to our visiting him now in Safford, but just wrote me that we can come see him as soon as he is moved to another yard????? what the hell is up with that???? why doesnt he want me at Safford anymore?? all these un answered questions that we are left with...
I know it will get easier, time heals all wounds. One day I will be able to maybe not laugh at this, but not be angry, hurt or bitter. cause let me tell ya'll, I am mad as hell right now!! I have not thrown any letters aways, and I have asked him 3 times to send all ( private ones especially) pictures back and all 3 times he has said NO!!! he wont send them back.. thank god there is no faces on the private ones... If anyone is going through this and needs to chat, please feel free to private message me.. I am totally here for anyone of you ladies.. Happy Easter to all of you ...